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By *omcouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

Amazing some people we often get friends invites from people usually miles away (pic collectors I hear you say) who we normally accept cos we are polite after all. We then respond with a message saying we have accepted their invite but apprciate chances of meeting are slim due to distance in this instance we are in Bristol, SW England and they are in Aberdeen, Northern SAcotland Our message is unanswered and our message is just deleted !! without courtesy of a reply. Are we too sensitive or shall we move on ? Some rude people on fab it has to be said. Dont say too busy to reply to many messages as I will scream it just poor manners SIMPLES

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

So you think it is 'polite' to accept any stranger as a friend?, regardless of their location or if they appeal to you?

The fault lies not only with the people you term as rude....but with you for being so gullible I am afraid.

Sorry if that sounds harsh, but you need to be more realistic.

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By *--Cinders---Couple
over a year ago

a place near Blackpool

its amazing how many will send a friends request, just to look at my pictures...I accept them and if they dont send a message after a day, i delete them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Simple thing to do don't accept friends invites From people you don't want to it's not being rude it's Using site the way you want to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Simple thing to do don't accept friends invites From people you don't want to it's not being rude it's using site the way you want to "

+1

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By *omcouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

Hi Jane we are not gullible I assure you but think manners and being reasonable even if this is a fuck site is important ...many not to too many others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I look at the profiles of those who have sent a friend request, if I like what I see I message them without adding them.

Not sure why someone would add anyone without finding out if their is some common ground to start with?

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By *ornyHorwichCpl aka HHCCouple
over a year ago

horwich

We only accept friends requests from people we have met or know from elsewhere

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay


"Hi Jane we are not gullible I assure you but think manners and being reasonable even if this is a fuck site is important ...many not to too many others "

I see....your real gripe is whether people should reply to all messages they receive isn't it?

Why didn't you say so without going through all the motions about friends invites?

And NO....it's not rude to reply to EVERY message or friends invite you get on here....it's personal choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What does +1 mean?

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By *ornyHorwichCpl aka HHCCouple
over a year ago

horwich


"What does +1 mean?

"

means they agree with the comment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What does +1 mean?

"

Just means you agree with the post

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What does +1 mean?

means they agree with the comment"

Beat me to it

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By *omcouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

Jane its a joint moan if you like and perhaps the lack of reply and just an almost instant delete pisses me off and sure many others I know on here even more ...as many say they are on here to be fucked NOT fucked about and that means the annoyance of no shows after arranging meets but thats another story or thread which is usually resurfaces every other week

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

I have seen your comments on 'no replies' on other posts you have made on threads...you have even termed people who don't reply as 'Pig Ignorant'.....

Well guess what?....

The people who run this site DON'T consider it rude not to reply to every message and friends request you receive...at the end of the day that is all that matters.

So if you want to continue adding everyone who sends you a friends request do so....knock yourself out....but please don't act surprised that everyone of them doesn't want to be bosom buddies with you after they have [erved your private photo's.

You reap what you sow.....

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By *omcouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

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By *omcouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

Thanks Jane I do agree with some of your views and will consider random friends request cautiously after all this is not FACEBOOK !! As regards the view sof the site owners are mor eimpoprtant that the users I would disagree with completely with you. Common courtesy and answering well constructive messages should be something done by all ...even you cant get that many messages

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay


"Thanks Jane I do agree with some of your views and will consider random friends request cautiously after all this is not FACEBOOK !! As regards the view sof the site owners are mor eimpoprtant that the users I would disagree with completely with you. Common courtesy and answering well constructive messages should be something done by all ...even you cant get that many messages "

I get enough thank you....worry about yourself and your Fab experience, and let others worry about their own.

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By *omcouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

Well with considerate peeps like u Jane feel sure the fab experience for those you meet is just that FAB !!!!

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

Thanks for your sarcastic personal message Op....I won't reply to it as it summed you up completely.

If that is an example of the messages you send people....no wonder they don't reply.

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By *omcouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

Jane I detect a lack of humour on your part !!! my sense of humour can sometimes be expressed in a way not to expect a reply (Which i did say in my personal reply to you so worked perfectly) but I dont know what it is But do always seem to like to have the last word. Thanks for responses and HAPPY SWINGING DAYS & NIGHTS in Torbay xx

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By *omcouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

Can feel a block on her profile for us by JANE coming on !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for your sarcastic personal message Op....I won't reply to it as it summed you up completely.

If that is an example of the messages you send people....no wonder they don't reply.

"

Pmsl at this and I started the first day with the intention of replying to everyone, number 1 not enough hours in the day! and number 2 when you try and politely decline I found I was getting the so can you tell me why please questions. My profile now clearly states if I dont reply then dont fancy you its not rocket science I know if I have sent a guy a message and he has deleted it without replying then I'm not for him and that's fine

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago


"Can feel a block on her profile for us by JANE coming on !!!"

