FabSwingers.com forum: Chams last night

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Last night in Chams there was a very unpleasant woman who decided it was ok to hit her partner in front of everyone.

Another woman spoke up and told her to pack it in - she got a mouthful of abuse.

The guy seemed to just take it.

Staff did come and deal with it.

But if you are on here you should be bloody ashamed of yourself. Violence is never ok.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Last night in Chams there was a very unpleasant woman who decided it was ok to hit her partner in front of everyone.

Another woman spoke up and told her to pack it in - she got a mouthful of abuse.

The guy seemed to just take it.

Staff did come and deal with it.

But if you are on here you should be bloody ashamed of yourself. Violence is never ok. "

It’s never ever acceptable. I hope the couple were asked to leave.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Last night in Chams there was a very unpleasant woman who decided it was ok to hit her partner in front of everyone.

Another woman spoke up and told her to pack it in - she got a mouthful of abuse.

The guy seemed to just take it.

Staff did come and deal with it.

But if you are on here you should be bloody ashamed of yourself. Violence is never ok.

It’s never ever acceptable. I hope the couple were asked to leave. "

You mean you hope she was asked to leave and that the abusive woman gets help and stops abusing her partner. It's probably much worse behind closed doors.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not nice to see that and you only saw that display- what goes on at home might be worse for either party - but club isnt the place and it was dealt with - never seem violennce but have seen d*unken rows a couple of times in clubs and both times dealt with professionally

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Last night in Chams there was a very unpleasant woman who decided it was ok to hit her partner in front of everyone.

Another woman spoke up and told her to pack it in - she got a mouthful of abuse.

The guy seemed to just take it.

Staff did come and deal with it.

But if you are on here you should be bloody ashamed of yourself. Violence is never ok.

It’s never ever acceptable. I hope the couple were asked to leave.

You mean you hope she was asked to leave and that the abusive woman gets help and stops abusing her partner. It's probably much worse behind closed doors. "

I did tell him it wasn’t acceptable and he doesn’t have to put up with it. But he didn’t seem to want to listen

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

The behaviour accepted by that club is not accepted by me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunatly that side of domestic violence doesnt get enough coverage. Just look at all the clips on you tube where they test men fake attacking women vs women fake attacking the men and seeing how people nearby react.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"Unfortunatly that side of domestic violence doesnt get enough coverage. Just look at all the clips on you tube where they test men fake attacking women vs women fake attacking the men and seeing how people nearby react.

I certainly don't think the woman's actions are acceptable. However I've witnessed in about 3-4 visits enough to know this club is not what I want to see in a swinging club. The very last time we left, a woman was being held up by her partner, she was so d*unk. Falling over d*unk and had been for hours. She interrupted our play twice, shouting and slurring. An utter embarrassment AND her male partner carried on letting her drink in an environment like that.

We reported it on the way out - Sunday aftertnoon this - and the male member of staff seemingly didn't give a fuck / oh he was hungover too

the couple behind us also pointed to a review the club had on this problem.

Overall just got the feeling that Chams don't give a care about anyone's safety. I expect more posts like this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Last night in Chams there was a very unpleasant woman who decided it was ok to hit her partner in front of everyone.

Another woman spoke up and told her to pack it in - she got a mouthful of abuse.

The guy seemed to just take it.

Staff did come and deal with it.

But if you are on here you should be bloody ashamed of yourself. Violence is never ok.

It’s never ever acceptable. I hope the couple were asked to leave.

You mean you hope she was asked to leave and that the abusive woman gets help and stops abusing her partner. It's probably much worse behind closed doors. "

I do hope she gets help, one of the first steps though is to make it clear this behaviour is never acceptable and that’s why the club should certainly have asked her to leave.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shouldn’t have kicked them out, simply called the police. The way I see it is if it has happened once the likelihood is that aggression is regular in which case you have no idea how to guy felt. Maybe he didn’t seem interested because he was genuinely fearful of her or loves her. Domestic violence is a crazy labyrinth of emotions but fortunately the police are now able to press charges without consent from the victim. Anyhow it’s a horrible sight I would not like to see.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a meet with a couple not too long ago and the woman did not have much good to say about Chameleons. She said one problem was the cliquish nature of the club itself. I am also assuming that the women in question was probably thoroughly intoxicated. Now, take the fact that there was a thread not too long ago with plenty seemingly excusing the fact that you have plenty of alcoholic women/couples attending clubs to "calm the nerves". It seemed many were perfectly okay with accepting shitty d*unk behavior as part and parcel of the club experience.

Sorry but when you have shitty attitudes like that excusing by the same cliquey mentality on these forums it no surprise that people with the same time of behavior frequent chams and thus there leading to one too many recounts of stuff like this.

