FabSwingers.com forum: partner losing confidence

By *ajon OP Couple
over a year ago

Peterborough

My wife is beautiful and sexy and used to be outragous and fun. Over the last few years she has lost interest in all things kinky, unless it is totally on her terms. I have offered to be cuckold, which I would rnjoy, but she just has lost interest, apart from the odd occassion when 'she wants it'. How do I get her to reingsge in the joys of kinky sex once again...

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

Refer her to the terms of the relationship agreement you both made at the start of your courtship.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Hide or close your profile. Remove all pressure to engage in kinky sex on her or your terms and try and find out why she's changed. She's the only one who can provide you with answers and the two of you are the only ones who can provide solutions. It might take a while and she might not be keen to discuss things with you but as far as I'm aware there's no alternative to communicating with each other.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Incidentally, what leads you to believe she's lost confidence?

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

"My wife is beautiful and sexy and used to be outragous and fun. Over the last few years she has lost interest in all things kinky, unless it is totally on her terms. I have offered to be cuckold, which I would rnjoy, but she just has lost interest, apart from the odd occassion when 'she wants it'. How do I get her to reingsge in the joys of kinky sex once again..."

Just take it easy, no need to rush things. We all have moments when the vanilla world gets in the way. Talk to each other and take your time

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By *rnortholtMan
over a year ago

Waveney Valley

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By *rnortholtMan
over a year ago

Waveney Valley

I see you don't meet single guys.

Now if I went off on one about that, you'd rightly say, it's our choice.

Well it's your wife's choice to join you in doing what she wants, when she wants. You say you've offered to play at being a cuck because you'd like that. What you seem to be missing is what she might like.

And if it's vanilla then surely there's more to your relationship than forays into what you call kinky sex?

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

Well putting this on the Internet is bound to have the desired effect.

Hey wife your still beautiful but you ain't half drab and boring. Ps just told 1000s of people.

This is why we need a face palm emoji.

You could have at least had the decency to make a single bloke profile to post this under.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take a break from fab. My partner is off the idea of the scene herself at the momebt too. I'm sitting back and allowing her time to get herself interested. All I can do is try complimenting her and trying to reassure her that she is pretty and still attractive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It could be her age. Perimenopausal. She's probably getting ready to hit the dreaded menopause. It can make you lose interest in sex. Take it from me. I'm wearing the T. Shirt lol....p.s. I still love sex but only with my husband now.

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By *ajon OP Couple
over a year ago

Peterborough

Thanks for, in the majority of cases, the good advice. We have talked and will talk more. Also she agreed to try and find advice here, for those who just enjoy slating others, rather than offering sensible advice, which the forum is for. Thamks again to those with wise words...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take a break away from here and focus on her for a while? (:

Compliment her, treat her to a spa day or a pair of new shoes/dress, something non sexual. And let her know that she is indeed one badass woman you still very much adore!

Good luck

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By *ajon OP Couple
over a year ago

Peterborough

Thankmyou, spa day it is...

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By *unlovingx2Couple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

I like steak and chips and fish and chips if I ate both of these all the time I would after a short time crave a bowl of soup, and not look at what was my favourite meals for a while,

I guess sex lives are like that. Your simply in the mood for it for a while, then need a break. I'm pretty sure my liking for fish/steak would return. And more importantly I would have missed my favourite meals again. It's just the normal rollercoaster of life. I would just enjoy having a break with no pressure and I'm sure your wife's mojo will return.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bin her off and get a new bird that does want it simples

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Bin her off and get a new bird that does want it simples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe a age thing... know a lot of ladies that go through the change late 40s

Still your beautiful wife no matter what

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