FabSwingers.com forum: Recognised in public..

By *sGivesWood OP Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Just went swimming after gym, approached by a guy in the pool letching over my boobs etc, asking questions about my personal life etc got out as I felt uncomfortable as he kept watching me and talking, then he used the men's straight after I got out, he was with his kids ffs! Opinions and advice as to how I could have handled the situation better, Fab wasn't mentioned but 99% sure I've seen him on there, just think it's inapropriate to behave like that!

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By *sGivesWood OP Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

By the way I was polite, perhaps this was taken the wrong way?

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By *.gerri.xTV/TS
over a year ago

North west

Small syringe with a fatal fast acting poison taped under left breast , quick injection whilst gazing into his eyes , then in a Penelope Pitstop voice scream for heyelp heyelp.

Or a quick question asking if you think the reason your vagina is burning is chlorine or a reoccurrence of gonnareah .

On a serious note , does being on fab make you a bit more paranoid about letchy men as you're unsure if they have seen your fab profile ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Complain to the pool managers. He sounds creepy as fuck.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

I am always polite and friendly as I see no need to be otherwise. However, I have been told by quite a few men that they assumed this was a green light so it does make things difficult.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab or not, his behaviour was innappropriate. If he didn't respond with a polite rejection, I'd have advised staff members. It may be hpw he gets his kicks, or it may be specifically about you. Either way, it's not ok for him to make ypu feel like that in a family environment x

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

You do have a great set there (hammer, spirit level and screwdriver). Jokes aside, it's very letchy and down right rude behaviour. If you see him there next time ask a staff member to keep an eye on it, at least that way you have a witness and reassurance. Personally, think you handled it pretty well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The very reasons I would never post public face pics of myself. The world is a mighty small place. There are ways of managing ones privacy on here.

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By *uds1Couple
over a year ago

lanark

were were spotted thru our pics , put them pvt kinda sharpish...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That would freak me out, and I'm male.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The very reasons I would never post public face pics of myself. The world is a mighty small place. There are ways of managing ones privacy on here."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am always polite and friendly as I see no need to be otherwise. However, I have been told by quite a few men that they assumed this was a green light so it does make things difficult."

Bit lost, what do they believe is a green light?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Just went swimming after gym, approached by a guy in the pool letching over my boobs etc, asking questions about my personal life etc got out as I felt uncomfortable as he kept watching me and talking, then he used the men's straight after I got out, he was with his kids ffs! Opinions and advice as to how I could have handled the situation better, Fab wasn't mentioned but 99% sure I've seen him on there, just think it's inapropriate to behave like that!"

It's difficult when you're actually in the situation and its public. I suggest looking someone like that directly in the eye and asking them to please leave you alone. If they continue tell them you'll report them to the manager and respond to threats to out you as being on here with a confused look and a patronising "I have no idea what you're talking about"

Inappropriate, rude and creepy behaviour makes me so angry.

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By *iredhandMan
over a year ago

Manchester

I wouldn’t dream of approaching a woman, even if I had seen her on fab. It doesn’t suggest an automatic invitation to all and sundry.

If people want to be approached in public, I’d need to be given a pretty obvious sign, rather than take the risk. You should have reported him to the pool staff if he made you feel uncomfortable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am always polite and friendly as I see no need to be otherwise. However, I have been told by quite a few men that they assumed this was a green light so it does make things difficult.

Bit lost, what do they believe is a green light?"

If a woman smiles at or makes eye contact with a man it means she wants him to shag her. Especially if she has a profile on an internet sex site.

Some men believe this. They can't distinguish wanking from real life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Loudly ask him to leave you alone as hrs making you uncomfortable,if that doesn't work tell him to fuck off. Either will get him enough unwanted attention to freak him out

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By *uds1Couple
over a year ago

lanark

"were were spotted thru our pics , put them pvt kinda sharpish...

ended up ok, we had a 3some with him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fab or not, his behaviour was innappropriate. If he didn't respond with a polite rejection, I'd have advised staff members. It may be hpw he gets his kicks, or it may be specifically about you. Either way, it's not ok for him to make ypu feel like that in a family environment x"

agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am always polite and friendly as I see no need to be otherwise. However, I have been told by quite a few men that they assumed this was a green light so it does make things difficult.

