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By *un lover 01 OP   Man
over a year ago

Burton-On-Trent

Any body give me advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have a good profile.

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By *un lover 01 OP   Man
over a year ago

Burton-On-Trent

Thanks

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By *DontExistWoman
over a year ago

•+• Silicon valley. •+•

be at least 6ft tall, and loads of things on your profile point to attached and looking for something outside of your relationship, which will put women off too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They only spawn in certain areas. But I've found that they do appear if you're using the right lure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any give me advice on how to win the lottery please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plastic surgery to look like George clooney could help

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By *un lover 01 OP   Man
over a year ago

Burton-On-Trent

Thanks for advice

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

Well written profile, tasteful pics. Make sure you fit the profile of what they're looking for. Take some effort into crafting messages. Be courteous, polite, and non pushy.

Learn to take rejection in stride. It happens all the time! we outnumber single fems 500 to 1!

Persevere and eventually you might find someone interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Any body give me advice"

Pictures that don't all look the same.

A well written detailed and interesting profile.

Poppy

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By *un lover 01 OP   Man
over a year ago

Burton-On-Trent

Ok I will do thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Put the toilet seat down for starters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh, you might want to take the pic with the ladies dressing gown in the background off too

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By *un lover 01 OP   Man
over a year ago

Burton-On-Trent

Ok next time I will be careful when I take a picture girls notice everything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Patience and the preparation to desipher the messages you do get back and the guess work to work out if you are being too pushy, too talkative, too much sexualised chat etc etc and vice versa, it's all down to luck..

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By *odramamaleMan
over a year ago

near

Prolly the best advice would be dont waste time on here and join a vanilla dating site. Youll gwt a lot more response and youll actually meet some women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Any body give me advice"

As a single women. .. Only pic i liked was very last one. . Each to own. But dont always gave to show everything i like a little hidden.

Good luck

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"Any body give me advice"

Hatter summed it up perfectly in one of his threads.

It must be all that tea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've heard you've got to leave your scent on the local lampposts so they know it's your territory and they'll come to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ditch the endless cock pics. And elaborate what it is you offer. Sell yourself. And dont use a dingy bathroom to take pics. Be more inventive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Buy yourself a magnet...

I've heard that B&Q do a reasonably priced 'value' one...just ask at the Customer Service desk, and get one of their lovely assistants to show you their full range of fanny magnets. They're usually found in the hardware department

Or, you really want to push the boat out, go to your local supermarket and ask for Tesco's FINEST fanny magnet... ...usually found close to the kitchen utensils department...just ask if you can't find them

Lol, yes it really HAS been one of those days...!!!

Seriously though...a sensible profile, some sensible (not graphic) photos, and a friendly approach may bring what you're looking for.

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By *idalgo13Man
over a year ago

Near York

Hi,

I am no expert (far from it) but the best advice is listening to the advice....the toilet seat is still up...

Honestly, genuinely heed all the advice given....and act on it. Ah.... and have patience...lots of patience. H x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure that I would use Fab if I were a single guy looking attract a single female. 10 guys competing for 1 woman! Sounds frustrating if not demoralising! Must be easier to get a shag on a dating site or a night out on the town - don't know why men make it difficult for themselves by searching on a site where there are relatively few single women.

Mrs

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

Use the advice you were given in the thread of the same title, 9 weeks ago.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Use the advice you were given in the thread of the same title, 9 weeks ago."

Ha ha, the green arrow of truth!!

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By *uicy72Woman
over a year ago

North Colchester


"Any body give me advice"

Less body pics

Re do if I was you

And much more detailed profile

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By *nSeeNMan
over a year ago

Z'ha'dum

very big credit card usually helps.

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By *mmaNandyCouple
over a year ago

wolvo


"Any body give me advice"

short answer is give up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Offer cake

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Use the advice you were given in the thread of the same title, 9 weeks ago."

yes...this...its a complete waste of time even replying to these help me posts most of the time...i think they think someone will feel sorry for them, they never take a blind bit of notice of any advice given..

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Ok next time I will be careful when I take a picture girls notice everything"

Women do too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rustle a peanut butter chunky kit kat in my direction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Send a "Fancy a fuck?" Message with added 10 cock pictures sure fire way of getting meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Offer cake "

Mmmmm......... cake

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Offer cake

Mmmmm......... cake "

Lemon cake would work well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not sure that I would use Fab if I were a single guy looking attract a single female. 10 guys competing for 1 woman! Sounds frustrating if not demoralising! Must be easier to get a shag on a dating site or a night out on the town - don't know why men make it difficult for themselves by searching on a site where there are relatively few single women.

Mrs "

Not frustrating or demoralizing for me. The vanilla dating sites are just that.

