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"Like a needle in the haystack mate we are all in the same boat maybe try the club scene get your face known. Good luck" yer I tried that haha went to cjs and it didn't go well lol | |||
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"Like a needle in the haystack mate we are all in the same boat maybe try the club scene get your face known. Good luck yer I tried that haha went to cjs and it didn't go well lol " Sorry to hear that what happened if you dont mind me asking? | |||
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"Like a needle in the haystack mate we are all in the same boat maybe try the club scene get your face known. Good luck yer I tried that haha went to cjs and it didn't go well lol Sorry to hear that what happened if you dont mind me asking? " a user on here arranged to meet me there then just ditched me half way through the night | |||
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"Like a needle in the haystack mate we are all in the same boat maybe try the club scene get your face known. Good luck yer I tried that haha went to cjs and it didn't go well lol " I went to cj's two weeks ago and had an amazing time  did you mingle and politely chat to those present, or mulled about in a corner like a lot of single guys do at clubs? | |||
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"Like a needle in the haystack mate we are all in the same boat maybe try the club scene get your face known. Good luck yer I tried that haha went to cjs and it didn't go well lol I went to cj's two weeks ago and had an amazing time did you mingle and politely chat to those present, or mulled about in a corner like a lot of single guys do at clubs?"haha no I did speek to people haha just confidence isn't my strong point, but as I said above my first visit was ruined lol | |||
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"Like a needle in the haystack mate we are all in the same boat maybe try the club scene get your face known. Good luck yer I tried that haha went to cjs and it didn't go well lol I went to cj's two weeks ago and had an amazing time did you mingle and politely chat to those present, or mulled about in a corner like a lot of single guys do at clubs? haha no I did speek to people haha just confidence isn't my strong point, but as I said above my first visit was ruined lol "So you went to a swingers club, and didnt talk to anyone? | |||
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"Like a needle in the haystack mate we are all in the same boat maybe try the club scene get your face known. Good luck yer I tried that haha went to cjs and it didn't go well lol I went to cj's two weeks ago and had an amazing time did you mingle and politely chat to those present, or mulled about in a corner like a lot of single guys do at clubs? haha no I did speek to people haha just confidence isn't my strong point, but as I said above my first visit was ruined lol
So you went to a swingers club, and didnt talk to anyone?"no I went to a club as an arranged social meet and got ditched while I was there which didn't help my confidence on my first ever visit to a club lol | |||
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"Like a needle in the haystack mate we are all in the same boat maybe try the club scene get your face known. Good luck yer I tried that haha went to cjs and it didn't go well lol I went to cj's two weeks ago and had an amazing time did you mingle and politely chat to those present, or mulled about in a corner like a lot of single guys do at clubs? haha no I did speek to people haha just confidence isn't my strong point, but as I said above my first visit was ruined lol
So you went to a swingers club, and didnt talk to anyone? no I went to a club as an arranged social meet and got ditched while I was there which didn't help my confidence on my first ever visit to a club lol"Were you expecting people to approach you and say " do you want to have sex with me?" | |||
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"Like a needle in the haystack mate we are all in the same boat maybe try the club scene get your face known. Good luck yer I tried that haha went to cjs and it didn't go well lol I went to cj's two weeks ago and had an amazing time did you mingle and politely chat to those present, or mulled about in a corner like a lot of single guys do at clubs? haha no I did speek to people haha just confidence isn't my strong point, but as I said above my first visit was ruined lol
So you went to a swingers club, and didnt talk to anyone? no I went to a club as an arranged social meet and got ditched while I was there which didn't help my confidence on my first ever visit to a club lol
Were you expecting people to approach you and say " do you want to have sex with me?"
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"Like a needle in the haystack mate we are all in the same boat maybe try the club scene get your face known. Good luck yer I tried that haha went to cjs and it didn't go well lol I went to cj's two weeks ago and had an amazing time did you mingle and politely chat to those present, or mulled about in a corner like a lot of single guys do at clubs? haha no I did speek to people haha just confidence isn't my strong point, but as I said above my first visit was ruined lol
So you went to a swingers club, and didnt talk to anyone? no I went to a club as an arranged social meet and got ditched while I was there which didn't help my confidence on my first ever visit to a club lol
Were you expecting people to approach you and say " do you want to have sex with me?"
No.... I didn't know what to expect to be honest"What is it that you are 'annoyed' about exactly? Personally, I think the fact that youve used that word is a tad worrying | |||
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"Like a needle in the haystack mate we are all in the same boat maybe try the club scene get your face known. Good luck yer I tried that haha went to cjs and it didn't go well lol I went to cj's two weeks ago and had an amazing time did you mingle and politely chat to those present, or mulled about in a corner like a lot of single guys do at clubs? haha no I did speek to people haha just confidence isn't my strong point, but as I said above my first visit was ruined lol
So you went to a swingers club, and didnt talk to anyone? no I went to a club as an arranged social meet and got ditched while I was there which didn't help my confidence on my first ever visit to a club lol
Were you expecting people to approach you and say " do you want to have sex with me?"
No.... I didn't know what to expect to be honest
What is it that you are 'annoyed' about exactly?
