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Not had a single meet! Help!

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By *ltGuy20 OP   Man
over a year ago

Notts

Hey, I was just wondering if anyone can give me some advice or anything about why I can't seem to land any meets.

Is it because of my age? My body? My bio?

Any advice or criticism would be great thanks, I'm completely new to all this as well, been using the site for a month or so with no meets as of yet.

Thanks

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

Ok....

Firstly, your age - yes it will probably go against you.

You're 18, alot of us, we've got children way older than you.

Your pics, too samey nothing that shows us sonething we've not seen a 100 times, use your imagination.

You don't mind any age, race etc.. Kinda sounds like you'd bang anything that moved.

You used the D word.

Shows you can accommodate but then you write 'may accommodate for the right person'

You've been on here a month, not landed a meet!

Women outnumber men vastly on here, they're not going to throw themselves at you.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Ok....

Firstly, your age - yes it will probably go against you.

You're 18, alot of us, we've got children way older than you.

Your pics, too samey nothing that shows us sonething we've not seen a 100 times, use your imagination.

You don't mind any age, race etc.. Kinda sounds like you'd bang anything that moved.

You used the D word.

Shows you can accommodate but then you write 'may accommodate for the right person'

You've been on here a month, not landed a meet!

Women outnumber men vastly on here, they're not going to throw themselves at you.

"

Couldn't have put it better myself

OP you've been here 3 weeks which is no time at all - and to be brutally honest the odds are stacked against you so if you were expecting to be knee deep in meets as soon as you signed up you need to reset those expectations.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can’t get single meets either. Everyone wants to double team me.

Can I get help too?

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By *ltGuy20 OP   Man
over a year ago

Notts

Hi, thanks for taking the time to look at my account and write all that up.

I figured my age would probably count against me which sucks because it's one of the only things I can't actually change.

What sort of pictures would be ideal for my account? I feel like there's so many guys on here that any pictures I could come up with would already be a stereotype haha.

I say that I don't mind about race and other things because - this is going to sound very cliché - appearances don't mean that much to me honestly and I'd prefer someone I can just feel comfortable with personality wise. Is there any way that I could potentially word that section better to get this point across without seeming so outright desperate?

Also when you refer to the D word, is that 'discreet'?

And apologies if I seem impatient about it.

Thankyou again though

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows


"I can’t get single meets either. Everyone wants to double team me.

Can I get help too? "

I'll help you, I'm an expert shoe shopper & cocktail drinker

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

You don't even need to mention looks at all - can just say that personality, connection and chemistry are all part of finding someone attractive for you and leave it at that without getting into looks.

As for pics - look around at other single guy profiles and use them for inspiration although don't fall into the trap of posting no end of cock pics.

Discreet can raise suspicions about being attached for some - so you might want to explain why you feel the need to be discreet.

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By *ltGuy20 OP   Man
over a year ago

Notts

Okay, thankyou! I'll make these changes now.

Really appreciate it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d lose the third image with the horn hand gesture (personally)...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To complexed to the reasons why .....

Let's face it the unicorns!

Well they are from planet flipton half of em hehe

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

Hi OP

Your blurb is ok (except for the D word!).

Your pics need work. As well as uninspiring, the background is messy.

Good luck!

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders

Definitely age is a no go for me. Like your text though, most people don't put in that much effort. Pictures are good, very much stand out from the dick pics a lot of people put on their profile and think this will win us over. But quite a few are pretty much the same, so maybe take a few off your profile. Do think you've got a pretty good profile here though x

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Lots of advice on existing threads already, perhaps check them out too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can’t get single meets either. Everyone wants to double team me.

Can I get help too?

I'll help you, I'm an expert shoe shopper & cocktail drinker "

Yay

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I often wonder why guys your age come on Fab, as there are much easier ways to get sex when you’re young. But reading your profile, I see that you are partial to older ladies, so that makes sense. On that that basis you’ve probably come to the right place. However, be realistic that not many older ladies have the same interest in very young men. The search for a Mrs Robinson might be few and far between.

Mrs

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

OP in addition to what's already been said.

Sorry, I'm gonna sound like your mum but, tidy your room lol. A lot of people pay attention to the background in pictures and an untidy room with an unmade bed is a huge turn off for a lot of people.

