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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm nervous about going to a club. I want to enjoy the sexually charged atmosphere and excitment but nerves and a sexless decade might cause me to bottle out of any playing (should I be lucky enough to get invited).

I'm an avid reader of the forums and I've read the clubs section but I have a few questions.

Once everybody starts playing is it okay to wander around, watch but not disrobe?

Do all clubs have demarcation between playing and social/drinks areas?

Does everybody end up playing or do some people just gather for a drink and chat to make contact for meeting later?

I've been told a little about one club in my area but I wasn't sure if I could assume all clubs are similar in design.

First time .. think I want to check it out so I want a no pressure place.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

Once everybody starts playing is it okay to wander around, watch but not disrobe?

No...this is one of the biggest no nos, imagine how intimidating and off putting it is to people, especially the women. However when everyone else is in boxers or a towel u will be surprised how comfy you feel.

Do all clubs have demarcation between playing and social/drinks areas?

As far as i know yes, its important no one feels pressured to play

Does everybody end up playing or do some people just gather for a drink and chat to make contact for meeting later?

Play is never compulsory, "everyone" does what they want, but expecting a free for all is just not realistic. i dont know many ppl who pick up to play elsewhere, but lots go to socialise. If you are uncomfortable about public play,most have private rooms.

I've been told a little about one club in my area but I wasn't sure if I could assume all clubs are similar in design.

First time .. think I want to check it out so I want a no pressure place.

No clubs are pressure places, tbh i prefer them to nilla bars.

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

Personally I'd rather (assuming I was playing in a public area) someone watching me, was doing so covered, by shorts or towel, rather then there furiously wanking without speaking to me.

Its ok to watch in a club, if people didn't watch, all play would be in private areas.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have never yet been to a club and felt pressured to play ever, and that is going in as a single woman.

At one point I was going with friends weekly as we all enjoyed the swingers clubs over the bars and clubs, however I didn't play every week

For me the clubs are not actually about sex, more about the people you meet in there, That isn't to say I dont play in clubs as that would be a big fat lie In the years I have enjoyed open room gang bangs, mmf, fmf, private room fun, and every other combination however the club allows for that to happen, it doesn't mean it HAS to happen. Some nights I have chatted with loads of people, some very few...

Male or female, no means no.

Do what you want and are comfortable with. The only thing I dislike is a fully clothed man walking round watching, a towel or shorts is fine :D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chat, mix, mingle its good to watch but don't be another wolf very off putting. As soon as any action starts can get a little claustraphobic. And always be polite and ask to join in relax and enjoy yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, all clubs are different, but a cardinal rule is... no means no. You do not have to play, if you don't want to.

The club I use is very 'social', in that a lot of people chat/dance/drink and don't play, and that's absolutely fine. Although a lot of the ladies dress provocatively (or are naked) on the dancefloor, it is rare to see any overt sexual acts in the bar/lounge area (although there is no rule against it).

The one thing that is NOT permitted is for single males to go to the playroom area whilst dressed. Just watching is fine, but males must wear a towel or shorts. If you don't want to be invited to join in, just don't push to the front of the crowd! LOL

I hope you have a good time at whatever club you go to.... the sexually charged atmosphere and excitement is the main part of the fun! x

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By *evilwolfCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire


"Chat, mix, mingle its good to watch but don't be another wolf very off putting. As soon as any action starts can get a little claustraphobic. And always be polite and ask to join in relax and enjoy yourself."

not all Wolves are off-putting, I for one growl quite sweetly in sincere company... lol

Wolf

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By *illow_femaleWoman
over a year ago

Thetford


"Chat, mix, mingle its good to watch but don't be another wolf very off putting. As soon as any action starts can get a little claustraphobic. And always be polite and ask to join in relax and enjoy yourself.

not all Wolves are off-putting, I for one growl quite sweetly in sincere company... lol

Wolf"

mmmmm I concure

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple
over a year ago

Fareham


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The one thing that is NOT permitted is for single males to go to the playroom area whilst dressed. Just watching is fine, but males must wear a towel or shorts. If you don't want to be invited to join in, just don't push to the front of the crowd! LOL

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This isn't true of all clubs in my experience. In some I've been to, people are dressed to wander about and only undress to play. In those situations, it'd be unreasonable to expect people to disrobe just to watch. Provided watchers don't get in people's playing 'space' fully dressed then I can't see the problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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The one thing that is NOT permitted is for single males to go to the playroom area whilst dressed. Just watching is fine, but males must wear a towel or shorts. If you don't want to be invited to join in, just don't push to the front of the crowd! LOL

This isn't true of all clubs in my experience. In some I've been to, people are dressed to wander about and only undress to play. In those situations, it'd be unreasonable to expect people to disrobe just to watch. Provided watchers don't get in people's playing 'space' fully dressed then I can't see the problem.

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Different clubs different rules some are towel clubs where a guy wears a towel or shorts what ever they are comfortable and girls as sexy as they dare other clubs are dress clubs dressed in social areas undressed in lay areas.

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple
over a year ago

Fareham


"

The one thing that is NOT permitted is for single males to go to the playroom area whilst dressed. Just watching is fine, but males must wear a towel or shorts. If you don't want to be invited to join in, just don't push to the front of the crowd! LOL

This isn't true of all clubs in my experience. In some I've been to, people are dressed to wander about and only undress to play. In those situations, it'd be unreasonable to expect people to disrobe just to watch. Provided watchers don't get in people's playing 'space' fully dressed then I can't see the problem.

Different clubs different rules some are towel clubs where a guy wears a towel or shorts what ever they are comfortable and girls as sexy as they dare other clubs are dress clubs dressed in social areas undressed in lay areas."

In some clubs, you are permitted to be dressed even in the play areas if you're watching. Most people choose to undress to differing degrees to play but people can watch WITHOUT getting undressed. This is true of SEVERAL clubs we've been to. In some clubs, playing goes on in both social and designated playing areas so you can't expect people to get their kit off in the lounge whether they want to or not just because a couple decide to get up to hanky panky on one of the sofas near to where you're sitting.

OP - The best thing to do is to check with the club you're thinking of visiting in advance to ascertain what the rules are regarding social and playing areas.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single guy who has been going to clubs for the last 8 years, and who has made many friends I offer the following advice;

Get changed the second you get there (this is compulsory in most clubs)

Go sit in the lounge/bar and talk to people

If you do have a walk around, don't follow couples or single ladies around (it's creepy), don't stand staring at people having fun with your hand under your towel wanking (once again creepy).

Have a couple of drinks (don't have too many) chill and be sociable

Hope these help. The most important thing to do is just chat to people, tell them it's your first time and they will help you settle in.

Have fun

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By *ibrosMan
over a year ago

harrow

I agree with comments that the clubs can be less pressured than a vanilla bar/club.

You are in an environment where people are open about sex. For me that makes socialising much easier, in that you can chat about just about anything and crossing that line to talk about sex is more natural.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Went to my first club on fri,no pressure to play,met a couple,had a nice chat then went to the play room for fun,after a couple mins people started watchin so I felt I had to let someone else in,so went for a drink before returning to watch,was a bit nervous but was sexy watching the greedy girls,looking forward to my next visit.

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