Personally, I think the fact that youve used that word is a tad worrying"It's the fact that I put time and effort into my profile and how I act on here and message yet got no meets but guys with no picks/ not much content on there profile yet have 6+ plus meets lol so just wondering how to improve things | |||
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"Like a needle in the haystack mate we are all in the same boat maybe try the club scene get your face known. Good luck yer I tried that haha went to cjs and it didn't go well lol I went to cj's two weeks ago and had an amazing time did you mingle and politely chat to those present, or mulled about in a corner like a lot of single guys do at clubs? haha no I did speek to people haha just confidence isn't my strong point, but as I said above my first visit was ruined lol
So you went to a swingers club, and didnt talk to anyone? no I went to a club as an arranged social meet and got ditched while I was there which didn't help my confidence on my first ever visit to a club lol
Were you expecting people to approach you and say " do you want to have sex with me?"
No.... I didn't know what to expect to be honest
What is it that you are 'annoyed' about exactly?
Personally, I think the fact that youve used that word is a tad worrying
It's the fact that I put time and effort into my profile and how I act on here and message yet got no meets but guys with no picks/ not much content on there profile yet have 6+ plus meets lol so just wondering how to improve things"Perhaps they go to clubs and socialise? Maybe they join forum debates? | |||
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"Like a needle in the haystack mate we are all in the same boat maybe try the club scene get your face known. Good luck yer I tried that haha went to cjs and it didn't go well lol I went to cj's two weeks ago and had an amazing time did you mingle and politely chat to those present, or mulled about in a corner like a lot of single guys do at clubs? haha no I did speek to people haha just confidence isn't my strong point, but as I said above my first visit was ruined lol
So you went to a swingers club, and didnt talk to anyone? no I went to a club as an arranged social meet and got ditched while I was there which didn't help my confidence on my first ever visit to a club lol
Were you expecting people to approach you and say " do you want to have sex with me?"
No.... I didn't know what to expect to be honest
What is it that you are 'annoyed' about exactly?
Personally, I think the fact that youve used that word is a tad worrying
It's the fact that I put time and effort into my profile and how I act on here and message yet got no meets but guys with no picks/ not much content on there profile yet have 6+ plus meets lol so just wondering how to improve things"There's not really a lot you can do. Your profile is not bad, photos ok and you can accommodate. Maybe you need to improve your confidence and communication skills. And that comes with experience, get out there and socialise. You'll get results eventually. | |||
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"Jeez, give the guy a break, he's young inexperienced and not very confident, the last thing he needs is you lot ganging up on him. "  | |||
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"Jeez, give the guy a break, he's young inexperienced and not very confident, the last thing he needs is you lot ganging up on him. " I wasnt ganging up on anyone. Just trying to get an idea of what OP is annoyed about. | |||
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"Get in the chat rooms and on cam and as others have said use the forums. Good luck OP "Thank you  | |||
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"Like a needle in the haystack mate we are all in the same boat maybe try the club scene get your face known. Good luck yer I tried that haha went to cjs and it didn't go well lol I went to cj's two weeks ago and had an amazing time did you mingle and politely chat to those present, or mulled about in a corner like a lot of single guys do at clubs? haha no I did speek to people haha just confidence isn't my strong point, but as I said above my first visit was ruined lol
So you went to a swingers club, and didnt talk to anyone? no I went to a club as an arranged social meet and got ditched while I was there which didn't help my confidence on my first ever visit to a club lol
Were you expecting people to approach you and say " do you want to have sex with me?"
No.... I didn't know what to expect to be honest"Don't let that experience get you down. Maybe she just didn't feel a spark with you. Nothing you can do about that. But now you've been to a club so the worst bit is out of the way. You know what it's like so next time you'll be more confident. 
There's loads more men on here than women. The ones with no profile may have met women in clubs and then got a veri.
Site supporter doesn't guarantee you meets but I'm sure you know that. Good luck. | |||
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"Jeez, give the guy a break, he's young inexperienced and not very confident, the last thing he needs is you lot ganging up on him. I wasnt ganging up on anyone. Just trying to get an idea of what OP is annoyed about. " He's probably more frustrated than anything. My apologies for using the term, ganging up. I was wrong to say it. | |||
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"Jeez, give the guy a break, he's young inexperienced and not very confident, the last thing he needs is you lot ganging up on him. " | |||
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"Jeez, give the guy a break, he's young inexperienced and not very confident, the last thing he needs is you lot ganging up on him. I wasnt ganging up on anyone. Just trying to get an idea of what OP is annoyed about. He's probably more frustrated than anything. My apologies for using the term, ganging up. I was wrong to say it. " Bend over and let me slap you  | |||
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"Like a needle in the haystack mate we are all in the same boat maybe try the club scene get your face known. Good luck yer I tried that haha went to cjs and it didn't go well lol I went to cj's two weeks ago and had an amazing time did you mingle and politely chat to those present, or mulled about in a corner like a lot of single guys do at clubs? haha no I did speek to people haha just confidence isn't my strong point, but as I said above my first visit was ruined lol
So you went to a swingers club, and didnt talk to anyone? no I went to a club as an arranged social meet and got ditched while I was there which didn't help my confidence on my first ever visit to a club lol
Were you expecting people to approach you and say " do you want to have sex with me?"
No.... I didn't know what to expect to be honest
What is it that you are 'annoyed' about exactly?
Personally, I think the fact that youve used that word is a tad worrying
It's the fact that I put time and effort into my profile and how I act on here and message yet got no meets but guys with no picks/ not much content on there profile yet have 6+ plus meets lol so just wondering how to improve things
Perhaps they go to clubs and socialise?
Maybe they join forum debates?
