FabSwingers.com forum: Am i not attractive?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Been on this site for ages now and cant seem to meet any one(females) i'm starting my openers with "hey how are you" etc but no one seems to reply? If any one is interested or can help me i would love to have your assistance x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been on this site for ages now and cant seem to meet any one(females) i'm starting my openers with "hey how are you" etc but no one seems to reply? If any one is interested or can help me i would love to have your assistance x"

The problem that you have is that if you contact anyone on here the first thing they will look at is your profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

4 weeks is not "ages" my dear. Calm down. Try writing a proper message rather than "how are you".

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

I'm assuming this is a wind up as you've been on here for 4 weeks, have no profile and start messages with hey how are you.

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex

Says you’ve only been on 4 weeks that’s not a long time at all

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By *adja_lazloCouple
over a year ago

Solihull

"I'm assuming this is a wind up as you've been on here for 4 weeks, have no profile and start messages with hey how are you."

was going to say that, also seems to us as a little arrogant 'Come find out' ewww

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good looking lad, some silly pics which I don't mind but 'daddydom'? That puts me off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of my messages start along to similar lines to yours so I just ignore those.

Then I get a few that start with something interesting, so I then peek at their profile

If the profile is attractive to me I may then open the message.

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By *entralscotscpl7Couple
over a year ago

Falkirk

Your only 26. Alot of people on the site have kids that age.

Your user name is a bit strange as for a younger guy I would have expected that name from an older gentleman.

Get yourself to any local social events. These are great ice breakers.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yeah I didn't put much time into my profile i admit that is there a way of changing it? And also my name makes me cringe tbh??

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By *entralscotscpl7Couple
over a year ago

Falkirk

And are you straight or "FAB" straight.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

I didn't look past the pic's to be honest,first three total turn off.

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By *entralscotscpl7Couple
over a year ago

Falkirk

Well I would say scrap the profile and start again.

Take the advice from above and put that into your profile.

And most of all be patient. Lots of guys confuse Fab with instashag

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By *aked butlerMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Why have your tongue out on all your pics? Lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have taken everything you lovely people have said in and i am now working on changing it, thank you all! X

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Single men typically find it more difficult to get meets than women or couples.

Your profile looks ok to me if a bit sparse and you're a good looking guy.

You can change your name if you're a site supporter. It's unlikely that anyone will message you to find out more so it will help if you put a little more information.

Clubs and organised socials are a good way to meet people and joining in the forums in a friendly way will get you known.

Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I for one, don’t see a big cock or a big tongue on a profile and instantly go weak at the knees.

I see a handsome face and/or a hot body, I go weak at the knees.

You’re good looking. That’s a far better asset than your tongue x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you both! Making progress now as i have got rid of that dreadful name??

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

"4 weeks is not "ages" my dear. Calm down. Try writing a proper message rather than "how are you"."

such a boring opening with no thought too it, like throwing a net out and seeing what you catch. Yawn

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By *nfinitylandMan
over a year ago

Leicester

"Thank you both! Making progress now as i have got rid of that dreadful name??"
what was your name before? I’m curious haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Daddydom123??????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Daddydom123??????"

Yeah, good move to change the name, cute photos though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The name change definitely helps

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

Sit back and let dem bitches come to you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are attractive, you can see it in your chin and your eyes. Take off the glasses and headphones picture. Keep the sleeping one, I'm into sleeping guys

You're 6 foot, can accommodate, profile text is nice and normal now. Only thing I'd do is put a picture of your penis up, standing side on to the camera, hands free and penis hanging free.

But to answer your question, you are attractive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your a young good looking boy...get yourself to a club if your confident enough... most females won't open your message let alone meet you. Good luck x

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By *evilinsidemeMan
over a year ago

Trim

Your doing the right thing by changing your profile.

Sounds to me, its more what you believed this site to be when you joined.

The majority want to make connections and enjoy sexual encounters of various types, but most guys think it's just a site full of over horny women, who fuck anyone at anytime.

Reality check.....it's not for 99%.

If you had that kinder attitude, it comes across subconsciously and in the profile choices you first make (daddydom123, wtf?)

If your looking for quick, one night shit stands, better off at local night club.

Looking for sexual adventure and getting the most out of meeting like minded people, your in the right place.

You might make some good friends, even meet the women of your dreams.

Possibly enjoy sexual liaisons you have only seen on sexectra!

Or find out your fantasies can be better in reality.

Clubs, M&G, Socials are by far the best way to start.

Chatting on the forums is good too, be yourself there.

And lastly, be patient, 4 weeks is nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well done for being one of the few who actually listens, and acts, on advice given.

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By *inglehotchickWoman
over a year ago

blackpool

I’m guessing you took the advice given OP as your profile looks pretty good to me. You have only been on here a very short time so just keep on with it and things should start to happen

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By *iss_Samantha_LovecockTV/TS
over a year ago

bmth /poole sometimes blandford

just keep trying and try to be original..you look nice enough and most of the time its really not about looks anyway .. just keep trying

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

I looked earlier, the improvements are much better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest no I wouldn't, sadly your pics do nothing for me, look at other profiles and get inspiration OP

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"I looked earlier, the improvements are much better "

I totally agree.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"Sit back and let dem bitches come to you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try being a little more unique with your first message.. maybe pic something out from the persons bio to prove that you’ve read it. That’s always something that encourages me to respond. And be patient!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't really like messages saying things like 'how are you?'. Just don't know how to respond to it. I suppose we should politely say 'fine thanks'. But that all seems a bit of a naff conversation, especially between strangers on the internet.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Answering the first question no you're not unattractive, and your vital stats tick a lot of boxes for us. It's a good start.

But...a message that is purely Hey, how are you/ what you doing/Had a good weekend? are not great conversation starters on here. We would ignore them because typically you end up with a load of one line messages and it's like pulling teeth. If you bulk up your profile and tall a little more about what you want and offer, and being that sort of thing into your messages imho you may get a better response. T

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The first message is a difficult one. As a guy on here, you will only get a reply to a minority so you dont want to spend ages writing a long one as you will probably be ignored anyway. But just saying "Hey how are you" is boring. I suggest write a bit about yourself introducing who you are (copy and paste if necessary) and then something about why you like the ladies profile. I would guess with your new improved profile you will do very well on here eventually.

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By *ouplekinkCouple
over a year ago

kink town

Not a terrible profile, but you come across to us as FAB straight, which puts us off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

“Hey how are you” or “you ok” or “what ya up to” messages are the type we tend to ignore. We’ve even put the answers in our profile to those type of questions which would show to us that the sender has not even bothered to read it. Your best question to start with is something relevant to the profile you are sending to. This shows you’ve read their text and interested in what they have to offer.

Yes you are young compared to many on here but it’s not a major issue for some . If you were 19 or so then yes.

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