FabSwingers.com forum: Am I okay news guidance or just a crack pot

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

After finding out about this site I want to join the social life surrounding it. Never been on sites before so havnt a clue and realise single guy have a rep on here. I've tried my best with my profile and would really appreciate a view and some advice please or even if I should just give up

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

That title was supposed to be need not news :p

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Put a couple of pictures in public, they don't need to show your face.

Your profile is a little wordy and gives too much information that isn't needed. You contradict yourself by saying you've given up on relationships then by saying you want to spend your life with a woman.

I recommend that you read it through again with the question "would someone I'm meeting with a view to becoming a casual sex partner want to know this?" and trim it back a bit.

You're not a crack pot plenty of people enjoy socialising but I would counsel against seeing swinging as a lifestyle unless you really do intend to live 24/7 as a swinger

Good luck.

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By *.gerri.xTV/TS
over a year ago

North west visiting bpool

I actually like your profile , the no picture bit is a bit hmmm ,but you acknowledge this and advise can send one. Also a few contradictions regarding relationships.

The only thing I would say with is that the spelling mistakes sometimes make it a bit of a hard read.

But the philosophy and person behind it shine through as someone who thinks and comes across as fun and adventurous.

Just my tuppence worth

I'm now checking my profile for spelling

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

Tone it down, blimey. Make it warmer and more positive. Say what you need to say and no more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably first time I'll ever say this to a single male, but if anything your profile suffers from being a bit too detailed, but that's not a major critisism as you have obviously put a lot of work into it. A few public pictures wouldn't hurt, doesn't have to be your face and most definitely not your cock, but some body ones wouldn't hurt. For what it's worth I think putting bi curious is a good decision if that is something you think you may want to explore.

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

You need some pictures OP.

Your profile is far too long and most of it is unnecessary information. I found the habit of adding "ha" at the end of lots of sentences annoying.

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By *ex-a-frolicsCouple
over a year ago

Brizzle

Found you're profile too long & with too many spelling mistakes, also as others have said too much unnecessary info & no public pictures means you'll struggle, There is far too much competition on here for you to stand out and as for being a crackpot only you can answer that!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for the advice I'll have a rethink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shorten it quite a bit op, but dont go mad there, your profile is 100 % better than the common single guy profile consisting of will fill in later!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Shorten it quite a bit op, but dont go mad there, your profile is 100 % better than the common single guy profile consisting of will fill in later!

Thank you homer, although it's been quite a negative response from people it has helped alot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow. It's long. I would say if you want to keep all of the headers, make them about 3 or 4 lines each. Just leave the most important bits. And be conscious of what fab is for, your profile text is more like an autobiography. We just need a who you are, what you would like and what you can offer. X

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

i don't think it is the length of the profile that is important op, some will always be longer than others...

but it does just feel that in your case you have almost set it like a C.V... and it feels too clinical.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Shorten it quite a bit op, but dont go mad there, your profile is 100 % better than the common single guy profile consisting of will fill in later!

Thank you homer, although it's been quite a negative response from people it has helped alot

I wouldnt say the response so far has been negative, everyone seems to appreciate you have put effort in. Lots saying the same thing, trim back some of the detail as it reads more like a dating site profile (fine if you are really looking for a relationship but it may put off all the people that aren't, which I would say are the majority on here). And for me it would be add some pics, they don't need to be recognisable or face pics, just give people a sense of what you look like. As for getting into the social scene, join in the forums and watch out for social meets and parties in your area, get yourself invited. And if you are invited, turn up! It really is the best way to get to know people. Good luck

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Gosh I had to force myself to read all that. You could omit about 50% of that I would say. Although it's refreshing to see a lot of detail I don't think it's really needed, save some for a proper convo.

You definitely need pics!!!

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"i don't think it is the length of the profile that is important op, some will always be longer than others...

but it does just feel that in your case you have almost set it like a C.V... and it feels too clinical....."

I know what you mean by C.V but Tbh that was kind of the point

But that's because I'm new to here and know what it's about but still I think everyone is here for different reasons. I know myself exactly what I'm looking for and I don't know if it can be found here or not. And as a guy you know each person you msg wants something different to me that feels like lying and I'm just trying tell you what you want to hear. To me that's pointless.

That's why I'm asking for this help so I can attract the right people with a simple message and a look at my profile.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"i don't think it is the length of the profile that is important op, some will always be longer than others...

but it does just feel that in your case you have almost set it like a C.V... and it feels too clinical.....

I know what you mean by C.V but Tbh that was kind of the point

That's why I'm asking for this help so I can attract the right people with a simple message and a look at my profile. "

You asked for advice, it was given but you're under no obligation to act on it.

See how you get on with your current profile. If it's successful its working for you and no changes are needed. If it isn't successful consider the advice given here again.

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