FabSwingers.com forum: I need advice from attached men and women in particular!!!

By *rincessf OP Woman
over a year ago

Birmingham

I am longing to be fucked by this man at work. It is both dangerous and risky, but how can I offer him a non embarassing, subtle but effective offer ???? I don't want to be obvious x

Need to do something as seeing him every day and not having him is driving me crazy. We do flirt and have banter but he has shaken my world as he is in a long term relationship with kids. It goes against my principles but the desire and attraction is too strong!

Replies from men in particular needed please? Mens points of view?xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Turn up the flirting - create opportunities ... Expect a lot of grief just for asking this question

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Loving that your own profile says ... No married men ....lol

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By *rincessf OP Woman
over a year ago

Birmingham

I am being tested and to be honest am wracked with shame and guilt.

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By *rincessf OP Woman
over a year ago

Birmingham

As I said it goes against my moral compass. I do NOT want to break up anybodys relationship. Just want some hot fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You say you don't want to break a relationship but the thing is, it may, if he takes you up on your offer of a good time. How would you feel if it was the other way around and you were his partner, the mother of his children??

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I am longing to be fucked by this man at work. It is both dangerous and risky, but how can I offer him a non embarassing, subtle but effective offer ???? I don't want to be obvious x

Replies from men in particular needed please? Mens points of view?xx

You know many men will say go for it.

He hasn't shaken your world you're just feeling lustful towards a guy you can't legitimately have. What are you going to do if your non embarrasing, subtle but effective offer is rebuffed?

My opinion is that you're creating unnecessary drama for yourself. There are literally hundreds of men on fab who claim to be single, whats wrong with choosing one of them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be honest and tell him unless you two get down to it you’ll always be wondering and the feeling won’t go away... then after you can get on with things and do it regularly if it suits both your needs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does he know how you feel and do you flirt?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You might have sex with him and not break up his marriage, not every affair does!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

presumably you have reasons that you state in your profile that you wont meet people in a committed relationship? Why are they suddenly no longer valid? just because you fancy someone? or they only apply when it suits you? sounds like you just want a bit of drama around you..

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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago

In a sleepy little village

"As I said it goes against my moral compass. I do NOT want to break up anybodys relationship. Just want some hot fun

There's plenty of other people to have hot fun with.

Ask yourself if you do it , will once be enough? I think not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"presumably you have reasons that you state in your profile that you wont meet people in a committed relationship? Why are they suddenly no longer valid? just because you fancy someone? or they only apply when it suits you? sounds like you just want a bit of drama around you.."

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why anyone would choose to get involved with someone they work with who is attached is completely beyond me. You make your own bed. Make sure you're prepared to lie in it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As he is in a long term relationship with youngsters, I would say leave well alone. It is hard enough these days to keep a strong relationship going without interference from others. As the need for a quickie could effectively destroy his world as he knows it, and theres

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am longing to be fucked by this man at work. It is both dangerous and risky, but how can I offer him a non embarassing, subtle but effective offer ???? I don't want to be obvious x

Replies from men in particular needed please? Mens points of view?xx

Get over him, he's married and is probably enjoying the attention, but that's as far as it should go. Engage your moral compass, stop flirting and find another object to direct your desires upon.

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By *rincessf OP Woman
over a year ago

Birmingham

Thank you everybody for your replies. They are both sobering and honest. I appreciate it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As I said it goes against my moral compass. I do NOT want to break up anybodys relationship. Just want some hot fun

Leave the guy alone then.

Respect his relationship. Think how his kids will feel if it all blows up.

He may be looking to play away but, personally, I'd want nothing to do with it.

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

"As I said it goes against my moral compass. I do NOT want to break up anybodys relationship. Just want some hot fun

There's plenty of other people to have hot fun with.

Ask yourself if you do it , will once be enough? I think not

You could be risking relationships and jobs !!

Are you going to deal with that on his behalf??

Is your selfish lust worth it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Work relationships are always dangerous. He may be very flattered and polite. He may take exception and embarrassed.

Either way if he says yes and things go wrong you will have difficulty keeping it private. If he says no and tells your colleagues you may end up in an embarrassing situation yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As I said it goes against my moral compass. I do NOT want to break up anybodys relationship. Just want some hot fun

Don't mix business and pleasure; this can only have disastrous consequences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has he shown any interest in you? Probably doesn't give you a second thought outside of work!

