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By *astmidlandscouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

As parents, we don't get a massive amount of free time, and we have to plan in advance. We've now scored 3 out of 3 with letdowns at the last minute from single guys. All we want to do is meet for a quick drink! Excuses, in order, have been 1., unexpectedly had to work a double shift, 2., suddenly taken ill, 3., didn't get paid. Now, some of these reasons could be genuine, who knows, perhaps they all were, but it's hard not to start feeling a little cynical. Even the "I won't let you down" guy let us down. Sorry, rant over :P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meet me, I never say no xx

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"As parents, we don't get a massive amount of free time, and we have to plan in advance. We've now scored 3 out of 3 with letdowns at the last minute from single guys. All we want to do is meet for a quick drink! Excuses, in order, have been 1., unexpectedly had to work a double shift, 2., suddenly taken ill, 3., didn't get paid. Now, some of these reasons could be genuine, who knows, perhaps they all were, but it's hard not to start feeling a little cynical. Even the "I won't let you down" guy let us down. Sorry, rant over :P"

It could be just a run of bad luck. Looking at your pics and profile, we can't see any reason why guys should flake.

All we can suggest is that you talk to the guys a lot in advance. You then get a feel as to whether they are likely to turn up.

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By *ewBurtonMan
over a year ago

Derby

It's a shame about the single guys letting you down. my guess they were all married but as you say could be genuine.

I always try to have a chat over the phone before a meet. Hope you have better luck in the future

Ps. Shame I'm not 6 foot tall.

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By *taceylacyCouple
over a year ago

NOTTINGHAM

Just blessed co them. Most are pic collecting time wasters who are probably getting off just because you replied to them. My block list is huge but still get constant messages from wankers.

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By *uited staffs guyMan
over a year ago

staffordshire

A few i think like the idea but not the reality

I don't know whether these people have proof of meeting before and had genuine excuses but a 3/3 cancellation rate seems poor

Saying that it's not just single guys we get cancelled on lots as well and I agree it's very annoying!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP - I feel your pain !

I feel like the grim reaper sometimes cause the amount of dead relatives or dead dogs that happen just before a meet ! Its ridiculous lol x

However - in LEEDS - every guy turned up, was gorgeous and good ! Hence another road trip to Leeds next month

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Just blessed co them. Most are pic collecting time wasters who are probably getting off just because you replied to them. My block list is huge but still get constant messages from wankers."

A lot have a quick wank over the idea of meeting but do t have the balls to.

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By *londie8399Couple
over a year ago

blackpool

Cant comment on single male's but we have been let down by couples before thats why we only meet in clubs now

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Cant comment on single male's but we have been let down by couples before thats why we only meet in clubs now"

Let down by couples and ladies lol

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By *londie8399Couple
over a year ago

blackpool


"Cant comment on single male's but we have been let down by couples before thats why we only meet in clubs now

Let down by couples and ladies lol"

I don't think it matter if it's couples,single ladies,or single men we have all had let downs at some point

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"Cant comment on single male's but we have been let down by couples before thats why we only meet in clubs now

Let down by couples and ladies lol

I don't think it matter if it's couples,single ladies,or single men we have all had let downs at some point"

I think that's right. Swinging is essentially socially transgressive so it takes a certain amount of courage to actually do it. And courage will fail for some.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not just guys.. single girls and couples alike blowout, as a couple if we plan a night out and get blown out..we just get fucked and enjoy eachother immensley, dont let a meet guide your lifestyle and how you enjoy your free time, its a loss to them, not you x

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By *londie8399Couple
over a year ago

blackpool


"Its not just guys.. single girls and couples alike blowout, as a couple if we plan a night out and get blown out..we just get fucked and enjoy eachother immensley, dont let a meet guide your lifestyle and how you enjoy your free time, its a loss to them, not you x "

Couldn't agree more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thank goodness you have each other then . Being let down is not gender specific. It happens to most on here. Regardless of sex .

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By *astmidlandscouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"OP - I feel your pain !

I feel like the grim reaper sometimes cause the amount of dead relatives or dead dogs that happen just before a meet ! Its ridiculous lol x"

Ha ha, yes! x

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By *ifferent69Man
over a year ago

BRIGHTON, UK

Let me the first to apologise on behalf of those who have let you down.

Bamboozled..??

If your a single guy on Fans and get asked for a social as a possible pre- curser ,you should consider yourself fortunate.

Though I suspect these guys we,nt genuinely single. Though no exsuse to take it up to time and date to then make an excuse.... Wow..that's... low.

Come on guys..us singletons have enough of a tough time without you guys making our reps harder...

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By *uited staffs guyMan
over a year ago

staffordshire


"Thank goodness you have each other then . Being let down is not gender specific. It happens to most on here. Regardless of sex . "

Exactly when you're let down and a couple you've still got each other - not so great if you're a single guy or lady!

It used to get me really annoyed but after reading the forum you soon realise it happens to lots of people!

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By *astmidlandscouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Thanks all. It's just annoying because all we wanted to do was meet socially - hardly very naughty - seems a bit lame to chicken out of a simple a drink in a pub, but who knows, maybe they really did have to work late/fall ill/not get paid! Just annoying because Sarah had even bought a nice new dress to wear! But yes, we will go out tonight and have a nice time regardless xx

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Thank goodness you have each other then . Being let down is not gender specific. It happens to most on here. Regardless of sex .

Exactly when you're let down and a couple you've still got each other - not so great if you're a single guy or lady!

It used to get me really annoyed but after reading the forum you soon realise it happens to lots of people!"

And often let down at the last minute so no time to organise another meet

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By *uited staffs guyMan
over a year ago

staffordshire


"Thank goodness you have each other then . Being let down is not gender specific. It happens to most on here. Regardless of sex .

Exactly when you're let down and a couple you've still got each other - not so great if you're a single guy or lady!

It used to get me really annoyed but after reading the forum you soon realise it happens to lots of people!

And often let down at the last minute so no time to organise another meet"

Indeed - when that happens and you try to arrange a very last minute meet most people think you're a chancer and aren't interested!

Whilst I don't enjoy being let down some notice does help

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By *hav02Man
over a year ago

Glasgow/London

I've been let down by women too. Happens both ways. You seem like a nice couple, I'd meet you, but I'm not local nor in the area....

Good luck though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank goodness you have each other then . Being let down is not gender specific. It happens to most on here. Regardless of sex .

