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By *asques and boxers OP   Couple
over a year ago

Ashford and dept16

chat after play someone confirmed they had sex bare back. They are full swap but had stated safe sex only.

What would you do?

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Just to make sure I've understood correctly - you met someone and played with them (presumably safely?) and after doing so they told you they normally play bareback?

If you played safely with them then you probably have nothing to worry about - and if you're regularly tested then anything would be highlighted next time you go (which may be worth bringing forward just to be sure).

Personally I'd not want to play with that person again but that choice is of course yours.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

As long as you played safe and took responsibility for yourseleves ,then no worries.

If it makes you unconmfortable just don't meet again.

Miss

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

I would get tested for peace of mind.

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By *asques and boxers OP   Couple
over a year ago

Ashford and dept16

Yep we are booked in regular test bought forward disappointed though.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"chat after play someone confirmed they had sex bare back. They are full swap but had stated safe sex only.

What would you do?"

I'd be quite annoyed that they'd misled me and definitely wouldn't meet them again. However I trust no one when it comes to casual sex and assume that loads of people lie about safe sex, in fact a good proportion of men we've met expect bare back.

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By *arnsleycouple7683Couple
over a year ago

Barnsley

If they used a condom with you I don't really see the problem. Does it matter that they usually do bareback with other people? They still respected your wishes.

Am I missing something?

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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Sorry, was it their profile that said they played safe or did the explicitly tell you that themselves before playing? Just trying to figure it out.

If it was the former then there really isn’t a problem. My profile says safe sex is a must, however with partners from here that I’ve got to know and trust, I’ll suspend that rule.

If it’s the latter, then they’re arseholes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Condoms only protect against diseases spread through penetration so why aren't you worried about oral transmissions??

How do you ever really know who is clean??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey

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By *ayMaxxxMan
over a year ago

Windsor


"If they used a condom with you I don't really see the problem. Does it matter that they usually do bareback with other people? They still respected your wishes.

Am I missing something?"

People who practice safe sex and get tested regularly are less likely to have STI's than people who don't. And condoms are reported to be 98-99% effective against certain STI's. An individual might weigh up the risk they are prepared to accept based on practicing safe sex with partners who also practice safe sex. But someone who lies about their usual practices is forcing the other party into a different risk level. I think that matters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If they used a condom with you I don't really see the problem. Does it matter that they usually do bareback with other people? They still respected your wishes.

Am I missing something?

People who practice safe sex and get tested regularly are less likely to have STI's than people who don't. And condoms are reported to be 98-99% effective against certain STI's. An individual might weigh up the risk they are prepared to accept based on practicing safe sex with partners who also practice safe sex. But someone who lies about their usual practices is forcing the other party into a different risk level. I think that matters."

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