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By *inkyLondonpair OP   Couple
over a year ago

London

So, back in Jan we got chatting to a guy and were arranging to meet. We asked him to suggest a date and he went silent.

Fast forward to this month and he contacts us again. We remind him about the previous let down and he says he won't let us down this time. We arrange a date for next Tuesday and he then goes silent again. We send him a message last Tuesday asking him if the date is still on. He doesn't reply until today and days he can't meet as he has family problems.

We point out that this is the second time he has let us down and he shouldn't contact us again. He then tells us a family member has died and we are being insensitive.

We are 99% sure his story is bollocks and he needs to be called out on his crap. Anyone disagree?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I think you should assume you're never going to meet and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think you should assume you're never going to meet and move on.

"

Yup. Put him in the file marked ' dreamer'

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

We the jury find the defendant guilty of time wasting beyond reasonable doubt.

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By *inkyLondonpair OP   Couple
over a year ago

London


"We the jury find the defendant guilty of time wasting beyond reasonable doubt. "

Thanks.

If he had not let us down before we'd give him the benefit of the doubt re the family story, but it appears this is a guy who veers between horniness and fear!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Move on, he has missed his chance.

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By *inkyfun2013Couple
over a year ago

lewisham

Block and move on. Just another fantasist.

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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago

In a sleepy little village

If they let me down once I block them. No second chances

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley

No reason not to let you know. Leave him to it and move on.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

The early mortality rate among relatives of site members must be horrendous.

If a relative tells you they have joined a swinging site be afraid,

Be very afraid.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Really surprised you gave him a second chance to be honest!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So, back in Jan we got chatting to a guy and were arranging to meet. We asked him to suggest a date and he went silent.

Fast forward to this month and he contacts us again. We remind him about the previous let down and he says he won't let us down this time. We arrange a date for next Tuesday and he then goes silent again. We send him a message last Tuesday asking him if the date is still on. He doesn't reply until today and days he can't meet as he has family problems.

We point out that this is the second time he has let us down and he shouldn't contact us again. He then tells us a family member has died and we are being insensitive.

We are 99% sure his story is bollocks and he needs to be called out on his crap. Anyone disagree? "

Yes, complete bollocks excuse. People use deaths and family illnesses as excuses.

On another site, we had a female suddenly announce her mum died. We ignored her because it's the usual bollocks excuse. We were chatting to a couple and they had the same female cancel a month earlier because her mum just died.

Her mother keeps resurrecting, probably this guy's mother has the same problem, lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He's a dreamer. Don't waste any time on him just block him.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"We the jury find the defendant guilty of time wasting beyond reasonable doubt.

Thanks.

If he had not let us down before we'd give him the benefit of the doubt re the family story, but it appears this is a guy who veers between horniness and fear! "

You only get one opportunity to make a first impression. You shouldn't have even given him a second chance you big softy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We the jury find the defendant guilty of time wasting beyond reasonable doubt.

Thanks.

If he had not let us down before we'd give him the benefit of the doubt re the family story, but it appears this is a guy who veers between horniness and fear! "

But you hadn't actually arranged anything in January? You only asked him about dates

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

[Removed by poster at 24/09/17 18:06:39]

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"So, back in Jan we got chatting to a guy and were arranging to meet. We asked him to suggest a date and he went silent.

Fast forward to this month and he contacts us again. We remind him about the previous let down and he says he won't let us down this time. We arrange a date for next Tuesday and he then goes silent again. We send him a message last Tuesday asking him if the date is still on. He doesn't reply until today and days he can't meet as he has family problems.

We point out that this is the second time he has let us down and he shouldn't contact us again. He then tells us a family member has died and we are being insensitive.

We are 99% sure his story is bollocks and he needs to be called out on his crap. Anyone disagree? "

I have a win-win solution. Tell him you know a friend who is willing to bet £1,000 he can't produce a death certificate for a family member dated september '17. Upon winning the bet he will get the all important 3rd opportunity to meet you.

