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By *ticky_vikki OP   Woman
over a year ago

Herts

My first forum post so please be kind!!

I’m ashamed to admit that in the 8 months I’ve been here I’ve only ever sent the first message to 1 person! I’ve never needed to make the first move but now I’m more confident in what I’m looking for I would like to send an opening message to a couple of people! My question is, I’ve no idea how to start, what sort of content is required. I’ve read and re read the profiles of my unsuspecting victims I just don’t know how to make the first move!!

Any help and advice would be greatly received

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In all honesty most men get so fwe messages that a polite 'hello I like your profile would you like to chat' is probably more than enough to get a response if they are interested

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By *andbCouple
over a year ago

Wakefield


"My first forum post so please be kind!!

I’m ashamed to admit that in the 8 months I’ve been here I’ve only ever sent the first message to 1 person! I’ve never needed to make the first move but now I’m more confident in what I’m looking for I would like to send an opening message to a couple of people! My question is, I’ve no idea how to start, what sort of content is required. I’ve read and re read the profiles of my unsuspecting victims I just don’t know how to make the first move!!

Any help and advice would be greatly received "

Be yourself and pick up on something on the profile that interests you . hopefully they will respond and you an all take it from there. Also suggest no text speak and check spellings before sending. (yeah I know not everyone is bothered about text speak or bad spelling but a lot are!) Good luck and happy fabbing x

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By *ticky_vikki OP   Woman
over a year ago

Herts

Thank you I’m not into text speak and always check for mistakes, I’m too ocd!! One message is to a couple, they are the ones concerning me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just remember that us single men get swamped with messages so it may get lost

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Simple.

Say hi, be yourself, tell them what attracts you to their profile, comments, likes, or photos that you like. And suggest why you think they might like you too? I.E. similar interests.

It's easy, some people will reply and some won't. That's life. I always reply.

Good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In all honesty most men get so fwe messages that a polite 'hello I like your profile would you like to chat' is probably more than enough to get a response if they are interested "

This is true. You could go on to say you murder badgers and smear their entrails all over them selves and you're still like to get responses lol

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By *mm and HerCouple
over a year ago

Hertfordshire


"One message is to a couple, they are the ones concerning me "

* Lots of couples pressing refresh on their inbox - harder to do than it sounds with your fingers crossed!

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By *ticky_vikki OP   Woman
over a year ago

Herts


"One message is to a couple, they are the ones concerning me

* Lots of couples pressing refresh on their inbox - harder to do than it sounds with your fingers crossed!"

Thank you, I will un cross my fingers, strap

a pair of balls on and make the first move

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

As others have said OP just be yourself, tell them a little about you and why you're messaging them - leave some questions in there maybe to give them something to respond to.

Another option might be, if they're forumites, picking up on a post they've made in a thread and commenting privately on that - it's often the way I get chatting to people.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One message is to a couple, they are the ones concerning me

* Lots of couples pressing refresh on their inbox - harder to do than it sounds with your fingers crossed!

Thank you, I will un cross my fingers, strap

a pair of balls on and make the first move "

Seems like you learn fast

Good luck... it's only txt...

Until it's not...

It works... that's great...

It doesn't... their loss just move on...

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By *ticky_vikki OP   Woman
over a year ago

Herts


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Seems like you learn fast

Good luck... it's only txt...

Until it's not...

It works... that's great...

It doesn't... their loss just move on...

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My first forum post so please be kind!!

I’m ashamed to admit that in the 8 months I’ve been here I’ve only ever sent the first message to 1 person! I’ve never needed to make the first move but now I’m more confident in what I’m looking for I would like to send an opening message to a couple of people! My question is, I’ve no idea how to start, what sort of content is required. I’ve read and re read the profiles of my unsuspecting victims I just don’t know how to make the first move!!

Any help and advice would be greatly received "

Go for it op and the couple I'm sure will be pleased to receive your message ... and like others have said just say hi like what I see and read would you like a chat

Good luck

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By *idalgo13Man
over a year ago

Near York


"In all honesty most men get so fwe messages that a polite 'hello I like your profile would you like to chat' is probably more than enough to get a response if they are interested "

So true

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By *izandpaulCouple
over a year ago

merseyside


"My first forum post so please be kind!!