Bit lost, what do they believe is a green light?

If a woman smiles at or makes eye contact with a man it means she wants him to shag her. Especially if she has a profile on an internet sex site.

Some men believe this. They can't distinguish wanking from real life.

Jeez!!! I've no words for this, sad pathetic bastards

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

"I am always polite and friendly as I see no need to be otherwise. However, I have been told by quite a few men that they assumed this was a green light so it does make things difficult.

Bit lost, what do they believe is a green light?

If a woman smiles at or makes eye contact with a man it means she wants him to shag her. Especially if she has a profile on an internet sex site.

Some men believe this. They can't distinguish wanking from real life.

Even without an Internet profile many think like this sadly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would be amazed if anyone could recognise you from your two pics, probably just a perve.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As im single id be ok with being approached by someone from here... if they was alone and i was alone of course...

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By *sGivesWood OP Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I have had face pics on here before and probably have chatted with him at some point, I was more uncomfortable because he had his kids with him, I was thinking more of them x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op maybe the guy just lacked social skills and thought he was being friendly. You should have just broke into a power swim to get away from him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would be amazed if anyone could recognise you from your two pics, probably just a perve. "

Well no1 is going to recognise you from your faceless pictures are they?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have had face pics on here before and probably have chatted with him at some point, I was more uncomfortable because he had his kids with him, I was thinking more of them x"

Ignore them. There faceless too x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He went to the toilet? He might've needed a wee

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He went to the toilet? He might've needed a wee "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am always polite and friendly as I see no need to be otherwise. However, I have been told by quite a few men that they assumed this was a green light so it does make things difficult.

Bit lost, what do they believe is a green light?

If a woman smiles at or makes eye contact with a man it means she wants him to shag her. Especially if she has a profile on an internet sex site.

Some men believe this. They can't distinguish wanking from real life.

Or some men (and women) are genuinely nice people and have few ways of meeting new people. Not saying he wasn't inappropriate with what he said (although we don't know how 'personal' he got) but not everyone uses the internet to find a friend/relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

maybe being on here makes you more likely to think its a factor but i would think its way more likely he's just your average run of the mill creep....i would go with an earlier post and embarrass him. Very publically, and very loudly 'please stop staring at my breasts, its very inappropriate in front of children!' i would avoid saying he made you feel uncomfortable..men know when they are doing that.. its not an accident!, its his problem not yours!

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By *sGivesWood OP Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Thanks to you all I'm sure I'll handle it better next time xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am always polite and friendly as I see no need to be otherwise. However, I have been told by quite a few men that they assumed this was a green light so it does make things difficult.

Bit lost, what do they believe is a green light?

If a woman smiles at or makes eye contact with a man it means she wants him to shag her. Especially if she has a profile on an internet sex site.

Some men believe this. They can't distinguish wanking from real life.

i think most grown women are perfectly aware when someone is letching at their boobs..im afraid i dont think 99% of approaches like this are ever misinterpreted. most of us are capable of clearly reading peoples body language, tone and intent. And an adult doesnt usualy approach a stranger in a swimming pool to 'make friends'!!

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By *sGivesWood OP Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"I am always polite and friendly as I see no need to be otherwise. However, I have been told by quite a few men that they assumed this was a green light so it does make things difficult.

Bit lost, what do they believe is a green light?

If a woman smiles at or makes eye contact with a man it means she wants him to shag her. Especially if she has a profile on an internet sex site.

Some men believe this. They can't distinguish wanking from real life.

Thankyou, this was my feeling too, particularly when he was with kids and followed me out of the pool to use the men's, he was still talking to me then.

