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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Been trying for a while now to found people to meet but I still have not been successful. I don't understand what I'm doing wrong I'm not messaging everyone saying you wanna fuck yet I still can't find people to meet. Can anyone help?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To many cock pictures,age could be many different things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People in their 20s have trouble on here. Being 18 is gonna be a struggle. Just keep trying.

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By *henHarryAteSallyCouple
over a year ago

Northampton


"Been trying for a while now to found people to meet but I still have not been successful. I don't understand what I'm doing wrong I'm not messaging everyone saying you wanna fuck yet I still can't find people to meet. Can anyone help?

"

The way you’ve written your post probably explains why you’ve been unsuccessful..

You’ll get very little success by asking people “you wanna fuck”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been trying for a while now to found people to meet but I still have not been successful. I don't understand what I'm doing wrong I'm not messaging everyone saying you wanna fuck yet I still can't find people to meet. Can anyone help?

"

Poorly put together profile as a starter!

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By *iss GalitzineWoman
over a year ago

Near Bath

Your photos. Personal preference but the trousers round the ankles look doesn't work for me. Neither does the toilet in the other picture. Maybe try some black and white photos. White shirts and suit jackets get my attention!! I don't 'loke' bad spelling either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

your profile says nothing about what you could offer a meet, what you are looking for in a meet...and pictures of your toilet is never going to be enticing...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"your profile says nothing about what you could offer a meet, what you are looking for in a meet...and pictures of your toilet is never going to be enticing..."

You noticed the toilet in the photo as well??

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By *ex-a-frolicsCouple
over a year ago

Brizzle

Your age, sparce profile with errors, & poor photos as has been said before, plus you can’t accommodate & don’t say why. You’re up against gazillions of other single guys & need to really stand out to stand a chance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Apart from the pics and the profile... You are 18.

Many on here gave kids older than that...

Go out.. clubs bars anywhere... get a real life find a real girl...

One you like... do together the things you like to do together...

And don't expect to get meets just because your on here..

Good luck OP

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"Been trying for a while now to found people to meet but I still have not been successful. I don't understand what I'm doing wrong I'm not messaging everyone saying you wanna fuck yet I still can't find people to meet. Can anyone help?

The way you’ve written your post probably explains why you’ve been unsuccessful..

You’ll get very little success by asking people “you wanna fuck”

"

What's wrong with the way he's written his post?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cock pics are a big turn off for us ladies. No offence but why is an 18 year old on Fab? Get out an enjoy yourself and enjoy life. I'm sure there are some lovely girls your age outside of this lifestyle honey x

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed


"Been trying for a while now to found people to meet but I still have not been successful. I don't understand what I'm doing wrong I'm not messaging everyone saying you wanna fuck yet I still can't find people to meet. Can anyone help?

"

I can think of 3 issues.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your age, sparce profile with errors, & poor photos as has been said before, plus you can’t accommodate & don’t say why. You’re up against gazillions of other single guys & need to really stand out to stand a chance. "

I would say he can't accommodate as he probably lives with his parents

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I can think of 3 issues.

Can you please tell me them I have changed my bio and tried to describe myself as best as I could and tried to be as helpful as I could

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can think of 3 issues.

Can you please tell me them I have changed my bio and tried to describe myself as best as I could and tried to be as helpful as I could "

If you will take advice then as others have observed...your profile/pics makes it seem you are obsessed with waving your wang about....it's not going to impress anyone.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Currently working on that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your age, sparce profile with errors, & poor photos as has been said before, plus you can’t accommodate & don’t say why. You’re up against gazillions of other single guys & need to really stand out to stand a chance. "

But you can't accommodate either and you don't say why.

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By *lacktower38Man
over a year ago

kettering


"I can think of 3 issues.

Can you please tell me them I have changed my bio and tried to describe myself as best as I could and tried to be as helpful as I could "

Hi blue eye

I never read the 1st version of your profile but the version you have now seem fine. I’ve seen plenty of profiles with just one sentence and and so many dick pic’s it looks like a advert for Wall’s. I believe your age is the major factor. You have every right to be on here like the rest of us. Best edvice i can give you is go to social event mingle, meet people face to face, the profile is a small part of this site.