I’m ashamed to admit that in the 8 months I’ve been here I’ve only ever sent the first message to 1 person! I’ve never needed to make the first move but now I’m more confident in what I’m looking for I would like to send an opening message to a couple of people! My question is, I’ve no idea how to start, what sort of content is required. I’ve read and re read the profiles of my unsuspecting victims I just don’t know how to make the first move!!

Any help and advice would be greatly received "

Be yourself, explain a little what attracted you to their profile and read the profile in full, there may be a little hidden word contained within the text, it's an easy way to to see who reads the profile and who just trawls. Be honest, because if and when you do meet they will see you warts and all. As a single lady make sure your first meets are somewhere public as it's not that easy to tell friends you are meeting someone from a swingers site. Most of all, have fun, we do.

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"My first forum post so please be kind!!

I’m ashamed to admit that in the 8 months I’ve been here I’ve only ever sent the first message to 1 person! I’ve never needed to make the first move but now I’m more confident in what I’m looking for I would like to send an opening message to a couple of people! My question is, I’ve no idea how to start, what sort of content is required. I’ve read and re read the profiles of my unsuspecting victims I just don’t know how to make the first move!!

Any help and advice would be greatly received "

Tailor your message to the bio/profile. Be polite and don't send pum pum pictures lol

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"My first forum post so please be kind!!

I’m ashamed to admit that in the 8 months I’ve been here I’ve only ever sent the first message to 1 person! I’ve never needed to make the first move but now I’m more confident in what I’m looking for I would like to send an opening message to a couple of people! My question is, I’ve no idea how to start, what sort of content is required. I’ve read and re read the profiles of my unsuspecting victims I just don’t know how to make the first move!!

Any help and advice would be greatly received

Be yourself, explain a little what attracted you to their profile and read the profile in full, there may be a little hidden word contained within the text, it's an easy way to to see who reads the profile and who just trawls. Be honest, because if and when you do meet they will see you warts and all. As a single lady make sure your first meets are somewhere public as it's not that easy to tell friends you are meeting someone from a swingers site. Most of all, have fun, we do."

I giggle when i see code words in profiles. I've never quoted one even though they claim they wint reply if it's not used. People just wanna know you've read their profile. You can show that without using any daft code words. Just my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try this

Hello I've been here 8 months stalking your profile, but as my ASBO stopped me messaging you until this time. I'm now looking to meet up with you, in the local woods, I'll be in the white transit with carpet in the back!

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

Will we get an update on how it went?

On the negative side. This went better than the usual responses to a question like this. I wonder why

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"Will we get an update on how it went?

On the negative side. This went better than the usual responses to a question like this. I wonder why "

Because a woman posted. We all know that ha

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"Try this

Hello I've been here 8 months stalking your profile, but as my ASBO stopped me messaging you until this time. I'm now looking to meet up with you, in the local woods, I'll be in the white transit with carpet in the back! "

Sure that response helped the OP

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!


"My first forum post so please be kind!!..."

Hello! Would you like some help with your bag Miss?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Try this

Hello I've been here 8 months stalking your profile, but as my ASBO stopped me messaging you until this time. I'm now looking to meet up with you, in the local woods, I'll be in the white transit with carpet in the back!

Sure that response helped the OP "

Life must be such fun in serious land

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By *ticky_vikki OP   Woman
over a year ago

Herts


"Try this

Hello I've been here 8 months stalking your profile, but as my ASBO stopped me messaging you until this time. I'm now looking to meet up with you, in the local woods, I'll be in the white transit with carpet in the back! "

I copied yours word for word and sent it only changed the colour of the transit van to orange

Once I’ve sent the real message I shall let you all know the response

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By *aul DeUther-OneMan
over a year ago

Sussex


"Thank you I’m not into text speak and always check for mistakes, I’m too ocd!! One message is to a couple, they are the ones concerning me "

The best start is to read the profile of your intended. Add any keywords in the title they call for and then point out the ways in which your profile interests match. Include a face photo early on.