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By *sGivesWood OP Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"I have had face pics on here before and probably have chatted with him at some point, I was more uncomfortable because he had his kids with him, I was thinking more of them x

Ignore them. There faceless too x"
I've had face pics public in the past hun x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't believe that you can recognise someone from here if you've never met them.

I've seen TV people but they are in your face a lot.

All you see are mostly boobs and cock anyway.

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

"I can't believe that you can recognise someone from here if you've never met them.

I've seen TV people but they are in your face a lot.

All you see are mostly boobs and cock anyway."

Really??

We've seen a few people we're almost certain and certain have a profile here in public, never approached any though, never would, even those we've met.

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

Horrible situation Mrs Woody x sending a big hug.

I would definitely report it to the pool staff. You are a sensible woman, and you found it intimidating.

He may or may not have recognised you, he may just be a sick perv & this is how he treats everyone.

His next 'victim' may be much more vulnerable than you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Complain to the pool managers. He sounds creepy as fuck."

Totally agree

He might not be on here but sounds like a stalker and could be deemed a threat to women!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would be amazed if anyone could recognise you from your two pics, probably just a perve.

Well no1 is going to recognise you from your faceless pictures are they?

Not sure if you're referring to us in that comment, or OP?

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

" Very publically, and very loudly 'please stop staring at my breasts, its very inappropriate in front of children!'"

Absolutely this. I (Rob) believe that we're so used to being exposed to images of scantily clad women online and in the media that we lack that social barrier of 'a woman in a bikini / swimsuit isn't automatically there for your gratification'.

Making the loud and clear statement to him that it's not appropriate should be enough to shock him into acting properly as well as drawing attention to him. Reporting him to the gym management would also be a good idea as he may have made others uncomfortable in the past. You being on Fab should have no bearing on how he is dealt with.

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By *idalgo13Man
over a year ago

Near York

"You do have a great set there (hammer, spirit level and screwdriver). Jokes aside, it's very letchy and down right rude behaviour. If you see him there next time ask a staff member to keep an eye on it, at least that way you have a witness and reassurance. Personally, think you handled it pretty well.

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By *idalgo13Man
over a year ago

Near York

"I wouldn’t dream of approaching a woman, even if I had seen her on fab. It doesn’t suggest an automatic invitation to all and sundry.

If people want to be approached in public, I’d need to be given a pretty obvious sign, rather than take the risk. You should have reported him to the pool staff if he made you feel uncomfortable.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"I am always polite and friendly as I see no need to be otherwise. However, I have been told by quite a few men that they assumed this was a green light so it does make things difficult.

Bit lost, what do they believe is a green light?

If a woman smiles at or makes eye contact with a man it means she wants him to shag her. Especially if she has a profile on an internet sex site.

Some men believe this. They can't distinguish wanking from real life.

Even without an Internet profile many think like this sadly."

They do. Thankfully they're in the minority.

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By *idalgo13Man
over a year ago

Near York

It is inappropriate on all levels, place, people etc.....there are reasons why we all visit this site, clubs, socials etc.. Absolutely amazed as some people's crudeness and lack of respect/common courtesy.......

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By *sGivesWood OP Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I think if he'd have been honest and said discreetly do I know you from somewhere without all the Benny Hill pwhoar nudge nudge wink and letching shit I probably would have said yes you look familiar and had a proper chat but his approach was very creepy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think if he'd have been honest and said discreetly do I know you from somewhere without all the Benny Hill pwhoar nudge nudge wink and letching shit I probably would have said yes you look familiar and had a proper chat but his approach was very creepy."

Did he actually say 'pwhoar'?

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By *sGivesWood OP Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Did he actually say 'pwhoar'?"
not exactly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not exclusive to the internet. I got hit on by this guy in front of my dad yesterday at the supermarket whilst packing my car. Totally inappropriate made all the more cringe worthy as my dad (who's hard of hearing) kept chipping in (thinking he was being witty) with "is he chatting you up"

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

I don't get why people would think its ok to behave like this.

Maybe its how he behaves on here and it extends into real life .

