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By *ikerdude2017 OP   Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

So what messages get peoples attention or is it just me

I aways read profile fully. Been nice saucy asking about fantasies

Never send cock pics saying what being creative with fantasies people are into interests and never rude get little replys or no replys. Yes i know ladies gets hundreds of emails

What is the trick any advise will be welcome. TIA

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be yourself and a little cheekiness goes a long way x

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

There's no one answer to this. Personally, I don't like it when someone comes in with something graphic or asking to meet straight off. Which is pretty clear in my profile I think. I like a bit of humour, something a bit clever and different. That's probably no help at all!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be yourself... everyone has their preferences, everyone's different. You won't click with everyone so just be honest x

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Been nice saucy asking about fantasies"

That puts me off instantly

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth


"Been nice saucy asking about fantasies

That puts me off instantly "

Me too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've discovered a bit of chat in the forums is usually a good way into starting a conversation on PM.

It kinda ensures you're not going in to it like a cold caller does.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been nice saucy asking about fantasies

That puts me off instantly

Me too!"

I won't even open a message if I can see any of this talk on the preview, straight delete

Also first messages asking if I'm free today/tomorrow etc

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By *ikerdude2017 OP   Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

Thanks for the tips. Yes starting doing more in forums hence this question. Feedback is always good changing my pics too less cock. Maybe need different locations too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been nice saucy asking about fantasies

That puts me off instantly "

And me...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know the feeling. So disheartening at times to put in effort to a message and either it but get read or deleted. That's the nature of the game though.

I did experiment with just sending a little silly joke just to be different. Had some success with different people with that one...

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)


"Been nice saucy asking about fantasies

That puts me off instantly

And me..."

And me.

Or blurting out one liners of what someone wants to do to me / have done to them

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

There's no magic formula OK other than being polite and respectful, and making sure you've read the profile of the recipient and tailored the message around that.

One thing to bear in mind though, a lot of people will look at a profile before even reading a message - so ask yourself if your profile sells you well, does it show some of your personality, get across what you are looking for and more importantly what you think you can offer? Does it have a good set of appealing pics that show off your body well?

If the answer to ANY of that is no (and word of advice it should be) then you might want to make some changes there first.

Good luck

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!


"Been nice saucy asking about fantasies

That puts me off instantly

And me...

And me."

And me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just a regular introduction I’d go for in vanilla life but include key words from their profile that will show you have read it thoroughly and understand it is what they are on here for which is why you messaged as it’s similar to your own. Naturally your profile must back this up as it’s silly to say you want one thing but do another. That’s my approach anyhow and although I’ve not got a long list of meets the ones I have met have been great and exactly what we both wanted. Also speak to a few people on here as friends but I approached them in the same way and just continued chatting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like a message which makes it clear the sender has read my profile and is looking for similar.

Any wank chat, dick pictures, requests to meet straight away or copy-n-paste oneliners are ignored.

As others have said, having a good profile is key too

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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago

swingers clubs

If we got a message asking about our fantasies we'd assume the sender was after wank fodder and delete.

Besides we've been on here long enough to have fulfilled most of them and some of them will remain so.

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By *carlettxCouple
over a year ago

Essex

Best messages for me are first and foremost ones with clear face pics and it body

You can be as funny or charming as you like but honestly the physical attraction is paramount to me on here

At clubs it’s different as physical attraction initially is often outweighed if the personality is sexy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like funny. Geeky references always perk my interest too x

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