"He has tried the forum rooms but got jumped on. If the whole thread was read properly it is clear that he tried a club got let down witch knocked his confidence. Has a fairly good profile. Maybe instead of pulling everything he said to bits and being so critical maybe offer some good positive help. Op try a club again but on your own approach people and just generally chat don’t expect anything to happen if it does a bonus ask just before your chat ends ask them if they will verify you. Also just remember there’s probably 100s of guys to each women and couple on here so it could take s good long while to get a meet solely from here | |||
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"Jeez, give the guy a break, he's young inexperienced and not very confident, the last thing he needs is you lot ganging up on him. I wasnt ganging up on anyone. Just trying to get an idea of what OP is annoyed about. He's probably more frustrated than anything. My apologies for using the term, ganging up. I was wrong to say it. Bend over and let me slap you "Oh go on then... | |||
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"Like a needle in the haystack mate we are all in the same boat maybe try the club scene get your face known. Good luck yer I tried that haha went to cjs and it didn't go well lol I went to cj's two weeks ago and had an amazing time did you mingle and politely chat to those present, or mulled about in a corner like a lot of single guys do at clubs? haha no I did speek to people haha just confidence isn't my strong point, but as I said above my first visit was ruined lol
So you went to a swingers club, and didnt talk to anyone? no I went to a club as an arranged social meet and got ditched while I was there which didn't help my confidence on my first ever visit to a club lol
Were you expecting people to approach you and say " do you want to have sex with me?"
No.... I didn't know what to expect to be honest
What is it that you are 'annoyed' about exactly?
Personally, I think the fact that youve used that word is a tad worrying
It's the fact that I put time and effort into my profile and how I act on here and message yet got no meets but guys with no picks/ not much content on there profile yet have 6+ plus meets lol so just wondering how to improve things
Perhaps they go to clubs and socialise?
Maybe they join forum debates?
He has tried the forum rooms but got jumped on. If the whole thread was read properly it is clear that he tried a club got let down witch knocked his confidence. Has a fairly good profile. Maybe instead of pulling everything he said to bits and being so critical maybe offer some good positive help.
Op try a club again but on your own approach people and just generally chat don’t expect anything to happen if it does a bonus ask just before your chat ends ask them if they will verify you. Also just remember there’s probably 100s of guys to each women and couple on here so it could take s good long while to get a meet solely from here " | |||
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"Like a needle in the haystack mate we are all in the same boat maybe try the club scene get your face known. Good luck yer I tried that haha went to cjs and it didn't go well lol I went to cj's two weeks ago and had an amazing time did you mingle and politely chat to those present, or mulled about in a corner like a lot of single guys do at clubs? haha no I did speek to people haha just confidence isn't my strong point, but as I said above my first visit was ruined lol
So you went to a swingers club, and didnt talk to anyone? no I went to a club as an arranged social meet and got ditched while I was there which didn't help my confidence on my first ever visit to a club lol
Were you expecting people to approach you and say " do you want to have sex with me?"
No.... I didn't know what to expect to be honest
What is it that you are 'annoyed' about exactly?
Personally, I think the fact that youve used that word is a tad worrying
It's the fact that I put time and effort into my profile and how I act on here and message yet got no meets but guys with no picks/ not much content on there profile yet have 6+ plus meets lol so just wondering how to improve things
Perhaps they go to clubs and socialise?
Maybe they join forum debates?
He has tried the forum rooms but got jumped on. If the whole thread was read properly it is clear that he tried a club got let down witch knocked his confidence. Has a fairly good profile. Maybe instead of pulling everything he said to bits and being so critical maybe offer some good positive help.
Op try a club again but on your own approach people and just generally chat don’t expect anything to happen if it does a bonus ask just before your chat ends ask them if they will verify you. Also just remember there’s probably 100s of guys to each women and couple on here so it could take s good long while to get a meet solely from here "Thank you so much XD I'm planning to go to cjs again soon and see how it goes, I'm aware there is a lot single guys on here haha I've seen the forum light up on occasion about it and on profiles I've seen people say about being inundated with messages from single guys ect | |||
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"Like a needle in the haystack mate we are all in the same boat maybe try the club scene get your face known. Good luck yer I tried that haha went to cjs and it didn't go well lol I went to cj's two weeks ago and had an amazing time did you mingle and politely chat to those present, or mulled about in a corner like a lot of single guys do at clubs? haha no I did speek to people haha just confidence isn't my strong point, but as I said above my first visit was ruined lol
So you went to a swingers club, and didnt talk to anyone? no I went to a club as an arranged social meet and got ditched while I was there which didn't help my confidence on my first ever visit to a club lol
Were you expecting people to approach you and say " do you want to have sex with me?"
No.... I didn't know what to expect to be honest
What is it that you are 'annoyed' about exactly?
Personally, I think the fact that youve used that word is a tad worrying
It's the fact that I put time and effort into my profile and how I act on here and message yet got no meets but guys with no picks/ not much content on there profile yet have 6+ plus meets lol so just wondering how to improve things
Perhaps they go to clubs and socialise?
Maybe they join forum debates?
He has tried the forum rooms but got jumped on. If the whole thread was read properly it is clear that he tried a club got let down witch knocked his confidence. Has a fairly good profile. Maybe instead of pulling everything he said to bits and being so critical maybe offer some good positive help.