Not good to make anyone uncomfortable,wherever you think you know them from.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my opinion if you're interested you'd have connected on here generally. So if I crossed paths outside of this I'd be courteous and generally just be myself. If they recognised me for some reason I'd expect the same. If I like said person and they didn't know it was me well I'd probably try make conversation. Although environment is key as it's not exactly flattering to women if you're being pushy or objectifying them. My opinion on this is pretty black and white. It's wrong to put someone in that situation especially when the environment is that of a swimming pool. I'd just behave the same way I would with any average person I had an interest in. Just be laid back, pleasant and greet them with a smile if you walk past.

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By *orthern BeardMan
over a year ago

Preston

Personally not one to be pushy so unless the other person engaged then i wouldn't be making a scene. That said this guy sounds a little creepy!

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By *sGivesWood OP Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I think the fact that I was polite to him didn't help, he clearly saw that as a green light to try and chat me up and be pervy.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"I think the fact that I was polite to him didn't help, he clearly saw that as a green light to try and chat me up and be pervy."

Its difficult to go against the social conditioning that stops us from being rude to people, women in particular are encouraged to be "nice". I think we should encourage women to tell pests to eff off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

walk away ............

be little him by saying how dare you ...

who do you think your talking to etc etc

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By *sGivesWood OP Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"I think the fact that I was polite to him didn't help, he clearly saw that as a green light to try and chat me up and be pervy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can't believe that you can recognise someone from here if you've never met them.

I've seen TV people but they are in your face a lot.

All you see are mostly boobs and cock anyway."

really on my old profile i used to show my face pics i had a job in a popular restaurant and loads of ppl i had seen on fab used to come in and could tell they recognised me to cos of the knowing little smiles i would get and i would just give em same smile back

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By *londieddWoman
over a year ago

fife

I've been chased round marks and Spencer by an idiot saying are you really _londiedd

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's a couple on here who I see in the gym regularly. I never say anything. They never say anything... That's the swingers code... If they want to chat they can message me here, not have a discussion in the middle of the treadmills.

Anyone who approaches you in public face to face should know better.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"I think the fact that I was polite to him didn't help, he clearly saw that as a green light to try and chat me up and be pervy.

And he took advantage of that.

When our kids were small I worked weekends in a shop. A sleaze bag came in with his son once and was particularly odious making crass remarks and holding my hand too long while taking his change. His son looked mortified, humiliated and embarrassed so much so that I felt sorry for the boy having his father make himself look ridiculous. I glared at the guy and made a

face.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"I've been chased round marks and Spencer by an idiot saying are you really _londiedd "

The fool!

That did make me laugh though, imagining a Benny Hill style chase round the knicker counter.

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex

I’m spotted all the time , gym , Tesco even driving my car

Only once in ‘vanilla’ mode has actually come up to me but gets at least a couple messages a week from people saying they’ve just seen me

Normally when I’m sweating and make up free at the gym

Not a good look

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

"I've been chased round marks and Spencer by an idiot saying are you really _londiedd

The fool!

That did make me laugh though, imagining a Benny Hill style chase round the knicker counter."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd only get recognised if I was out and boobs were on show . Do you think so or not ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been recognised few times at a pool, you know they've clocked you as they gave the certain smile then suddenly forget looking at your face lol but tbh they just look and don't approach as obviously some times your with the family

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We've recognised loads of people out and about. We'd never dream of approaching them and I don't understand why anyone thinks it's ok.

It can also be quite frightening for single women to receive messages from faceless profiles saying they saw them, it feels creepy.

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By *sGivesWood OP Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"We've recognised loads of people out and about. We'd never dream of approaching them and I don't understand why anyone thinks it's ok.

It can also be quite frightening for single women to receive messages from faceless profiles saying they saw them, it feels creepy."
I've had a guy saying he'd drive round st austell looking for me, a stalker, all kinds of threats and two guys trying to get into my house at two am, hence why I will only do social first in public

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like the op recognised him rather than him recognising her? Is that right?

