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By *BW Snowbunny OP   Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere over the Rainbow

Am I wrong in thinking this is a swinging site?

A place where we can get together for NSA sex with singles and couples and have fun, enjoy ourselves, test our boundaries etc. Maybe I am wrong! I go to clubs, I meet single men, we play then all of a sudden I'm warned off by a female(s) on here. Told to stay away from the man/men as they have a claim on them or they are upset that a guy they've played with has also played with me because they don't like me. Is this a joke or should I find a different site that has genuine swingers on it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You sound to us like you see things like us ,could well be the green eyed monster jealousy raring it head

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not as if there is a shortage of men on here lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Different people are the site for different things but that does sound like one person applying strings where the other (the person you played with) presumably sees none. You do see a degree of lamppost pissing on here, best thing you can do is ignore them and move on. Who needs drama.

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By *londie8399Couple
over a year ago

blackpool

I would Just ignore and block cnt bare drama lol

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I'd say your description of swinging is spot on.

There are some green eyed monsters in all walks of life. So I guess we get it on here too

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By *BW Snowbunny OP   Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere over the Rainbow

I'm so glad it's not just me then. Seriously these green eyed women need to get lives and join dating sites instead and the men concerned need to grow balls if they seriously want to swing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm so glad it's not just me then. Seriously these green eyed women need to get lives and join dating sites instead and the men concerned need to grow balls if they seriously want to swing. "

Block and delete babe.

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By *BW Snowbunny OP   Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere over the Rainbow

Oh I've just received a message from a female saying I'm the green eyed monster apparently.

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By *BW Snowbunny OP   Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere over the Rainbow

Absolutely hilarious. She's only been on the site 5 weeks as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh I've just received a message from a female saying I'm the green eyed monster apparently. "

Gotta love how they pm'd it - wouldn't say it on here

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By *BW Snowbunny OP   Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere over the Rainbow

Exactly. Haven't got the guts to say it where others can see it If I was green eyed wouldn't it be me trying to claim the guys? This one is obviously here for a husband as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see your point however it might be worth thinking about what the guy has told the other woman, has he lead her to believe he is seeing only her.

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By *BW Snowbunny OP   Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere over the Rainbow

It's not just one guy though. It's happened to me and another female friend with several men recently . Men aren't innocent by any means though either.

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

Block obviously and don't give them any satisfaction. Other than this thread.

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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

It has happened to me too more than once. Some years ago fucked this bloke at a club, he was hot so why not. We shagged right out in the open on the sofa (others had done so earlier) and I was (I guess) a bit loud and "vocal" (heh heh). Later on a woman dragged me to a corner and literally pointed her finger in my face and told me to stay away from XYZ and threatened me. Was a bit scary TBH.

Later on asked that fella whether he had a relationship with this woman and the answer was no, they had fucked a few times in the past. Go figure. At the time I thought they were engaged or something.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

[Removed by poster at 27/09/17 00:32:00]

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's funny because I have seen loads and I mean loads of girls on POF that are in quite a few cases VERY active on here, and the write up is always the same, "If you want a one night stand Jog On! No dick pics, after a committed relationship"... Blah, blah... Then have been verified on here like 10 minutes ago, I understand a fuck is a fuck love is love, but it's a bit misleading, and if he or she finds out, after you found the one! What then?

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

Wendy: Can I tell you something Ms. Ellen?

Ms. Ellen: Of course Wendy.

Wendy: Don't fuck with me!

Ms. Ellen: What?

Wendy: You heard me! Stay away from my man, bitch, or I'll whoop your sorry little ass back to last year!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's funny because I have seen loads and I mean loads of girls on POF that are in quite a few cases VERY active on here, and the write up is always the same, "If you want a one night stand Jog On! No dick pics, after a committed relationship"... Blah, blah... Then have been verified on here like 10 minutes ago, I understand a fuck is a fuck love is love, but it's a bit misleading, and if he or she finds out, after you found the one! What then?"

i can't see how its misleading, they are clearly looking for a relationship, but confident enough to enjoy a sex life in between relationships, and choose 2 completely different avenues to find them....and i dont get what you mean by 'if they find out'?..do you think single women shouldnt be having NSA sex if they also want a relationship at some point?..seems you have a double standard in your views of women...

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By *BW Snowbunny OP   Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere over the Rainbow

I think what is meant is that on pof etc these women are looking for a relationship and saying no one night stands etc. Then in here they're saying one night stands are okay but they aren't looking for a relationship. But...... if a guy sees them on both it's confusing

I've had fuck buddies, regular NSA sex. They also played with other women but would never dream of laying a claim to them, they don't belong to me I simply borrow them every so often .

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By *BW Snowbunny OP   Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere over the Rainbow


"It has happened to me too more than once. Some years ago fucked this bloke at a club, he was hot so why not. We shagged right out in the open on the sofa (others had done so earlier) and I was (I guess) a bit loud and "vocal" (heh heh). Later on a woman dragged me to a corner and literally pointed her finger in my face and told me to stay away from XYZ and threatened me. Was a bit scary TBH.

