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By *unshine05 OP   Man
over a year ago

Sherborne

Arranged two meets with same Woman, for her to cancel at last moment both times, frustrating as rearranged days to suit her,

Should I give her a third chance or just move on to next meet

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I'd only ever give two hun x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think twice is enough, depends on the reason I guess, maybe she was lucky to even get a second if it's a lame excuse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't give more than one chance...if you're prepared to give her a third more fool you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unleess you've got other offers, you could always try again. Who knows, third time might be the charm..

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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago

swingers clubs


"Arranged two meets with same Woman, for her to cancel at last moment both times, frustrating as rearranged days to suit her,

Should I give her a third chance or just move on to next meet"

Usually one chance then out

Although - things can change depending how hot they are

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

It depends, if someone I'd met previously, knew they're reason for cancelling was genuine, then I'd understand.

But someone new, I'd give them a 2nd chance but that would be it.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

You're very forgiving if you give them a third chance! I'm fairly sure I wouldn't.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

Two chances but only one if no veris and I was suspicious

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

If it was someone I've met before then I would give several chances depending on the circumstances, I won't be taken for an idiot though.

If it is a new person I might give a second chance but they definitely wouldn't get a third.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your just being played. Man up and get rid. Dont be a sucker or desperate. Its the stink of death.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately there are many people on here playing games. Block her and move on. I love people showing their true colours right in the beginning so as to avoid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup get rid and don't waste anymore of your time. Add a private note to remind not to contact again.

Some people on here really do like to string you along.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

pity the op wasnt near me. I would deffo meet him.

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By *wo4FemCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

Are you sure it's a woman your arranging meets with or a man pretending to be a woman.

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By *ammalammaMan
over a year ago

brighton


"Arranged two meets with same Woman, for her to cancel at last moment both times, frustrating as rearranged days to suit her,

Should I give her a third chance or just move on to next meet"

Same issue here but on-going. Expe dying a meet tonight but have no contact. Was meant to be yesterday...so I have nearly lost an entire weekend! It's just not good conduct unless it's something unavoidable, but should get a proper explanation as to why. It's our own volition to forgive or forget afterwards.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Arranged two meets with same Woman, for her to cancel at last moment both times, frustrating as rearranged days to suit her,

Should I give her a third chance or just move on to next meet"

Unless you have spoken to her on the phone and confirmed it's a genuine reason for cancelling, I'd Move on

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

One chance only with me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You know the saying 'fool me once'...I'd say she's more than missed the boat!

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By *unshine05 OP   Man
over a year ago

Sherborne

Thanks all think I will go with the one chance unless it's an extreme circumstance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most people I don't even give one chance. I'm a snotty bitch

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By *ugs and JunkCouple
over a year ago

Bellshill

A second chance is plenty. Then again it depends on how much you want to meet her & whether you're willing to put up with it

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Nah,i'd say move on op

We would give a 2nd chance,as things do happen,but not a 3rd.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A second chance is plenty. Then again it depends on how much you want to meet her & whether you're willing to put up with it "

I wouldn't be willing to put up with it. To do so is to undervalue yourself.

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By *c-ukMan
over a year ago

Sevenoaks

If you haven't spoke to her then I would say... fake profile dude alert !!!

is there a flashing red light on the top of your PC.. Its a sure sign

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You know the saying 'fool me once'...I'd say she's more than missed the boat!"

Great legs!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

One unless the circumstances are exceptional.

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

One chance is usually enough.

Two chances by exception.

Never three chances.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I dont even give a 2nd chance. If they cancel then its their loss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You know the saying 'fool me once'...I'd say she's more than missed the boat!

Great legs! "

Thanks!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesn't sound like you've met before and if she's leaving it till the last minute I wouldn't be inclined to give it a third go. If you do decide to give it anther go make arrangements that don't put you out if she does it again.

