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By *otnew16 OP   Man
over a year ago

Dartford

Advice please, I am about to meet a lady who has a deep desire for a certain role play, that is she wants to feel as if she is being forced to have sex against her will??

I am not against trying anything once but is this a bit much? It just sits uncomfortably with me!

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

Then don't do it. Simple.

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By *otnew16 OP   Man
over a year ago

Dartford

Thanks!

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

If you are uncomfortable then don't do it.

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By *otnew16 OP   Man
over a year ago

Dartford

Thanks again, but I am in two minds as I want her to achieve her fantasy???

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

If you are not comfortable don't do it.

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!


"Thanks again, but I am in two minds as I want her to achieve her fantasy??? "

...and what do YOU want to do? That's the most important question you should be asking.

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By *ighland_RoseCouple
over a year ago

Brigadoon

Is this the first time you've met her? If so then don't do it, that kind of role play requires knowing the person. How will you know what is too far? Make it a normal meet and get to know each other first is my advice.

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By *sThunderThighsWoman
over a year ago

Toy Land


"Is this the first time you've met her? If so then don't do it, that kind of role play requires knowing the person. How will you know what is too far? Make it a normal meet and get to know each other first is my advice."

My thoughts too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is this the first time you've met her? If so then don't do it, that kind of role play requires knowing the person. How will you know what is too far? Make it a normal meet and get to know each other first is my advice.

My thoughts too "

Good to see someone thinking with his head and not his cock!

It all sounds great up until the point you're gripping the rail at Crown Court and it's all gone Pete Tong!

I would suggest a quiet drink for a first meet rather than a scene from Deliverance!!! (Banjo's start duellling )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are two different points here.

The first point is whether you want to do it? Only you can decide.

The second point is doing it safely if you decide to go ahead. In the kink world they use the phrases such as, safe sane consensual kink or personal risk aware consensual kink. I read these as being you are your own safety officer in any kink situation.

Therefore you need to be very clear what is involved so a meeting or two is in order to understand her requirements. Listen to what your gut instinct says about this person.

If you go ahead I would suggest options such as having a neutral observer for both parties safety, and may be doing it at a club in public.

I have seen a such a scene at Eurekas years ago. But clubs may be wary about such things these days.

Therefore unless you have a deep trust with this person, you are, as others have mentioned, exposing yourself to grave risk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is this the first time you've met her? If so then don't do it, that kind of role play requires knowing the person. How will you know what is too far? Make it a normal meet and get to know each other first is my advice."

This!! Perfect response!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are two different points here.

The first point is whether you want to do it? Only you can decide.

The second point is doing it safely if you decide to go ahead. In the kink world they use the phrases such as, safe sane consensual kink or personal risk aware consensual kink. I read these as being you are your own safety officer in any kink situation.

Therefore you need to be very clear what is involved so a meeting or two is in order to understand her requirements. Listen to what your gut instinct says about this person.

If you go ahead I would suggest options such as having a neutral observer for both parties safety, and may be doing it at a club in public.

I have seen a such a scene at Eurekas years ago. But clubs may be wary about such things these days.

Therefore unless you have a deep trust with this person, you are, as others have mentioned, exposing yourself to grave risk."

Again, good response!

I'd just like to add that you absolutely DO NEED a safe word, as you're going to have to ignore no, stop and help etc if you're to fulfil her fantasy successfully. It's so important that she has a safe word that stops everything instantly, for both of you!! The last thing you want is to find our afterwards that at some point she got frightened and it changed from fun to a reality. Plus you're going to have to "overpower" her. How do you actually feel about that? I'd imagine it's not for the majority of guys tbh...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are two different points here.

The first point is whether you want to do it? Only you can decide.

The second point is doing it safely if you decide to go ahead. In the kink world they use the phrases such as, safe sane consensual kink or personal risk aware consensual kink. I read these as being you are your own safety officer in any kink situation.

Therefore you need to be very clear what is involved so a meeting or two is in order to understand her requirements. Listen to what your gut instinct says about this person.

If you go ahead I would suggest options such as having a neutral observer for both parties safety, and may be doing it at a club in public.

I have seen a such a scene at Eurekas years ago. But clubs may be wary about such things these days.

Therefore unless you have a deep trust with this person, you are, as others have mentioned, exposing yourself to grave risk.

Again, good response!

I'd just like to add that you absolutely DO NEED a safe word, as you're going to have to ignore no, stop and help etc if you're to fulfil her fantasy successfully. It's so important that she has a safe word that stops everything instantly, for both of you!! The last thing you want is to find our afterwards that at some point she got frightened and it changed from fun to a reality. Plus you're going to have to "overpower" her. How do you actually feel about that? I'd imagine it's not for the majority of guys tbh... "

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By *otnew16 OP   Man
over a year ago

Dartford


"There are two different points here.

The first point is whether you want to do it? Only you can decide.

The second point is doing it safely if you decide to go ahead. In the kink world they use the phrases such as, safe sane consensual kink or personal risk aware consensual kink. I read these as being you are your own safety officer in any kink situation.

Therefore you need to be very clear what is involved so a meeting or two is in order to understand her requirements. Listen to what your gut instinct says about this person.

If you go ahead I would suggest options such as having a neutral observer for both parties safety, and may be doing it at a club in public.

I have seen a such a scene at Eurekas years ago. But clubs may be wary about such things these days.

Therefore unless you have a deep trust with this person, you are, as others have mentioned, exposing yourself to grave risk.

Again, good response!

I'd just like to add that you absolutely DO NEED a safe word, as you're going to have to ignore no, stop and help etc if you're to fulfil her fantasy successfully. It's so important that she has a safe word that stops everything instantly, for both of you!! The last thing you want is to find our afterwards that at some point she got frightened and it changed from fun to a reality. Plus you're going to have to "overpower" her. How do you actually feel about that? I'd imagine it's not for the majority of guys tbh... "

It’s a daunting prospect I must say, we are meeting for coffee this week so can discuss the implications of this! I will show her all your responses which have been great, thanks to you all for sound advice!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Advice please, I am about to meet a lady who has a deep desire for a certain role play, that is she wants to feel as if she is being forced to have sex against her will??

I am not against trying anything once but is this a bit much? It just sits uncomfortably with me!"

Had this request before, I politely declined

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