FabSwingers.com forum: Single ladiies etiquette in club.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Sorry if this has already been asked but......I am debating going to a club as a single fem ...any helpful tips ?? .

I love meeting new people and will chat to anyone but worried this may give out the wrong signals ..any advice greatly received xx

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

just be yourself and i am sure you'll be fine.. if at any point you feel you are going at a pace quicker than you like... stop!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No just be yourself, in fact the chattier you are the easier it is, I think. I have no problem going up to people and chatting, I used to be less confident, but when im in a club I will always comment if something takes my interest.

If I recognise someone that Ive seen before then I will also ask after them, if I see a nice outfit then I will compliment on it, if I see something funny I will laugh and comment.

Once myself and the OH went to a club and separated for an hour to see what it would be like as a single person. I just went up to couples and asked if I could sit with them. They said yes and I sat and chatted. I noticed that I had to deal with more gropy behaviour from guys when I was on my own, but again I dealt with it in a nice manner and it was ok.

You will love it, enjoy, dont be afraid to chat and go at your own pace.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i attend clubs by myself, if ur unsure just go for a social night there first time just to help get the feel of clubs, dont think ur under pressure to play at any time only do that if and when u feel ready to do so hope u have a good time

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Be yourself, relax, don't drink too much, feel no pressure to play, agree boundaries before you play with anyone, decide if you want to play in open or private rooms.

have fun x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just because you are chatty, doesn't mean you have to take it further, if they ask to do more you are still in your right to say no.

Better not to think about the signals but be yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

honestly u can talk to me, i love a natter...whOops...sorry...didnt realise I was brushing against that lovely soft skin and erect nipples...OOps...someone just pushed me closer, and my tongue just happened to be out.............

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By *jaexWoman
over a year ago

staines

I go alone. Make syre the club is reputable. Let reception and security know you are on your own. Stay relatively sober first few times. Keep an eye on your drink x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I too go alone to clubs, usually organised social events, with peeps I already know in attendance.

I tend not to play at clubs, however, if someone takes my fancy while I am there, then I would let him know.

I am not a big drinker as I often drive to the club and may need to drive back to the hotel or home after the party.

Good advice from others about letting the management/security know that you are on your own.

One of the many reasons I like Chams at Darlaston is that, the staff looked after me well the first time I was there as a single fem, and they continue to do so whenever I go there.

Be yourself and you'll be fine. And remember, no means no.

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

When i went the first time to chams as a single fem I was barely shown around so had no idea where anything was. A male half of a couple saw me wandering round lost and was kind enough to offer to show me every room in the building and any rules.

I have been back a few times and loved it but shame my first experience alone was rubbish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry if this has already been asked but......I am debating going to a club as a single fem ...any helpful tips ?? .

I love meeting new people and will chat to anyone but worried this may give out the wrong signals ..any advice greatly received xx

being single myself i go to clubs alot alone

Some guys will take you talking to them the wrong way, ive had it a few times where men have come over to me and because i have chatted back they look really shocked when i tell them, after 10/15 mins of conversations im not interested in them

It has never stopped me talking to people, if guys take your politness the wrong way then thats their problem not yours

Just go, be yourself and have a good time

So long as your the sort of woman who can stand up for herself you'll be fine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So long as your the sort of woman who can stand up for herself you'll be fine"

Very true indeed!

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

So long as your the sort of woman who can stand up for herself you'll be fine

Very true indeed!

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At my regular club (la chambre) after the guided tour the staff introduce newbies to a couple or couples who have been regulars for some time. Wherever you choose to go for your first visit i would definitely suggest you ask for an introduction to such a couple if its not offered. Then you have people to ask the questions that didn't occur to you on your tour and to go over things that didn't sink in! And many people in to socialise as well as play so you should get to meet more people too. Also, if at any time anyone makes you feel uncomfortable or pressured then don't forget the other members for moral support. Staff no matter how good can't be everywhere. But members often police themselves - the much maligned single guys will help out cos they know only too well how the bad apples give them a bad rep! So never put up with anything you're not comfortable with and if you need help or advice just ask.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most single guys in clubs are 'well behaved' they pay a lot of money to get in and know they will be booted out if women complain, ive been using clubs for about 10 years now and never had to complain about a single guy, ive had a few problems but nothing that hasnt been sorted out by talking to them

However i have had a few problems with couples and have complained a few times about pushy couples, infact it was only last week i complained about the female from a couple who later got booted out because i was the 3rd person in the night to complain about them

Of course most couples are great

But the reason i said that is because when it comes to clubs and women asking for advice people always post, single men this, single men that and to be honest some of the couples are just as bad so dont assum because they a couple you wont get any problems, because you can

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i was a tad nervous going last night to a friday night as would be my 1st friday night but nothing to worry everyone was lovely and respectful

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

thanks everybody for all your comments very helpful -i think i will try a 'social' first ...break the ice.

cheers peeps xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"thanks everybody for all your comments very helpful -i think i will try a 'social' first ...break the ice.

cheers peeps xx

There is a Christmas Party at Chams, Darlaston on Sun 04 Dec if you could wait that long. Come and join us if you can.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

dont get too pissed lol or your fall over in the swiming pool lol

im off to bathswingers club sunday went last night was good fun not gunna drink sunday but it was my first time last night so ended up having a drink to settle my nerves and got a touch tipsey and had a slight ohhhh i had too much mo in the pool ... 20 mins later tho i was fine and going like a nympho in the big play room hehe xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hiya

I went to a club for the first time last week. Was really nervous so went with another single girl off here so we both had some back up. Im sure theres loads of single girls on here who feel the same so ask around and see if anyone fancies teaming up.

If you fancy comin over to Manchester anytime you're welcome to come to Cupids with me - I'm definitely sticking to that club as the staff and regulars were so fantastic the first time I went

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Hiya

This is excellent advice. I had a female club buddy which helped for my first few visits to Isis, and would always prefer to go with another woman than a man.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

there is some great information on here for the op or any single fem/male that goes to clubs.

first and foremost you have to feel safe in your surrounding , just because its a sex clubs , it doesnt mean that you will drop your drawers for anybody you chat to.

when we are at a club david alows me to decide who we swing with , that goes for anybody we meet outside clubs , he says that the womans safety is paramount.

for any single fem going to a club , we recommend going a few times to a cpl night first , get to know the place and then start trying the mixed nights.

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