If you come across as polite and sociable then you should get a first meeting.

Best wishes. Let us know how you get on

Paul x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Try this

Hello I've been here 8 months stalking your profile, but as my ASBO stopped me messaging you until this time. I'm now looking to meet up with you, in the local woods, I'll be in the white transit with carpet in the back!

I copied yours word for word and sent it only changed the colour of the transit van to orange

Once I’ve sent the real message I shall let you all know the response "

Ahhhh Hun everyone knows orange vans are for boy racers

Hoping the couple said mmmmmmmm

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By *ticky_vikki OP   Woman
over a year ago

Herts


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Ahhhh Hun everyone knows orange vans are for boy racers

Hoping the couple said mmmmmmmm "

I am a girl racer at heart so made the right colour choice

Not sent it yet but I will tomorrow! I’ve written it so I’ve just got to send it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My first forum post so please be kind!!

I’m ashamed to admit that in the 8 months I’ve been here I’ve only ever sent the first message to 1 person! I’ve never needed to make the first move but now I’m more confident in what I’m looking for I would like to send an opening message to a couple of people! My question is, I’ve no idea how to start, what sort of content is required. I’ve read and re read the profiles of my unsuspecting victims I just don’t know how to make the first move!!

Any help and advice would be greatly received "

Hope I get a message x

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"Try this

Hello I've been here 8 months stalking your profile, but as my ASBO stopped me messaging you until this time. I'm now looking to meet up with you, in the local woods, I'll be in the white transit with carpet in the back!

Sure that response helped the OP

Life must be such fun in serious land "

Who are you?. Oh

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By *BW SnowbunnyWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere over the Rainbow


"Try this

Hello I've been here 8 months stalking your profile, but as my ASBO stopped me messaging you until this time. I'm now looking to meet up with you, in the local woods, I'll be in the white transit with carpet in the back! "

Hahahahaha love it but shouldn't it be a mattress not a carpet - or is that outdated now lol

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By *BW SnowbunnyWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere over the Rainbow

Not a message like I've just received. All it says is 'hey you'. That took some brain cells lol

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.


"Not a message like I've just received. All it says is 'hey you'. That took some brain cells lol"

Not everyone's Wordsworth or Keats you know.

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By *ticky_vikki OP   Woman
over a year ago

Herts


"Try this

Hello I've been here 8 months stalking your profile, but as my ASBO stopped me messaging you until this time. I'm now looking to meet up with you, in the local woods, I'll be in the white transit with carpet in the back!

Hahahahaha love it but shouldn't it be a mattress not a carpet - or is that outdated now lol"

Bugger, a mattress would have been a better choice! Now I’m worried they won’t reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not a message like I've just received. All it says is 'hey you'. That took some brain cells lol"

I figure if i met someone in a pub, bar, shopping etc id introduce myself by simply saying 'Hello' and wait for a hello back, i get this isnt a bar pub etc but its seems to work for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be yourself,most folk on here would delighted to receive a first contact messfrom a single lady good luck OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My first forum post so please be kind!!

I’m ashamed to admit that in the 8 months I’ve been here I’ve only ever sent the first message to 1 person! I’ve never needed to make the first move but now I’m more confident in what I’m looking for I would like to send an opening message to a couple of people! My question is, I’ve no idea how to start, what sort of content is required. I’ve read and re read the profiles of my unsuspecting victims I just don’t know how to make the first move!!

Any help and advice would be greatly received

Be yourself and pick up on something on the profile that interests you . hopefully they will respond and you an all take it from there. Also suggest no text speak and check spellings before sending. (yeah I know not everyone is bothered about text speak or bad spelling but a lot are!) Good luck and happy fabbing x"

I totally agree. We guys don't get as much messages as you ladies do anyways.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not a message like I've just received. All it says is 'hey you'. That took some brain cells lol"

. That's a lot for some not most ( or is it )

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