Grow up and find your own man

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

This thread is going to be interesting to say the least!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He is in a long term relationship.

Leave well alone,we don't always get what we want.

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By *limaxinnylonCouple
over a year ago

CHESTER

Having been the wife who was cheated on and having the devastation that followed with my two kids afterwards I would say just leave him alone. If he is willing to have his head turned he's not a nice guy anyway! The only thing you can hope is that he's on fab with his wife and you can have some fun with them both! Ha!

Jayne xx

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

" Why anyone would choose to get involved with someone they work with who is attached is completely beyond me. You make your own bed. Make sure you're prepared to lie in it. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

id practise self control - dont mix work and playtime

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By *j48Man
over a year ago

Wigan

And in the real world when you actually win the prize it usually doesn't live up to how you've been imagining and fantasising about it..

Leave him in your head when you're having a play on your own, only there will he keep your interest.. And he can be there for as long as you wish and at anytime.

Nothing like real life, so leave him as he is.. With a partner and kids and you both have a job

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He's got a partner. He works with you. Ignoring the morals, why on earth would you risk that much potential drama?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"And in the real world when you actually win the prize it usually doesn't live up to how you've been imagining and fantasising about it..

Leave him in your head when you're having a play on your own, only there will he keep your interest.. And he can be there for as long as you wish and at anytime.

Nothing like real life, so leave him as he is.. With a partner and kids and you both have a job

That's really sensible advice. We can dream...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As I said it goes against my moral compass. I do NOT want to break up anybodys relationship. Just want some hot fun

Leave the guy alone then.

Respect his relationship. Think how his kids will feel if it all blows up.

He may be looking to play away but, personally, I'd want nothing to do with it. "

I agree with the above. But me being a twat i went with a married guy.

Fucked the friendship up. Still trying to get it back

My advice dont do it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As I said it goes against my moral compass. I do NOT want to break up anybodys relationship. Just want some hot fun

Don't mix business and pleasure; this can only have disastrous consequences."

This and you need to rethink whether you like attached men or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As I said it goes against my moral compass. I do NOT want to break up anybodys relationship. Just want some hot fun

Don't mix business and pleasure; this can only have disastrous consequences.

This and you need to rethink whether you like attached men or not."

Not at all. Its her choice on here like in life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont think its advice that you're after.

Its justificstion from masses for what you want to do, or attention seeking.

The fact that you've come on here to ask means that you either want attention, or you dont want to do it, so don't.

Most people dont care either way.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I will say one thing as an attached woman. Mr N would probably flirt with a colleague (as would I) and we would mention it at home as in "X and I had a good laugh today" and go on to relate the conversation. It wouldn't mean that either of us wanted to have sex with the person though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's immoral to try to fuck someone in a committed relationship without their partner's consent.

It's stupid to try for a random fuck with a colleague.

Either way it's a bad idea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep it in the walk bank as a fantasy x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's immoral to try to fuck someone in a committed relationship without their partner's consent.

It's stupid to try for a random fuck with a colleague.

Either way it's a bad idea. "

It takes two and lets be honest who hasn't thought of "mmmm I would "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's immoral to try to fuck someone in a committed relationship without their partner's consent.

It's stupid to try for a random fuck with a colleague.

Either way it's a bad idea.

It takes two and lets be honest who hasn't thought of "mmmm I would ""

Thinking is fine. Acting on it is not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are plenty of unattached guys who will rock your world just as much and even more. Minus the guilt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Imagine the response if the op was a man ??. But seriously why dont you ask his wife and kids if they mind, im sure you will find your answer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's immoral to try to fuck someone in a committed relationship without their partner's consent.

It's stupid to try for a random fuck with a colleague.

Either way it's a bad idea.

It takes two and lets be honest who hasn't thought of "mmmm I would "

Thinking is fine. Acting on it is not."

Happens thou

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

Why has nobody said the obvious yet? Does anyone remember the name of this site?

For a variety of reasons i don't care to explain, i was unexpectedly propositioned for sex by a very hot girl whilst on holiday and she wasn't taking no for an answer. My reply was (eventually) "sure, let's do it, you don't mind if my wife joins right?" That shut her up.