In which case, this is some guy who saw her, fancied her and was too full on with his approach.

I think many of us have met people who are too pushy and don’t get the hint that we’re not interested in them.

Telling them straight that you’re not is the first step and walking away. If they continue then you can get louder with your rejection.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We've recognised loads of people out and about. We'd never dream of approaching them and I don't understand why anyone thinks it's ok.

It can also be quite frightening for single women to receive messages from faceless profiles saying they saw them, it feels creepy.I've had a guy saying he'd drive round st austell looking for me, a stalker, all kinds of threats and two guys trying to get into my house at two am, hence why I will only do social first in public

You really do attract them!

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

I do hope you made a complaint to the leisure centre and of course the police .... hope you are ok ....

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By *sGivesWood OP Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Sounds like the op recognised him rather than him recognising her? Is that right?

In which case, this is some guy who saw her, fancied her and was too full on with his approach.

I think many of us have met people who are too pushy and don’t get the hint that we’re not interested in them.

Telling them straight that you’re not is the first step and walking away. If they continue then you can get louder with your rejection. "
he looked familiar but I wasn't the one who approached

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"We've recognised loads of people out and about. We'd never dream of approaching them and I don't understand why anyone thinks it's ok.

You really do attract them!"

I think most women have had experience of men overstepping the mark. I know it happened to me loads of time when I was younger.

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By *TrainMan
over a year ago

London

Most men will be on here for only one thing

But then assume women are on here for exactly the same, and also confuse Fab with "Real Life"

You should always keep the two seperate in my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve been recognised in public twice over the years from here, never let it bother me. But OP your situation is different, there is absolutely no need for that kind of behaviour from anyone. He could have just said “hi” in passing then dropped a message on here later to start a conversation if he had wanted. Latching and being a pain in the ass is not pleasant for anyone to have to deal with

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By *bsolute LibertinesCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Bad behaviour on every level.

The argument people use on here that 'we are all here for same reason so why not be open' just doesn't hold water. No pun intended.

We all have the right to privacy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We've recognised loads of people out and about. We'd never dream of approaching them and I don't understand why anyone thinks it's ok.

You really do attract them!

I think most women have had experience of men overstepping the mark. I know it happened to me loads of time when I was younger. "

I can honestly say I never have

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By *TrainMan
over a year ago

London

I definitely have seen Fabbers outside

Even on the train

"You're within 1/4 mile" lol

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By *sGivesWood OP Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"I’ve been recognised in public twice over the years from here, never let it bother me. But OP your situation is different, there is absolutely no need for that kind of behaviour from anyone. He could have just said “hi” in passing then dropped a message on here later to start a conversation if he had wanted. Latching and being a pain in the ass is not pleasant for anyone to have to deal with "
as As I said earlier a message on here after would have been fine, in all honesty if he hadn't have behaved the way he did I may well have verified him as social as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sounds like the op recognised him rather than him recognising her? Is that right?

In which case, this is some guy who saw her, fancied her and was too full on with his approach.

I think many of us have met people who are too pushy and don’t get the hint that we’re not interested in them.

Telling them straight that you’re not is the first step and walking away. If they continue then you can get louder with your rejection. he looked familiar but I wasn't the one who approached"

I didn’t suggest you did. Xx

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By *sGivesWood OP Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Sounds like the op recognised him rather than him recognising her? Is that right?

In which case, this is some guy who saw her, fancied her and was too full on with his approach.

I think many of us have met people who are too pushy and don’t get the hint that we’re not interested in them.

Telling them straight that you’re not is the first step and walking away. If they continue then you can get louder with your rejection. he looked familiar but I wasn't the one who approached

I didn’t suggest you did. Xx

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thanks I was just clarifying xx

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over a year ago

You should feel flatterd that you still have what it takes to turn heads, as a man I expect he is not getting enough attention! !!!! And yes it can be a bit creepy but hey hold your head high as he is the one with a problem, x

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By *sGivesWood OP Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"You should feel flatterd that you still have what it takes to turn heads, as a man I expect he is not getting enough attention! !!!! And yes it can be a bit creepy but hey hold your head high as he is the one with a problem, x"
thanks xx

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"We've recognised loads of people out and about. We'd never dream of approaching them and I don't understand why anyone thinks it's ok.