I assume that you still live with family being a younger person. I would suggest you say how you will accomodate, ie will you meet at a club or a hotel meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

By the looks of one pic you have long hair op. Some ladies will like that so perhaps show it better in a picture.

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

A lot of good advice has already been given, and we echo that.

OP, the reality is that a lot of people will not meet you simply because of your age. There is nothing you can do about it, so don't fret over it. Save yourelf some time and only contact people that are looking for people your age.

Your currently have 6 pics, and 5 of them are almost identical. They are the same pose with you wearing different clothes. Try some other poses, such as your bum, or an outside pic.

Cannot accom and cannot travel are understandable given your age. However those two lines will put people off. Try using the forums and hatrooms to integrate with the community and watch out for local social opportunities. If people get to know you they will be more than willing to give you a lift, and then things could really take off for you.

If all the advice given by us and others fails, move to Devon and let us get our hands on you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ratio is ....150 to 1 I'd say

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By *ltGuy20 OP   Man
over a year ago

Notts

Thankyou for all the great advice so far, I appreciate it massively!

I'll get to updating my pics as soon as I can to diversify them more and to make sure they're as good as possible haha

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By *ptimusDMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Have you considered visiting clubs?

There's a party I've seen advertised here a few times called "Cougars & Cubs"!

That should be right up your street because women there are only interested in younger blokes.

In other words, your age will be an asset, not a hindrance.

You're bound to find older women who will consider you fresh meat, and I'm guessing you'd enjoy that sort of thing

I know I would have, when I was your age!

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By *ltGuy20 OP   Man
over a year ago

Notts

Ah okay haha, thanks for that I'll keep my eye out for it. That'd be perfect haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fresh meat ..objectification of Men tut tut ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile and pics are great, you come across well, unfortunately I can't get past the age thing as my son is 18.

Definitely recommend you try events such as cougars and cubs or organised socials.

Good luck x

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By *utsidenakedMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

I cant get a meet and I know why

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By *ltGuy20 OP   Man
over a year ago

Notts


"Your profile and pics are great, you come across well, unfortunately I can't get past the age thing as my son is 18.

Definitely recommend you try events such as cougars and cubs or organised socials.

Good luck x"

Thankyou! x

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"Hey, I was just wondering if anyone can give me some advice or anything about why I can't seem to land any meets.

Is it because of my age? My body? My bio?

Any advice or criticism would be great thanks, I'm completely new to all this as well, been using the site for a month or so with no meets as of yet.

Thanks "

2 words. 3 weeks!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What we look at ,is the pictures . The background shows a person who does not car about his surroundings ,so do they bother to with there personnel hygiene

Cant travel

Cant accommodate .

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By *entenTeaCouple
over a year ago

Buckley North Wales

We'd suggest you start visiting clubs. Find a decent one and become a regular. At the clubs don't just stand or sit there with your drink. Get talking to people especially couples. Dont just chat to the hubby, chat to both.

The odds are stacked against you on Fab as a single guy. But fab is great for keeping in contact with friends on the scene and seeing whats going on in your circle.

All the best.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can’t get single meets either. Everyone wants to double team me.

Can I get help too? "
add another double team to your list x

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Some good advice about focusing on personality and skipping mention of looks. Plus a better range of photos that would give someone certainty about how attractive you are to them. Don't use the terms like cougar - explain instead.

Make it clearer what range you can travel for - others will then know if they fit the bill.

Expect months to get scant meets - use Fab to supplement your sex life

Look at loads of single guys and see the types of ways they are promoting themselves well. Don't copy but get inspiration.

Target people who want someone of your age. Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some good advice about focusing on personality and skipping mention of looks. Plus a better range of photos that would give someone certainty about how attractive you are to them. Don't use the terms like cougar - explain instead.

Make it clearer what range you can travel for - others will then know if they fit the bill.

Expect months to get scant meets - use Fab to supplement your sex life

Look at loads of single guys and see the types of ways they are promoting themselves well. Don't copy but get inspiration.

Target people who want someone of your age. Good luck "
Marketing in the fab world what's the world cumin too lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

3 weeks!!!

You're expectations are way out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I aimed for weekly lol but obviously fab is changing considerably lol

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