OP, if you seriously want him then find a way to have a threesome with him and his partner. That way you won't fuck up their relationship (assuming they are game). If they aren't game then you have to let it go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I will say one thing as an attached woman. Mr N would probably flirt with a colleague (as would I) and we would mention it at home as in "X and I had a good laugh today" and go on to relate the conversation. It wouldn't mean that either of us wanted to have sex with the person though."

^^ absolutely this!!

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By *TheBoneMan
over a year ago

Bury, Lancashire

Your profile says you cant accom and one would assume that he cant either so if your determined to wreck his wife and kids life and your employment then i hope you enjoy your knee trembler together in the filing cupboard or toilets

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By *obin_and_marionMan
over a year ago

Beaconsfield

Without getting involved in the morality aspects.

On a practical level, when he asks "what are you doing at the weekend" tell him that you're going to a swingers club.

If he shows intrigue you can add - you enjoy NSA sex and its a good way to get it.

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By *lue9753Man
over a year ago

Oldham

Ask him exactly what you put on her. That you are interested in a guy (dont have to say at work) but he has kids n get his advice . Hope it helps let us know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that if you do want to have him, you should turn up the flirting into overdrive and let him know that you just want sex and not to interfere in his family life.

But obviously you have to believe in this yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cannot believe that the word immoral is being used again.

Not everyone thinks that swinging is moral.

Do you care that someone you've never met thinks you are immoral? I doubt it, because they don't know the real you. So let's apply that approach to others.

Back on topic: either you want to see attached men or you don't. Make your mind up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I cannot believe that the word immoral is being used again.

Not everyone thinks that swinging is moral.

Do you care that someone you've never met thinks you are immoral? I doubt it, because they don't know the real you. So let's apply that approach to others.

Back on topic: either you want to see attached men or you don't. Make your mind up."

Thisi wanted to post but jd stopped me

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"I cannot believe that the word immoral is being used again.

Not everyone thinks that swinging is moral.

Do you care that someone you've never met thinks you are immoral? I doubt it, because they don't know the real you. So let's apply that approach to others.

Back on topic: either you want to see attached men or you don't. Make your mind up."

Eh? If she broke up a family unit for a bit of how's your father, wouldn't that be the 'real' her doing that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

walk around with a magic egg in your fanny and everytime you see him turn it on full speeed and orgasm ...

the lust will soon wear off .

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

The Wild Wetness

There are a few cuckcake (spelling) women on here who would love to be the spurned wife.

You literally have your cake and eat it. Without the hassle of work or causing a potential split.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would avoid you like the plague. If you do manage it - it will most likely end badly. It always does .... one of my golden rules never play with people at work. He will end up being divorced and you would have been partly responsible. Just sayin....

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

Personslly I'd find a distraction. Believe me that while people automatically think of the wife, I can tell you its no fun being the other woman either.

Save the heartache all round and steer clear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep, what she said. Flirting at work makes the workplace more fun. Acting on that work place innocent activity is a completely different matter.

Anyhow what is this mythical "non embarassing, subtle but effective offer" especially to a man. I like most men am not good at hints, lie naked on his desk begging him to fuck you, and he will wander off to make a cup of tea and wonder if you may fancy him a bit.

As others have said unavailable, and a work mate are 2 very big no way markers. Don't even use him in your fantasies it will only make things worse.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

"I cannot believe that the word immoral is being used again.

Not everyone thinks that swinging is moral.

Do you care that someone you've never met thinks you are immoral? I doubt it, because they don't know the real you. So let's apply that approach to others.

Back on topic: either you want to see attached men or you don't. Make your mind up.

Eh? If she broke up a family unit for a bit of how's your father, wouldn't that be the 'real' her doing that? "

Of course it would be , but that doesn't matter because some people think swinging is immoral , and no one knows the real person do they ?

Apply the same logic to theft , arson , or any other practice that the majority think is wrong and it's happy days huh ?

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By *ighland gentlemanMan
over a year ago

Ardgay

Speaking as a married man who has played away but usually with long term FWBs, and even once with a work colleague, yes it can be done but depends on circumstances.

Meets can be few and far between, often snatched moments rather than long encounters.