Exactly when you're let down and a couple you've still got each other - not so great if you're a single guy or lady!

It used to get me really annoyed but after reading the forum you soon realise it happens to lots of people!

And often let down at the last minute so no time to organise another meet

Indeed - when that happens and you try to arrange a very last minute meet most people think you're a chancer and aren't interested!

Whilst I don't enjoy being let down some notice does help "

I never do quickie meets. So I find I have to go back to the drawing board of getting to know someone again. I've gotten to the point where I just shrug it off and see it as the way of fab. You never know who will stick to their word until they are standing in front of you .

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By *astmidlandscouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"And often let down at the last minute so no time to organise another meet"

Yes, and we have to plan quite far in advance because of family commitments!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And often let down at the last minute so no time to organise another meet

Yes, and we have to plan quite far in advance because of family commitments!"

I am a single parent to a toddler. I feel your pain there

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By *astmidlandscouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"You never know who will stick to their word until they are standing in front of you . "

So true! xx

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By *uited staffs guyMan
over a year ago

staffordshire


"Thank goodness you have each other then . Being let down is not gender specific. It happens to most on here. Regardless of sex .

Exactly when you're let down and a couple you've still got each other - not so great if you're a single guy or lady!

It used to get me really annoyed but after reading the forum you soon realise it happens to lots of people!

And often let down at the last minute so no time to organise another meet

Indeed - when that happens and you try to arrange a very last minute meet most people think you're a chancer and aren't interested!

Whilst I don't enjoy being let down some notice does help

I never do quickie meets. So I find I have to go back to the drawing board of getting to know someone again. I've gotten to the point where I just shrug it off and see it as the way of fab. You never know who will stick to their word until they are standing in front of you . "

True - I've had chats with people I swear there's a good connection with and they're turn up only to go silent or cancel

And then people who I want sure would turn up and yet have ended up having the most amazing meet ever

It really is so hard to tell, but if you don't try you never get anywhere!

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By *astmidlandscouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"You seem like a nice couple, I'd meet you, but I'm not local nor in the area....

Good luck though "

Thank you! We were starting to get paranoid there was something wrong with our profile! x

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By *ustJ0dieTV/TS
over a year ago

Burton-on-Trent

You know you've hit the shit excuse jackpot when you get "[insert relative here] has been taken to hospital unexpectedly"

That's when you've hit the bigtime. Until then you're just amateurs!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank goodness you have each other then . Being let down is not gender specific. It happens to most on here. Regardless of sex .

Exactly when you're let down and a couple you've still got each other - not so great if you're a single guy or lady!

It used to get me really annoyed but after reading the forum you soon realise it happens to lots of people!

And often let down at the last minute so no time to organise another meet

Indeed - when that happens and you try to arrange a very last minute meet most people think you're a chancer and aren't interested!

Whilst I don't enjoy being let down some notice does help

I never do quickie meets. So I find I have to go back to the drawing board of getting to know someone again. I've gotten to the point where I just shrug it off and see it as the way of fab. You never know who will stick to their word until they are standing in front of you .

True - I've had chats with people I swear there's a good connection with and they're turn up only to go silent or cancel

And then people who I want sure would turn up and yet have ended up having the most amazing meet ever

It really is so hard to tell, but if you don't try you never get anywhere!"

Exactly. It's definitely worth trying again. I wouldn't let a few people sully my experience on here. I've met some wonderful people who are now great friends and had some lovely meets. When it works, it's great

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By *astmidlandscouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Yes, we just need someone to actually turn up to restore our faith x

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By *m3232Man
over a year ago

maidenhead


"OP - I feel your pain !

I feel like the grim reaper sometimes cause the amount of dead relatives or dead dogs that happen just before a meet ! Its ridiculous lol x

However - in LEEDS - every guy turned up, was gorgeous and good ! Hence another road trip to Leeds next month "

Looking like you do I would never let you down

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By *londie8399Couple
over a year ago

blackpool


"And often let down at the last minute so no time to organise another meet

Yes, and we have to plan quite far in advance because of family commitments!"

I feel your pain your time is limited when u have a family so it's harder to arrange things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP - I feel your pain !

I feel like the grim reaper sometimes cause the amount of dead relatives or dead dogs that happen just before a meet ! Its ridiculous lol x

However - in LEEDS - every guy turned up, was gorgeous and good ! Hence another road trip to Leeds next month

Looking like you do I would never let you down "

Ahhh the "I'd never let you down guy"..... The ones I trust the least

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante


"You seem like a nice couple, I'd meet you, but I'm not local nor in the area....

Good luck though

Thank you! We were starting to get paranoid there was something wrong with our profile! x"

We only play at the club now mainly because we prefer it but also due to constant let downs in the past. This way we can be assured of a good time without any hassle.

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By *uited staffs guyMan
over a year ago

staffordshire


"Yes, we just need someone to actually turn up to restore our faith x"

It'll happen - you'll get a message from a 6ft 8 guy who's at a complete loose end anytime now!

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"You seem like a nice couple, I'd meet you, but I'm not local nor in the area....

Good luck though

Thank you! We were starting to get paranoid there was something wrong with our profile! x

We only play at the club now mainly because we prefer it but also due to constant let downs in the past. This way we can be assured of a good time without any hassle."

I don't even have that option my nearest club is 3 half hours drive

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By *astmidlandscouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Looking like you do I would never let you down "

That's what the last guy said!

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville


"OP - I feel your pain !

I feel like the grim reaper sometimes cause the amount of dead relatives or dead dogs that happen just before a meet ! Its ridiculous lol x

However - in LEEDS - every guy turned up, was gorgeous and good ! Hence another road trip to Leeds next month "

Funny. But hey at least you got an excuse! Our last let down just played along he was coming leaving us waiting until we realised he was a no show. So annoying

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By *uited staffs guyMan
over a year ago

staffordshire


"OP - I feel your pain !

I feel like the grim reaper sometimes cause the amount of dead relatives or dead dogs that happen just before a meet ! Its ridiculous lol x

However - in LEEDS - every guy turned up, was gorgeous and good ! Hence another road trip to Leeds next month

Funny. But hey at least you got an excuse! Our last let down just played along he was coming leaving us waiting until we realised he was a no show. So annoying "

That's even worse than a cancel- you wonder if they get some kick from ruining your evening!

