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By *astmidlandscouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Hi. Sarah was thinking of setting up her own profile, but we just wondered if any other couples have done this. The idea is that she'd be able to manage her own messages, and I won't have access to it, which I kinda like the idea of - secret from me, unless she shows me She will make it clear that she is also part of a couple, and although it might only get used for Fab interaction, if any meets did come of it, she would make it clear that I (Matt) will be present (at least on the first meet) - can't be too careful! Have any other couples done this? Do the Fab T's and C's even allow it? Thanks! x

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By *XHNHWoman
over a year ago

Stokeish...

I know lots of couples who have single profiles too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, as long as she uses her single profile purely as a single person, and not start filling it with 'will only meet with my husband' kind of stuff, because then it may as well be another couple disguised as a single woman profile.

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By *apillonNoirWoman
over a year ago

There...

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By *arnsleycouple7683Couple
over a year ago

Barnsley

I don't see the point of having a single profile if she's only going to meet with you tagging along.

Even just for first meets, that's going to put people off meeting her if they are just wanting to meet a single woman

You have a couple profile for meeting people together.

Keep them separate.

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By *apillonNoirWoman
over a year ago

There...

I have a single fem profile, he has a single male profile and we use these to meet alone. We meet together on our couples profile. I wouldn't meet a woman on a single fem profile who wanted her other half to tag along.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

loads do this

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

I agree with above comments. I wouldn't meet even if the partner was only there for a short period of time.

Have a single profile and meet as a single person.

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By *astmidlandscouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Yes, all fair points. We'll have a think about it. Thanks guys x

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

We have a couple profile and one each! I don't recommend it.

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By *astmidlandscouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"We have a couple profile and one each! I don't recommend it."

Does it get confusing?

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"We have a couple profile and one each! I don't recommend it.

Does it get confusing?"

No i don't think so.

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By *andACouple
over a year ago

glasgow


"Hi. Sarah was thinking of setting up her own profile, but we just wondered if any other couples have done this. The idea is that she'd be able to manage her own messages, and I won't have access to it, which I kinda like the idea of - secret from me, unless she shows me She will make it clear that she is also part of a couple, and although it might only get used for Fab interaction, if any meets did come of it, she would make it clear that I (Matt) will be present (at least on the first meet) - can't be too careful! Have any other couples done this? Do the Fab T's and C's even allow it? Thanks! x"

Couldn't you just get her to change the password on your current profile then it'll only be her managing it?

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By *astmidlandscouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"We have a couple profile and one each! I don't recommend it.

Does it get confusing?

No i don't think so."

Oh ok, thanks. Just wondered why you don't recommend it, as a couple that also have your own profiles.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"We have a couple profile and one each! I don't recommend it.

Does it get confusing?

No i don't think so.

Oh ok, thanks. Just wondered why you don't recommend it, as a couple that also have your own profiles."

It marked the beginning of the end of swinging as a couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have a couple profile and one each! I don't recommend it.

Does it get confusing?"

No although I don't meet anyone anymore and barely chat to anyone so there's not much to confuse

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By *astmidlandscouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"We have a couple profile and one each! I don't recommend it.

Does it get confusing?

No i don't think so.

Oh ok, thanks. Just wondered why you don't recommend it, as a couple that also have your own profiles.

It marked the beginning of the end of swinging as a couple."

Ah, sorry to hear that! Thank you again for the advice!

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

L had a single profile, looking for specific meets, I thought about i a separate profile because of my kink, however good communication hasn't stop me meeting separately. Plus somehow it feels more honest.

It's all about the dynamic, for me, not the process.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed


"We have a couple profile and one each! I don't recommend it.

Does it get confusing?

No i don't think so.

Oh ok, thanks. Just wondered why you don't recommend it, as a couple that also have your own profiles.

It marked the beginning of the end of swinging as a couple."

That does not sound healthy.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"We have a couple profile and one each! I don't recommend it.

Does it get confusing?

No i don't think so.

Oh ok, thanks. Just wondered why you don't recommend it, as a couple that also have your own profiles.

It marked the beginning of the end of swinging as a couple.

Ah, sorry to hear that! Thank you again for the advice!"