I wouldn't say we'd never give a third chance, but that would only be if it was someone who'd previously been reliable and had legit excuses.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Arranged two meets with same Woman, for her to cancel at last moment both times, frustrating as rearranged days to suit her,

Should I give her a third chance or just move on to next meet"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Arranged two meets with same Woman, for her to cancel at last moment both times, frustrating as rearranged days to suit her,

Should I give her a third chance or just move on to next meet"

I certainly would, sometimes 'life' happens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I give one chance and then move on.

Third chance starts to make you look desperate IMHO.

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By *B1925Man
over a year ago

neath

Every body gets one.

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By *udgirlgonebadWoman
over a year ago

worsley

Two chances....

After that move on x

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I'm unlikely to give a second chance these days tbh, I don't have time to be messed around. Although it does depend on how much I like them.

Never a third though, that would be an instant block!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I give one chance and then move on.

Third chance starts to make you look desperate IMHO."

Im not desperate but im very easy going, were all different i suppose and luckily enough

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By *he witch returnsWoman
over a year ago

somewhere over the rainbow in SW Devon

I don't give second chance without legit reason for no show.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would only give the one chance too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow. Im way off here

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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago

In a sleepy little village

One. Sometimes that's one too many .

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By *unshine05 OP   Man
over a year ago

Sherborne

I just always thought everyone was worth giving a second chance to,

We had spoken on the phone exchanged photos etc so don't get why she didn't show, ah well, I'm over it now

once bitten twice shy n all that bollocks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Two chances then move on buddy.

Without knowing the lady concerned, she could well enjoy the attention.

If anything, play it cool, see how hard she pushes to meet. If she starts clamouring to meet, remain non commital.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

I have just lost a stunning sub.

We had about four cancelled meets before we met.

There is life outside this site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

3rd time lucky as the saying goes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

two goes at anything is enough, if they can't commit to meeting, then bye bye.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Arranged two meets with same Woman, for her to cancel at last moment both times, frustrating as rearranged days to suit her,

Should I give her a third chance or just move on to next meet

Same issue here but on-going. Expe dying a meet tonight but have no contact. Was meant to be yesterday...so I have nearly lost an entire weekend! It's just not good conduct unless it's something unavoidable, but should get a proper explanation as to why. It's our own volition to forgive or forget afterwards."

Haha we are local to you and my boyfriend can guess which exact users have been burning holes in your schedule!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm gullible and been known to give more then 2 chances in the past.

not anymore though 2's my limit now.

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

Would like to think two but those that did cancel and wanted to rearrange we didn't bother and moved on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chances to do what exactly? Waste my time? Zero! Cancel for a legitimate reason? Depends how I feel.

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By *ammalammaMan
over a year ago

brighton


"Arranged two meets with same Woman, for her to cancel at last moment both times, frustrating as rearranged days to suit her,

Should I give her a third chance or just move on to next meet

Same issue here but on-going. Expe dying a meet tonight but have no contact. Was meant to be yesterday...so I have nearly lost an entire weekend! It's just not good conduct unless it's something unavoidable, but should get a proper explanation as to why. It's our own volition to forgive or forget afterwards.

Haha we are local to you and my boyfriend can guess which exact users have been burning holes in your schedule!"

Oh really? I may have to bother you later this is getting silly! thanks for the possible assistance :D

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By *ammalammaMan
over a year ago

brighton


"Would like to think two but those that did cancel and wanted to rearrange we didn't bother and moved on. "

Sooo, that is clearly just one chance you give haha :p

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By *tace 309TV/TS
over a year ago

durham

One Max with me

I won't play silly sod games on here

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By *rincessfWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

Maybe it was genuine, at least she told you.Only you can decide if she is, trust your gut instinct. I have arranged two meets with so called friends only for them to stop texting me all together in the run up to our meet. That was after numerous texts and calls before hand I no longer tolerate this sort of behaviour and have removed and blocked them both.Good luck

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By *unlovingx2Couple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

I had to cancel two dentist appointments due to going into hospital. I'm just saying shit does happen lump in family kids, visitors feeling sick, work etc etc missing two meets where they did at least let you know can happen. You get a gut instinct if people are genuine. She may reward your patience and understanding.