And by not cancelling they totally blow any chance of arranging something else

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By *astmidlandscouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Our last let down just played along he was coming leaving us waiting until we realised he was a no show. So annoying "

Fab should have some terms and conditions: be nice, don't be a dick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As odd as it sounds I've had A few great meets because people have been a no show, ok it's not ideal being the second, third or even fourth choice but at least I've always turned up for the meets

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area


"OP - I feel your pain !

I feel like the grim reaper sometimes cause the amount of dead relatives or dead dogs that happen just before a meet ! Its ridiculous lol x

However - in LEEDS - every guy turned up, was gorgeous and good ! Hence another road trip to Leeds next month "

When's your road trip to Bristol?

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

There's a report for no shows on the site what actually happens when you do this? Does anyone know?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too many chickens i guess

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville


"OP - I feel your pain !

I feel like the grim reaper sometimes cause the amount of dead relatives or dead dogs that happen just before a meet ! Its ridiculous lol x

However - in LEEDS - every guy turned up, was gorgeous and good ! Hence another road trip to Leeds next month

Funny. But hey at least you got an excuse! Our last let down just played along he was coming leaving us waiting until we realised he was a no show. So annoying

That's even worse than a cancel- you wonder if they get some kick from ruining your evening!

And by not cancelling they totally blow any chance of arranging something else "

Yes Sir came home early to tidy. I spent enough time dressing for the meet. We'd spoken to this guy for months

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your not alone OP we suffer similar fate off single guys

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow


"You seem like a nice couple, I'd meet you, but I'm not local nor in the area....

Good luck though

Thank you! We were starting to get paranoid there was something wrong with our profile! x"

I would say your profile is good. Nice photos, a few veri's, you say what your looking for and you go to chams. If I was in Nottingham, would have definatley said yes to that social drink

I may have wanted to see face pics first but other than that you appear decent and nice couple

I hope you find someone to join you

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By *uited staffs guyMan
over a year ago

staffordshire


"OP - I feel your pain !

I feel like the grim reaper sometimes cause the amount of dead relatives or dead dogs that happen just before a meet ! Its ridiculous lol x

However - in LEEDS - every guy turned up, was gorgeous and good ! Hence another road trip to Leeds next month

Funny. But hey at least you got an excuse! Our last let down just played along he was coming leaving us waiting until we realised he was a no show. So annoying

That's even worse than a cancel- you wonder if they get some kick from ruining your evening!

And by not cancelling they totally blow any chance of arranging something else

Yes Sir came home early to tidy. I spent enough time dressing for the meet. We'd spoken to this guy for months "

That's ridiculous, I don't see what more you could've done in terms of trying to arrange a meet that would turn up

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville


"There's a report for no shows on the site what actually happens when you do this? Does anyone know?"

It lands in the big pile of no shows

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By *wotrwuhCouple
over a year ago

NOT IN UK (Fuerteventura)


"Its not just guys.. single girls and couples alike blowout, as a couple if we plan a night out and get blown out..we just get fucked and enjoy eachother immensley, dont let a meet guide your lifestyle and how you enjoy your free time, its a loss to them, not you x "

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"There's a report for no shows on the site what actually happens when you do this? Does anyone know?"

Never seen the point of that.

Someone reports a no show. Fabs ask for their side and they either deny they didn't turn up or claim they had a good reason.

Fabs are hardly going to conduct an investigation as to who is telling the truth.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville


"There's a report for no shows on the site what actually happens when you do this? Does anyone know?

Never seen the point of that.

Someone reports a no show. Fabs ask for their side and they either deny they didn't turn up or claim they had a good reason.

Fabs are hardly going to conduct an investigation as to who is telling the truth. "

the Fab Court

I wanna be on the jury

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"There's a report for no shows on the site what actually happens when you do this? Does anyone know?

Never seen the point of that.

Someone reports a no show. Fabs ask for their side and they either deny they didn't turn up or claim they had a good reason.

Fabs are hardly going to conduct an investigation as to who is telling the truth.

the Fab Court

I wanna be on the jury "
ok I'll be the hanging judge then

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By *uited staffs guyMan
over a year ago

staffordshire


"There's a report for no shows on the site what actually happens when you do this? Does anyone know?

Never seen the point of that.

Someone reports a no show. Fabs ask for their side and they either deny they didn't turn up or claim they had a good reason.

Fabs are hardly going to conduct an investigation as to who is telling the truth.

the Fab Court

I wanna be on the jury "

I want to be the one who whips the people found guilty!

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"There's a report for no shows on the site what actually happens when you do this? Does anyone know?

Never seen the point of that.

Someone reports a no show. Fabs ask for their side and they either deny they didn't turn up or claim they had a good reason.

Fabs are hardly going to conduct an investigation as to who is telling the truth.

the Fab Court

I wanna be on the jury

I want to be the one who whips the people found guilty! "
oooh now your talking...

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By *uited staffs guyMan
over a year ago

staffordshire


"There's a report for no shows on the site what actually happens when you do this? Does anyone know?

Never seen the point of that.

Someone reports a no show. Fabs ask for their side and they either deny they didn't turn up or claim they had a good reason.

Fabs are hardly going to conduct an investigation as to who is telling the truth.

the Fab Court

I wanna be on the jury

I want to be the one who whips the people found guilty! oooh now your talking..."

I suspect some people would get themselves found guilty on purpose though!

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By *r woodcockMan
over a year ago

cambridge

And theres poor guys like me that cant get a bloody meet to save his life!!if ur ever in cambridge get at me and il be the one waiting on you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's definitely nothing wrong with your profile.

The only thing I can suggest is chat to the guys for a while before suggesting a meeting. Do you have a 'swing phone'? I tend to chat or message over the phone before a meet, confirming that the meet is still on to an hour beforehand. If it goes quiet on the day then there is a good chance they are wasting your time. I've never had my time wasted, because I like to confirm the couple or female is still available to meet. Some are late, one has been an hour late, but by keeping in touch regularly either by phone or messaging on here I at least know what's happening.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As parents, we don't get a massive amount of free time, and we have to plan in advance. We've now scored 3 out of 3 with letdowns at the last minute from single guys. All we want to do is meet for a quick drink! Excuses, in order, have been 1., unexpectedly had to work a double shift, 2., suddenly taken ill, 3., didn't get paid. Now, some of these reasons could be genuine, who knows, perhaps they all were, but it's hard not to start feeling a little cynical. Even the "I won't let you down" guy let us down. Sorry, rant over :P"

choose a guy like me , single live alone , so guarantee to turn up......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thats very frustrating- know what its like to only have limited time!