Good luck out there

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By *lacktower38Man
over a year ago

kettering


"Your age, sparce profile with errors, & poor photos as has been said before, plus you can’t accommodate & don’t say why. You’re up against gazillions of other single guys & need to really stand out to stand a chance.

But you can't accommodate either and you don't say why."

He’s 18 how many 18yr old get access to own house/flat.

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

OP I didn't see your profile when you first asked for advice so I can only assume it was dreadful judging by the replies.

Now it looks ok but i do have a few suggestions for you.

You didn't specify your preferred age range so it is currently set at the default 18-99 years. Would you really meet a 99 year old?

You don't say what attracts you to a potential meet. You are allowed to have preferences and say what they are. Don't try to appeal to everyone, that's just impossible. Try to tailor your profile to the people you are actually hoping to meet.

As a single male you are just one of many thousands, the largest group on fab. Because of this you will find it much harder to meet than single ladies or couples. Bucket loads of patience are needed.

A lot of people on fab will be the same age as your parents (or older) and just don't meet people as young as you are. Try not to let that discourage you though, there are people who do like younger guys: it will just mean you have to be even more patient and search for them.

Good luck OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your age, sparce profile with errors, & poor photos as has been said before, plus you can’t accommodate & don’t say why. You’re up against gazillions of other single guys & need to really stand out to stand a chance.

But you can't accommodate either and you don't say why.

He’s 18 how many 18yr old get access to own house/flat. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been trying for a while now to found people to meet but I still have not been successful. I don't understand what I'm doing wrong I'm not messaging everyone saying you wanna fuck yet I still can't find people to meet. Can anyone help?

The way you’ve written your post probably explains why you’ve been unsuccessful..

You’ll get very little success by asking people “you wanna fuck”

"
think he said he is not asking wanna fuck on his messages,

reading peoples profiles helps know what they are looking for that also interests you, then approach using their likes as a common ground for messages

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By *he-Hosiery-GentMan
over a year ago

Older Hot Bearded Guy


"Currently working on that "

There's only a very small minority of women that want to see a penis photo from the outset. They get bombarded with them on here.

I won't lie to you. Your age won't help matters. You will need to be very patient.

I wish you the best.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP I didn't see your profile when you first asked for advice so I can only assume it was dreadful judging by the replies.

Now it looks ok but i do have a few suggestions for you.

You didn't specify your preferred age range so it is currently set at the default 18-99 years. Would you really meet a 99 year old?

You don't say what attracts you to a potential meet. You are allowed to have preferences and say what they are. Don't try to appeal to everyone, that's just impossible. Try to tailor your profile to the people you are actually hoping to meet.

As a single male you are just one of many thousands, the largest group on fab. Because of this you will find it much harder to meet than single ladies or couples. Bucket loads of patience are needed.

A lot of people on fab will be the same age as your parents (or older) and just don't meet people as young as you are. Try not to let that discourage you though, there are people who do like younger guys: it will just mean you have to be even more patient and search for them.

Good luck OP "

Given the highly highly unlikely situation of a 99 y/o being on here, wouldn't anyone want to meet them??

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you for all the help it's really appreciated

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

Unfortunately some people on here will decline your offer to meet simply because of your age. But there are plenty of others that won't, so look for them. Use the search facility, and tick the litle box that says 'I must match their age requirements too'

You could also do with some pics that don't involve your penis.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been trying for a while now to found people to meet but I still have not been successful. I don't understand what I'm doing wrong I'm not messaging everyone saying you wanna fuck yet I still can't find people to meet. Can anyone help?

"

The majority on here fantasize in meeting, very few do and the odds are worse for a single guy.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

**HELP FOR NEWBIES/NO MEETS**

This section is especially for you singles and couples that feel the urge to pm me and ask for advice etc, now you don't have to it's all here for you!

1. Read FAQ section, particularly the part about no reply, no interest, it's not considered rude. Do not bother with the Sydney university shit on your profile, it means nothing.

2. Work on your profile: decent pics and a good bio, tick interests. Put a profile pic on.

3. Get photo verified, particularly important if you are a couple or single female.

4. Get cam verified to start, you can go into the cam rooms and ask someone to help you with this. Couples must both be on at the same time.

