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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi every one is there a correct way of talking to ppl, reason I ask is I've been nice, I've not been pushy, I've talked dirty , I've read their profiles and spoke to them as it says but still get shot down in flames lol

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By *RnMrsFreakCouple
over a year ago

Hull,England


"Hi every one is there a correct way of talking to ppl, reason I ask is I've been nice, I've not been pushy, I've talked dirty , I've read their profiles and spoke to them as it says but still get shot down in flames lol "
There will always be assholes, don't take it to heart, just concentrate on the one who greet you well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi every one is there a correct way of talking to ppl, reason I ask is I've been nice, I've not been pushy, I've talked dirty , I've read their profiles and spoke to them as it says but still get shot down in flames lol There will always be assholes, don't take it to heart, just concentrate on the one who greet you well "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be yourself .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like others have said just be yourself read the signals and charm them by just being you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi every one is there a correct way of talking to ppl, reason I ask is I've been nice, I've not been pushy, I've talked dirty , I've read their profiles and spoke to them as it says but still get shot down in flames lol "

They’ve read your profile too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I didn't know how to talk to people at the age of 53, I'd just shoot myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There’s arse holes the world around,you don’t need look too far

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel ya pain

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people just can't help themselves, especially when they are sitting behind a keyboard. Trolls!!!

Stick two fingers up at them, they are laughable and have no life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Talk with a French or perhaps Italian accent. Very sexy

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By *hatterley64Couple
over a year ago

Hertford


"Hi every one is there a correct way of talking to ppl, reason I ask is I've been nice, I've not been pushy, I've talked dirty , I've read their profiles and spoke to them as it says but still get shot down in flames lol "

THE biggest tip I can give is if you are hoping to meet couples, ALWAYS address the couple and not just the female!! Instant delete from us if guy forgets that!

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By *j48Man
over a year ago

Wigan


"Hi every one is there a correct way of talking to ppl, reason I ask is I've been nice, I've not been pushy, I've talked dirty , I've read their profiles and spoke to them as it says but still get shot down in flames lol

THE biggest tip I can give is if you are hoping to meet couples, ALWAYS address the couple and not just the female!! Instant delete from us if guy forgets that! "

With 34 public photos and not one of the male - hardly surprising your ignored

Just saying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi every one is there a correct way of talking to ppl, reason I ask is I've been nice, I've not been pushy, I've talked dirty , I've read their profiles and spoke to them as it says but still get shot down in flames lol

THE biggest tip I can give is if you are hoping to meet couples, ALWAYS address the couple and not just the female!! Instant delete from us if guy forgets that!

With 34 public photos and not one of the male - hardly surprising your ignored

Just saying "

exactly.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

The Queen is the ultimate source on the correct use of English. She does give personal coaching on the correct terminology for approaching swingers, but it's £5,000 an hour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi every one is there a correct way of talking to ppl, reason I ask is I've been nice, I've not been pushy, I've talked dirty , I've read their profiles and spoke to them as it says but still get shot down in flames lol

THE biggest tip I can give is if you are hoping to meet couples, ALWAYS address the couple and not just the female!! Instant delete from us if guy forgets that!

With 34 public photos and not one of the male - hardly surprising your ignored

Just saying

exactly. "

He's got a point

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By *j48Man
over a year ago

Wigan

And I meant you're

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

Blody great pics though lol

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

Bloody* sigh

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Looks like you've not done too bad OP considering you've had 6 meets the most recent of which was Tuesday this week

As others have said though just be yourself and don't try to be something you're not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi every one is there a correct way of talking to ppl, reason I ask is I've been nice, I've not been pushy, I've talked dirty , I've read their profiles and spoke to them as it says but still get shot down in flames lol "

There is, but it's also highly dependent on how much they actually fancy you, or like the look/sound of your profile.

I heard it best said by a comedian. A creepy guy isn't creepy, he's just a guy who fancies you, that you don't fancy. There are every few creepy men who look like Ryan Gosling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

With 34 public photos and not one of the male - hardly surprising your ignored

Just saying "

I've said stuff like this before and been banned from these forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My last message from a single man went like this.

Hi nice photos you have put up.

Thank you very much.

Want to meet up for a fuck.

Please read my profile.

Fuck off.

Needless to say be got the block button after a few choice words from me.

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By *j48Man
over a year ago

Wigan


"

With 34 public photos and not one of the male - hardly surprising your ignored

Just saying

I've said stuff like this before and been banned from these forums"

That would be a bit harsh - it was an observation. Up to them if they want to add a couple of photos of the fella and maybe use the block button less as a result

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest


"Hi every one is there a correct way of talking to ppl, reason I ask is I've been nice, I've not been pushy, I've talked dirty , I've read their profiles and spoke to them as it says but still get shot down in flames lol "

I think its dependant on two major factors. The first, obviously is the content of your message and the way it's worded. I always try to make it sound charming and witty, and usually look for something on the profile description that I can incorporate in the messaging. If the profile interests me, i'll always include a face pic...if they don't find me attractive from the get go, what's the point?