A night on the town were the lads with big egos chase the tottaly d*unk women and sticky floors. I'll stick to this crazy site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not sure that I would use Fab if I were a single guy looking attract a single female. 10 guys competing for 1 woman! Sounds frustrating if not demoralising! Must be easier to get a shag on a dating site or a night out on the town - don't know why men make it difficult for themselves by searching on a site where there are relatively few single women.

Mrs "

I use fab often to find women and couples. Dating sites would probably tip the ratio more in a guy's favour, but I'd be meeting up with ladies who were more likely to be looking for a potential life partner and my life is sadly far too hectic for that right now with time-heavy work and being a father. So I'd either be giving the ladies after Mr Right some false hope or lying my arse off.

Granted, experience tells me it's easy for a man to have sex by going on a night out, you just walk into a town or city centre bar on a weekend and get beseiged by offers, but normally a lot of the offers in question come from ladies who are pissed up and therefore the sex probably won't be as good... Plus if I'm seeking a certain pursuit/kink/kind of lady then fab makes it all possible!

Besides which this site isn't the graveyard a lot think for single chaps, I've had plenty of hugely enjoyable dalliances with women who I'm attracted to on here and wouldn't change anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Any body give me advice"

Be rich.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Myself and Allnew aren't the same person, honest!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not sure that I would use Fab if I were a single guy looking attract a single female. 10 guys competing for 1 woman! Sounds frustrating if not demoralising! Must be easier to get a shag on a dating site or a night out on the town - don't know why men make it difficult for themselves by searching on a site where there are relatively few single women.

Mrs

I use fab often to find women and couples. Dating sites would probably tip the ratio more in a guy's favour, but I'd be meeting up with ladies who were more likely to be looking for a potential life partner and my life is sadly far too hectic for that right now with time-heavy work and being a father. So I'd either be giving the ladies after Mr Right some false hope or lying my arse off.

Granted, experience tells me it's easy for a man to have sex by going on a night out, you just walk into a town or city centre bar on a weekend and get beseiged by offers, but normally a lot of the offers in question come from ladies who are pissed up and therefore the sex probably won't be as good... Plus if I'm seeking a certain pursuit/kink/kind of lady then fab makes it all possible!

Besides which this site isn't the graveyard a lot think for single chaps, I've had plenty of hugely enjoyable dalliances with women who I'm attracted to on here and wouldn't change anything. "

I wasn't really referring to guys like yourself or the poster before you.

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By *hinypants77Man
over a year ago

Leeds

Have a cock that tastes like chocolate and ejaculates money.

Dating sites are best to find a single woman. Much higher success rate if you want to date.

Fab is best for straight up nsa fucks. It's a ladies market and they aren't short on offers so act accordingly and be prepared to put in the effort.

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By *DontExistWoman
over a year ago

•+• Silicon valley. •+•

you know what's the best thing about guys asking this?

even though there's loads of women looking for meets, and complaining about the shit meets they've had, and saying what they want on their profile or in the forums (where this stuff is posted frequently), men still don't know what women want.

find that a little weird tbh. it's like nobody listens to us or gives a shit.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante

Lynx....apparently

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shave all over.

Pop on a frock and heels.

Get a quality wig and put on makeup.

They message you.

Simple

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

It's going to be tough for you mate, as you only score 1 out of 3 in the Fab 'Holy Trinity';

Under 45;

Over 6ft tall;

Can accommodate.

But then, I score 0

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"you know what's the best thing about guys asking this?

even though there's loads of women looking for meets, and complaining about the shit meets they've had, and saying what they want on their profile or in the forums (where this stuff is posted frequently), men still don't know what women want.

find that a little weird tbh. it's like nobody listens to us or gives a shit."

you've just nailed it! on the whole, they dont actually give a shit! it's just lip service most of the time...

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By *DontExistWoman
over a year ago

•+• Silicon valley. •+•


"you know what's the best thing about guys asking this?

even though there's loads of women looking for meets, and complaining about the shit meets they've had, and saying what they want on their profile or in the forums (where this stuff is posted frequently), men still don't know what women want.

find that a little weird tbh. it's like nobody listens to us or gives a shit.

you've just nailed it! on the whole, they dont actually give a shit! it's just lip service most of the time..."

oh look a lady replied, see us women know what we're doing and observe and shit.

thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Any body give me advice"

Grow a pair of boobs and a pussy!

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By *idalgo13Man
over a year ago

Near York


"you know what's the best thing about guys asking this?

even though there's loads of women looking for meets, and complaining about the shit meets they've had, and saying what they want on their profile or in the forums (where this stuff is posted frequently), men still don't know what women want.

find that a little weird tbh. it's like nobody listens to us or gives a shit.

you've just nailed it! on the whole, they dont actually give a shit! it's just lip service most of the time..."

