FabSwingers.com forum: Sex addiction

By *ab_Sparkles OP Woman
over a year ago

sparkle Surprised

Advice I've never had a sex addiction, to the extent that online addiction spills over from being a fansty to effecting your daily life that you can't tell the two apart anymore.. I'm worried that someone i know might not be able to control there urge and i was wondering how do you tackle it cause I've even spelt it out and still not listening.. He's playing a dangerous game that although he's a adult how far would he go... I'm outta options and no law as been broken that I'm aware of..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that with an addiction affecting an adult the desire to stop engaging with it needs to come from within them unfortunately, otherwise they'll possibly lie to your face and keep doing it behind your back. I know someone addicted to sex... It's like they're trying to fk their way out of emotional pain due to life issues.

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By *DontExistWoman
over a year ago

•+• Silicon valley. •+•

like they said you can't stop them, they have to want to do it themselves and this is when you can invest your energy into supporting them.

you should maybe get support for yourself while putting up with the stuff you're having to deal with right now.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

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"Advice I've never had a sex addiction, to the extent that online addiction spills over from being a fansty to effecting your daily life that you can't tell the two apart anymore.. I'm worried that someone i know might not be able to control there urge and i was wondering how do you tackle it cause I've even spelt it out and still not listening.. He's playing a dangerous game that although he's a adult how far would he go... I'm outta options and no law as been broken that I'm aware of.. "

If he is addicted to sex I don't see the issue. Why would that be a dangerous game?

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By *ab_Sparkles OP Woman
over a year ago

sparkle Surprised

He's bluntly said that he didn't care if got a std and that he continues to say that he loves me but I left him years ago now he's older in his 40s he's going with anything that will sleep with him men mostly on fab guys side.. Half the time he doesn't even meet 1st just shows at the last minute and with attacks on men and women lately.. I find it difficult to watch it happen as he's got children.. Our children..

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By *DontExistWoman
over a year ago

•+• Silicon valley. •+•

that's a really sad situation. he probably really doesn't care, i know i don't at times and use sex as a coping mechanism instead of dealing with stuff. and tbh if most guys i'd met weren't responsible sexually i'd probably be fucked now.

i've gone from sex addiction and acting that out to sexual anorexia. which means not cured but at least i'm not taking risks, but only i decided to do that and coz i had a couple of really bad meets that made me realise i was making poor choices.

i'm starting getting help off these people (sex addicts anonymous), don't know if they support the relatives/friends of sex addicts but i think they do.

http://saauk.info/en/

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!

"He's bluntly said that he didn't care if got a street.

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He does have a problem but it's not necessarily sex addiction. This sounds more like depression leading to self harming. Obviously I'm not an expert but it does sound like he needs to see one anyway.

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By *ab_Sparkles OP Woman
over a year ago

sparkle Surprised

Thanks for your advice and help, I've simply sent the link to the sex addiction site no discussion about it, hopefully he will take note of this. And make the right steps to at least being more sensible.. No one is stopping him but he's just not like he is now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for your advice and help, I've simply sent the link to the sex addiction site no discussion about it, hopefully he will take note of this. And make the right steps to at least being more sensible.. No one is stopping him but he's just not like he is now "
I am sexual compulsive maybe...

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By *andemanMan
over a year ago

bedforshire

Well self control and common sense about health are essential to a long term life on the scene. Frankly sounds like he has issues about his self worth. Common in these type of addictions.

If your children are involved than bluntly he needs to be reminded that as having helped bring them into the world he ether puts them ahead of himself and his desires or loses them. I have no truck for men or woman who dont get that!

Responsability is a pain but frankly thats the point. He has to take fesponsability for his actions and there consequences.

Until they reach the age of 18 your hildren own the right to be put 1st always.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well self control and common sense about health are essential to a long term life on the scene. Frankly sounds like he has issues about his self worth. Common in these type of addictions.

Responsability is a pain but frankly thats the point. He has to take fesponsability for his actions and there consequences.

Until they reach the age of 18 your hildren own the right to be put 1st always."

I don't know about you but I've had several addictions I've overcome... Eventually, with a lot of patience, a lot of love, a lot of support and perseverance.... It's not a clear cut thing to deal with and if he's in a bad place mentally, then taking his kids off him isn't going to help his situation... If he didn't love his kids he wouldn't be parenting them imo... Parenting himself may at this time be beyond his capabilities what with his more pressing day to day responsibilities?!... S'hard to know what's going on as we're not in his shoes x

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By *andemanMan
over a year ago

bedforshire

"Well self control and common sense about health are essential to a long term life on the scene. Frankly sounds like he has issues about his self worth. Common in these type of addictions.

Responsability is a pain but frankly thats the point. He has to take fesponsability for his actions and there consequences.

Until they reach the age of 18 your hildren own the right to be put 1st always.

I am not without compation as a person. But Golden Rule kids always come first. If he must lose them fir a time to remind him of that then longer term its in his own and most imlortaintly the childrens best interest.

Sorry.

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By *DontExistWoman
over a year ago

•+• Silicon valley. •+•

just finished my first meeting. i feel really good about myself right now and hopeful i can change.

if you want to show him this.

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