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By *oungYorkscouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Sheffield

Hi everyone just looking for abit of advice really. We are going to be attending our first social in December and we are pretty nervous we were wondering if anyone else could share there experiences? What was it like for you guys and girls? Oh and What should we wear? And if you've got any other tips please let us know haha

Also on top of that what type of people go? we have been looking at the guest list and we see to be younger than most, it doesn't bother us but do other people tend to be put off by someone much younger than them?

Any input is appreciated thank you

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

Where is the social?

If it is a vanilla environment then it'll be what you would usually wear when you go out.

A social should be just that, so no play. It's just a night out with some saucy chat maybe. You'll wonder what you were nervous about after you've been lol

Stunning pictures btw xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi everyone just looking for abit of advice really. We are going to be attending our first social in December and we are pretty nervous we were wondering if anyone else could share there experiences? What was it like for you guys and girls? Oh and What should we wear? And if you've got any other tips please let us know haha

Also on top of that what type of people go? we have been looking at the guest list and we see to be younger than most, it doesn't bother us but do other people tend to be put off by someone much younger than them?

Any input is appreciated thank you "

When I met my first couple, we met at their local pub. We simply had a friendly chat and drink and it went naturally from there.

When I’ve met two single ladies previously, I simply treated it like a date. Get to know the person and try to relax as best you can. It will all happen naturally.

Best of luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi everyone just looking for abit of advice really. We are going to be attending our first social in December and we are pretty nervous we were wondering if anyone else could share there experiences? What was it like for you guys and girls? Oh and What should we wear? And if you've got any other tips please let us know haha

Also on top of that what type of people go? we have been looking at the guest list and we see to be younger than most, it doesn't bother us but do other people tend to be put off by someone much younger than them?

Any input is appreciated thank you "

Is it a group social? Where is it being held?

I co-hosted one on Saturday, it was just a drink in the afternoon in a pub, so people just wore clothes that wear casual.

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By *oungYorkscouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Sheffield

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over a year ago

Sheffield

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over a year ago

Sheffield

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By *oungYorkscouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Sheffield


"Where is the social?

If it is a vanilla environment then it'll be what you would usually wear when you go out.

A social should be just that, so no play. It's just a night out with some saucy chat maybe. You'll wonder what you were nervous about after you've been lol

Stunning pictures btw xxx"

Hi it's the york social in December. It says party wear on invite but maybe my party wear would be classed as different to others haha and hopefully things will go ok and thank you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If in a pub etc be aware that others maybe earwiging,especially if you have to talk over a noisy bar and jukebox and get those sudden quiet moments whilst in mid shout, so maybe best not to meet too local.

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By *oungYorkscouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Sheffield


"Hi everyone just looking for abit of advice really. We are going to be attending our first social in December and we are pretty nervous we were wondering if anyone else could share there experiences? What was it like for you guys and girls? Oh and What should we wear? And if you've got any other tips please let us know haha

Also on top of that what type of people go? we have been looking at the guest list and we see to be younger than most, it doesn't bother us but do other people tend to be put off by someone much younger than them?

Any input is appreciated thank you

Is it a group social? Where is it being held?

I co-hosted one on Saturday, it was just a drink in the afternoon in a pub, so people just wore clothes that wear casual. "

It's just one we saw on here and got invited to it's at york 7.30 till midnight x

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By *oungYorkscouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Sheffield


"If in a pub etc be aware that others maybe earwiging,especially if you have to talk over a noisy bar and jukebox and get those sudden quiet moments whilst in mid shout, so maybe best not to meet too local. "

It's a private event only people of fab are going so should be ok with that

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire


"Where is the social?

If it is a vanilla environment then it'll be what you would usually wear when you go out.

A social should be just that, so no play. It's just a night out with some saucy chat maybe. You'll wonder what you were nervous about after you've been lol

Stunning pictures btw xxx

Hi it's the york social in December. It says party wear on invite but maybe my party wear would be classed as different to others haha and hopefully things will go ok and thank you x"

Ok cool so if you were us i'd be thinking smart casual for him and little black dress type for her. If he has sense he'll buy her the sexy underwear to go underneath the little black dress so she can feel it even if others don't see it lol

You have nothing to be nervous of its just a night out with like minded people with no prior commitment.

Your age I think you will be the some of the youngest at most places at the moment. There are some specialist events that take place but not huge amounts. The chic events would be worth looking at for you guys.

But age is just a number. If there's spark there's spark

Feel free to drop us a msg if you want to...

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

Have the organisers held it before? If so, they should be able to tell you how risqué I’d acceptable.

If you like the look of anyone who is going, either to chat to or anything else, message and introduce yourself before the event, it’s a good way to break the ice when you get there if you already know some names.