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By *t8880Couple
over a year ago

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We were thinking about tryibg Chams for our first time today. Maybe not now. Has anyone got any suggestions for a club today? We are in Stoke on Trent but dont mind traveling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We were thinking about tryibg Chams for our first time today. Maybe not now. Has anyone got any suggestions for a club today? We are in Stoke on Trent but dont mind traveling"

dont let this tar the porttail of the club

i love chams

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We were thinking about tryibg Chams for our first time today. Maybe not now. Has anyone got any suggestions for a club today? We are in Stoke on Trent but dont mind traveling"

We are regulars at Chams and love it there. It was just unfortunate incident. Don’t let it out you off trying

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By *elma and ShaggyCouple
over a year ago

Bedworth

I'm wondering if we stepped into an alternate reality on our visit to chams on Friday, it was certainly nothing like has been described on this thread!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been numerous times, last night was definitely not the norm.

Fuck knows what was wrong with people last night, but the staff dealt with all incidents quickly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have been to chams a few times and have always found it to be a friendly and relaxed place ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We were thinking about tryibg Chams for our first time today. Maybe not now. Has anyone got any suggestions for a club today? We are in Stoke on Trent but dont mind traveling

dont let this tar the porttail of the club

i love chams"

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Shouldn’t have kicked them out, simply called the police. The way I see it is if it has happened once the likelihood is that aggression is regular in which case you have no idea how to guy felt. Maybe he didn’t seem interested because he was genuinely fearful of her or loves her. Domestic violence is a crazy labyrinth of emotions but fortunately the police are now able to press charges without consent from the victim. Anyhow it’s a horrible sight I would not like to see."
exactly

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By *herbert fountainWoman
over a year ago

Hanley

Have been to Chams on several occasions and never once encountered behaviour like this. Nor any cliques. But have never attended on a Saturday evening which seems to be when these incidents happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We once had a couple attending one of our house parties he was asked by others if it was ok for the lady to play his answer was sure go ahead ,then once she was doing just that come in and gave her a gob full and a back hander,very swiftly ask to leave and don't think about attending again

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By *elma and ShaggyCouple
over a year ago

Bedworth

"I've been numerous times, last night was definitely not the norm.

Fuck knows what was wrong with people last night, but the staff dealt with all incidents quickly. "

All places where people drink alcohol will have issues to deal with at some point. The manner in which any problems or incidents are dealt with is what makes the difference between an ok venue and a really good venue in my opinion.

Fortunately, we have not had the misfortune of experiencing poor behaviour in any clubs when we've visited

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By *rs Butterfly.Woman
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

I find that any club where alcohol is available there are usually issues.

Some people feel they need to drink to give them confidence to play.

Unfortunately this can lead to domestics. Chams and other clubs will intervene as soon as they are aware of the situation.

For some reason these seem to happen more frequently on the couple's only nights I have attended.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

Many years ago I was on a study day on maternal mental health and the specialist told us of a woman with bi-polar who, when on a ‘high’ insisted on taking her husband to a swingers club. He could do nothing but go with her to make sure she was safe.

We simply don’t know what goes on behind closed doors.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

This is a rare occurrence at Chams, yes there are people that get d*unk but it's a very small minority.

Violence is ever acceptable and I'm glad to hear the club sorted it out promptly.

Regarding cliquey behavior, Chams is the least cliquey club I've been to, please don't turn this into a slagging off Chams thread because this really is a very rare incident.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agreed it's not cliquey

Personally think since new dancing area opened its been a lot noisier and a fair few very d*unk people... they do spoil the fun with the d*unken behaviour..

Still a great club

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By *r havin a laughMan
over a year ago

Innerleithen

Have to say Chams has been great every time I've visited it too. The staff are all friendly and every guest I've met in there are there to enjoy themselves. I haven't been for a while but I'm sure it was a one off. I've only found Eurekas more enjoyable to go to.

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By *hor ThumbMan
over a year ago

bristol

"We once had a couple attending one of our house parties he was asked by others if it was ok for the lady to play his answer was sure go ahead ,then once she was doing just that come in and gave her a gob full and a back hander,very swiftly ask to leave and don't think about attending again "
asked him if it's ok to play? I've never asked a partner if it's ok, I ask the person I'm interested in playing with, as it's their body, their choice. I would only ask their partner if it was part of a role play scenario.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We regularly visit Chams and have never had an issue.

I am sure as people say there are reasons for the ladies behaviour wether excusable or not .. not for us to judge.

But please do not let this tarnish Chams . The staff are normally very pleasant and quick acting .

