FabSwingers.com forum: Crashing and burning....constantly!

By *leafordian75 OP Man
over a year ago

Newark

Had another rough day/week with my messages not being replied to/deleted. Where am I going wrong?

I don't 'hassle' people in my area, just respond to meet ads. Do I need to 'hussle' a bit more?

I only have a cock pic due to job and circumstances (I have the kids and my ex would inevitably use being on here against me if she ever found out) but do send face pic if requested.

As an example, today I saw two ads I was interested in, sent well thought out messages, referencing their likes and dislikes, getting some of my personality across etc. Both deleted and not replied to.

After starting well, I have had little interest for the past six months. Any advice in return for chocolate?

Garry x

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By *orthern BeardMan
over a year ago

Preston

Happens a lot, I try not to let it bother me. There is a sea of single blokes on here so ladies/couples can be incredibly picky. They also probably get a lot of messages and don't have time to reply to all of them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have a good profile. Some body shots would help. And dont feel deflated you will get s meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's the luck of the draw. Just that moment when a couple near you fancy a bit of naughtiness. A guy near us had just that luck on saturday evening. Be ready to spring into action as it's not a waste of time, 100% of the time.

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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago

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Did you attach a face pic to those well thought out messages?

Just asking because if we've a meet up for that night, the ball needs to be rolling PDQ with fewer messages arranging the better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile pic would put us off as we're not into cock pics. No reason why you can't have a body shot in your pics. Also to be honest your profile is a bit negative.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Well OP, first of all don't assume all women want chocolate

Lose the cock pic, add a torso shot or 2.

Profile is all about you, what can you offer?

Veris are good so that should help

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Oh and negative statuses are not sexy

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By *ipBiterLexiWoman
over a year ago

Bridgwater, Somerset

I agree change of profile picture could help also scratch out the negatives on your profile

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

Change your profile pic.

Go to a social or a club and meet more people. Depends on what your messages say as well. Sometimes women get inundated and clear their massages on a daily basis.

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By *leafordian75 OP Man
over a year ago

Newark

Thank you all for your comments - will have to do a few sit ups and then get a couple of torso shots taken! Have tweaked my profile and would be interested in knowing how it looks now? Thanks for all your help

G x

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Torso shots do not have to be of 6 packs.

Still all about you, unless one is a woman who wants oral and rimming

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

And remember, that what ever text you have, a profile with a poor avatar will be more likely to be overlooked.

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By *ipBiterLexiWoman
over a year ago

Bridgwater, Somerset

"Thank you all for your comments - will have to do a few sit ups and then get a couple of torso shots taken! Have tweaked my profile and would be interested in knowing how it looks now? Thanks for all your help

G x"

No need for sit ups a six pack is a turn off for me personally and I'm sure some other ladies feel the same

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

"And remember, that what ever text you have, a profile with a poor avatar will be more likely to be overlooked."

Yep!

Personally I hate cock pics as avatars.

I don't read any message that has one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I (currently) have no cock pics, it is easy enough to be imaginative and tempt the ladies with what might be

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Lose the cock pic OP it's off putting

You say you rarely meet which could also put people off.

Take some pics without your cock showing.

Write what you have to offer someone.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And remember, that what ever text you have, a profile with a poor avatar will be more likely to be overlooked.

Yep!

Personally I hate cock pics as avatars.

I don't read any message that has one "

That's how we feel too!

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

"And remember, that what ever text you have, a profile with a poor avatar will be more likely to be overlooked."

100% Agree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cock pics put me off but also you've put on the bottom you rarely meet, that would put me off more so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Torso shots do not have to be of 6 packs.

Still all about you, unless one is a woman who wants oral and rimming

Anything except a cock pic. Instant delete.

Flex a bicep. A close up of you eyeball. Anything!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We look for people who are into swinging, after all it's a swinging site and we find a lot of people we meet feel the same. Nothing in your profile suggests that you're anything but a single guy looking for casual sex...instant delete from us...

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

"We look for people who are into swinging, after all it's a swinging site and we find a lot of people we meet feel the same. Nothing in your profile suggests that you're anything but a single guy looking for casual sex...instant delete from us..."

Op ignore this post. No offence to janey and monkey intended. Your profile should reflect what you seek. Peoples views on what swinging constitues vary and is a regulary occurring debate on these forums. There will undoubtedly be a fair few who have similar views to them but many more will not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op... Most people have already said this but I'm going to give you my slice of advice anyway. Take it with a pinch of salt ... It's up to you.

The "no pics because of job etc" doesn't wash with most genuine fabbers... Be imaginative and take some that won't give away your identity. We all want our privacy protected, but your limited pics scream that you are not even willing to try.

Next... The negativity. Your forum posts and your status updates scream sadness and misery! News flash buddy.. It ain't attractive and unless you are hoping for a pity shag most peole will roll their eyes and move on.

Third point. A little bit more detail into your fetishes would be useful... But also what are you offering (being good with a finger and a tongue should be a minimum requirement, not you unique selling point). What can you offer swingers on fab that doesn't just suggest you want wham bam thankyou mam meets (there's nothing wrong with those on occasion with someone you already have rapport with but they are not what people initially want).

Finally... Get yourself to clubs and events, introduce yourself and earn some decent veris. Swinging is so much more than posting on fabs forums buddy.

Hope I don't come across as harsh.. But your profile is a small fish in fabs pond mate. You need to be bigger

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"Had another rough day/week with my messages not being replied to/deleted. Where am I going wrong?

I don't 'hassle' people in my area, just respond to meet ads. Do I need to 'hussle' a bit more?

I only have a cock pic due to job and circumstances (I have the kids and my ex would inevitably use being on here against me if she ever found out) but do send face pic if requested.

After starting well, I have had little interest for the past six months. Any advice in return for chocolate?

Garry x

It's just a mindset thing Garry, I used to constantly check if I had received messages on my phone throughout the whole day and thought it was the end of the world when month after month I didn't get one reply.

I've rethought my life and now being on fab 24/7 isn't a priority and you know what I'm much happier and getting no replies isn't such an issue

I think the normal advice is to get to socials as a picture paints a thousand words

Good luck either way

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

I am not sure on the rules for this. But i mention it as a positive so hope it's ok. Look at his veris. Both from couples. And one mentions a gathering. Ok they are old veris but it shows to me he's getting himself out there.

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