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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We are still pretty new to this but seem to be getting somewhere with it all now, at last! The only problem is I seem to be having stage fright. Have any other guys had this issue? It's so frustrating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not unusual for the male to get stage fright.. happened to me on many occasions

Think I'm over the worst if it now though, you just have to relax and stop thinking about it

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By *retend_Shy_GuyMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

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By *retend_Shy_GuyMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I used to get very bad stage fright where my little guy was completely useless. My now partner said to "fake it till you make it!" With the confidence. So for a while I was taking just half of a blue pill. Just to keep back the stage fright. Now im much more confident and pills are not needed, in fact now im just a complete deviant!

Good luck OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are still pretty new to this but seem to be getting somewhere with it all now, at last! The only problem is I seem to be having stage fright. Have any other guys had this issue? It's so frustrating. "

Just try to enjoy the experience and relax, dont get too d*unk, dont too to many drugs, just soak up the atmosphere, we promise nothing and expect nothing, if you remove expectation its more fun.. also viagra lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was surprised that I didn't the first time I met a couple - but to be honest she was incredibly sexy and he let me play alone with her at first which got my mind focused on her only....

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By *ot40sCouple
over a year ago

birmingham

Just take a look at your sexy lady that should get your loins stirring

She's lovely!!

Anna x

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

It happens OP - either that or the over excited factor - best way to deal with either situation is try not to get too frustrated by it - focus on other things using other methods and try and relax and you'll probably find the issue goes away naturally once you stop thinking about it.

If it persists then consider consulting your GP to check for any underlying problems that may be behind it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thankyou everyone for the advice, it's nice to know I'm not alone x

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By *retend_Shy_GuyMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

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By *retend_Shy_GuyMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

One thing I've learned since I started in the clubs is that whatever you are going through, however good, bad or weird, your not the first, you won't be the last and your never alone.

Fake it till ya make it!!!

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

This happens all the time and for various reasons. There can be a lot of pressure on guys to perform on demand and in front of an audience. The more you worry about your performance, the more likely you'll get a launch failure

As others have said, focus on other play techniques until things come back. Try and relax and it should all be ok.

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By *m3232Man
over a year ago

maidenhead

Luckily for me it doesn't happen and always rock hard.

Just think it's good fun rather than getting nervous as we are all the same no one is better than the next.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i had this a few yrs ago, first time in a club, cples play room lots of naked men and women all playing tits and pussy everywhere, mildred laying naked legs open inviting me to fuck her, was I dreaming this couldn't get any better,

looks down and there he was doing his impersonation of a maggot,

facked it, just started giving mildred oral touching teaseing her all the foreplay she liked,

I forgot my limp issue and just relaxed, then bingo we were back in business

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By *woodiMan
over a year ago

notts

Never had a problem but when I use the gents and there's a load of blokes there I can't piss !!!! Could fuck all there mrs but not piss what's that all about ??

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Thought this was a thread about Strictly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have before. I think it happens to all at some point.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"I have before. I think it happens to all at some point. "

Nooo not you! Never!

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By *m3232Man
over a year ago

maidenhead


"Never had a problem but when I use the gents and there's a load of blokes there I can't piss !!!! Could fuck all there mrs but not piss what's that all about ?? "

Lol same happens to me I can cum in front of a guy but I can't piss lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First couple of times we went to clubs I had 'stage fright' and left MrsJ a bit frustrated I guess. She didn't complain as she's a good, decent lady. We just carried on with social side of things until eventually the problem went away. Don't worry just go along with it and you'll be firing on all four soon enough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have before. I think it happens to all at some point.

Nooo not you! Never! "
Sorry

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By *ekyllandHydeCouple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

I've met guys who couldn't get it up for me or lose their errection I was thinking it's name my husband tells me otherwise. Frustrating for the lady too when looking forward to a good fuck then mr floppy comes to town not good xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was having sex with a bloke when he got the shakes, his legs were shaking visibly. I said shall we go and watch some more TV. So that's what we did, he was watching crap tv though! Lol XXX

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By *ekyllandHydeCouple
over a year ago

Aberdeen


"I was having sex with a bloke when he got the shakes, his legs were shaking visibly. I said shall we go and watch some more TV. So that's what we did, he was watching crap tv though! Lol XXX"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never had this as an issue myself but I have seen it happen. It's s confidence thing. I use arrogance, but I don't advice it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never had a problem but when I use the gents and there's a load of blokes there I can't piss !!!! Could fuck all there mrs but not piss what's that all about ??

Lol same happens to me I can cum in front of a guy but I can't piss lol"

this!! wtf is it about pissing that just requires solitude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oral For me 10 minutes of concentrating on slowly lapping up a juicy quivering pussy will soon get you reloaded

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never had a problem but when I use the gents and there's a load of blokes there I can't piss !!!! Could fuck all there mrs but not piss what's that all about ??

Lol same happens to me I can cum in front of a guy but I can't piss lol

this!! wtf is it about pissing that just requires solitude.

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None of us learnt to piss in group situations as kids... It's ingrained and a huge barrier to over come.

I only ever get stage fright when someone wants me to perform watersports lol... It isn't particularly a fetish of mine but I do enjoy how it makes me feel, the tension and the fact it feels very naughty to me?!

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By *woodiMan
over a year ago

notts

What's even worse or better lol was her husband was filming the whole thing as I was pissing in her ass and I was ok

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By *woodiMan
over a year ago

notts

I am now a fan of water sports lol

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

Have witnessed a few of guy's not being able to get hard for the Mrs.

She calms them down and spends time kissing and sucking till they are hard enough.

I have thought that it is my presence that causes the issue so I tend to let her meet alone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just take a look at your sexy lady that should get your loins stirring

She's lovely!!

Anna x"

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My issue is sometimes I want to cum too soon the first time. After that I'm fine. Just have to have a tactical wank before the main event

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By *abcouple11Couple
over a year ago

Truro

R (male) here - yes I had a stage-fright stage I had to get through - now I can perform for a full stadium

You will get adjusted to sex as a shared social activity.

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