Op try a club again but on your own approach people and just generally chat don’t expect anything to happen if it does a bonus ask just before your chat ends ask them if they will verify you. Also just remember there’s probably 100s of guys to each women and couple on here so it could take s good long while to get a meet solely from here
Thank you so much XD I'm planning to go to cjs again soon and see how it goes, I'm aware there is a lot single guys on here haha I've seen the forum light up on occasion about it and on profiles I've seen people say about being inundated with messages from single guys ect "Best thing you can do is be yourself and approach people and don’t go with there thinking your going to get anything then if you do it a bonus. 2 big mistakes guys make in a club are standing around not talking then follow people in play areas thinking they can touch or have there cock out. Or not making proper conversation and jumping straight in with so you want to go and play. | |||
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"Like a needle in the haystack mate we are all in the same boat maybe try the club scene get your face known. Good luck yer I tried that haha went to cjs and it didn't go well lol I went to cj's two weeks ago and had an amazing time did you mingle and politely chat to those present, or mulled about in a corner like a lot of single guys do at clubs? haha no I did speek to people haha just confidence isn't my strong point, but as I said above my first visit was ruined lol
So you went to a swingers club, and didnt talk to anyone? no I went to a club as an arranged social meet and got ditched while I was there which didn't help my confidence on my first ever visit to a club lol
Were you expecting people to approach you and say " do you want to have sex with me?"
No.... I didn't know what to expect to be honest
What is it that you are 'annoyed' about exactly?
Personally, I think the fact that youve used that word is a tad worrying
It's the fact that I put time and effort into my profile and how I act on here and message yet got no meets but guys with no picks/ not much content on there profile yet have 6+ plus meets lol so just wondering how to improve things
Perhaps they go to clubs and socialise?
Maybe they join forum debates?
He has tried the forum rooms but got jumped on. If the whole thread was read properly it is clear that he tried a club got let down witch knocked his confidence. Has a fairly good profile. Maybe instead of pulling everything he said to bits and being so critical maybe offer some good positive help.
Op try a club again but on your own approach people and just generally chat don’t expect anything to happen if it does a bonus ask just before your chat ends ask them if they will verify you. Also just remember there’s probably 100s of guys to each women and couple on here so it could take s good long while to get a meet solely from here
Thank you so much XD I'm planning to go to cjs again soon and see how it goes, I'm aware there is a lot single guys on here haha I've seen the forum light up on occasion about it and on profiles I've seen people say about being inundated with messages from single guys ect "You seem a really decent fella. And I wish you the best of luck. It takes time and effort, sometimes its a thankless task, but stick with it, you'll get there buddy. | |||
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"Just my thoughts - it can be hard on the forums because you lose that context and tone. But it's worth looking at what you're putting out there and importantly, how you're doing that. Using language like annoyed and spent a fortune can come across as entitled even when, reading the rest of the thread, you're really not. Others have given great advice. For what it's worth, when I was active on the scene I looked at it as just that - a social circle where, if I was lucky, I also got a damn fine orgasm or two out of the interactions I had with fun people "Wise words. That's exactly how it should be seen. | |||
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"I honestly believe it’s down to the wallpaper on your 1st pic..... "Haha darn it I knew it was a poor choice | |||
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"Jeez, give the guy a break, he's young inexperienced and not very confident, the last thing he needs is you lot ganging up on him. I wasnt ganging up on anyone. Just trying to get an idea of what OP is annoyed about. He's probably more frustrated than anything. My apologies for using the term, ganging up. I was wrong to say it. Bend over and let me slap you "Ganging up, ganging up, ganging up !!! | |||
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"Jeez, give the guy a break, he's young inexperienced and not very confident, the last thing he needs is you lot ganging up on him. I wasnt ganging up on anyone. Just trying to get an idea of what OP is annoyed about. He's probably more frustrated than anything. My apologies for using the term, ganging up. I was wrong to say it. Bend over and let me slap you
Ganging up, ganging up, ganging up !!! "Haha.. | |||
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"Jeez, give the guy a break, he's young inexperienced and not very confident, the last thing he needs is you lot ganging up on him. " Absolutely | |||
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"What is this subscription you speak of?" And why was it a “fortune”? I thought silver membership was a fiver for three months? Roughly 5 pence a day. Does spending 5p usually get you lots of sexual fun? | |||
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"What is this subscription you speak of? And why was it a “fortune”? I thought silver membership was a fiver for three months? Roughly 5 pence a day. Does spending 5p usually get you lots of sexual fun? "no I usually buy the 100 odd day thing lol. I realise my wording was off haha | |||
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"Hello to all haha, I'm really starting to get confused and a wee bit annoyed lol. Been on this site for a lil while paid out a fortune in subscribing with no results lol. I've been told I have a polite well written profile, I'm always polite and never rude when messaging or posting in the forums, yet I'm yet to have a proper meet lol. I've seen guys with nothing on there profile but 6 plus meets. Just wondering where the hell in going wrong? And I know this seems like another single banging on about no meets and sounding desperate haha I'm aware that's how it sounds but I'm just a genuine guy, I don't want to waste anyone's time or mess about lol just want to have the chance for a meet lol any advice would be good right now haha Happy fabbing XD" You seem to be attempting to disguise your ranting with many haha's and lol's. Comes across as fake and that you are actually an angry person. | |||
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"Jeez, give the guy a break, he's young inexperienced and not very confident, the last thing he needs is you lot ganging up on him. I wasnt ganging up on anyone. Just trying to get an idea of what OP is annoyed about. " Whats your problem? OP is kinda right to be flustered...whats doubly ironic is that you have an absolutely crap profile with no information on it... Oh the joys of Fab's lopsided gender ratio. Really makes some of u get ahead of yourselves... | |||