Not sure how much it will help but we only arrange to meet songle guys that have at least 2 veris - helps prove they r genuine x

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville


"Thats very frustrating- know what its like to only have limited time!

Not sure how much it will help but we only arrange to meet songle guys that have at least 2 veris - helps prove they r genuine x"

Our letdown was single and verified.

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By *astmidlandscouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"choose a guy like me , single live alone , so guarantee to turn up......"

We have, they didn't

It's just different people I suppose. Like an earlier poster said, there's literally no way of telling until they're stood right there in front of us. Oh well, never give up never giving up...

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By *astmidlandscouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Our letdown was single and verified. "

Ours too, all three of them.

Still, benefit of the doubt and all that (just!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've only had to cancel a meet once and it was due to work. However I have had lots of ladies cancel on me and also some who messaged saying they love to meet but it never materialised.

It happens I guess

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By *m3232Man
over a year ago

maidenhead


"Looking like you do I would never let you down

That's what the last guy said!"

Wasn't me though lol. Never been a no show man

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By *hrobinhoodMan
over a year ago

arnold, Nottingham

I never understand why people let others down, if I say I'm going to be there, I would turn up x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You never know who will stick to their word until they are standing in front of you .

So true! xx"

Agreed.

Never give up OP. Plenty of people will make excuses, but some will be genuine reasons. You will get what you want. Sometimes you have to go through a few to find the reliable Fabbers.

Just the way it is for all of us.

Keep on Fabbing.

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By *m3232Man
over a year ago

maidenhead


"I never understand why people let others down, if I say I'm going to be there, I would turn up x"

Ego and they get a hard on from it when in reality they are a limp dick

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By *astmidlandscouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Social arranged for Friday, arranged weeks ago... with the meet's profile suddenly changing to hidden, it's looking possible that we could be heading for 4 out of 4 no-shows :S

WAT ARE WE DOING RONG?!

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

It's simple, you are not making the guys feel comfortable and you are not getting to know the guys as friends , also the guys have not met you in a party setting to see how you operate, in my opinion because I am sure you are genuine, I will suggest you go to a couple of parties and fuck a couple of guys and build a personality , the guys will then know you and be relaxed and the no shows will not occur again.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Social arranged for Friday, arranged weeks ago... with the meet's profile suddenly changing to hidden, it's looking possible that we could be heading for 4 out of 4 no-shows :S

WAT ARE WE DOING RONG?!"
you aren't doing anything wrong

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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago

In a sleepy little village


"Social arranged for Friday, arranged weeks ago... with the meet's profile suddenly changing to hidden, it's looking possible that we could be heading for 4 out of 4 no-shows :S

WAT ARE WE DOING RONG?!"

Nothing. It's a frequent occurrence on this site unfortunately.

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By *astmidlandscouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"It's simple, you are not making the guys feel comfortable"

If we exchange messages with anyone, we are always cheery, amiable, and easy going. We do our level best to strip back any awkwardness in any message we send, so we'd hope they would feel comfortable messaging us


"and you are not getting to know the guys as friends"

That's why we keep trying to arrange these socials!


"also the guys have not met you in a party setting to see how you operate"

Some people don't go to parties. We haven't been invited to any either!


"in my opinion because I am sure you are genuine, I will suggest you go to a couple of parties"

We might if we were invited


"and fuck a couple of guys"

To us, that would feel a little unnecessary just for the purposes of meeting other people in a social setting


"and build a personality"

We already have personality - or at least we hope we do!


"the guys will then know you and be relaxed and the no shows will not occur again."

But that would feel like it would defeat the point of then arranging a social meet

Thanks for the tips anyway!

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By *astmidlandscouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"you aren't doing anything wrong"

Phew, thank you! x

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By *astmidlandscouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Nothing. It's a frequent occurrence on this site unfortunately. "

Yeah, we kinda know really. Oh well, par for the course and all that

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"you aren't doing anything wrong

Phew, thank you! x"

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By *ewBurtonMan
over a year ago

Derby

I don't know but I bet the guys you arranged to meet are married. Hope you find some good guys soon xx

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By *astmidlandscouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"I don't know but I bet the guys you arranged to meet are married. Hope you find some good guys soon xx"

Thank you David x

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"Nothing. It's a frequent occurrence on this site unfortunately.

Yeah, we kinda know really. Oh well, par for the course and all that "

You are having a run of bad luck! Are you ever round London way by any chance.

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By *astmidlandscouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"You are having a run of bad luck! Are you ever round London way by any chance.

"

Not very often sadly! x

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By *j48Man
over a year ago

Wigan

All 3 must want their heads testing looking at your photos OP

Gawjus...

I don't understand why guys do this, it's hard enough on here being a single fella without nobs letting the side down

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"You are having a run of bad luck! Are you ever round London way by any chance.

Not very often sadly! x"

Well we know quite a few reliable single guys. Message us if you want to discuss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As parents, we don't get a massive amount of free time, and we have to plan in advance. We've now scored 3 out of 3 with letdowns at the last minute from single guys. All we want to do is meet for a quick drink! Excuses, in order, have been 1., unexpectedly had to work a double shift, 2., suddenly taken ill, 3., didn't get paid. Now, some of these reasons could be genuine, who knows, perhaps they all were, but it's hard not to start feeling a little cynical. Even the "I won't let you down" guy let us down. Sorry, rant over :P"
We have had this a few times now as well, although we have met a couple of genuine guys as well. It is so annoying when you get so little free time that to give up a possible evening of couple time to have some naughty fun, that you then get let down last minute.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As parents, we don't get a massive amount of free time, and we have to plan in advance. We've now scored 3 out of 3 with letdowns at the last minute from single guys. All we want to do is meet for a quick drink! Excuses, in order, have been 1., unexpectedly had to work a double shift, 2., suddenly taken ill, 3., didn't get paid. Now, some of these reasons could be genuine, who knows, perhaps they all were, but it's hard not to start feeling a little cynical. Even the "I won't let you down" guy let us down. Sorry, rant over :P"

The first seven meets I arranged through this profile let me down,ranging from 24hrs notice to messaging to say they weren't coming when I was already at the arranged location to just plain not turning up with no contact whatsoever.That was a mix of verified couples and verified single lasses,so it's not just men,it's people in general that are a let-down oh the joys of Fab,the many spoiling it for the few...