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By *orthern BeardMan
over a year ago

Preston

Two for me. Occasionally things do happen

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe


"Would like to think two but those that did cancel and wanted to rearrange we didn't bother and moved on.

Sooo, that is clearly just one chance you give haha :p"

Can't disagree with your observation

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By *ammalammaMan
over a year ago

brighton


"Would like to think two but those that did cancel and wanted to rearrange we didn't bother and moved on.

Sooo, that is clearly just one chance you give haha :p

Can't disagree with your observation "

Glad to know I wasn't going mad!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have learnt that if it didn't happen the first time than it wasn't meant to be, so one chance from us.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

If it walks like a duck and it quacks like a duck....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had to cancel two dentist appointments due to going into hospital. I'm just saying shit does happen lump in family kids, visitors feeling sick, work etc etc missing two meets where they did at least let you know can happen. You get a gut instinct if people are genuine. She may reward your patience and understanding. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go with your gut feeling on this op ....... we don't know the in s and outs of there life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the reasons for her cancellations, whether or not you believe her, and how much you actually want to meet her... go with your gut.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

one dude...one

People who fuck us about (in a bad way lol) never get another chance and we have long memories...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just the one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the circumstances for us.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Two chances max for me.Go with your gut. If they felt genuine prior to this then I'd probably give a second chance. If I felt they were arsing around then I'd move on.

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By *zamiWoman
over a year ago

LONDON

I think some people get a kick out of leading people on. Some have no intention of meeting at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got stood up for a meet tonight that I was really looking forward to. Something has "come up" - I suspect it's him having to pick up his grown daughter from work but I haven't asked.

At what point do people say to last minute demands "Sorry, you'll have to find another way as I've got plans tonight"

It isn't like she's 12 or anything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I got stood up for a meet tonight that I was really looking forward to. Something has "come up" - I suspect it's him having to pick up his grown daughter from work but I haven't asked.

At what point do people say to last minute demands "Sorry, you'll have to find another way as I've got plans tonight"

It isn't like she's 12 or anything "

if it's family, they would always come first if they needed me...some things are more important than swinging. If someone let us down consistently because their family or real life made too many demands, we'd tell them we'll not make any more arrangements with them, and to let us know when their life calms down...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" if it's family, they would always come first if they needed me...some things are more important than swinging. If someone let us down consistently because their family or real life made too many demands, we'd tell them we'll not make any more arrangements with them, and to let us know when their life calms down..."

My family comes first as well. A drive home from work when they are an adult and can make their own way, however, is a 'want' not a 'need' in my estimation and certainly not something I would let someone down for. I believe that letting adult children know we actually have a life outside of their last minute demands is a healthy life lesson for them.

I get that everyone is different and sees life differently though, but as it's the second time it has happened with him, that's it that's all for this one unfortunately, as tasty as he is.

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By *homasP80Man
over a year ago

Linwood


"Arranged two meets with same Woman, for her to cancel at last moment both times, frustrating as rearranged days to suit her,

Should I give her a third chance or just move on to next meet"

Hmm, "3 strikes and your out" I'd say.

Try one more meet.

Fair enough i know stuff happens etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Arranged two meets with same Woman, for her to cancel at last moment both times, frustrating as rearranged days to suit her,

Should I give her a third chance or just move on to next meet

Hmm, "3 strikes and your out" I'd say.

Try one more meet.

Fair enough i know stuff happens etc.

"
I agree if it's someone you have been chatting to for ages life comes first this is just fun so 3 strikes totally agree

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By *lan157Man
over a year ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex

If I have had two meets postponed then its not definately over because they could both have been for very valid and reasonable reasons. However I make it clear that my potential playmate has to arrange the third and keep checking with me instead. I think that's fair.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I got stood up for a meet tonight that I was really looking forward to. Something has "come up" - I suspect it's him having to pick up his grown daughter from work but I haven't asked.

At what point do people say to last minute demands "Sorry, you'll have to find another way as I've got plans tonight"

It isn't like she's 12 or anything

if it's family, they would always come first if they needed me...some things are more important than swinging. If someone let us down consistently because their family or real life made too many demands, we'd tell them we'll not make any more arrangements with them, and to let us know when their life calms down..."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I got stood up for a meet tonight that I was really looking forward to. Something has "come up" - I suspect it's him having to pick up his grown daughter from work but I haven't asked.