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"Jeez, give the guy a break, he's young inexperienced and not very confident, the last thing he needs is you lot ganging up on him. I wasnt ganging up on anyone. Just trying to get an idea of what OP is annoyed about. Whats your problem? OP is kinda right to be flustered...whats doubly ironic is that you have an absolutely crap profile with no information on it... Oh the joys of Fab's lopsided gender ratio. Really makes some of u get ahead of yourselves..." Given that there are lopsided gender ratios on Fab it does seem a bit odd that any guy would get flustered, annoyed or confused or any other similar emotion. Unless of course they didn't realise there were too many guys to go round when they signed up. Since the dawn of time it has always been easier and less effort for women to get nsa sex than men, and since the dawn of time there has always been more men than women looking for nsa sex. Therefore nobody should really be surprised at the reality on Fab. It's nobody fault, just a fact of life. Mrs | |||
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"Like a needle in the haystack mate we are all in the same boat maybe try the club scene get your face known. Good luck yer I tried that haha went to cjs and it didn't go well lol Sorry to hear that what happened if you dont mind me asking? a user on here arranged to meet me there then just ditched me half way through the night " Dont let that stop you going again. Why not go on your own and just build some friendships up on the scene. Get your face seen in clubs with no expectations. Hit a few socials and just get yourself out there. Im sure the rest will follow | |||
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"sorry your first time in a club wasnt the best but next time wont be the first time so you have an idea of what to expect - only hearing your side of the story so we dont know why you were 'ditched' half way through the night - did you agree to stay together all night or did she find someone to play with and went and had fun - dont give up " I'd have thought arranging to meet at a club allowed both parties to mingle and have sex. As most clubs offer reduced entry for single women whilst charging exorbitant rates for men I think it would have been a win win if the op had put more effort in. That said I do find the entitlement displayed by some men when they sign up a tad worrying. Op, if you puncture your messages with "lol" and "haa haa" etc...I would find it annoying. There are more men than women so it will be harder, but as you've noticed some men do very well on here. You could too...relax, mingle and don't take this too seriously. Good luck. | |||
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"Jeez, give the guy a break, he's young inexperienced and not very confident, the last thing he needs is you lot ganging up on him. " Well said!! | |||
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"Jeez, give the guy a break, he's young inexperienced and not very confident, the last thing he needs is you lot ganging up on him. I wasnt ganging up on anyone. Just trying to get an idea of what OP is annoyed about. Whats your problem? OP is kinda right to be flustered...whats doubly ironic is that you have an absolutely crap profile with no information on it... Oh the joys of Fab's lopsided gender ratio. Really makes some of u get ahead of yourselves..." There’s always a way to set the odds back onto your favour.... I quickly realised that I was on the wrong side of the lopsided gender ratio. So; did I sit feeling sorry for myself? Nope. As you can see I switched sides and now I can sit like a pretentious princess and sift through countless messages looking for that perfect cock pic. | |||
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"Like a needle in the haystack mate we are all in the same boat maybe try the club scene get your face known. Good luck yer I tried that haha went to cjs and it didn't go well lol I went to cj's two weeks ago and had an amazing time did you mingle and politely chat to those present, or mulled about in a corner like a lot of single guys do at clubs? haha no I did speek to people haha just confidence isn't my strong point, but as I said above my first visit was ruined lol
So you went to a swingers club, and didnt talk to anyone? no I went to a club as an arranged social meet and got ditched while I was there which didn't help my confidence on my first ever visit to a club lol""Ditched while there as in", turned up but wasn't feeling it so played with others, or found out while you were in there she wasn't going to turn up? | |||
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"Like a needle in the haystack mate we are all in the same boat maybe try the club scene get your face known. Good luck yer I tried that haha went to cjs and it didn't go well lol I went to cj's two weeks ago and had an amazing time did you mingle and politely chat to those present, or mulled about in a corner like a lot of single guys do at clubs? haha no I did speek to people haha just confidence isn't my strong point, but as I said above my first visit was ruined lol
So you went to a swingers club, and didnt talk to anyone? no I went to a club as an arranged social meet and got ditched while I was there which didn't help my confidence on my first ever visit to a club lol
Were you expecting people to approach you and say " do you want to have sex with me?"
No.... I didn't know what to expect to be honest
What is it that you are 'annoyed' about exactly?
Personally, I think the fact that youve used that word is a tad worrying"Read what he is saying rather than jumo ti the conclusion he was annoyed he didnt get sex"he said he went to a ckub on a pre arranged meet and got dumped half way thru...cant be any clearer than that !!!!!!!! | |||
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"What is this subscription you speak of?" i was thinking that to...payed iut for what exactly. | |||
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"Like a needle in the haystack mate we are all in the same boat maybe try the club scene get your face known. Good luck" you just need to sharpen the needle, iam nothing special , best thing for me was a local social met some very nice couples and single ladies. my tip is not to show veris .Billy | |||
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"Like a needle in the haystack mate we are all in the same boat maybe try the club scene get your face known. Good luck yer I tried that haha went to cjs and it didn't go well lol I went to cj's two weeks ago and had an amazing time did you mingle and politely chat to those present, or mulled about in a corner like a lot of single guys do at clubs? haha no I did speek to people haha just confidence isn't my strong point, but as I said above my first visit was ruined lol
So you went to a swingers club, and didnt talk to anyone? no I went to a club as an arranged social meet and got ditched while I was there which didn't help my confidence on my first ever visit to a club lol
Were you expecting people to approach you and say " do you want to have sex with me?"
No.... I didn't know what to expect to be honest
What is it that you are 'annoyed' about exactly?