I know how frustrating my unavailability can be to my FWB. (and myself!)

As has been said, he's the one taking the risks so it needs to be a joint decision between you both about what occurs, and should be discussed beforehand not just on a whim at a office party for instance.

For these things to work they require planning and preparation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Back on topic: either you want to see attached men or you don't. Make your mind up."

she doesn't...she wants to see one attached man...just because she wants this one doesn't mean she's changed her mind on all of them...

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By *ornysxguyMan
over a year ago

Maldon, Essex

"Loving that your own profile says ... No married men ....lol"
another example of the double standards that some Fabbers have on here. "Do what I say, Not what I do" comes to mind lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You know the saying -"Don't shit on your own doorstep"? ~ apply this to your workplace.

The fallout workwise is risky enough if he was single but as he isn't it will be twice as bad, because mark my words if he's savvy he'll cover his arse (if need be) at a drop of a hat.

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Good question , of course there is a double standard applied to guys, I am amazed the ladies are silent and in support, if it was a guy asking, they will have torn him apart. Fucking the guy is easy in my opinion , am only concerned that the op will not keep it player style and want a relationship and that is what I am not in support of because I am not interested in spliting any home.

I don't like the fact that it is work too because those work swinging relationships easily become something serious so I will advice you forget the guy because splitting of homes is against our swingers ethics , I am therefore not in support and will not provide any game that will assist the op in catching this guy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am being tested and to be honest am wracked with shame and guilt. "

Well... if you feel wracked with shame and guilt now, ask yourself how will you feel once you have fucked him.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

I can see the future when his wife come's into your work place to rip you to shreds,infront of all your work colleagues when she finds out. Can you cope with that...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can see the future when his wife come's into your work place to rip you to shreds,infront of all your work colleagues when she finds out. Can you cope with that..."

I would have to agree with this. Fucking an attached work colleague is a disaster waiting to happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

don't message me if u married me n what's that all about lol on the other side u trying to hook up with a married man with kids n worker possibly ruin his relationship n family for ur own benefit i hope he a faithfull n turn ur offer down xx

5ft 0 curvy chubby I wouldn't risk it in million years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stay well clear

If you work with the guy 9 times outa 10 the sex will be made public knowledge and you will be the chick that will be known as girl that broke up a happy home

If he's on fab...thsts a different matter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Come join the morality bus on a swinger/casual sex site!! Wow

Morality aside, its just not worth it on so many levels.

Find something about him that irritates you, concentrate on it and your lust for him will soon fade. Believe me I've had to do it before and it's the only way I found that worked.

Unless of course you fancy being the company home wrecker or bike?

Obviously the choice is yours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Eh? If she broke up a family unit for a bit of how's your father, wouldn't that be the 'real' her doing that? "

No. It would be the real him. She's got nothing to lose (possibly her job)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unless of course you fancy being the company home wrecker or bike?

This.

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By *imetoexplore69Couple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

"As I said it goes against my moral compass. I do NOT want to break up anybodys relationship. Just want some hot fun

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you have a vagina.you can easy find a fuck on a website called fabswinger so need to go against your supposed morals and potentially embaress yourself in the workplace

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Flirt but don't take it further. Just use him as a fantasy whilst lady wanking instead.

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By *sThunderThighsWoman
over a year ago

Toy Land

"Keep it in the walk bank as a fantasy x"

Exactly what I was going to say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You already have your answer. Your conscience gave you that. Don't betray your own ideals as that in itself makes you feel shite. Add to that the fact you may damage or break a relationship makes it worse.

STAY AWAY AND STOP THINKING WITH YOUR FANNY

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You only want him because you can't have him.

If he was single and available I bet you wouldn't find him half as sexy or attractive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He is a lousy shag anyway, small cock and selfish

Move on to other better things

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

Imagine his wife and children standing at your door Asking you why?

Its not worth it OP...the grass isnt greener on the other side ....

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"As I said it goes against my moral compass. I do NOT want to break up anybodys relationship. Just want some hot fun

Then I would steer clear.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

"You only want him because you can't have him.

If he was single and available I bet you wouldn't find him half as sexy or attractive."

I fancy my boss, we enjoy flirting with each other but that's as far as it will go. Way too risky!!