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

It goes with the territory. If it's any consolation women mess people about as well (I say women I probably mean men pretending to be women).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As parents, we don't get a massive amount of free time, and we have to plan in advance. We've now scored 3 out of 3 with letdowns at the last minute from single guys. All we want to do is meet for a quick drink! Excuses, in order, have been 1., unexpectedly had to work a double shift, 2., suddenly taken ill, 3., didn't get paid. Now, some of these reasons could be genuine, who knows, perhaps they all were, but it's hard not to start feeling a little cynical. Even the "I won't let you down" guy let us down. Sorry, rant over :P"
Ever thought you're picking the wrong guys while the rest of us decent ones don't get our messages read before you delete them

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By *astmidlandscouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"The first seven meets I arranged through this profile let me down,ranging from 24hrs notice to messaging to say they weren't coming when I was already at the arranged location to just plain not turning up with no contact whatsoever.That was a mix of verified couples and verified single lasses,so it's not just men,it's people in general that are a let-down oh the joys of Fab,the many spoiling it for the few..."

Yeah, it's a real shame people treat each other this way. Hopefully it's the few spoiling it for the many, rather than the other way around! x

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By *astmidlandscouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Ever thought you're picking the wrong guys while the rest of us decent ones don't get our messages read before you delete them"

Evidently, but the problem is, it's impossible to tell who are the right guys! Even the "I won't let you down" guys have let us down. As someone above said, nothing is guaranteed until they're standing right there in front of you. It's ok really - it's just the way it is; people are people, and this is the way swinging works sometimes. We'll get our luck back soon

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By *entaur_UKMan
over a year ago

Cannock


"Social arranged for Friday, arranged weeks ago... with the meet's profile suddenly changing to hidden, it's looking possible that we could be heading for 4 out of 4 no-shows :S

WAT ARE WE DOING RONG?!

Nothing. It's a frequent occurrence on this site unfortunately. "

Been on the site for 5 years now. Never hidden my profile once.

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By *entaur_UKMan
over a year ago

Cannock


"The first seven meets I arranged through this profile let me down,ranging from 24hrs notice to messaging to say they weren't coming when I was already at the arranged location to just plain not turning up with no contact whatsoever.That was a mix of verified couples and verified single lasses,so it's not just men,it's people in general that are a let-down oh the joys of Fab,the many spoiling it for the few...

Yeah, it's a real shame people treat each other this way. Hopefully it's the few spoiling it for the many, rather than the other way around! x"

That's why I prefer to arrange meets at clubs. If your meet doesn't show up then you've got other options in the club with other people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ever thought you're picking the wrong guys while the rest of us decent ones don't get our messages read before you delete them

Evidently, but the problem is, it's impossible to tell who are the right guys! Even the "I won't let you down" guys have let us down. As someone above said, nothing is guaranteed until they're standing right there in front of you. It's ok really - it's just the way it is; people are people, and this is the way swinging works sometimes. We'll get our luck back soon

"
How will you ever find right guys without opening messages

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By *astmidlandscouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Been on the site for 5 years now. Never hidden my profile once. "

Yes, over four years for us, and haven't hidden it yet. Nothing wrong with it though; better to have the choice of as much or as little privacy as you want, especially given the subject matter

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By *he Ring WraithMan
over a year ago

Bradford

No shows and excuses happen a lot on Fab, both from guys, ladies and couples (and the ones pretending as well).

The thing is to either accept it and keep trying, or (like I have)just say sod it to meets at all and give up trying to get anyone to meet.

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By *astmidlandscouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"How will you ever find right guys without opening messages"

We don't always see them - the mailbox only shows so many, and by the time we're both available to look at them (it's only fair to the sender that we both read them, seeing as they're addressing a couple), some have inevitably disappeared off the end. That's also a problem when you want to find a message from a while back that we forgot to save, but that's another story. We try to read as many as we can.

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By *astmidlandscouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"The thing is to either accept it and keep trying, or (like I have)just say sod it to meets at all and give up trying to get anyone to meet."

Keep trying, Paul

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The thing is to either accept it and keep trying, or (like I have)just say sod it to meets at all and give up trying to get anyone to meet.

Keep trying, Paul "
All these couples saying they are struggling to meet yet I have been unsuccessfully trying to meet couples. Funny that

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By *astmidlandscouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"All these couples saying they are struggling to meet yet I have been unsuccessfully trying to meet couples. Funny that"

Sorry to hear you're struggling too, Jay. Hope it picks up for you. We haven't completely given up ourselves yet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All these couples saying they are struggling to meet yet I have been unsuccessfully trying to meet couples. Funny that

Sorry to hear you're struggling too, Jay. Hope it picks up for you. We haven't completely given up ourselves yet!"
It won't pick up because messages are never seen so I'm giving up hence the rants but thanks

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By *igboy10essexMan
over a year ago

Upminster


"All these couples saying they are struggling to meet yet I have been unsuccessfully trying to meet couples. Funny that

Sorry to hear you're struggling too, Jay. Hope it picks up for you. We haven't completely given up ourselves yet!"

What man in their right mind would let a hottie like you down ? Xx

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By *astmidlandscouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"What man in their right mind would let a hottie like you down ? Xx"

Thank you, Glen! x

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

When i had my single profile,i found some men cancelled meets whem they knew I only meet socially first.

I thought they were either attached ,so couldnt be seen in public with me or just wanted a quick shag and couldnt be bothered making any effort.

Don't be put off op,maybe try a club or a social event in future,then you can still have fun regardless.

Miss

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"When i had my single profile,i found some men cancelled meets whem they knew I only meet socially first.

I thought they were either attached ,so couldnt be seen in public with me or just wanted a quick shag and couldnt be bothered making any effort.

Don't be put off op,maybe try a club or a social event in future,then you can still have fun regardless.

Miss"
all of this is true I've had exactly the same thing

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

We get lots of messages from single men and a surprisingly high proportion want immediate meets.

There could be two reasons for this

1. They are attached and need to seize a window of opportunity

2. They can't be arsed to wait around for sex

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By *D835Man
over a year ago

London

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By *D835Man
over a year ago

London


"We get lots of messages from single men and a surprisingly high proportion want immediate meets.