Personally, I think the fact that youve used that word is a tad worrying
Read what he is saying rather than jumo ti the conclusion he was annoyed he didnt get sex"he said he went to a ckub on a pre arranged meet and got dumped half way thru...cant be any clearer than that !!!!!!!!"But aren't you jumping to the conclusion that his arranged social was going to be at his side in the club all night? Maybe the other person just agreed to meet him there. If you put yourself up for having sex with strangers then you can't be a shrinking violet. Expectations of "I've paid my money" now I'm annoyed I haven't had a shag yet aren't going to go down very well. Annoying is when you arrange a meet with a young guy, who you've spoken to for quite some time, made the effort to get ready and make house nice, and sit waiting for him to arrive, then wait half hour more for him not to turn up because he hasn't actually got the balls to meet. That's annoying ! I'd question the actual intent of anyone being prepared to play that couldn't even face walking into a club alone. | |||
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"Like a needle in the haystack mate we are all in the same boat maybe try the club scene get your face known. Good luck yer I tried that haha went to cjs and it didn't go well lol I went to cj's two weeks ago and had an amazing time did you mingle and politely chat to those present, or mulled about in a corner like a lot of single guys do at clubs? haha no I did speek to people haha just confidence isn't my strong point, but as I said above my first visit was ruined lol
So you went to a swingers club, and didnt talk to anyone? no I went to a club as an arranged social meet and got ditched while I was there which didn't help my confidence on my first ever visit to a club lol
Were you expecting people to approach you and say " do you want to have sex with me?"
No.... I didn't know what to expect to be honest
What is it that you are 'annoyed' about exactly?
Personally, I think the fact that youve used that word is a tad worrying
Read what he is saying rather than jumo ti the conclusion he was annoyed he didnt get sex"he said he went to a ckub on a pre arranged meet and got dumped half way thru...cant be any clearer than that !!!!!!!!
But aren't you jumping to the conclusion that his arranged social was going to be at his side in the club all night? Maybe the other person just agreed to meet him there.
If you put yourself up for having sex with strangers then you can't be a shrinking violet.
Expectations of "I've paid my money" now I'm annoyed I haven't had a shag yet aren't going to go down very well. Annoying is when you arrange a meet with a young guy, who you've spoken to for quite some time, made the effort to get ready and make house nice, and sit waiting for him to arrive, then wait half hour more for him not to turn up because he hasn't actually got the balls to meet. That's annoying !
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"Like a needle in the haystack mate we are all in the same boat maybe try the club scene get your face known. Good luck yer I tried that haha went to cjs and it didn't go well lol I went to cj's two weeks ago and had an amazing time did you mingle and politely chat to those present, or mulled about in a corner like a lot of single guys do at clubs? haha no I did speek to people haha just confidence isn't my strong point, but as I said above my first visit was ruined lol
So you went to a swingers club, and didnt talk to anyone? no I went to a club as an arranged social meet and got ditched while I was there which didn't help my confidence on my first ever visit to a club lol
Were you expecting people to approach you and say " do you want to have sex with me?"
No.... I didn't know what to expect to be honest
What is it that you are 'annoyed' about exactly?
Personally, I think the fact that youve used that word is a tad worrying
Read what he is saying rather than jumo ti the conclusion he was annoyed he didnt get sex"he said he went to a ckub on a pre arranged meet and got dumped half way thru...cant be any clearer than that !!!!!!!!"Where did I jump to conclusions? Perhaps you can point it out to me I asked why the OP was annoyed Where did I say anything about sex? | |||
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"Like a needle in the haystack mate we are all in the same boat maybe try the club scene get your face known. Good luck yer I tried that haha went to cjs and it didn't go well lol I went to cj's two weeks ago and had an amazing time did you mingle and politely chat to those present, or mulled about in a corner like a lot of single guys do at clubs? haha no I did speek to people haha just confidence isn't my strong point, but as I said above my first visit was ruined lol
So you went to a swingers club, and didnt talk to anyone? no I went to a club as an arranged social meet and got ditched while I was there which didn't help my confidence on my first ever visit to a club lol
Were you expecting people to approach you and say " do you want to have sex with me?"
No.... I didn't know what to expect to be honest
What is it that you are 'annoyed' about exactly?
Personally, I think the fact that youve used that word is a tad worrying
Read what he is saying rather than jumo ti the conclusion he was annoyed he didnt get sex"he said he went to a ckub on a pre arranged meet and got dumped half way thru...cant be any clearer than that !!!!!!!!
But aren't you jumping to the conclusion that his arranged social was going to be at his side in the club all night? Maybe the other person just agreed to meet him there.
If you put yourself up for having sex with strangers then you can't be a shrinking violet.
Expectations of "I've paid my money" now I'm annoyed I haven't had a shag yet aren't going to go down very well. Annoying is when you arrange a meet with a young guy, who you've spoken to for quite some time, made the effort to get ready and make house nice, and sit waiting for him to arrive, then wait half hour more for him not to turn up because he hasn't actually got the balls to meet. That's annoying !
I'd question the actual intent of anyone being prepared to play that couldn't even face walking into a club alone."Indeed. Going to a club and not talking to anyone, strikes me as a very odd thing to do. In any social environment, if you make no effort to interact, you arent going to get alot back | |||
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"Like a needle in the haystack mate we are all in the same boat maybe try the club scene get your face known. Good luck yer I tried that haha went to cjs and it didn't go well lol I went to cj's two weeks ago and had an amazing time did you mingle and politely chat to those present, or mulled about in a corner like a lot of single guys do at clubs? haha no I did speek to people haha just confidence isn't my strong point, but as I said above my first visit was ruined lol
So you went to a swingers club, and didnt talk to anyone? no I went to a club as an arranged social meet and got ditched while I was there which didn't help my confidence on my first ever visit to a club lol
Were you expecting people to approach you and say " do you want to have sex with me?"