The key to swinging as a couple is transparency. Try not to contact people separately. Have a "fab" phone for texting people that you are interested in a "single" meet with, that you both have access to. Don't let one guy try and monopolize your wife. Try and do as much together as possible, even if that's both being there while one is have a text conversation with another single. If one of you wants the other to stop contact with someone then STOP. No questions asked. There's guys out there who are expert manipulators/control freaks. There's nothing worse than having your relationship undermined by these people.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed


"We have a couple profile and one each! I don't recommend it.

Does it get confusing?

No i don't think so.

Oh ok, thanks. Just wondered why you don't recommend it, as a couple that also have your own profiles.

It marked the beginning of the end of swinging as a couple.

Ah, sorry to hear that! Thank you again for the advice!

The key to swinging as a couple is transparency. Try not to contact people separately. Have a "fab" phone for texting people that you are interested in a "single" meet with, that you both have access to. Don't let one guy try and monopolize your wife. Try and do as much together as possible, even if that's both being there while one is have a text conversation with another single. If one of you wants the other to stop contact with someone then STOP. No questions asked. There's guys out there who are expert manipulators/control freaks. There's nothing worse than having your relationship undermined by these people.

"

I can see what you are saying but it seems to be more of an issue with the partner than the single fella. You can only be manipulated to the extent that you allow.

I know all relationships are different but in our opinion, a husband /wife/life partners first concern should be for their partner not someone who they occasionally fuck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have a couple profile and one each! I don't recommend it.

Does it get confusing?

No i don't think so.

Oh ok, thanks. Just wondered why you don't recommend it, as a couple that also have your own profiles.

It marked the beginning of the end of swinging as a couple.

Ah, sorry to hear that! Thank you again for the advice!

The key to swinging as a couple is transparency. Try not to contact people separately. Have a "fab" phone for texting people that you are interested in a "single" meet with, that you both have access to. Don't let one guy try and monopolize your wife. Try and do as much together as possible, even if that's both being there while one is have a text conversation with another single. If one of you wants the other to stop contact with someone then STOP. No questions asked. There's guys out there who are expert manipulators/control freaks. There's nothing worse than having your relationship undermined by these people.

I can see what you are saying but it seems to be more of an issue with the partner than the single fella. You can only be manipulated to the extent that you allow.

I know all relationships are different but in our opinion, a husband /wife/life partners first concern should be for their partner not someone who they occasionally fuck.

"

In an ideal world we all get everything right 100% of the time and we never make errors in judgement. Real life isn't ideal. It's easy to give our opinion and say what we should do and how we should behave.

Fab

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

There is no problem having a singles profile as well as a couples on - providing you only meet as a single from it.

If you want to meet as a couple it should be arranged from the couples profile.

If you have a singles profile that mentions the partner being present and admin spot it they will most likely change it to another couples profile. People may report it too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We did this and someone reported us for having two profiles although we did clearly state we had a couples profile in my single one.

Haters gotta hate hate hate hate. Such a shame that so many narrow minded people on a site like this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi. Sarah was thinking of setting up her own profile, but we just wondered if any other couples have done this. The idea is that she'd be able to manage her own messages, and I won't have access to it, which I kinda like the idea of - secret from me, unless she shows me She will make it clear that she is also part of a couple, and although it might only get used for Fab interaction, if any meets did come of it, she would make it clear that that I (Matt) will be present (at least on the first meet) - can't be too careful! Have any other couples done this? Do the Fab T's and C's even allow it? Thanks! x"

I did it for similar reasons you are mentioning and it worked really well. It added to the fun of meets where he would become involved at some point. It was too complicated for me to try and scheme and plan from our couples profile. X

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"We have a couple profile and one each! I don't recommend it.

Does it get confusing?

No i don't think so.

Oh ok, thanks. Just wondered why you don't recommend it, as a couple that also have your own profiles.

It marked the beginning of the end of swinging as a couple.

Ah, sorry to hear that! Thank you again for the advice!

The key to swinging as a couple is transparency. Try not to contact people separately. Have a "fab" phone for texting people that you are interested in a "single" meet with, that you both have access to. Don't let one guy try and monopolize your wife. Try and do as much together as possible, even if that's both being there while one is have a text conversation with another single. If one of you wants the other to stop contact with someone then STOP. No questions asked. There's guys out there who are expert manipulators/control freaks. There's nothing worse than having your relationship undermined by these people.

"

We only use fab to communicate with anyone , before and after meeting them .