Later on asked that fella whether he had a relationship with this woman and the answer was no, they had fucked a few times in the past. Go figure. At the time I thought they were engaged or something."

Good girl . Nothing like a bit of voyeurism and loud vocals Love it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I see your point however it might be worth thinking about what the guy has told the other woman, has he lead her to believe he is seeing only her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had this a while ago, person got very abusive over pm.

Turns out she was just chatting to a guy that I'd already met (and still do) had then gone through his veris and started a personal attack on his meets.

A few weeks later, another woman posted in here that she'd done the same to her.

We both reported, we both got forum bans, she's still in here causing trouble!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I wrong in thinking this is a swinging site?

A place where we can get together for NSA sex with singles and couples and have fun, enjoy ourselves, test our boundaries etc. Maybe I am wrong! I go to clubs, I meet single men, we play then all of a sudden I'm warned off by a female(s) on here. Told to stay away from the man/men as they have a claim on them or they are upset that a guy they've played with has also played with me because they don't like me. Is this a joke or should I find a different site that has genuine swingers on it?"

Total joke! We (Well me) are here for as you say NSA sex. Not an affair not to run off and leave hubby etc... I simply want what a don't get at home! SEX and hopefully try new kink too. These possessive girls need a word with themselves as in bog off to a dating site!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I see your point however it might be worth thinking about what the guy has told the other woman, has he lead her to believe he is seeing only her.

"

Surely what he tells her us their problem if We are using the site as it was intended? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not just one guy though. It's happened to me and another female friend with several men recently . Men aren't innocent by any means though either. "
you don't know what the said men are telling these women

I have in the past messaged women who have contacted a partner behind my back . They were in most cases unaware we had even been a couple.

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By *rightonCheekyMan
over a year ago

Brighton


"I think what is meant is that on pof etc these women are looking for a relationship and saying no one night stands etc. Then in here they're saying one night stands are okay but they aren't looking for a relationship. But...... if a guy sees them on both it's confusing

I've had fuck buddies, regular NSA sex. They also played with other women but would never dream of laying a claim to them, they don't belong to me I simply borrow them every so often . "

I think this is along the right lines. There are also a minority of men and women on here who are conflicted, jealous, want NSA as long as their playmate doesn't etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jealousy is pretty common here however much some might protest it isn't. I've known it more from men than women though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or theres the men who say they want more than nsa then lead u on and are quite happy to block u at the drop of the hat claiming ur the crazy one.....good job i keep all messages as proof...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hiya Foxylulu

I don't display verifications it's far easier unless a new meet asks then for only 10 mins

Keep drama in the theatre I say

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

Don't bother replying just block and move on and keep doing that.

It's a swinging site not a dating site. Don't even grace them with a reply.

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By *oyeurs DelightCouple
over a year ago

london

Block - problem sorted

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

Dem biatches can not be taimed! Ya feel me?

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"Dem biatches can not be taimed! Ya feel me?"

To be fair, she has the right to be possessive if he told her that she was his bottom bitch. You never hear the other side of these things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Exactly. Haven't got the guts to say it where others can see it If I was green eyed wouldn't it be me trying to claim the guys? This one is obviously here for a husband as well "

This sounds like it could be me. It isn't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's funny because I have seen loads and I mean loads of girls on POF that are in quite a few cases VERY active on here, and the write up is always the same, "If you want a one night stand Jog On! No dick pics, after a committed relationship"... Blah, blah... Then have been verified on here like 10 minutes ago, I understand a fuck is a fuck love is love, but it's a bit misleading, and if he or she finds out, after you found the one! What then?

i can't see how its misleading, they are clearly looking for a relationship, but confident enough to enjoy a sex life in between relationships, and choose 2 completely different avenues to find them....and i dont get what you mean by 'if they find out'?..do you think single women shouldnt be having NSA sex if they also want a relationship at some point?..seems you have a double standard in your views of women..."

I'm sorry to pull your head up above the parapit, but most women and men would be gone in a heartbeat if they seen some of the profiles on here (117 verified meets.... Joined 2016) come on, Paranoia, Feeling like you can't compare, fear of diseases, will he or she go back if I don't stack up??

I'm open and I have a few regular girls, actually 3 I met on POF lol, but my point is the ("I don't do one night stands") well clearly they do, it's a lie and that's not a good start to a potential relationship, and (IF) you come clean that bloke or girl, is going to check this site out, speak to their mates, their mum about it and the chances of them actually saying "Cool you go for it he/she sounds lovely" is a pipe dream!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's funny because I have seen loads and I mean loads of girls on POF that are in quite a few cases VERY active on here, and the write up is always the same, "If you want a one night stand Jog On! No dick pics, after a committed relationship"... Blah, blah... Then have been verified on here like 10 minutes ago, I understand a fuck is a fuck love is love, but it's a bit misleading, and if he or she finds out, after you found the one! What then?

i can't see how its misleading, they are clearly looking for a relationship, but confident enough to enjoy a sex life in between relationships, and choose 2 completely different avenues to find them....and i dont get what you mean by 'if they find out'?..do you think single women shouldnt be having NSA sex if they also want a relationship at some point?..seems you have a double standard in your views of women...