There could be two reasons for this

1. They are attached and need to seize a window of opportunity

2. They can't be arsed to wait around for sex "

These might probably be the reasons the op is facing with the the guys in question. Some are looking for an instant meet and not interested in socials first.

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By *he-Hosiery-GentMan
over a year ago

Older Hot Bearded Guy


"As parents, we don't get a massive amount of free time, and we have to plan in advance. We've now scored 3 out of 3 with letdowns at the last minute from single guys. All we want to do is meet for a quick drink! Excuses, in order, have been 1., unexpectedly had to work a double shift, 2., suddenly taken ill, 3., didn't get paid. Now, some of these reasons could be genuine, who knows, perhaps they all were, but it's hard not to start feeling a little cynical. Even the "I won't let you down" guy let us down. Sorry, rant over :P"

Lame excuses!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This really saddens me to hear. It's hard enough as it is as a single guy with out this kind of bad press.

I hope some of them were genuine, frustrating for you none the less hopefully the next single guy will help restore your faith in us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not all single males are bullshitters , There are genuine ones out there and ive never let anyone down and that includes single fems or couples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank goodness you have each other then . Being let down is not gender specific. It happens to most on here. Regardless of sex . "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We were dicked around in the early days - we hadn't realised that a lot of single guys who have no commitments e.g. kids, partners, march to a different beat (as I probably did to when I was a single free spirit living in a London. Having said that we have never had a no show. We don't get messed around any more. We don't meet new men very often as we have built up a roladex of men we know to be reliable, and we are extremely careful if we do decide to meet someone new. We make it extremely clear that cancellations (unless for emergencies/sickness) are not an option. The expression 'at least we have each other' will not wash in the event of a cancellation because we have have each other every night. When we arrange a play date we are arranging babysitting specially and are potentially turning down other offers. We do believe though that our relative good luck with single men (aside from a very stringent selection and vetting process) is because we do make the third person feel comfortable and as an equal and ensure a friendship is developed. I think this generates loyalty.

Mrs

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By *imonTMan
over a year ago

hayes

Ahem - north, south, east or west nottingham? Just - you know - in case I'm 6' and occasionally drink in some Nottingham bars

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By *astmidlandscouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Yay, 4 out of 4! Social arranged 4 weeks ago, cancelled tonight. To be fair, this one sounds genuine (problems with the ex), but still, we're doing well! How many no-shows and cancellations JUST TO MEET FOR A DRINK do we need before we get a prize?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Blokes must be mad to let you guys down

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By *astmidlandscouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Blokes must be mad to let you guys down "

One of the 4 blokes that let us down said that too ((

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By *orthern_monkeyMan
over a year ago

MANCHESTER

Sounds a nightmare.

Trust me there are alot of great single guys out there. Perhaps like others say these arent really 'single' or just want no effort sex.

If i was in the area I would love to play with you guys

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By *astmidlandscouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Sounds a nightmare.

Trust me there are alot of great single guys out there. Perhaps like others say these arent really 'single' or just want no effort sex.

If i was in the area I would love to play with you guys"

Thanks, yes, we're sure there are. We've just a proper run of bad luck, that's all. Wonder if we'll make 5 out of 5! x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Social arranged for Friday, arranged weeks ago... with the meet's profile suddenly changing to hidden, it's looking possible that we could be heading for 4 out of 4 no-shows :S

WAT ARE WE DOING RONG?!"

you want a social this friday 29th you mean ?

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By *astmidlandscouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"you want a social this friday 29th you mean ?"

We had one planned, but the meet has cancelled x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try a club guys xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

maybe your talking to the wrong guys....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yay, 4 out of 4! Social arranged 4 weeks ago, cancelled tonight. To be fair, this one sounds genuine (problems with the ex), but still, we're doing well! How many no-shows and cancellations JUST TO MEET FOR A DRINK do we need before we get a prize? "
I think people put too much faith in veri's while the rest of us get overlooked. Hope your luck changes soon x

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By *astmidlandscouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"maybe your talking to the wrong guys...."

How do we identify the right guys?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"maybe your talking to the wrong guys....

How do we identify the right guys?"
This was my point you will answer this guy because he's verified but overlooked me. Not butthurt just saying maybe that's where you're going wrong?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"maybe your talking to the wrong guys....

How do we identify the right guys?"

For someone who lived closer to us, I would advise them to check out our verifications if they want a reliable guy who turns up. We haven't got it wrong yet. Word of mouth is also good.

Mrs

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By *astmidlandscouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"For someone who lived closer to us, I would advise them to check out our verifications if they want a reliable guy who turns up. We haven't got it wrong yet. Word of mouth is also good.

Mrs"

Thanks guys, that's a good tip! x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As parents, we don't get a massive amount of free time, and we have to plan in advance. We've now scored 3 out of 3 with letdowns at the last minute from single guys. All we want to do is meet for a quick drink! Excuses, in order, have been 1., unexpectedly had to work a double shift, 2., suddenly taken ill, 3., didn't get paid. Now, some of these reasons could be genuine, who knows, perhaps they all were, but it's hard not to start feeling a little cynical. Even the "I won't let you down" guy let us down. Sorry, rant over :P"

It could be one of 2 things.

1) they are married rather than single

Or 2) they are not what the profile makes them to be

I wouldn't never say no.

Maybe you should engage them in a chat long before the meet. You get a feel, if they would turn up or not

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Some couples put meets up at 2am in the morning and still get single guys to attend, some single guys will drop everything they are doing to attend meets, if there is the issue of no shows from single guys , it means the guys are not comfortable. The best way to correct that is to go to the clubs and play with a couple of single guys and get them to leave verifications, then the new guys will relax and come anytime you wish. The verifications will detail how receptive you and your partner are, that's all it is in my opinion.

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By *astmidlandscouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

5 out of 5, yo! We're here at the agreed bar, he's one hour late. Text messaging one hour before, all good, and then radio silence. So we're sat here all dressed up. Good innit. Sheesh.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"5 out of 5, yo! We're here at the agreed bar, he's one hour late. Text messaging one hour before, all good, and then radio silence. So we're sat here all dressed up. Good innit. Sheesh. "

Did you speak on the phone or cam with him before the meet?