Separate accounts , texting ( sexting ) , and so on are the furthest thing from our list of desires .

Not because of the temptation , the wish to experience the cuck scene , or anything else . But just because swinging for us is about sharing each and every experience , thought , fantasy and desire with each other .

Good luck to all those couples who have separate accounts , and those who swing as singles and share the experience with their partners . But for us , that's not what it's about .

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By *astmidlandscouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Gosh, there is quite a mix of opinions! The advice about keeping the single profile as it says on the tin - single - is sound though. Thanks again everyone xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you're there when she meets people from her single profile you will have to be on the profile.

If she chats to people and explains her single profile is just for chat and they have to message the couple's profile you might get around it. But, someone could report her for being a couples profile.

Why not have her own kik account that you can't access for secret chats?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We did this and someone reported us for having two profiles although we did clearly state we had a couples profile in my single one.

Haters gotta hate hate hate hate. Such a shame that so many narrow minded people on a site like this "

It's not about haters, it's about people searching singles and there being a partner who is always present. That's two people, which isn't a single person.

I'd be pissed off if I was talking to a woman and she said her partner always accompanied her to meet.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Yes I had a couples profile like this and we kept our single profiles as well.

Although I agree with Brain that "If you're there when she meets people from her single profile you will have to be on the profile."

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"Yes I had a couples profile like this and we kept our single profiles as well.

Although I agree with Brain that "If you're there when she meets people from her single profile you will have to be on the profile.""

Agreed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally, we want to meet what we envisage. So if we searched for a woman, we expect it's a woman with no tag along partner. If we search for a couple, we expect it's a couple and not just one wanting to meet.

When the above problems happen, we just avoid and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi. Sarah was thinking of setting up her own profile, but we just wondered if any other couples have done this. The idea is that she'd be able to manage her own messages, and I won't have access to it, which I kinda like the idea of - secret from me, unless she shows me She will make it clear that she is also part of a couple, and although it might only get used for Fab interaction, if any meets did come of it, she would make it clear that I (Matt) will be present (at least on the first meet) - can't be too careful! Have any other couples done this? Do the Fab T's and C's even allow it? Thanks! x"

No single profiles unless you're meeting as a single. If you're only meeting as a couple on this singles profile then you will be reported. I have reported many that I have seen do this.

Meet as a couple on your couples profile. If you're not meeting as a single then you shouldn't have a singles profile.

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By *ischief ManagedCouple
over a year ago

manchester

Hello , yes we have this although the male very less successful than the females own account . Enjoy it's fun and she is open about it hey it's a turn on for me also.we have made it clear that we both have a joint one as well.We don't use them for meeting as a couple only as a single.Enjoy and have fun!

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"Hi. Sarah was thinking of setting up her own profile, but we just wondered if any other couples have done this. The idea is that she'd be able to manage her own messages, and I won't have access to it, which I kinda like the idea of - secret from me, unless she shows me She will make it clear that she is also part of a couple, and although it might only get used for Fab interaction, if any meets did come of it, she would make it clear that I (Matt) will be present (at least on the first meet) - can't be too careful! Have any other couples done this? Do the Fab T's and C's even allow it? Thanks! x

No single profiles unless you're meeting as a single. If you're only meeting as a couple on this singles profile then you will be reported. I have reported many that I have seen do this.

Meet as a couple on your couples profile. If you're not meeting as a single then you shouldn't have a singles profile."

Can you please, respectfully, reference that in the guidelines/rules of the site...

Never realised a open swingers site has so many unwritten rules from perspectives.

I always thought it was about having great fun.

Damn, must be another urban myth rule I haven't read... so many oh hums...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi. Sarah was thinking of setting up her own profile, but we just wondered if any other couples have done this. The idea is that she'd be able to manage her own messages, and I won't have access to it, which I kinda like the idea of - secret from me, unless she shows me She will make it clear that she is also part of a couple, and although it might only get used for Fab interaction, if any meets did come of it, she would make it clear that I (Matt) will be present (at least on the first meet) - can't be too careful! Have any other couples done this? Do the Fab T's and C's even allow it? Thanks! x

No single profiles unless you're meeting as a single. If you're only meeting as a couple on this singles profile then you will be reported. I have reported many that I have seen do this.

Meet as a couple on your couples profile. If you're not meeting as a single then you shouldn't have a singles profile.

