FabSwingers.com forum: Time wasters...

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

....Waste time?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I don't understand why some men take time to talk to you, swap numbers, chat and ask for a meet, then when you say yes ghost you completely about 12 hours before the meet.

Is it some kind of male ego thing?

Slightly turning me off FAB a bit which is a shame as I HAVE met two lovely men thru here.

Any ideas how to try to stop this?

I'm guessing I'd have more success finding rocking horse droppings but thought I had to put it out there and ask...

Thanks in advance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't understand why some men take time to talk to you, swap numbers, chat and ask for a meet, then when you say yes ghost you completely about 12 hours before the meet.

Is it some kind of male ego thing?

Slightly turning me off FAB a bit which is a shame as I HAVE met two lovely men thru here.

Any ideas how to try to stop this?

I'm guessing I'd have more success finding rocking horse droppings but thought I had to put it out there and ask...

Thanks in advance

Funny you should say that. Because my experience on here is that many females and couples do exactly the same thing. Ive had it done to me too many times to mention. Yeh its a bugger as I put a lot of time into it and get nothing back. But its the nature of the fab beast. The people I have met have more than made up for the timewasters.

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By *rightonCheekyMan
over a year ago

Brighton

Yep unfortunately it's part of Fab and happens to us all at some point whether you are a man, lady or couple. Aside from ing out the obvious fakes it's just a chance you take x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for replying x

I thought that might be the kind of response **sigh**

Time is a precious commodity, and I'd just prefer to spend it with men who want to meet rather than waste it with these type of men ... guess my frustrations will be staying put then

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yep unfortunately it's part of Fab and happens to us all at some point whether you are a man, lady or couple. Aside from ing out the obvious fakes it's just a chance you take x"

Sadly I'm not yet experienced enough to know who the obvious fakes are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yep unfortunately it's part of Fab and happens to us all at some point whether you are a man, lady or couple. Aside from ing out the obvious fakes it's just a chance you take x

Sadly I'm not yet experienced enough to know who the obvious fakes are

The sad truth is. Many aren't fakes, but are still as likely to waste your time, simply because they can. And they do.

Messaged you btw.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't understand why some men take time to talk to you, swap numbers, chat and ask for a meet, then when you say yes ghost you completely about 12 hours before the meet.

Is it some kind of male ego thing?

Slightly turning me off FAB a bit which is a shame as I HAVE met two lovely men thru here.

Any ideas how to try to stop this?

I'm guessing I'd have more success finding rocking horse droppings but thought I had to put it out there and ask...

Thanks in advance

they just want chat and a wank. once they've cum, they're off. no intention of meeting. Sorry but it seems to be the way on here...and the only way some people seem to be able to connect socially and sexually nowadays in general.

just don't do the chat thing....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't understand why some men take time to talk to you, swap numbers, chat and ask for a meet, then when you say yes ghost you completely about 12 hours before the meet.

Is it some kind of male ego thing?

Slightly turning me off FAB a bit which is a shame as I HAVE met two lovely men thru here.

Any ideas how to try to stop this?

I'm guessing I'd have more success finding rocking horse droppings but thought I had to put it out there and ask...

Thanks in advance

just don't do the chat thing...."

So what about the fems and couples who do the same thing.. what do they get out of it?

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By *s4fun3525Couple
over a year ago

london

It is soooo FRUSTRATING!!! Time wasters and fake picture collectors, I really wish there was something Fab could do to stop it because it does gives the site and scene a bad reputation, especially for those newbies. The thing is, we have found and meet some amazing couples on here with which we still keep in touch as friends. We've been trying to find a single girl to join us but we might as well give up on that as it's proving to be impossible!! Any advice on this would be greatly appreciated. Xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't understand why some men take time to talk to you, swap numbers, chat and ask for a meet, then when you say yes ghost you completely about 12 hours before the meet.

Is it some kind of male ego thing?

Slightly turning me off FAB a bit which is a shame as I HAVE met two lovely men thru here.

Any ideas how to try to stop this?

I'm guessing I'd have more success finding rocking horse droppings but thought I had to put it out there and ask...

Thanks in advance

just don't do the chat thing...."

Thanks for the reply ... you might be right ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree, finding that elusive single lady is hard, myself and my lady are always searching, also couples seem to never be able to meet daytimes.