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By *layful Couple For YouCouple
over a year ago

Lust

Think our current status speaks for itself, now realising why single guys get such a bad rep on here

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Think our current status speaks for itself, now realising why single guys get such a bad rep on here "
I'm not meeting new people anymore, been let down several times now

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By *ex mad ladMan
over a year ago

Sussex

Not just single guys though...

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Not just single guys though..."
nope women and couples too

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By *uxinteriorMan
over a year ago

south west , continental

Yes I must admit some single guys make us public enemy number 1!

However we are not all like that and there are some jolly decent genuine chaps here as well, seek and you shall find!

OP, very lovely in your lingerie by the way, the single males that let you down were obviously fools of the first order.

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By *astmidlandscouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

We're on the verge of giving up

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"We're on the verge of giving up

"
do you cam or speak on the phone before meets?

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By *TrainMan
over a year ago

London


"As parents, we don't get a massive amount of free time, and we have to plan in advance. We've now scored 3 out of 3 with letdowns at the last minute from single guys. All we want to do is meet for a quick drink! Excuses, in order, have been 1., unexpectedly had to work a double shift, 2., suddenly taken ill, 3., didn't get paid. Now, some of these reasons could be genuine, who knows, perhaps they all were, but it's hard not to start feeling a little cynical. Even the "I won't let you down" guy let us down. Sorry, rant over :P"

There's nothing worse than a let down!

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By *TrainMan
over a year ago

London


"We're on the verge of giving up

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Come down to London! Lol

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By *ex mad ladMan
over a year ago

Sussex

It's life though....you get the same let downs in Everything really

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

For all the talk of how hard it is for single guys, a guy who can cut through the see of daydreamrs and keyboard fantasists will do great on here.

Loads of couples struggle finding decent reliable men.

Stick with it op, or head to a club where the people are real xx

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By *astmidlandscouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"do you cam or speak on the phone before meets?"

No, and we had many meets without. It's just a really really bad run :$

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"do you cam or speak on the phone before meets?

No, and we had many meets without. It's just a really really bad run :$"
you should do this, it helps to them out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single guy waiting on blackpool if anyone's interested

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By *D835Man
over a year ago

London


"do you cam or speak on the phone before meets?

No, and we had many meets without. It's just a really really bad run :$"

Yes it seems like you are having a bad run indeed.

Don't give up though, I'm sure soneone will soon honour your invite and actually turn up to restore your faith.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"you want a social this friday 29th you mean ?

We had one planned, but the meet has cancelled x"

lets meet saturday , i'll prove some of us are genuine

lots of witneses here so i wont let you down x

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By *astmidlandscouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Wow, the no-show has even blocked us! Guess he must feel guilty for standing us up last night :S It's a real shame people have to treat others like this. Still, if he reads this, we wish you well, hope you figure out what you want, and no hard feelings.

*Rises above and moves on...* x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

might have to look for shorter guys

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By *ensualguy70TV/TS
over a year ago

paisley

and this is what gives us single guys a bad name

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As parents, we don't get a massive amount of free time, and we have to plan in advance. We've now scored 3 out of 3 with letdowns at the last minute from single guys. All we want to do is meet for a quick drink! Excuses, in order, have been 1., unexpectedly had to work a double shift, 2., suddenly taken ill, 3., didn't get paid. Now, some of these reasons could be genuine, who knows, perhaps they all were, but it's hard not to start feeling a little cynical. Even the "I won't let you down" guy let us down. Sorry, rant over :P"

All I can say looking at your pics they must be mental!!!

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By *p4anything 2015Man
over a year ago

cirencester

What the fuck is going on lol ladies / couples message me I'm happy to meet pics on request x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

3 social meets this week with guys chatting to on kik and WhatsApp from on here

All no showed at social after weeks of chatting

Ridiculous and single males complain about getting no replies from couples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"3 social meets this week with guys chatting to on kik and WhatsApp from on here

All no showed at social after weeks of chatting

Ridiculous and single males complain about getting no replies from couples "

I never use KIK whatsapp for 'chatting'- about a prospective meetup- absolutely no interest in chatting for days/weeks with someone just for an intended shag. I'm afraid youve caught people just after chat/cam/wank types.

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By *onnie And Clyde9070Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

We've been let down by a few. Some have given excuses, some just vanished into thin air. We just assume they've had a play with their tiny member, shot their load and can't get it up a second time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've been let down by a few. Some have given excuses, some just vanished into thin air. We just assume they've had a play with their tiny member, shot their load and can't get it up a second time."

lol...so they've effectively became hung like a mouse..because they didn't want to meet/couldn't?- granted no excuse for time wasting..but you've said what many types will say when rejected "I/we weren't interested anyway!", which is clearly a lie.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This by no means a single guy thing

I was let down by a couple last week last min

Last let down by an ignorant single female. arrange a potential meet, rescheduled a few things then never received a message.

Why are people even on here lol

I don't have kids but I also cannot drop things at the drop of a hat.

Let's keep our chin up and keep partying without them I say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's easy to draw conclusions but this is why I like last minute meets.

That way I know I'm not going to walk into a problem at work or childcare issues.

What happened to the good old days of a bootie call. Either way, being the caller or the one being called (or texted).

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By *onnie And Clyde9070Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"We've been let down by a few. Some have given excuses, some just vanished into thin air. We just assume they've had a play with their tiny member, shot their load and can't get it up a second time.

lol...so they've effectively became hung like a mouse..because they didn't want to meet/couldn't?- granted no excuse for time wasting..but you've said what many types will say when rejected "I/we weren't interested anyway!", which is clearly a lie."

Could you point out the bit where we said "I/We weren't interested anyway!". We must have missed it.

We were actually making reference to the guys whose profiles state they're hung like a stallion, but are in fact hung as you say "like a mouse". All bravado, no backup.

We'd also like to point out that we're a couple and have sex on tap. So why on Earth would we feel rejected? We aren't the ones going without.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This seems typical of a lot of guys on here, personally I always do what I say I will. Frustrating!

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"We've been let down by a few. Some have given excuses, some just vanished into thin air. We just assume they've had a play with their tiny member, shot their load and can't get it up a second time."

Either that, or they got a better (in their eyes), last minute offer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What never fails to surprise me is how difficult it is for single males to find meets (generally speaking) due to bad reputation and such and you get people who squander their opportunities. Thus feeding the stereotype further. Personally I just feel like a little preparation should be the first thing that comes to mind when a meet is suggested. Simple things like making sure it's something that's realistic like having the time or finances to do so.