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire


"Have the organisers held it before? If so, they should be able to tell you how risqué I’d acceptable.

If you like the look of anyone who is going, either to chat to or anything else, message and introduce yourself before the event, it’s a good way to break the ice when you get there if you already know some names."

That is brilliant advice too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi everyone just looking for abit of advice really. We are going to be attending our first social in December and we are pretty nervous we were wondering if anyone else could share there experiences? What was it like for you guys and girls? Oh and What should we wear? And if you've got any other tips please let us know haha

Also on top of that what type of people go? we have been looking at the guest list and we see to be younger than most, it doesn't bother us but do other people tend to be put off by someone much younger than them?

Any input is appreciated thank you

Is it a group social? Where is it being held?

I co-hosted one on Saturday, it was just a drink in the afternoon in a pub, so people just wore clothes that wear casual.

It's just one we saw on here and got invited to it's at york 7.30 till midnight x"

we went to the last York social which was fancy dress. A lot of people however wore all sorts of things from street clothes to sexy party wear. Its Christmas themed so that might give you some ideas. The hosts are very experienced and great at communicating so jyst ask them any questions you might have, I'm sure they'll be keen to help and put any fears you may have to rest...it was a great, social night with all ages.

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By *s_macWoman
over a year ago

Traffic land

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

I went to my first group social last month.

I knew a few of the folk going from chatting here on the forums, but I was still very nervous.

Everyone was lovely, it really was a great night, totaly relaxed, just a group of people chatting in a pub.

I hope you have a really great time xx

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By *s_macWoman
over a year ago

Traffic land

I've just attended my first social as a single woman (the event sexy brunette co hosted), I'd never met any of the attendees before and I was practically hyperventilating whilst summoning up the courage to go in

However, shortly after arriving and getting chatting, I wondered what I'd been so worried about.

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By *oungYorkscouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Sheffield

Thanks for advice everyone x

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By *ce948Man
over a year ago

Darlington

I'm going aswel to the York social in Dec, still a bit nervous.I'm sure all will be fine.

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By *osmosgirlWoman
over a year ago

Wetherby

The York social is very friendly so there is no need to worry. Dress in whatever you are comfortable in. Some people dress up and some go in smart casual. No one will judge you.

I went to the last one on my own and was soon chatting to people and making friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi everyone just looking for abit of advice really. We are going to be attending our first social in December and we are pretty nervous we were wondering if anyone else could share there experiences? What was it like for you guys and girls? Oh and What should we wear? And if you've got any other tips please let us know haha

Also on top of that what type of people go? we have been looking at the guest list and we see to be younger than most, it doesn't bother us but do other people tend to be put off by someone much younger than them?

Any input is appreciated thank you "

Don't drink a whole bottle of jack Daniels in your hotel room before going and then get tipped over the edge with a single measure when you get three

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

wait till december lol

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire


"Hi everyone just looking for abit of advice really. We are going to be attending our first social in December and we are pretty nervous we were wondering if anyone else could share there experiences? What was it like for you guys and girls? Oh and What should we wear? And if you've got any other tips please let us know haha

Also on top of that what type of people go? we have been looking at the guest list and we see to be younger than most, it doesn't bother us but do other people tend to be put off by someone much younger than them?

Any input is appreciated thank you

Don't drink a whole bottle of jack Daniels in your hotel room before going and then get tipped over the edge with a single measure when you get three "

Seen that done so many times lol

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By *oungYorkscouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Sheffield

So just dress comfortable get chatting and not too much Dutch courage before we go haha

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By *he Secret Tea PartyCouple
over a year ago

London


"So just dress comfortable get chatting and not too much Dutch courage before we go haha "

That's what I was about to say

A decent Fab social is all about meeting, chatting and laughing with others from the site. Sex has nothing to do with it.

Unless the social is being held in a swinging club environment you dress as you would to go out for a night with friends.

Whatever you do don't worry about it, it's another great side to swinging

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By *RCADIAN HAZECouple
over a year ago

Rotherham/ Barnsley

Total social hand grenade here so can't help at all lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi we going to this social and was thinking same what to wear but very much looking forward to x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We go to most socials in Yorkshire are always great nights. We have been to York one can definitely say it’s a great friendly atmosphere there, we ended up spending last one on dance floor nearby all night . We are going to one in December as well. Lots of people meet up before the social starts in pub up the road ( sorry can’t remember name of it) it usually gets mentioned on the social forum post few days before. No need to worry tho you’ll have a great night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was a nervous wreck before going to my first !! Now it's just like going to the pub with like minded people, I love the Heathrow ones, i dress smart casual, nothing to worry about OP but I understand your nerves, good luck

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