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By *rladytoyMan
over a year ago

bournemouth

"I am longing to be fucked by this man at work. It is both dangerous and risky, but how can I offer him a non embarassing, subtle but effective offer ???? I don't want to be obvious x

Replies from men in particular needed please? Mens points of view?xx

Years ago i was the man in this situation. I knew she wanted it, as he probably does. I played on it but it went on for ages and became boring, until she basically just asked me if i fancied a drink after work one night....

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Keep it a fantasy op.

Is it worth potentially hurting others and putting work at risk for some fun?.

You know its wrong going by what you have ready said.

Miss

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By *imandher84Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

Empathy.

Without it we're no more than monkeys flinging our poop at the neighbours..tbf i don't much like my neighbour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As I said it goes against my moral compass. I do NOT want to break up anybodys relationship. Just want some hot fun

Leave the guy alone then.

Respect his relationship. Think how his kids will feel if it all blows up.

He may be looking to play away but, personally, I'd want nothing to do with it.

I agree with the above. But me being a twat i went with a married guy.

Fucked the friendship up. Still trying to get it back

My advice dont do it"

I can relate to this. I wouldn't do it either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just quietly ask the guy if he fancies some discreet no strings fun.

It's up to him then

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"I am longing to be fucked by this man at work. It is both dangerous and risky, but how can I offer him a non embarassing, subtle but effective offer ???? I don't want to be obvious x

Replies from men in particular needed please? Mens points of view?xx

There is a big difference between flirting and having banter with a work colleague and wanting to shag them.

I might flirt/have a laugh on occasion at work, but that's it. I have zero interest in taking it further.

It could well be the same for him.

Plus, is the risk of drama/hassle and possible embarrassment, really worth it?

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

I don't like the fact that it is work too because those work swinging relationships easily become something serious so I will advice you forget the guy because home damage is against our swingers ethics , I am therefore not in support and will not provide any game that will assist the op in catching this guy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Steer clear is my advice

It's a disaster waiting to happen if you ask me

As the old saying goes never mix work and pleasure

Also think of the repercussions it will have on his family

There are plenty of singles guys not only on this site but many others or out in the real world that could scratch that itch for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Leave him alone if he's in a relationship only trouble will come of it one way or another

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"Good question , of course there is a double standard applied to guys, I am amazed the ladies are silent and in support, if it was a guy asking, they will have torn him apart. Fucking the guy is easy in my opinion , am only concerned that the op will not keep it player style and want a relationship and that is what I am not in support of because I am not interested in spliting any home.

You are amazed the ladies are in support,have you read the thread!!

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Yeah,don't get me wrong, I have no problem with you fucking attached guys as long as you keep it player style, it's always fuck and go, no feelings and no serious relationships.

There must be no damage to the primary relationships because swingers do not bring pain to innocent folks, in this case the innocent ones are the family of the guy, this is our code of conduct and ethics as swingers.

This is why I love the hotwives.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just fuck him

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

Um..I don't think the ladies are in support....

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By *ucklingsCouple
over a year ago

Rugby

I’m sorry, but wtf are you on about. It goes against your moral compass and you don’t wanna break a relationship up??!!! Firstly, your moral compass is way out off tune!!! Secondly, if you go and get him, you might ruin a relationship and have kids growing up without their father. Get your moral compass straight and leave him alone!!!!

Unless they are both swingers, then get his partner in on it.

Mrs D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people on here seem to think that swinging and NSA sex are the norm in society.

It isn't! And it is best to remember what happens here, or in clubs is not acceptable behaviour in most places. Especially work places.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"Some people on here seem to think that swinging and NSA sex are the norm in society.

It isn't! And it is best to remember what happens here, or in clubs is not acceptable behaviour in most places. Especially work places."

Absolutely. I thought this about another thread recently.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Why anyone would choose to get involved with someone they work with who is attached is completely beyond me. You make your own bed. Make sure you're prepared to lie in it. "

^^^ This.... think of the longer rather than the shorter picture

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

There is nothing wrong with fucking attached guys if you act like a Hotwife.

what I don't understand is why are some ladies so selfish, why should kids result from a swinging relationship when there are so many contraceptives available to ladies, infact more than 30, we as guys have only 1 mode of contraceptive which is the condom and me and my friends have realised that we can only depend on the condom.Infact my girlfriends told me , you can only depend on the condoms.

