FabSwingers.com forum: No idea what to think

By *ricktop17 OP Man
over a year ago

Pontefract

Can any of you wonderful ladies give me any clue what any of the following means.....i have people view me.but not send a message....i send message and it gets read....not deleted but i dont get a reply.

Is it just me that thinks have the courtesy to at least message say no thanks or just delete the message so i know your not interest instead of leaving me in this gtey area of not knowing what the hells going on!

Also any advice.greatly appreaciated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Read the rules.

No reply means not interested.

I get hundreds of messages and I’d need a full time secretary to reply to them all.

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By *ricktop17 OP Man
over a year ago

Pontefract

Surly just delete the thing then....way i see a read but no reply but not deleted is maybe cant message right now but maybe il reply later

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By *igblackdomTV/TS
over a year ago

West Midlands

"Can any of you wonderful ladies give me any clue what any of the following means.....i have people view me.but not send a message....i send message and it gets read....not deleted but i dont get a reply.

Also any advice.greatly appreaciated"

To be fair you do have a rather brief and restrictive profile!

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

Stop viewing your sent messages and save yourself any angst. If people are interested then they will reply .

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By *he devil wears pradaWoman
over a year ago

gosport ish

Also any advice.greatly appreaciated"
Delete your sent box as soon as you send a message op it will save you the angst of not knowing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No it means I can’t be arsed to delete it and it will disappear in time anyway.

So I’ve told you the rules mean no reply no interest and you don’t like that.

See I’ve replied to guys in the past and then they start questioning you - just like you have done.

Then sometimes you get abuse and nasty messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Stop viewing your sent messages and save yourself any angst. If people are interested then they will reply ."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also any advice.greatly appreaciated

To be fair you do have a rather brief and restrictive profile!"

Didn’t even look at profile to start with but yes what he says

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've had a meet just be grateful most men would kill for that on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Surly just delete the thing then....way i see a read but no reply but not deleted is maybe cant message right now but maybe il reply later"

Seems more like a "so many messages, so.little time", kind of thing to me.

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

Also any advice.greatly appreaciated"

If someone views you and doesn't message then assume that they aren't interested. It could be for many reasons such as no pics, can't accom, they don't fit the description' curvy, big boobs, big booty, squirting girls' etc.

As for replies, well your not the only single guy that complains of this. However, no one has to dance to your tune. If they read it and don't message back, then move on. If they are choosing to answer it at another time, then they will. Put it this way, if you were to post a letter, would you sit by your letterbox waiting for a reply? Or would you get on with life and open the reply if and when it gets delivered?

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

There might be 20 men for every lady on this site. The ladies often receive many messages per day, and a polite "no thanks" is usually followed by either "why not?" or by abuse.

Your problem may also be profile related....

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
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over a year ago

My Own Little World

If I look at a profile and DON'T mail them it means I'm not interested in meeting them and find it irritating if that person then mail me with a "I saw you looked at my profile hope you liked what you saw" type message. Had I liked I would have messaged, I didn't so you are free to assume I'm not interested.

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

OP if someone has viewed you and not sent you a message why are you messaging them? If they were interested in you they would message you first. This is the main reason many ladies and couples choose to use the site tool that hides them from the "who's looked at me" list. We get sick and tired of people saying "you looked at me, want to meet?"

As for people not replying, this is covered in the site faq's.

No reply = not interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just looked at your profile. We won’t be messaging you for the following reasons:

We don’t have time to meet at the moment

I’m not your type according to the bodyshape you said you were looking for

You’re not looking for MF couples

We don’t know what you look like

We also won’t be messaging all the other people each of us looked at today for a selection of reasons.

Mrs

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By *ex-a-frolicsCouple
over a year ago

Brizzle

HTG you have no pictures, no proper profile, you can’t accommodate & are looking for Unicorns & the rarest of them all Double” Unicorns”!

We look at loads of people from updates etc but rarely messsge people as generally they are not suitable, but if we didn’t look we’d never know, however we perve in Ninja Stealth mode to avoid the you looked at us questions

You need to broaden your criteria & if you do message people you have to accept 99.99% are not interested & will only reply if they are!

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @

"Surly just delete the thing then....way i see a read but no reply but not deleted is maybe cant message right now but maybe il reply later"

This is true. But then again I reply and delete so who am I to judge lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also any advice.greatly appreaciated"

my advice is not to message people who've looked at you but weren't interested enough to message you themselves...

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By *infulSandyCouple
over a year ago

London

"Stop viewing your sent messages and save yourself any angst. If people are interested then they will reply ."

100% this. Seriously save yourself the bother of checking your sent messages (chatting from experience here, we used to be the same way)

Just move on, assume they're not interested and don't let it bother you.

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

"OP if someone has viewed you and not sent you a message why are you messaging them? If they were interested in you they would message you first. This is the main reason many ladies and couples choose to use the site tool that hides them from the "who's looked at me" list. We get sick and tired of people saying "you looked at me, want to meet?"

As for people not replying, this is covered in the site faq's.

No reply = not interested."

Exactly this!

DON'T think being looked at means people are interested.

It can often be the case that the process of looking at you reveals the reason why you are unsuitable, for whatever reason that may be.

If you then message the person that looked at you it's seen simply as pestering, which will only make the other person even more certain that you're not the one.

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

For what it's worth, we now use the 'Looked at us' function as a way of creating the community we want by blocking unsuitable people.

Everyday we take a look at who's looked at us. Some of them we simply block straight away. Others we investigate further and then block. And the ones we like looking at us we don't block.

We don't chase the majority of people we like or pester them. We simply regard them as part of a slowly growing community of cherry picked Fabbers.

The aim is to block everyone who's not suitable for us and leave only the Fabbers we like.

It'll take time, but we'll get there

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