I'm sorry to pull your head up above the parapit, but most women and men would be gone in a heartbeat if they seen some of the profiles on here (117 verified meets.... Joined 2016) come on, Paranoia, Feeling like you can't compare, fear of diseases, will he or she go back if I don't stack up??

I'm open and I have a few regular girls, actually 3 I met on POF lol, but my point is the ("I don't do one night stands") well clearly they do, it's a lie and that's not a good start to a potential relationship, and (IF) you come clean that bloke or girl, is going to check this site out, speak to their mates, their mum about it and the chances of them actually saying "Cool you go for it he/she sounds lovely" is a pipe dream!"
well we met on here and when I met Mr he had well over 100 veries in less than a year.. it meant I knew we were more than likely compatible. Surely where ever you meet.. Its about finding compatible people. Not about where

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's funny because I have seen loads and I mean loads of girls on POF that are in quite a few cases VERY active on here, and the write up is always the same, "If you want a one night stand Jog On! No dick pics, after a committed relationship"... Blah, blah... Then have been verified on here like 10 minutes ago, I understand a fuck is a fuck love is love, but it's a bit misleading, and if he or she finds out, after you found the one! What then?

i can't see how its misleading, they are clearly looking for a relationship, but confident enough to enjoy a sex life in between relationships, and choose 2 completely different avenues to find them....and i dont get what you mean by 'if they find out'?..do you think single women shouldnt be having NSA sex if they also want a relationship at some point?..seems you have a double standard in your views of women...

I'm sorry to pull your head up above the parapit, but most women and men would be gone in a heartbeat if they seen some of the profiles on here (117 verified meets.... Joined 2016) come on, Paranoia, Feeling like you can't compare, fear of diseases, will he or she go back if I don't stack up??

I'm open and I have a few regular girls, actually 3 I met on POF lol, but my point is the ("I don't do one night stands") well clearly they do, it's a lie and that's not a good start to a potential relationship, and (IF) you come clean that bloke or girl, is going to check this site out, speak to their mates, their mum about it and the chances of them actually saying "Cool you go for it he/she sounds lovely" is a pipe dream!"

sorry but i don't agree at all. as i said before if people are on a dating site stating they are not looking for one night stands then that, presumably is not what they are looking for from that site.If they are on another site ,looking for something else in between relationships or for whatever reason,then thats up to them.

Your comments about being afraid of not matching up, fear of diseases,scared if you spilt up they'll have NSA sex again, are all concerns that could be present in any new relationship to some extent surely.. it's up to any individual how much or how little detail they choose to share about previous sexual partners...just because someone hasn't been on a site like this certainly doesn't mean they may not have had a very active sex life with numerous people! or indeed very few, who all may be better looking, or taller or whatever.. you can't spend your life being paranoid over who someone may have fucked 10 years ago and were they better than you!

As for discussing it with your mum, well if that's how you choose to conduct yourself that's up to you , but i wouldn't expect anyone i was in a relationship with to discuss my sex life prior to meeting them, with their mum at all, i'd be horrified at anyone thinking they had the right to do that!.

As i said, you seem to have a bit of a double standard...it's a 'pipe dream' that anyone on here isn't fit to have a non-swinging or continuing to swing relationship? really? you're certainly not alone in that notion though, plenty of men on here are perfectly open about the fact that women on here may be good enough to fuck, but they would never date them...that is entirely their problem and i wouldn't have any interest in meeting anyone with an attitude like that either on here or on a regular dating site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive had this before as well. Green eyed monster 100%

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I wrong in thinking this is a swinging site?

A place where we can get together for NSA sex with singles and couples and have fun, enjoy ourselves, test our boundaries etc. Maybe I am wrong! I go to clubs, I meet single men, we play then all of a sudden I'm warned off by a female(s) on here. Told to stay away from the man/men as they have a claim on them or they are upset that a guy they've played with has also played with me because they don't like me. Is this a joke or should I find a different site that has genuine swingers on it?"

Some bad cranks about sadly. I often get messages warning me off. It's surreal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Or theres the men who say they want more than nsa then lead u on and are quite happy to block u at the drop of the hat claiming ur the crazy one.....good job i keep all messages as proof..."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Or theres the men who say they want more than nsa then lead u on and are quite happy to block u at the drop of the hat claiming ur the crazy one.....good job i keep all messages as proof...

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Yes they tell you what will get them what they want, you act accordingly but of course as they have talked bull to you in the first place it eventually does not match. They have to turn the tables, go AWOL or total arse excuses etc etc etc

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By *he_LadyWoman
over a year ago

raglan

Interesting reading this thread..... never come across myself, well. It directed at me anyway.... and earlier FB I know got verbal abuse at a club by and ex-FB that he no longer played with because she saw him out playing with someone else.... that can be a problem I suppose for some people male or female .... you play with someone often and regular enough people do get attached I suppose. People do Get jealous That's there issue really? we've all got freedom of choice !!

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