So do the majority of men spoilt it for the minority or the minority spoil it for the majority? x

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By *DontExistWoman
over a year ago

•+• Silicon valley. •+•


"you know what's the best thing about guys asking this?

even though there's loads of women looking for meets, and complaining about the shit meets they've had, and saying what they want on their profile or in the forums (where this stuff is posted frequently), men still don't know what women want.

find that a little weird tbh. it's like nobody listens to us or gives a shit.

you've just nailed it! on the whole, they dont actually give a shit! it's just lip service most of the time...

So do the majority of men spoilt it for the minority or the minority spoil it for the majority? x"

majority of men don't care and the ones who do care are just acting. men spoil everything.

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By *ink magnolia s yorksWoman
over a year ago

south yorkshire

Read their profile to see if you fit before you contact them. All that god loves a trier and other rubbish don't work. People have preferences for a reason. Don't bother with the 'give me a chance' stuff, if you want chances try gala bingo or the lottery. Have a decent profile yourself, lack of effort in your profile says a lot! Straight man looking for ladies (inevitably mis spelled) just makes me groan. Don't send cock pics unless she asks for them. Accept a polite no thanks, begging is never attractive and when men try that then say 'but my cock is 7 inches' they wonder why women block them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"you know what's the best thing about guys asking this?

even though there's loads of women looking for meets, and complaining about the shit meets they've had, and saying what they want on their profile or in the forums (where this stuff is posted frequently), men still don't know what women want.

find that a little weird tbh. it's like nobody listens to us or gives a shit."

Spot on they never learn either xx female replying

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By *DontExistWoman
over a year ago

•+• Silicon valley. •+•


"you know what's the best thing about guys asking this?

even though there's loads of women looking for meets, and complaining about the shit meets they've had, and saying what they want on their profile or in the forums (where this stuff is posted frequently), men still don't know what women want.

find that a little weird tbh. it's like nobody listens to us or gives a shit.

Spot on they never learn either xx female replying "

i'm gonna have to think of a way to get them to listen.

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By *DontExistWoman
over a year ago

•+• Silicon valley. •+•

nagging, that's the only thing that works i think?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women want treating like a princess in public, and a mistresses in doors,most want to be in charge at some point n tell you to do lots of naughty things u never thought they do . .

Sometimes they want a gentletype of romance with lots of kissing and slow passionate sex .

But then the next day they want bending over the dining room table unexpectedly for a good hard fuck 10 mins before your expecting a visitor . Lol

The key is variety and have fun at the same time y keep it to the bedroom ? Hehe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have a cock that tastes like chocolate and ejaculates money.

Dating sites are best to find a single woman. Much higher success rate if you want to date.

Fab is best for straight up nsa fucks. It's a ladies market and they aren't short on offers so act accordingly and be prepared to put in the effort. "

Have I stumbled into the weekly meeting of MysogynistsRUs? There's a thread a day telling you guys in words of one syllable how to pimp your profile and message for best results.

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By *un lover 01 OP   Man
over a year ago

Burton-On-Trent

Thanks for everyone's to give me a advice

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

My advice to you it's gets yourself to clubs and socials

I would say most of the ladies and couples I have met this way

I could count the number of people I have met on 2 hands that I have met just based on fabs alone and even then, they based on my previous veri's

It's funny when I speak to people that I have messaged say a year ago, had no response, bump in to them in a club have a play and have a good time.

I would also say don't expect a woman or couple to say I will fuck you straight away it doesn't work like that (tho sometimes )

The usual of a decent profile, decent photos, a few veri's, and a well constructed message goes a long way as well. Remember some lady's and couples get 100s of mails a day they don't have time to respond

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go on pof

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By *idalgo13Man
over a year ago

Near York


"My advice to you it's gets yourself to clubs and socials

I would say most of the ladies and couples I have met this way

I could count the number of people I have met on 2 hands that I have met just based on fabs alone and even then, they based on my previous veri's

It's funny when I speak to people that I have messaged say a year ago, had no response, bump in to them in a club have a play and have a good time.

I would also say don't expect a woman or couple to say I will fuck you straight away it doesn't work like that (tho sometimes )

The usual of a decent profile, decent photos, a few veri's, and a well constructed message goes a long way as well. Remember some lady's and couples get 100s of mails a day they don't have time to respond "

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth


"you know what's the best thing about guys asking this?

even though there's loads of women looking for meets, and complaining about the shit meets they've had, and saying what they want on their profile or in the forums (where this stuff is posted frequently), men still don't know what women want.

find that a little weird tbh. it's like nobody listens to us or gives a shit.

you've just nailed it! on the whole, they dont actually give a shit! it's just lip service most of the time..."