This is selfish, let your play affect only you. In any case we only depend on the condoms.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a slightly different take on it. My parents divorced when I was a child because one of them cheated. It destroyed my childhood and my relationship with that parent. I have spent years in therapy trying to deal with the anger I feel towards them, and to try and resolve the trust issues it left me with. I hate them for it, more than I can put into words.

I'm not going to tell you not to do it. In my experience, many people are selfish and they don't care about the long term consequences of their actions - and there is no reasoning with those people. But if you are going to do it, you need to be realistic about the harm that your actions could potentially cause.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"There is nothing wrong with fucking attached guys if you act like a Hotwife.

This is selfish, let your play affect only you. In any case we only depend on the condoms."

Leaving aside that this isn't relevant to the op. Many women aren't able to use hormonal contraception which drastically reduces their reliable choices. There is only one method of contraception that's 100% effective and that's no sexual contact at all.

What are the thirty methods? I can think of a few but not 30.

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By *exycouplemmmmCouple
over a year ago

Surrey

"You might have sex with him and not break up his marriage, not every affair does! "

Ah, but when it goes wrong... it hurts SO many people... not worth the risk. I'd leave him alone x

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By *parks133Man
over a year ago

luton

Its only sex , but its a marrige on his side, take your sexual urge to a fab guy im sure their is plenty for you;) unfortunately as a male it wouldnt take much.to temp him .

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Sex is natural and there is nothing wrong with having sex, so I would not say no contact, as a single swinger I have had many attached ladies but never have I ever wanted to damage their primary relationships, infact I just want fun and that's where it ends but some ladies play different which I don't agree with.

The medical guys should please list out all the contraceptives available to ladies , thanks.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Sex is natural and there is nothing wrong with having sex, so I would not say no contact, as a single swinger I have had many attached ladies but never have I ever wanted to damage their primary relationships, infact I just want fun and that's where it ends but some ladies play different which I don't agree with.

The medical guys should please list out all the contraceptives available to ladies , thanks. "

We women can get contraceptive advice from our doctor, family planning clinic etc. As far as I know there are barrier methods, hormonal methods, surgical methods, the kinds where you calculate your fertile periods and I.U.Ds. I don't count withdrawal as a method of contraception. There might be variations within those types though.

Incidentally what the op is talking about isn't swinging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't do it!!

Risk of losing your job.

Risk of breaking up a family.

Risk of being rejected.

Some fantasies need keeping to just that!

Find an equally hot guy on Fab, or at least not at your work, and go for it!

I think we've all been there at some point. Good luck

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"There is nothing wrong with fucking attached guys if you act like a Hotwife.

This is selfish, let your play affect only you. In any case we only depend on the condoms."

Not sure of the relevance to the OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We all want what we cant have at times you state no married,men and,its high risk and dangerous would it be really worth all the hassle if it did go wrong the grass is not always as green on the other side as,you might think but only you can make the choice if its what you really want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell him to join fab

Then you can reject him for being married!

Simple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just remember that once you have had sex with him it’s no longer a fantasy. May spoil your dreams if you do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There is nothing wrong with fucking attached guys if you act like a Hotwife.

This is selfish, let your play affect only you. In any case we only depend on the condoms.

Not sure of the relevance to the OP

How true you are. Never rely on anything always use condoms. Love your advice.

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By *rben112Man
over a year ago

worcester

There are loads of men in the West Midlands right now thinking, I hope it's me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He may be as interested as you but wary because of what he has to lose. Also, he might not trust others in your work not to notice and blab

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

He might just be being friendly. Just because someone flirts with you does not necessarily mean they want to have sexy with you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let's forget the moral aspects of seducing an attached man. Do not do from the point of view you work with him, that just creates all kinds of drama and hassles whether he fucks you or not!

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

The Wild Wetness

I'm sure there are plenty of married women on here who would loan you a husband for the night.

You get you kicks

No other parties are harmed.

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By *m3232Man
over a year ago

maidenhead

You would need to drop it in to flirting by saying your happy to have no strings sex with someone you know.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"I'm sure there are plenty of married women on here who would loan you a husband for the night.