Oh do try and act more like an adult,you're sounding like a child mid tantrum now and any crediblity to your opening post has been blown away by the attitude you're now showing

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton


"Amazing some people we often get friends invites from people usually miles away (pic collectors I hear you say) who we normally accept cos we are polite after all. We then respond with a message saying we have accepted their invite but apprciate chances of meeting are slim due to distance in this instance we are in Bristol, SW England and they are in Aberdeen, Northern SAcotland Our message is unanswered and our message is just deleted !! without courtesy of a reply. Are we too sensitive or shall we move on ? Some rude people on fab it has to be said. Dont say too busy to reply to many messages as I will scream it just poor manners SIMPLES "

If you accept friends invites from people miles away what the heck do you expect? We don't accept them, just send a message asking if they travel, if they don't reply we don't worry, life is just far too short! Z

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Amazing some people we often get friends invites from people usually miles away (pic collectors I hear you say) who we normally accept cos we are polite after all."

So, let me get this right... you accept friend invites off complete strangers that have NOT made any effort whatsoever to 'befriend' in any other way shape or form?...hitting the 'invite as a friend' button is the best effort they can come up with and you think they are going to reply to your message AFTER accepting the invite?

....and you DON'T think they were rude in them sending you a random friend invite?

Keep falling foul of the pic collectors if you want... but try not to expect them to be polite enough to reply to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have come to the conclusion that I'm a very very rude Person as I don't spend all my time when profile not hidden replying to all messages and accepting all friends invites , I'm happy tho as the site works very well for me

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

How on earth is it rude to not accept friends invites from people

Does the word friend mean something different down south?

i only accept invites from ppl i like and want to be friends with, not rude, just sensible imo

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By *ucktruckCouple
over a year ago

derby


"its amazing how many will send a friends request, just to look at my pictures...I accept them and if they dont send a message after a day, i delete them"
I do the same, I accept most friends invites but if they aren't followed up by a message then whats the point.

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By *amschwingerzCouple
over a year ago

West

We are always very grateful for genuine friends invites but we make it very clear to anyone who wants to send one that we require a brief note as to why they want to add us...

If they cant be bothered to send a brief message with the invite then we simply bin it and block them.

If we think WE are what THEY are looking for we add them and let them know with a brief 'hello and thanks' message from ourselves..

We, sadly, rarely get friends invites anyway probably because of our non swinging stance... so the chancers are really easy to pick out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Simple thing to do don't accept friends invites From people you don't want to it's not being rude it's Using site the way you want to "

ere ere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

basically.... they add you simply to look at the private pics.....end of.....

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside


"basically.... they add you simply to look at the private pics.....end of.....

"

But, you still haven't accepted it Jo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"basically.... they add you simply to look at the private pics.....end of.....

But, you still haven't accepted it Jo "

cheeky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can feel a block on her profile for us by JANE coming on !!!

Oh do try and act more like an adult,you're sounding like a child mid tantrum now and any crediblity to your opening post has been blown away by the attitude you're now showing"
FIGHT FIGHT FIGHT lol

And yes I am childish so off to spend 5 minutes on the naughty step

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Amazing some people we often get friends invites from people usually miles away (pic collectors I hear you say) who we normally accept cos we are polite after all. We then respond with a message saying we have accepted their invite but apprciate chances of meeting are slim due to distance in this instance we are in Bristol, SW England and they are in Aberdeen, Northern SAcotland Our message is unanswered and our message is just deleted !! without courtesy of a reply. Are we too sensitive or shall we move on ? Some rude people on fab it has to be said. Dont say too busy to reply to many messages as I will scream it just poor manners SIMPLES "

Yes you are too sensitive and yes, you should move on.

*shakes head and moves on*...

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

I think I should start the "I'm rude for not accepted friends invites from people who haven't even had the audacity to talk to me first, So Bite me!!" Society....

you can accept every friends invite going... however if your next gripe is there "I've had my pics stolen and now they are plastered over all different sites on the internet" then the person to blame is the person staring you back in the mirror.....

so if you are the one accepting friends invites from all and sundry... and answering every single piece of mails.... I have an african prince with an investment scheme you might be interested in....

so do you also answer every piece of junkmail that comes thru your door at home as well... or does "ignorance" only stretch so far????

p.s if i get a friends invite from someone i don't know and haven't spoken to.. i wait till they are offline... aceept it.. have a quick peep.. and then delete them from my list...

i know... i am a bad person... i am going to hell...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone has their preferences on how they use the facilities on "Fab", what may work for some may not work for others. We choose not to show pics on our profile, and only issue pics in private to folk we have already chatted too and feel comfortable to do so, as we don`t accept (or send) "random" friends invites.

We are not new to the site (been here in excess of 2 years) but recently had a profile change for personal reasons, and have noticed since we do not have any pics on show or in private we haven`t recieved one single unsolicited "friends invite".

*Yours Billy no mates*.

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