5. Read a profile before messaging, it's polite.

6. Read existing forum threads on profile advice, some very good ones.

7. Post your own thread to ask for feedback, (not a whinging, whining entitled one!).

8. Act on said advice.

9. Go to local socials/clubs, meet people in public places.

10. Lastly, enjoy your time on fab!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree it’s difficult to meet any one here. Too many factors come into play. But odds r better than winning a lotto. Patience and good personality will lead to some success

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By *oredShitlessxxxCouple
over a year ago

luton

The persemption of most (maybe) but us would be too young and therefore too inexperienced, our advise is to try and show on your profile that you have a good understanding of why husbands and wives enjoy welcoming other males to be apart of their sexual play... this may actually tip the scales of some couples giving you a chance.

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By *ex-a-frolicsCouple
over a year ago

Brizzle

Interesting word there, were you looking for perception or presumption maybe?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I blame those damn penguins

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To get my attention you’d need more photos not just dick pics and maybe would could offer but your age alone wouldn’t be a put off

Mrs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To get my attention you’d need more photos not just dick pics and maybe would could offer but your age alone wouldn’t be a put off

Mrs x "

I got loads of pic

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By *art123Man
over a year ago

Stoke

I’d like to say you get used to it op but you don’t lol

Don’t ever expect a reply to a message.. and when you do eventually get one it’s a great surprise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’d like to say you get used to it op but you don’t lol

Don’t ever expect a reply to a message.. and when you do eventually get one it’s a great surprise "

Everything this guy said.

Cos fab is man heavy. I wouldn't even like to guess the M/F ratio, but I'd estimate it's high. 1:10 at least

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By *oredShitlessxxxCouple
over a year ago

luton

OP you need to go to clubs that do cubs and cougar nights... simples!

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By *rSinfulMan
over a year ago

mysteryville

It's how it is ive been on here 10 years and only had about 2 meets.

Basically if your not a god you got no chance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"**HELP FOR NEWBIES/NO MEETS**

This section is especially for you singles and couples that feel the urge to pm me and ask for advice etc, now you don't have to it's all here for you!

1. Read FAQ section, particularly the part about no reply, no interest, it's not considered rude. Do not bother with the Sydney university shit on your profile, it means nothing.

2. Work on your profile: decent pics and a good bio, tick interests. Put a profile pic on.

3. Get photo verified, particularly important if you are a couple or single female.

4. Get cam verified to start, you can go into the cam rooms and ask someone to help you with this. Couples must both be on at the same time.

5. Read a profile before messaging, it's polite.

6. Read existing forum threads on profile advice, some very good ones.

7. Post your own thread to ask for feedback, (not a whinging, whining entitled one!).

8. Act on said advice.

9. Go to local socials/clubs, meet people in public places.

10. Lastly, enjoy your time on fab!"

Pretty much all of this. Aside from your own thread - there's so many threads already on here that a little bit of reading through will give you every answer and tip you should need. If it doesn't then tuff - it's not everyone else's responsibility to get your profile into a decent state. After all, it should be your work and words, not those views of everyone else.

I often find profiles are a good indication of what that person is likely to be like in real life. So if it lacks imagination, is poorly written and displays a lack of experience or dedication to the world of swinging then it's likely that the person I meet in real life will also be like this. Harsh but from experience, mostly true!

My final point would be that fab is only a small part of the swinging lifestyle so if your pinning all your hopes on this site you are going to be disappointed. Clubs, munches, private parties, other online sites in addition to fab will help you grow your knowledge and network... It takes a conscious effort but the payoff is worth it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your age, sparce profile with errors, & poor photos as has been said before, plus you can’t accommodate & don’t say why. You’re up against gazillions of other single guys & need to really stand out to stand a chance.

But you can't accommodate either and you don't say why."

Because he lives with his mum no doubt haha

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"Your age, sparce profile with errors, & poor photos as has been said before, plus you can’t accommodate & don’t say why. You’re up against gazillions of other single guys & need to really stand out to stand a chance.

But you can't accommodate either and you don't say why.

Because he lives with his mum no doubt haha"

As I'm sure lots of 18 year olds do. Op your age won't help on a site like this,but good luck.

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By *aptain KinkyMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Try putting a face pic as your profile pic!

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over a year ago

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