Can you please, respectfully, reference that in the guidelines/rules of the site...

Never realised a open swingers site has so many unwritten rules from perspectives.

I always thought it was about having great fun.

Damn, must be another urban myth rule I haven't read... so many oh hums..."

I never mentioned anything about rules, only stating what should and shouldn't be done. Clearly many agree with me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would never meet a fem who had messaged me from a profile saying their partner would be there. Even just for the first meet. That to me is a couple using the lure of a single fem profile to meet. Absolutely changes the dynamic of a meet. If I want a single fem then I will look for them, likewise couples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would never meet a fem who had messaged me from a profile saying their partner would be there. Even just for the first meet. That to me is a couple using the lure of a single fem profile to meet. Absolutely changes the dynamic of a meet. If I want a single fem then I will look for them, likewise couples."

Well said!

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"Hi. Sarah was thinking of setting up her own profile, but we just wondered if any other couples have done this. The idea is that she'd be able to manage her own messages, and I won't have access to it, which I kinda like the idea of - secret from me, unless she shows me She will make it clear that she is also part of a couple, and although it might only get used for Fab interaction, if any meets did come of it, she would make it clear that I (Matt) will be present (at least on the first meet) - can't be too careful! Have any other couples done this? Do the Fab T's and C's even allow it? Thanks! x"

How do you think single women manage then?

If you are going to be with her on meets, it won't be a single womans profile and someone may report it as such.

You may also attract the sort of man who just wants a wet hole.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a single fem profile and a cpls profile with my husband

Altho on my single profile I state I have a husband and he knows and will always know who I'm with and where I am...i would always be meeting alone...whats the point of a single profile then??

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By *jleedsCouple
over a year ago

leeds

Were thinking of doing this to so she can have some fun as a bi fem.shes had solo meets with blokes now whats to have fun with sum women plus she can manage her own messages

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By *elma and ShaggyCouple
over a year ago

Bedworth


"I have a single fem profile and a cpls profile with my husband

Altho on my single profile I state I have a husband and he knows and will always know who I'm with and where I am...i would always be meeting alone...whats the point of a single profile then??

"

Having that on your single profile sounds perfect. All of us should take a leaf out of your book and take precautions for our safety by having someone know where you are and who you're meeting

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By *rs DreamweaverWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

We have both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi. Sarah was thinking of setting up her own profile, but we just wondered if any other couples have done this. The idea is that she'd be able to manage her own messages, and I won't have access to it, which I kinda like the idea of - secret from me, unless she shows me She will make it clear that she is also part of a couple, and although it might only get used for Fab interaction, if any meets did come of it, she would make it clear that I (Matt) will be present (at least on the first meet) - can't be too careful! Have any other couples done this? Do the Fab T's and C's even allow it? Thanks! x"
thinking of letting ann do the same thing

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By *ornysxguyMan
over a year ago

Maldon, Essex

One of the most frustrating things for anyone searching for single women is when you read through a profile that pretty much sums up as a couples profile. I too have reported many profiles for this reason. Either you play solo or you don't. There is no in between in my eyes.

Just damn annoying sifting through what's supposed to be a single women's search to be confronted with "partner will always be present and may play"

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By *lactontogMan
over a year ago

Clacton on Sea

I have a separate solo profile as well as couples profile on here for meeting single ladies with Kim's full consent, we both have login details to the profiles so no secrets etc.

I would be happy for Kim to have a solo profile if she ever wanted one, swinging should be kept as fun with no deceit from either partner for it to run smoothly.

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By *astmidlandscouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Thanks everyone for the feedback. Having reflected on it for a few days, a single/solo stance seems like the best approach - meeting solo from the outset, but making it clear that we're married just so no-one is being deceived. I like the idea of the husband at least being informed though - safety first! It's encouraging that lots of other couples have solo female accounts too xx

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By *s_bettyboopWoman
over a year ago

-3

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By *s_bettyboopWoman
over a year ago

-3

I have my single profile and couples one. I meet alone on this one and it works really well for me.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"Thanks everyone for the feedback. Having reflected on it for a few days, a single/solo stance seems like the best approach - meeting solo from the outset, but making it clear that we're married just so no-one is being deceived. I like the idea of the husband at least being informed though - safety first! It's encouraging that lots of other couples have solo female accounts too xx"

DONT swap personal phone numbers!

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