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By *onnie And Clyde9070Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"We've been let down by a few. Some have given excuses, some just vanished into thin air. We just assume they've had a play with their tiny member, shot their load and can't get it up a second time.

Either that, or they got a better (in their eyes), last minute offer "

Indeed. We're sure all you single guys are overwhelmed with last minute offers. That's why they're always on here asking why they can't get meets...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've been let down by a few. Some have given excuses, some just vanished into thin air. We just assume they've had a play with their tiny member, shot their load and can't get it up a second time.

Either that, or they got a better (in their eyes), last minute offer

Indeed. We're sure all you single guys are overwhelmed with last minute offers. That's why they're always on here asking why they can't get meets...

"

We're practically swimming in offers, we wake up with a full mailbox daily. All single woman just waiting to throw theirselves on us like this is a brothel and we are the product.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As parents, we don't get a massive amount of free time, and we have to plan in advance. We've now scored 3 out of 3 with letdowns at the last minute from single guys. All we want to do is meet for a quick drink! Excuses, in order, have been 1., unexpectedly had to work a double shift, 2., suddenly taken ill, 3., didn't get paid. Now, some of these reasons could be genuine, who knows, perhaps they all were, but it's hard not to start feeling a little cynical. Even the "I won't let you down" guy let us down. Sorry, rant over :P"

All i csn say is move on. Yes your time is wasted, just have to keep on looking

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By *laqgrapeMan
over a year ago

Sanderstead

probably everyone has been or will get let down sometime....no one exempt x

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By *wanzMan
over a year ago

Swansea

Not all of us are 'dropper outters'

Some of us are greatful for an invite so treat it appropriately

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By *D835Man
over a year ago

London

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By *D835Man
over a year ago

London


"We've been let down by a few. Some have given excuses, some just vanished into thin air. We just assume they've had a play with their tiny member, shot their load and can't get it up a second time.

Either that, or they got a better (in their eyes), last minute offer

Indeed. We're sure all you single guys are overwhelmed with last minute offers. That's why they're always on here asking why they can't get meets...

"

Some single guys do get last minute offers which they consider "better"; and sometimes that is one of the reason for no shows. It's just unfortunate that you happen to pick the wrong guy /guys. Plenty of guys still on here who would turn up for a meet if given the opportunity.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"We've been let down by a few. Some have given excuses, some just vanished into thin air. We just assume they've had a play with their tiny member, shot their load and can't get it up a second time.

Either that, or they got a better (in their eyes), last minute offer

Indeed. We're sure all you single guys are overwhelmed with last minute offers. That's why they're always on here asking why they can't get meets...

"

Crazy old world isn't it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've been let down by a few. Some have given excuses, some just vanished into thin air. We just assume they've had a play with their tiny member, shot their load and can't get it up a second time.

Either that, or they got a better (in their eyes), last minute offer "

I think this is usually the case!

Glad it's not just me that gets let down,lots of other women on this thread saying the same...phew

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've now had 6 let downs in 4 weeks, all were verified

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By *litzy-Red-DevilWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

I've been talking with a guy for a while. Was going to meet for a drink but then it became a hotel meet. Was good for a couple of hrs then i got a text from him by mistake saying I'll be home soon!!! I was like wtf was that? An hr later said he had to go but would be back and here i am in a hotel room abandoned. Full of shit some guys

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"We've been let down by a few. Some have given excuses, some just vanished into thin air. We just assume they've had a play with their tiny member, shot their load and can't get it up a second time.

Either that, or they got a better (in their eyes), last minute offer

Indeed. We're sure all you single guys are overwhelmed with last minute offers. That's why they're always on here asking why they can't get meets...

Some single guys do get last minute offers which they consider "better"; and sometimes that is one of the reason for no shows. It's just unfortunate that you happen to pick the wrong guy /guys. Plenty of guys still on here who would turn up for a meet if given the opportunity.

"
wouldn't it be funny if the "better" offers let them down too lol?!

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By *D835Man
over a year ago

London


"We've been let down by a few. Some have given excuses, some just vanished into thin air. We just assume they've had a play with their tiny member, shot their load and can't get it up a second time.

Either that, or they got a better (in their eyes), last minute offer

Indeed. We're sure all you single guys are overwhelmed with last minute offers. That's why they're always on here asking why they can't get meets...

Some single guys do get last minute offers which they consider "better"; and sometimes that is one of the reason for no shows. It's just unfortunate that you happen to pick the wrong guy /guys. Plenty of guys still on here who would turn up for a meet if given the opportunity.

wouldn't it be funny if the "better" offers let them down too lol?!"

Yes that would be funny lol...

I guess it does happen sometimes.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"We've been let down by a few. Some have given excuses, some just vanished into thin air. We just assume they've had a play with their tiny member, shot their load and can't get it up a second time.

Either that, or they got a better (in their eyes), last minute offer

Indeed. We're sure all you single guys are overwhelmed with last minute offers. That's why they're always on here asking why they can't get meets...

Some single guys do get last minute offers which they consider "better"; and sometimes that is one of the reason for no shows. It's just unfortunate that you happen to pick the wrong guy /guys. Plenty of guys still on here who would turn up for a meet if given the opportunity.

wouldn't it be funny if the "better" offers let them down too lol?!

Yes that would be funny lol...

I guess it does happen sometimes.

"
it does I've arranged to meet and had this then they've contacted me after cancelling because the better one cancelled or didn't show lol (and no I didn't bother with them)

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By *D835Man
over a year ago

London


"We've been let down by a few. Some have given excuses, some just vanished into thin air. We just assume they've had a play with their tiny member, shot their load and can't get it up a second time.

Either that, or they got a better (in their eyes), last minute offer

Indeed. We're sure all you single guys are overwhelmed with last minute offers. That's why they're always on here asking why they can't get meets...

Some single guys do get last minute offers which they consider "better"; and sometimes that is one of the reason for no shows. It's just unfortunate that you happen to pick the wrong guy /guys. Plenty of guys still on here who would turn up for a meet if given the opportunity.

wouldn't it be funny if the "better" offers let them down too lol?!

Yes that would be funny lol...

I guess it does happen sometimes.

it does I've arranged to meet and had this then they've contacted me after cancelling because the better one cancelled or didn't show lol (and no I didn't bother with them)"

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