No.... I didn't know what to expect to be honest
What is it that you are 'annoyed' about exactly?
Personally, I think the fact that youve used that word is a tad worrying
Read what he is saying rather than jumo ti the conclusion he was annoyed he didnt get sex"he said he went to a ckub on a pre arranged meet and got dumped half way thru...cant be any clearer than that !!!!!!!!
Where did I jump to conclusions?
Perhaps you can point it out to me
I asked why the OP was annoyed
Where did I say anything about sex? " and the club meet isn't clear. We don't even know if it was a man or a woman that he arranged to meet. | |||
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"What is this subscription you speak of? i was thinking that to...payed iut for what exactly. " ...hope its not £5 that he found expensive | |||
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"Like a needle in the haystack mate we are all in the same boat maybe try the club scene get your face known. Good luck yer I tried that haha went to cjs and it didn't go well lol I went to cj's two weeks ago and had an amazing time did you mingle and politely chat to those present, or mulled about in a corner like a lot of single guys do at clubs? haha no I did speek to people haha just confidence isn't my strong point, but as I said above my first visit was ruined lol
So you went to a swingers club, and didnt talk to anyone? no I went to a club as an arranged social meet and got ditched while I was there which didn't help my confidence on my first ever visit to a club lol
Were you expecting people to approach you and say " do you want to have sex with me?"
No.... I didn't know what to expect to be honest
What is it that you are 'annoyed' about exactly?
Personally, I think the fact that youve used that word is a tad worrying
It's the fact that I put time and effort into my profile and how I act on here and message yet got no meets but guys with no picks/ not much content on there profile yet have 6+ plus meets lol so just wondering how to improve things
Perhaps they go to clubs and socialise?
Maybe they join forum debates?
He has tried the forum rooms but got jumped on. If the whole thread was read properly it is clear that he tried a club got let down witch knocked his confidence. Has a fairly good profile. Maybe instead of pulling everything he said to bits and being so critical maybe offer some good positive help.
Op try a club again but on your own approach people and just generally chat don’t expect anything to happen if it does a bonus ask just before your chat ends ask them if they will verify you. Also just remember there’s probably 100s of guys to each women and couple on here so it could take s good long while to get a meet solely from here " | |||
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"A lot of guys are shy about saying that they are afraid of women rejecting them ,basically a woman saying no to you, well what you don't know is that fear turns up in your eyes and in your voice, try looking in a mirror and act as if you are toasting a girl like you would and you will see the fear in your eyes and voice yourself, women look into your eyes and listen to the tone of your voice when you are talking to them ,this is how they determine if you are real or fake so you must overcome the fear of rejection and you can do this by talking confidently to a lot of ladies in the swingers club, if they say no, no problem just move to the next lady so you get comfortable talking to ladies , err long you will begin to get yes and also become a master of the game and be able to teach other guys." James, you need to set up a consultancy service, my lovely You'd make a killin' | |||
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"try a club, there will be real people in there looking to meet " | |||
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"Hello to all haha, I'm really starting to get confused and a wee bit annoyed lol. Been on this site for a lil while paid out a fortune in subscribing with no results lol. I've been told I have a polite well written profile, I'm always polite and never rude when messaging or posting in the forums, yet I'm yet to have a proper meet lol. I've seen guys with nothing on there profile but 6 plus meets. Just wondering where the hell in going wrong? And I know this seems like another single banging on about no meets and sounding desperate haha I'm aware that's how it sounds but I'm just a genuine guy, I don't want to waste anyone's time or mess about lol just want to have the chance for a meet lol any advice would be good right now haha Happy fabbing XD" Paid out a fortune? | |||
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"Im seriously getting really annoyed with this site n people on here ive set up over 19 meets ive sent out over 55 messages and I don't get one single meet or reply back What's going on am I wasting my time on here" How do you mean you've set up over 19 meets? You mean you had them arranged and the other person(s) agreed ? | |||
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"Im seriously getting really annoyed with this site n people on here ive set up over 19 meets ive sent out over 55 messages and I don't get one single meet or reply back What's going on am I wasting my time on here" u have been on here for over a year and have met people. maybe try a club or organised social | |||
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"Im seriously getting really annoyed with this site n people on here ive set up over 19 meets ive sent out over 55 messages and I don't get one single meet or reply back What's going on am I wasting my time on here" Perhaps they are put off cos your profile is so shouty? | |||
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"No it isn't at all I post a meet up everyday n I get no replies back to messages ive sent out " Your status update sounds really needy and desperate. Women hate that. | |||
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"Im seriously getting really annoyed with this site n people on here ive set up over 19 meets ive sent out over 55 messages and I don't get one single meet or reply back What's going on am I wasting my time on here Perhaps they are put off cos your profile is so shouty?" Agreed with the lady above | |||
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"Jeez, give the guy a break, he's young inexperienced and not very confident, the last thing he needs is you lot ganging up on him. " Was just going to say this. I'd be petrified being in a club by myself | |||
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"Look im a horny male with a very high sex drive sob yeah im going to be loud n proud to say I need some action " Even if being loud and proud stops you getting action? | |||
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"No it isn't at all I post a meet up everyday n I get no replies back to messages ive sent out " Nobody has to reply to you or meet you | |||
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"Right ive changed my status from being loud n proud but ut still won't make a difference at all" and jumping on other threads wont help | |||
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"Like a needle in the haystack mate we are all in the same boat maybe try the club scene get your face known. Good luck yer I tried that haha went to cjs and it didn't go well lol I went to cj's two weeks ago and had an amazing time did you mingle and politely chat to those present, or mulled about in a corner like a lot of single guys do at clubs? haha no I did speek to people haha just confidence isn't my strong point, but as I said above my first visit was ruined lol
So you went to a swingers club, and didnt talk to anyone? no I went to a club as an arranged social meet and got ditched while I was there which didn't help my confidence on my first ever visit to a club lol
Were you expecting people to approach you and say " do you want to have sex with me?"