TBH it feels with some if these posts as if they're just using it as a way to get seen. Especially the guts who don't come back. I'd rather just see someone join in and show their personality through the forums personally.

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By *idalgo13Man
over a year ago

Near York

Hi OP,

You haven't changed the picture as suggested, toilet seat, dressing gown etc. If you genuinely want advice, you do need to act on what people say, otherwise people will assume you are lazy and people don't want a lazy can't be arsed friend with benefits.

You have a good body, crop your pictures to hide the background or re shoot photos! People do genuinely want to help but only people that will help themselves....H x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi OP,

You haven't changed the picture as suggested, toilet seat, dressing gown etc. If you genuinely want advice, you do need to act on what people say, otherwise people will assume you are lazy and people don't want a lazy can't be arsed friend with benefits.

You have a good body, crop your pictures to hide the background or re shoot photos! People do genuinely want to help but only people that will help themselves....H x"

Did you actually think he would?

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"you know what's the best thing about guys asking this?

even though there's loads of women looking for meets, and complaining about the shit meets they've had, and saying what they want on their profile or in the forums (where this stuff is posted frequently), men still don't know what women want.

find that a little weird tbh. it's like nobody listens to us or gives a shit.

you've just nailed it! on the whole, they dont actually give a shit! it's just lip service most of the time...

TBH it feels with some if these posts as if they're just using it as a way to get seen. Especially the guts who don't come back. I'd rather just see someone join in and show their personality through the forums personally. "

Spot on here, just look at me threads

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've heard you've got to leave your scent on the local lampposts so they know it's your territory and they'll come to you"

Blimey so that's what lamppost pissing means!!

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"I've heard you've got to leave your scent on the local lampposts so they know it's your territory and they'll come to you

Blimey so that's what lamppost pissing means!!"

Not quite mate; LPP in Fab refers to the forum regulars who post on threads immediately after their current 'squeeze' has posted something, so that others can see who's with who and just you keep your hands off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Toilet pics ain't helping

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Go on pof"

And other, similar sites. I've had easier success in more expensive sites than Fab

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By *idalgo13Man
over a year ago

Near York


"Hi OP,

You haven't changed the picture as suggested, toilet seat, dressing gown etc. If you genuinely want advice, you do need to act on what people say, otherwise people will assume you are lazy and people don't want a lazy can't be arsed friend with benefits.

You have a good body, crop your pictures to hide the background or re shoot photos! People do genuinely want to help but only people that will help themselves....H x

Did you actually think he would?"

I am eternally optimistic. Everyone needs a helping hand, they just need to act on it. I can only hope....

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By *niper oneMan
over a year ago

DERBY/Notts border


"Any body give me advice"

look on Pof mate this site is a waste of time if your after single women.Forget your profile and pics ...most are couples but choose to have a single profile to the ones with no profile pics are the ones who try to catcg there partners out and the genuine ones who are few and far between have veri lists longer than your arm or are fruit loops or are to big even for pof.

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By *xplorer13Man
over a year ago

glenrothes

Money

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Any body give me advice"

A good profile

Nice tasteful teasing photos

Not endless toliet pics

And be honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Any body give me advice

look on Pof mate this site is a waste of time if your after single women.Forget your profile and pics ...most are couples but choose to have a single profile to the ones with no profile pics are the ones who try to catcg there partners out and the genuine ones who are few and far between have veri lists longer than your arm or are fruit loops or are to big even for pof."

Im fully single

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've heard you've got to leave your scent on the local lampposts so they know it's your territory and they'll come to you

Blimey so that's what lamppost pissing means!!

Not quite mate; LPP in Fab refers to the forum regulars who post on threads immediately after their current 'squeeze' has posted something, so that others can see who's with who and just you keep your hands off "

Let me see if I understand this correctly...

Forum regulars as in forumites go around threads leaving their scent to mark their territory. Therefore giving fellow Fabbers a warning in a polite way not to piss on their lamppost.

LPP = Keep your hands off!

It is starting to make sense.

OP stay away from the lamppost pissers then because you can't touch that territory. Unless you dare to be like some people who have no restrictions and don't follow the normal code of conduct.

Touch who you want to.

Please note:

No means no always so don't be too persistent hey

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"Any body give me advice

look on Pof mate this site is a waste of time if your after single women.Forget your profile and pics ...most are couples but choose to have a single profile to the ones with no profile pics are the ones who try to catcg there partners out and the genuine ones who are few and far between have veri lists longer than your arm or are fruit loops or are to big even for pof."

That is true to a certain point. Well said but saying that anywhere you go it's not gonna be easy. Do you expect pum pum to just land in your lap?. Course you have to put the work in. Which means sifting through the fakes,single guys pretending to be a woman,ones trying to catch their partners out etc.

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