At what point do people say to last minute demands "Sorry, you'll have to find another way as I've got plans tonight"

It isn't like she's 12 or anything "

Totally agree. Yes of course family comes first, but we make all our arrangements (whether family, vanilla or swinging) well in advance and carefully juggle everything we want to do. We have a 12 and and 9 year old who require a lot of ferrying around. But we are very organised with their needs and we plans our diaries with military precision. Short of one of our children being sick or my mother being sick and therefore unable to look after them, it's inconceivable that something family related would 'just come up'. And no friend or family member has ever demanded that we drop what we are doing for them. We have a diary and we use it. To us it's not rocket science.

Mrs

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I recently gave a lady a third chance and guess what, same problem. I will not be arranging anything else with her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I give people the 3 strike rule.

= 3 chances, then Bye & block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2 chances then out.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP...your an adult. Do you need others to make desicions for you?

It depends on what you want and how much and who with and if there is any level of trust...

Or if it's just instafuck

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire


"Yup get rid and don't waste anymore of your time. Add a private note to remind not to contact again.

Some people on here really do like to string you along. "

No private note needed

Block then the profile won't show on your searches

Dud you speak on the phone at all

Are you sure it's a woman or just someone trying to amuse themselves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We usually give 2 chances if there is an explanation but with single guys usually they just vanish off the face of the planet, then that's it for them.

Mr can't understand it when a guy just disappears as there is no way he would just disappear half an hour before a meet if a lovely lady was offering herself to him.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Two chances tops, and that's only if they cancelled with a believable reason the first time

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By *unshine05 OP   Man
over a year ago

Sherborne

I was begged for a 3rd wasn't even gonna say yes but within two messages of me saying I'm not sure the mind games started goes with out saying no 3rd chance for her.

Based on people's experiences think im right to not offer a 3rd chance

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By *he witch returnsWoman
over a year ago

somewhere over the rainbow in SW Devon

I would not. One chance no explination out you go. Don't bother contacting me again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One chance.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"It depends, if someone I'd met previously, knew they're reason for cancelling was genuine, then I'd understand.

But someone new, I'd give them a 2nd chance but that would be it. "

Same for me

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"I was begged for a 3rd wasn't even gonna say yes but within two messages of me saying I'm not sure the mind games started goes with out saying no 3rd chance for her.

Based on people's experiences think im right to not offer a 3rd chance "

There's no right or wrong about it, but by starting this thread I think you knew the answer already

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

I wouldn't put a number on it. If it's a crappy excuse no chances. If it's reasonable then yeah sure. Things happen unexpectedly.

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple
over a year ago

South Wales


"Are you sure it's a woman your arranging meets with or a man pretending to be a woman."

My thoughts exactly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fool me one shame on you!

Fool me twice shame on me!

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By *iss_Samantha_LovecockTV/TS
over a year ago

bmth /poole sometimes blandford

shes fucking u about.. move on

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By *lorious hole bs16Man
over a year ago

Bristol

I am not very tolerant with rudeness..Unless it's an emergency the block button is used.

I can't even abide lateness unless a very good reason and I am kept informed..

My block list is longer than my friends!!

Fuck 'em I say.

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By *adyGardenWoman
over a year ago

LONDON (se)

I don't give chances. You let me down once Im done.

This is why i only arrange meets when Im out that way if they are a no show i will still have a good night and my time wont have been waisted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never more than a second chance unless it's someone you know rather well and trust them.

Don't waste time on people who let you down. Good luck in finding someone who doesn't mess you about.

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By *r FirecrackerMan
over a year ago

London

Twice is enough for me, after that I bloke to ensure my precious time that I save for genuine people is not wasted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Arranged two meets with same Woman, for her to cancel at last moment both times, frustrating as rearranged days to suit her,

Should I give her a third chance or just move on to next meet"

I smell catfish, you need Nev & Max on the case

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