No.... I didn't know what to expect to be honest
What is it that you are 'annoyed' about exactly?
Personally, I think the fact that youve used that word is a tad worrying
It's the fact that I put time and effort into my profile and how I act on here and message yet got no meets but guys with no picks/ not much content on there profile yet have 6+ plus meets lol so just wondering how to improve things
Perhaps they go to clubs and socialise?
Maybe they join forum debates?
"If you want to actually meet people I think looking at the number of people in the forum with veris, that joining debates in here is the last method to use for success. The majority of people in forums never meet and treat Fab as a naughty Facebook | |||
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"Hello to all haha, I'm really starting to get confused and a wee bit annoyed lol. Been on this site for a lil while paid out a fortune in subscribing with no results lol. I've been told I have a polite well written profile, I'm always polite and never rude when messaging or posting in the forums, yet I'm yet to have a proper meet lol. I've seen guys with nothing on there profile but 6 plus meets. Just wondering where the hell in going wrong? And I know this seems like another single banging on about no meets and sounding desperate haha I'm aware that's how it sounds but I'm just a genuine guy, I don't want to waste anyone's time or mess about lol just want to have the chance for a meet lol any advice would be good right now haha Happy fabbing XD" Stop paying then. Just because someone pays, doesn't mean they get more sex or more meet opportunities. Being a site supporter doesn't stop you from acquiring interest from others. I've not paid and nor will I. | |||
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"Look im a horny male with a very high sex drive sob yeah im going to be loud n proud to say I need some action " Sorry what did you say? You weren't loud enough. | |||
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"fake veri's mate I wouldn't let that worry you. I used to wonder how people can have joined in 1 day and have multiple veri's but they're not real. Here is hit and miss and always quality over quantity is better anyway. good luck" Swinging existed well before fabswingers and many people manage to swing without signing up to this site. When we joined here we had been in the scene 8 years, going to clubs most weeks. We already knew many, many people that could have verified us on the first day we joined. None of those verifications would have been fake. As to the OP wondering how guys with little on their profile get meets, they probably do what we do and go to clubs. I think we have had 1 meet via this site and been to a couple of socials. All our other verifications are from clubs and parties. | |||
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"No it isn't at all I post a meet up everyday n I get no replies back to messages ive sent out " You've already had two meets, what the problem? Sense of entitlement maybe?? | |||
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"No it isn't at all I post a meet up everyday n I get no replies back to messages ive sent out You've already had two meets, what the problem? Sense of entitlement maybe??" i think "i post a meet everyday" says alot myself | |||
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"No it isn't at all I post a meet up everyday n I get no replies back to messages ive sent out You've already had two meets, what the problem? Sense of entitlement maybe?? i think "i post a meet everyday" says alot myself " desparate? | |||
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the whole playing money point I made I realise now how stupid that sounded I did Jump the gun on that, my apologies  all of you have given me some sound advice to take forward and given me a bit of boost in trying a club again. I want thank you all so much, fab continues to surprise me with how many lovely people ther are on here p.s I will now cut out "lol" from all aspects of conversation and profile where possible
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"Wow sorry for the lack in response work gets it the way the whole playing money point I made I realise now how stupid that sounded I did Jump the gun on that, my apologies all of you have given me some sound advice to take forward and given me a bit of boost in trying a club again. I want thank you all so much, fab continues to surprise me with how many lovely people ther are on here p.s I will now cut out "lol" from all aspects of conversation and profile where possible
Happy fabbing "Good luck x | |||
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"Been on this site for a lil while paid out a fortune in subscribing with no results lol. I've seen guys with nothing on there profile but 6 plus meets. And I know this seems like another single banging on about no meets and sounding desperate haha" Paying a subscription is for your own benefit and does not entitle you to meets. Perhaps those guys got their arses to clubs to met real people? And didn't rely on the site. It sounds like it bc it is! | |||
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"No it isn't at all I post a meet up everyday n I get no replies back to messages ive sent out You've already had two meets, what the problem? Sense of entitlement maybe?? i think "i post a meet everyday" says alot myself desparate?" They seem so Yeah and not fussy | |||
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"No it isn't at all I post a meet up everyday n I get no replies back to messages ive sent out You've already had two meets, what the problem? Sense of entitlement maybe?? i think "i post a meet everyday" says alot myself desparate? And can't spell either They seem so Yeah and not fussy " | |||
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"No it isn't at all I post a meet up everyday n I get no replies back to messages ive sent out Nobody has to reply to you or meet you "That's right nobody has to reply no matter how much your desire to kiss them
Paying your site supporter is not a given for a meet or a message
some people want site supporters to show that your serious
Personally OP I think your profile is borrowed - as in you've taken bits from what others say like it's a template - just saying
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