Mrs Mary Cornershop

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By *ourlauraTV/TS
over a year ago

tidworth

"Last night in Chams there was a very unpleasant woman who decided it was ok to hit her partner in front of everyone.

Another woman spoke up and told her to pack it in - she got a mouthful of abuse.

The guy seemed to just take it.

Staff did come and deal with it.

But if you are on here you should be bloody ashamed of yourself. Violence is never ok. "
couldnt agree more

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By *iReyWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire East

Been to chams several times and never experienced anything like this. That being said this sort of this can happen anywhere, glad to see it was sorted swiftly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We were thinking about tryibg Chams for our first time today. Maybe not now. Has anyone got any suggestions for a club today? We are in Stoke on Trent but dont mind traveling"

Chamelons is a great place to try. The staff are great, freindly and always very welcoming. If it wasn't I would never let my wife go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Agreed it's not cliquey

Personally think since new dancing area opened its been a lot noisier and a fair few very d*unk people... they do spoil the fun with the d*unken behaviour..

Still a great club "

Don’t forget those in the clique won’t see it as cliquey whether or not the club is!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Agreed it's not cliquey

Personally think since new dancing area opened its been a lot noisier and a fair few very d*unk people... they do spoil the fun with the d*unken behaviour..

Still a great club

Don’t forget those in the clique won’t see it as cliquey whether or not the club is! "

Pretty much.

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By *elma and ShaggyCouple
over a year ago

Bedworth

"Agreed it's not cliquey

Personally think since new dancing area opened its been a lot noisier and a fair few very d*unk people... they do spoil the fun with the d*unken behaviour..

Still a great club

Don’t forget those in the clique won’t see it as cliquey whether or not the club is! "

We could hardly be considered part of any clique there, it's been over a year between our last visit and our most recent visit on Friday night. I can quite emphatically state that it was far from cliquey! We met and chatted with some lovely couples and single men

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"Agreed it's not cliquey

Personally think since new dancing area opened its been a lot noisier and a fair few very d*unk people... they do spoil the fun with the d*unken behaviour..

Still a great club

Don’t forget those in the clique won’t see it as cliquey whether or not the club is! "

And those that dislike the club will dislike it whether these 'cliques' exist or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sadly you get d*unk people, idiots, aggressive partners and all sorts of other undesirable traits at pretty much every and any club night. Just like you get bullying at every school. It's how it's dealt with that is important and Chams are usually pretty good dealing with issues when reported.

I feel sad for the male victim and hope he finds a way to access some support for himself.

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By *not69Man
over a year ago

Lancashire

"I've been numerous times, last night was definitely not the norm.

Fuck knows what was wrong with people last night, but the staff dealt with all incidents quickly. "

Probably just the aftermath of the full moon that was on Thursday

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We were at Chams last night too and unfortunately the behaviour of some of the guests was very disappointing, certainly the atmosphere was a lot worse than on previous visits for a number of reasons.

Unfortunately people having very public domestic disputes is awful for the people involved but also for others in the club but it was dealt with quickly. Fingers crossed the gentleman is Ok, I do know he left the club before the lady but whether he was waiting outside for her I do not know.

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

Agree on violence cannot be tolerated whether from the male or the famale.

Chams is easily the best club in the area by far.

How can they be held responsible for their clientele's behaviour.

They have adopted a "had enough to drink" policy which we have witnessed whilst at the bar and all put across discretely and professionally may we add.

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By *iReyWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire East

"We were thinking about tryibg Chams for our first time today. Maybe not now. Has anyone got any suggestions for a club today? We are in Stoke on Trent but dont mind traveling"

Just outside of stoke myself and travel regularly to visit this club also

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like Chams and I like the staff.

But it is noticeable that their membership can be a bit rough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chams is my favourite club having spend many many happy times there.

I’ve not been for quite a while but I know if I walked in today I would be welcomed with hugs from the staff and many of the customers.

Such a friendly place. Such a fun place.

There will always be arseholes who spoil a night for some and every club will get them from time to time.

I really must get my ass back there soon. My ass is very popular there..... apparently

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

friends of mine,a couple went for the first time, they wanted to find something for a once a month play as they had never done any thing like this before I recommend charms, they said they had just two drinks to cam there nerves,they said if they had more it would have spoilt the night,they said they had a great time, the staff are great everyone was friendly and one of the staff stayed with them until they settled, one couple come on to them d*unk and argumentative with each other and it was dealt with quickly, they are definitely going next month

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like Chams and I like the staff.

But it is noticeable that their membership can be a bit rough."

Ive noticed they are letting people join who shouldnt.

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