You really do attract them!

I think most women have had experience of men overstepping the mark. I know it happened to me loads of time when I was younger.

I can honestly say I never have "

That's good if you haven't.

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By *sGivesWood OP Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"We've recognised loads of people out and about. We'd never dream of approaching them and I don't understand why anyone thinks it's ok.

You really do attract them!

I think most women have had experience of men overstepping the mark. I know it happened to me loads of time when I was younger.

I can honestly say I never have

That's good if you haven't."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was in a pub in MK and a very d*unk woman stood next to me and quietly said “I’ve seen your willy” I didn’t have a clue what she was talking about until she sent me a wink on here later that night.

Surely there’s some form of decorum on here, a way to handle yourself etc?

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By *sGivesWood OP Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"I was in a pub in MK and a very d*unk woman stood next to me and quietly said “I’ve seen your willy” I didn’t have a clue what she was talking about until she sent me a wink on here later that night.

Surely there’s some form of decorum on here, a way to handle yourself etc? "
yes, don't blatantly approach people in public Benny Hill style

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

Surely there’s some form of decorum on here, a way to handle yourself etc? "

Decorum isn't in everyone's dictionary

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been yes . And been sent letters here saying the time and place .. its weird .. And then asking too meet me.

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex

I just remembered I was in Tesco once and once home I had received a message from a guy saying that he had just seen me with ‘ another naughty slut’

As I had been shopping with my daughter who was only 17 at the time i will leave it to you to imagine what my reply was to him !!

Prick

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By *sGivesWood OP Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"I just remembered I was in Tesco once and once home I had received a message from a guy saying that he had just seen me with ‘ another naughty slut’

As I had been shopping with my daughter who was only 17 at the time i will leave it to you to imagine what my reply was to him !!

Prick

"
charming guy

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex

"I just remembered I was in Tesco once and once home I had received a message from a guy saying that he had just seen me with ‘ another naughty slut’

As I had been shopping with my daughter who was only 17 at the time i will leave it to you to imagine what my reply was to him !!

Prick

charming guy"

I don’t like that term at all but some guys still seem to think that because we are on here then we must like being referred to as a slut / whore etc becsuse it’s ‘hot’ lol

I know some like that in the bedroom (I don’t ) but normally I nicely tell them that an opening message with a derogatory term is an instant turn off to me and most others ... I think that day though my hackles were instantly raised because my daughter was involved

Good job he never came over and said it as although she does actually know I’m involved in the scene and host parties I think he might have been a little shocked with us both punching him in the face lmfao

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By *sGivesWood OP Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"I just remembered I was in Tesco once and once home I had received a message from a guy saying that he had just seen me with ‘ another naughty slut’

As I had been shopping with my daughter who was only 17 at the time i will leave it to you to imagine what my reply was to him !!

Prick

charming guy

I don’t like that term at all but some guys still seem to think that because we are on here then we must like being referred to as a slut / whore etc becsuse it’s ‘hot’ lol

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that would have been funny to see

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By *rs WhiteCouple
over a year ago

South

I have seen people I know on here, I never mention it or let on I know. Treat others as you would expect to be treated.

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By *ighnboxCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

29 years swinging 7-8 on here and only time been approached has been in a club (so fine)

Never had a problem at all in all that time even though clearly show face pics....

Have received emails saying had seen us out etc but don't mind that

Some ladies may not mind a guy saying hi But a LOT understandably would so the guys should think as it could be very unnerving/unwanted attention for the lady ...so best don't do it

We to know people from our village on here and when out say the pub and meet/see them NOT A WORD ......

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By *sGivesWood OP Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Will be interesting to see what happens this weekend, I'm ready for it!

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