Secondly, the way your profile is written and what type of pics you have there play a major part as well. If the person(s) liked your initial approach, they'll always check your profile to see if it's in tune with the message they may have appreciated. If they like what they see, usually success

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

With 34 public photos and not one of the male - hardly surprising your ignored

Just saying

I've said stuff like this before and been banned from these forums

That would be a bit harsh - it was an observation. Up to them if they want to add a couple of photos of the fella and maybe use the block button less as a result "

Oh I disagree with it too, but it comes as picking apart someone's profile. Basically, if you do it to someone who takes offence, they report you because they don't like hearing constructive criticism. He seems to be fine with it.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

Talk to people how you'd normally talk to them or else It's false advertising imo

I was always told that you have two ears and one mouth and should use them in that ratio

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By *j48Man
over a year ago

Wigan


"

With 34 public photos and not one of the male - hardly surprising your ignored

Just saying

I've said stuff like this before and been banned from these forums

That would be a bit harsh - it was an observation. Up to them if they want to add a couple of photos of the fella and maybe use the block button less as a result

Oh I disagree with it too, but it comes as picking apart someone's profile. Basically, if you do it to someone who takes offence, they report you because they don't like hearing constructive criticism. He seems to be fine with it."

He probably hasn't read it..

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By *hatterley64Couple
over a year ago

Hertford


"

With 34 public photos and not one of the male - hardly surprising your ignored

Just saying

I've said stuff like this before and been banned from these forums

That would be a bit harsh - it was an observation. Up to them if they want to add a couple of photos of the fella and maybe use the block button less as a result

Oh I disagree with it too, but it comes as picking apart someone's profile. Basically, if you do it to someone who takes offence, they report you because they don't like hearing constructive criticism. He seems to be fine with it.

He probably hasn't read it..

It's 'she' actually. And has read.

Haven't actually been ignored. And tbh we're quite happy with the meets we've had so far.

Was just offering some some advice as requested.

Sorry to have bothered.

Funnily enough all the men we have met aren't actually interested in pics of hubby but doesn't mean they pretend he doesn't exist!

"

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By *inglehotchickWoman
over a year ago

blackpool

The way you talk to a woman one day can be perfectly acceptable and the talk to the same woman that way the next day and she could lose it

You guys should know us women are crazy

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest


"The way you talk to a woman one day can be perfectly acceptable and the talk to the same woman that way the next day and she could lose it

You guys should know us women are crazy "

Mercurial creatures never a dull moment? x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi every one is there a correct way of talking to ppl, reason I ask is I've been nice, I've not been pushy, I've talked dirty , I've read their profiles and spoke to them as it says but still get shot down in flames lol

There is, but it's also highly dependent on how much they actually fancy you, or like the look/sound of your profile.

I heard it best said by a comedian. A creepy guy isn't creepy, he's just a guy who fancies you, that you don't fancy. There are every few creepy men who look like Ryan Gosling."

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By *osweet69Couple
over a year ago

portsmouth


"The way you talk to a woman one day can be perfectly acceptable and the talk to the same woman that way the next day and she could lose it

You guys should know us women are crazy "
Oh this is so true Women are not supposed to be understood,just loved.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi every one is there a correct way of talking to ppl, reason I ask is I've been nice, I've not been pushy, I've talked dirty , I've read their profiles and spoke to them as it says but still get shot down in flames lol "

Personally I really hate text talk. It's chavvy and there's no need for it. Reading text talk turns me off. Not sure why it annoys me so much. It's just one of those things.

Unless...that person is dyslexic. If that person is dyslexic they usually have that written on their profile would an apology. Not sure why they're apologizing but they're such nice people that they often do anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally find it hard to reply to everyone, i dont like the messages that are like “come meet now” “lets fuck” etc. I dont want to be rude to anybody. Do people not mind a message saying no? I like a message that catches my eye x

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By *ireblade24Man
over a year ago

sexy town


"The way you talk to a woman one day can be perfectly acceptable and the talk to the same woman that way the next day and she could lose it

You guys should know us women are crazy "

Good job you've said that, us guys would be shot down very quickly

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok well thank you very much every one it seems there is no correct way to talk to people, it seems it down to how they feel on the day, but I have taken your comments on board so again a big thank you xx

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

As the very wise old Chinese philosopher said(but obviously in Chinese)

"When you can catch a fart in a colander you might begin to understand women"

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