It's win-win, you get to look like the nice guy offering him and third chance and i get £1,000.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So, back in Jan we got chatting to a guy and were arranging to meet. We asked him to suggest a date and he went silent.

Fast forward to this month and he contacts us again. We remind him about the previous let down and he says he won't let us down this time. We arrange a date for next Tuesday and he then goes silent again. We send him a message last Tuesday asking him if the date is still on. He doesn't reply until today and days he can't meet as he has family problems.

We point out that this is the second time he has let us down and he shouldn't contact us again. He then tells us a family member has died and we are being insensitive.

We are 99% sure his story is bollocks and he needs to be called out on his crap. Anyone disagree?

I have a win-win solution. Tell him you know a friend who is willing to bet £1,000 he can't produce a death certificate for a family member dated september '17. Upon winning the bet he will get the all important 3rd opportunity to meet you.

It's win-win, you get to look like the nice guy offering him and third chance and i get £1,000."

Brilliant. Fool proof I'd say

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

I would say move on op

If he went quiet when you tried to meet first,then cancelled 2nd time it sounds like hes got cold feet or something else is going on.

Miss

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By *infulSandyCouple
over a year ago

London


"So, back in Jan we got chatting to a guy and were arranging to meet. We asked him to suggest a date and he went silent.

Fast forward to this month and he contacts us again. We remind him about the previous let down and he says he won't let us down this time. We arrange a date for next Tuesday and he then goes silent again. We send him a message last Tuesday asking him if the date is still on. He doesn't reply until today and days he can't meet as he has family problems.

We point out that this is the second time he has let us down and he shouldn't contact us again. He then tells us a family member has died and we are being insensitive.

We are 99% sure his story is bollocks and he needs to be called out on his crap. Anyone disagree? "

Lol almost feel like asking you to pm his name so we can block him

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By *inkyLondonpair OP   Couple
over a year ago

London


"We the jury find the defendant guilty of time wasting beyond reasonable doubt.

Thanks.

If he had not let us down before we'd give him the benefit of the doubt re the family story, but it appears this is a guy who veers between horniness and fear!

But you hadn't actually arranged anything in January? You only asked him about dates "

Yes, and he went silent after saying he wanted to meet and that we should arrange a date.

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By *inkyLondonpair OP   Couple
over a year ago

London


"So, back in Jan we got chatting to a guy and were arranging to meet. We asked him to suggest a date and he went silent.

Fast forward to this month and he contacts us again. We remind him about the previous let down and he says he won't let us down this time. We arrange a date for next Tuesday and he then goes silent again. We send him a message last Tuesday asking him if the date is still on. He doesn't reply until today and days he can't meet as he has family problems.

We point out that this is the second time he has let us down and he shouldn't contact us again. He then tells us a family member has died and we are being insensitive.

We are 99% sure his story is bollocks and he needs to be called out on his crap. Anyone disagree?

I have a win-win solution. Tell him you know a friend who is willing to bet £1,000 he can't produce a death certificate for a family member dated september '17. Upon winning the bet he will get the all important 3rd opportunity to meet you.

It's win-win, you get to look like the nice guy offering him and third chance and i get £1,000."

What if he produces the certificate

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"So, back in Jan we got chatting to a guy and were arranging to meet. We asked him to suggest a date and he went silent.

Fast forward to this month and he contacts us again. We remind him about the previous let down and he says he won't let us down this time. We arrange a date for next Tuesday and he then goes silent again. We send him a message last Tuesday asking him if the date is still on. He doesn't reply until today and days he can't meet as he has family problems.

We point out that this is the second time he has let us down and he shouldn't contact us again. He then tells us a family member has died and we are being insensitive.

We are 99% sure his story is bollocks and he needs to be called out on his crap. Anyone disagree?

I have a win-win solution. Tell him you know a friend who is willing to bet £1,000 he can't produce a death certificate for a family member dated september '17. Upon winning the bet he will get the all important 3rd opportunity to meet you.

