FabSwingers.com forum: Club for the first time on our own

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Soo we have a babysitter saturday comming (halloweeen weekend) yaaay. Were planning on going to pleasure in kent. We been before but met a couple there, this time were going on our own. We have met a few couples so know what we expect from swinging, but were a bit nervous about going and teying to mix with people if its a bit cliquey. Any advice for sort of newbies

By *usciousLexCouple
over a year ago

birmingham

"Soo we have a babysitter saturday comming (halloweeen weekend) yaaay. Were planning on going to pleasure in kent. We been before but met a couple there, this time were going on our own. We have met a few couples so know what we expect from swinging, but were a bit nervous about going and teying to mix with people if its a bit cliquey. Any advice for sort of newbies

Just go there simply for a good time together, rather than feeling like it'll only be a good night if you guys both get to play with other people. No expectations means you can't be disappointed. So just go to enjoy each other in a sexy environment and go with the flow. People are more likely to pick up on the fact that you're actually simply enjoying the night and the energy you give off together will draw people in. The worst thing is attaching yourself to the idea that group play means a good night, cos ultimately this can really overshadow when you've both had a good time together

Hope that helps!

By *ffanotdykeCouple
over a year ago

Telford

We have agree with your first reply. Go with no expectations and that way you will not be disappointed. However go with a positive attitude and respond to advances you feel comfortable with.

Through out the autumn and winter we get to Chameleons about twice a month. Because of our age we are a minority group but we have a 50% "strike rate" and the other 50% are just pleasant chill out evenings.

Unfortunately there seems to be pressure on newbies to get laid every time. Nobody keeps score and all those who claim that they are at it like bunnies every single time are at best not very choosy and at worst just plain fantasists.

Think in terms of a marathon not a sprint. We have been active for over 30 years and still enjoy even the quiet times

Good luck