You get you kicks

No other parties are harmed. "

OP wants a certain man though, the one she works with. Maybe she doesn't want to 'borrow' a husband from here.

At the end of the day it's up to the OP what she does. There are both moral and work implications to consider but I am sure she will decide what's best. Good luck OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personslly I'd find a distraction. Believe me that while people automatically think of the wife, I can tell you its no fun being the other woman either.

Save the heartache all round and steer clear"

Um...I can only agree!

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By *ap AdgeMan
over a year ago

Wirral

Don't it will end in.tears look for someone else

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By *ap AdgeMan
over a year ago

Wirral

Don't it will end in.tears look for someone else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"he is in a long term relationship with kids"

Only way forward imo is to ask if he and his wife have ever thought about ffm. Probably get away with it as flirty chat if he's not interested, and can fell like you've tried.

If he is then everyone can have fun and no kids get hurt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you don't want to break up any relationships or hurt anyone only want to fulfil your sexual needs then give your head a wobble and look for an unattached guy to have fun with. You say it will be sexual but if he's not biting at your advanced how do you know he even wants you??

Sorry but pisses me off women who don't want married or attached men but then post saying they need to fuck some attached guy at work!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once you have fulfilled your fantasy, will you feel hollow inside?

You set your stall out as someone who doesn't meet married men. You have your reasons and I respect that.

Knowing he is within reach but a million miles away makes the desire more intense, but what happens after? What if you get the feels for each other?

The risk / benefit analysis as conducted on the thread points rightly to frictions at work.

Could it be kept as a one-off, never to be spoken of again?

If he was single would you feel the same?

One the genie is out of the bottle, it ain't ever going back in there.

Good luck with whatever you do.

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

Inadvertently let slip about fabswingers ..he may go home and chat to his lady about it and may even sign up ...if not leave well alone

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Butt out - he is in a relationship, RESPECT that fact and leave him alone.

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By *rGenuineMan
over a year ago

Purley

It's sexual lust. You're not falling for him. It's only intensified because you see him regularly. Understand the difference.

This site is totally about the separation between sex and love.

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By *rGenuineMan
over a year ago

Purley

Also if a man had started this thread he would get an absolute torrent of abuse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am being tested and to be honest am wracked with shame and guilt. "

So you should Deliberately trying to get someone in bed knowing they’ve got children and partner is bad. You work with him and no matter how much you try to hid what you may do with him things spread around work and there’s one big chance his family could find out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am longing to be fucked by this man at work. It is both dangerous and risky, but how can I offer him a non embarassing, subtle but effective offer ???? I don't want to be obvious x

Replies from men in particular needed please? Mens points of view?xx

I think if you continue to flirt and up it a little he may get the idea. He may be flattered... i would be.. and i would be soooo attracted to an Asian lady. Good luck i hope he takes a bait

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By *rGenuineMan
over a year ago

Purley

Oh yes please wreck his marriage just for a fuck then tell us all about it.

This read is a joke. I'm sorry to be harsh but this site is created for thousands of people to enjoy the thrill of sex without complications.

How do you know he even fancies you? There are about 10 women at my work I fantasise about but that's what it is. Fantasy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Also if a man had started this thread he would get an absolute torrent of abuse.

she hasnt exactly got much encouragement if you read the posts!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Also if a man had started this thread he would get an absolute torrent of abuse.

she hasnt exactly got much encouragement if you read the posts!"

and most of that has been from men...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Also if a man had started this thread he would get an absolute torrent of abuse.

she hasnt exactly got much encouragement if you read the posts!

and most of that has been from men..."

Oh yes well done go and wreck a marriage for a wanton fuck, well done you.......

Is that enough encouragement?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shouldn't this be closed by a moderator for being too long by now?

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Shouldn't this be closed by a moderator for being too long by now?

It should be closed as there has been rule breaking on it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Shouldn't this be closed by a moderator for being too long by now?

It should be closed as there has been rule breaking on it. "

That too.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Shouldn't this be closed by a moderator for being too long by now?

It should be closed as there has been rule breaking on it.

That too. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Shouldn't this be closed by a moderator for being too long by now?

It should be closed as there has been rule breaking on it.

That too.

Why the glum face?

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