It's win-win, you get to look like the nice guy offering him and third chance and i get £1,000."

You've forgotten one thing. He could be a Registrar!!!!!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We the jury find the defendant guilty of time wasting beyond reasonable doubt.

Thanks.

If he had not let us down before we'd give him the benefit of the doubt re the family story, but it appears this is a guy who veers between horniness and fear!

But you hadn't actually arranged anything in January? You only asked him about dates

Yes, and he went silent after saying he wanted to meet and that we should arrange a date. "

I don't see how he wasted your time though, people always say they should arrange something then real life takes over sometimes and it goes off the boil

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So, back in Jan we got chatting to a guy and were arranging to meet. We asked him to suggest a date and he went silent.

Fast forward to this month and he contacts us again. We remind him about the previous let down and he says he won't let us down this time. We arrange a date for next Tuesday and he then goes silent again. We send him a message last Tuesday asking him if the date is still on. He doesn't reply until today and days he can't meet as he has family problems.

We point out that this is the second time he has let us down and he shouldn't contact us again. He then tells us a family member has died and we are being insensitive.

We are 99% sure his story is bollocks and he needs to be called out on his crap. Anyone disagree? "

Just block him. Plenty of guys around who are much easier to enjoy.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville


"I think you should assume you're never going to meet and move on.

"

stop thinking it over so much OP

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"So, back in Jan we got chatting to a guy and were arranging to meet. We asked him to suggest a date and he went silent.

Fast forward to this month and he contacts us again. We remind him about the previous let down and he says he won't let us down this time. We arrange a date for next Tuesday and he then goes silent again. We send him a message last Tuesday asking him if the date is still on. He doesn't reply until today and days he can't meet as he has family problems.

We point out that this is the second time he has let us down and he shouldn't contact us again. He then tells us a family member has died and we are being insensitive.

We are 99% sure his story is bollocks and he needs to be called out on his crap. Anyone disagree?

I have a win-win solution. Tell him you know a friend who is willing to bet £1,000 he can't produce a death certificate for a family member dated september '17. Upon winning the bet he will get the all important 3rd opportunity to meet you.

It's win-win, you get to look like the nice guy offering him and third chance and i get £1,000.

You've forgotten one thing. He could be a Registrar!!!!!!!!! "

There's more chance of that than his story being true

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"So, back in Jan we got chatting to a guy and were arranging to meet. We asked him to suggest a date and he went silent.

Fast forward to this month and he contacts us again. We remind him about the previous let down and he says he won't let us down this time. We arrange a date for next Tuesday and he then goes silent again. We send him a message last Tuesday asking him if the date is still on. He doesn't reply until today and days he can't meet as he has family problems.

We point out that this is the second time he has let us down and he shouldn't contact us again. He then tells us a family member has died and we are being insensitive.

We are 99% sure his story is bollocks and he needs to be called out on his crap. Anyone disagree?

I have a win-win solution. Tell him you know a friend who is willing to bet £1,000 he can't produce a death certificate for a family member dated september '17. Upon winning the bet he will get the all important 3rd opportunity to meet you.

It's win-win, you get to look like the nice guy offering him and third chance and i get £1,000.

What if he produces the certificate "

If he doesn't can i take his place in the third opportunity? I like the odds

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire


"So, back in Jan we got chatting to a guy and were arranging to meet. We asked him to suggest a date and he went silent.

Fast forward to this month and he contacts us again. We remind him about the previous let down and he says he won't let us down this time. We arrange a date for next Tuesday and he then goes silent again. We send him a message last Tuesday asking him if the date is still on. He doesn't reply until today and days he can't meet as he has family problems.

We point out that this is the second time he has let us down and he shouldn't contact us again. He then tells us a family member has died and we are being insensitive.

We are 99% sure his story is bollocks and he needs to be called out on his crap. Anyone disagree? "

In respect of you being insensitive my reply would of been ....not at I appreciate this is a very difficult time and that the site needs people to be in the right mind set. I feel it better for us to move on.

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