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By *hilipo52 OP   Man
over a year ago

Chester

Not been on here long but getting very frustrated. I’m assuming that the ladies get thousands of messages, so to try and get attention is quite hard in itself. Once some contact is made and other messages sent, even after they agree to chat, it seems you have to send a message 2 or 3 times before they see it. Shame there isn’t a 1-to-1 chat feature

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me, I need to see in a snapshot all the information that would make me interested in that man. That because I don't like chatting with random strangers. Are you giving more information in your messages than you do in your profile? In particular are you sending photos of yourself?

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You haven't asked for profile advice so we can't provide any, but you might like to have a look at some similar threads (there are many) to get an idea of what appeals to ladies on here.

There is an instant chat type facility. It's called 'cam chat' or something like that. You don't have to appear on webcam if you don't want to and can just chat/type.

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By *oubyLoverWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

If a woman gets even 10 new messages a day and has the time to chat to one person, how does she choose? I'd suggest look at how you're marketing yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If a woman gets even 10 new messages a day and has the time to chat to one person, how does she choose? I'd suggest look at how you're marketing yourself"

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Why would you want to chase the ladies when you should be getting the ladies to chase you , the market for chasing ladies is crowded with all sort of single guys who don't know what they are doing but the market where ladies chase the guys is empty and that is where you want to be.

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By *andsome_Chef88Man
over a year ago

London


"You haven't asked for profile advice so we can't provide any, but you might like to have a look at some similar threads (there are many) to get an idea of what appeals to ladies on here.

There is an instant chat type facility. It's called 'cam chat' or something like that. You don't have to appear on webcam if you don't want to and can just chat/type."

Exactly this . But what helped me out was the fact I went on cam but didn't show my cock or get naked not once. Just had a normal conversation with people In general chat. That kick started me and now I am a likeable guy on fab

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By *infulSandyCouple
over a year ago

London


"Not been on here long but getting very frustrated. I’m assuming that the ladies get thousands of messages, so to try and get attention is quite hard in itself. Once some contact is made and other messages sent, even after they agree to chat, it seems you have to send a message 2 or 3 times before they see it. Shame there isn’t a 1-to-1 chat feature "

Please understand that this is not me having a go, just my opinion.

One thing that would put me off is a guy sending 2 or 3 messages if he doesn't get a response the first time, to me it comes off as either desperate or creepy.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Not been on here long but getting very frustrated. I’m assuming that the ladies get thousands of messages, so to try and get attention is quite hard in itself. Once some contact is made and other messages sent, even after they agree to chat, it seems you have to send a message 2 or 3 times before they see it. Shame there isn’t a 1-to-1 chat feature "

Could you get to a club or an organised social? It's easier to get your personality across in person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not been on here long but getting very frustrated. I’m assuming that the ladies get thousands of messages, so to try and get attention is quite hard in itself. Once some contact is made and other messages sent, even after they agree to chat, it seems you have to send a message 2 or 3 times before they see it. Shame there isn’t a 1-to-1 chat feature "

Sending 2-3 messages isn't the best way, all this does is clog up a ladies inbox

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter


" even after they agree to chat, it seems you have to send a message 2 or 3 times before they see it. Shame there isn’t a 1-to-1 chat feature "

I'm guessing that you are not aware that only a finite number of messages will show in the inbox?

They are all in order of the date & time they were sent with the most recent on top. If your message is towards the bootom then it might 'drop off' and not be seen until the other person has dealt with others above it. And all the time new ones might be arriving!

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