I suppose you have to keep searching to find that elusive treasure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As time goes by, you start to use more filters and avoid those with no verifications etc. And the more you do, the quieter it gets. We recently found out how to search pictures on Google. A lady we chatted to didn't read our last message went quiet. When we searched her pictures, two were on other sites, it dawned on us there were slight differences and not of her. So we deleted and blocked her last night.

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By *lan157Man
over a year ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex

Maybe the men you refer to are married or in relationships and therefore not actually available to meet but like to think they might be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men, women and couples all do it, that bit we do know.

What we don't know is, Why?

Fakes.

Those who are not attracted, talk then bottle it.

Those where their partner doesn't know.

For kicks.

Boredom.

Genuine reason but never said.

... and a whole raft of other possibilities.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't understand why some men take time to talk to you, swap numbers, chat and ask for a meet, then when you say yes ghost you completely about 12 hours before the meet.

Is it some kind of male ego thing?

Slightly turning me off FAB a bit which is a shame as I HAVE met two lovely men thru here.

Any ideas how to try to stop this?

I'm guessing I'd have more success finding rocking horse droppings but thought I had to put it out there and ask...

Thanks in advance

just don't do the chat thing....

So what about the fems and couples who do the same thing.. what do they get out of it? "

the OPs post was specifically about her exoerience with men...that is my opinion on that specifically.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't understand why some men take time to talk to you, swap numbers, chat and ask for a meet, then when you say yes ghost you completely about 12 hours before the meet.

Is it some kind of male ego thing?

Slightly turning me off FAB a bit which is a shame as I HAVE met two lovely men thru here.

Any ideas how to try to stop this?

I'm guessing I'd have more success finding rocking horse droppings but thought I had to put it out there and ask...

Thanks in advance

just don't do the chat thing....

So what about the fems and couples who do the same thing.. what do they get out of it?

the OPs post was specifically about her exoerience with men...that is my opinion on that specifically. "

Fair enough

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Men, women and couples all do it, that bit we do know.

What we don't know is, Why?

Fakes.

Those who are not attracted, talk then bottle it.

Those where their partner doesn't know.

For kicks.

Boredom.

Genuine reason but never said.

... and a whole raft of other possibilities."

Yeah I understand ... does do my head in though

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Maybe the men you refer to are married or in relationships and therefore not actually available to meet but like to think they might be."

Why not be honest about it?

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

This is one of the reasons I like to spend time chatting to people and getting to know them a little before even considering suggesting meeting - you can usually get a 'feel' for a person that way and if they're prepared to put the time and effort in to that then firstly it makes for a better experience when you do meet, but also provides an indication as to how genuine they are

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By *lan157Man
over a year ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex

"Maybe the men you refer to are married or in relationships and therefore not actually available to meet but like to think they might be.

Why not be honest about it?

Perhaps because they think if they were totally honest that you would not get into correspondence at all ? It's hard enough for genuine single guys so must be even harder for the "married but looking" men.Unfortunately some can't actually follow through ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's either a fear thing e.g. reality Vs fantasy or they set everything up in a passion then with a clear head recognise that maybe it wasn't a good idea but aren't able to apologies and decline.

Just filter before you talk to people and commit. Then one one is let down. Unless the person your meeting let's you down.

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

We have found that whilst you can't totally rely on veri's they do help. We also look at the dates of the veri's and how long people have been on Fab.

We only ever arrange to meet people at Clubs, which tends to out a lot and if they don't turn up we still have a very good time

then once we have met people at Clubs we are happy to consider hotel meets...

It is clearly easier for a couple as we can have fun on our own, but singles at Clubs also have a lot of fun

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"This is one of the reasons I like to spend time chatting to people and getting to know them a little before even considering suggesting meeting - you can usually get a 'feel' for a person that way and if they're prepared to put the time and effort in to that then firstly it makes for a better experience when you do meet, but also provides an indication as to how genuine they are

I've done that and still been ghosted at the last minute

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I've done that and still been ghosted at the last minute

That really sucks and sorry to hear it - I don't meet that much due to my own circumstances but wouldn't dream of being so disrespectful or inconsiderate - just doesn't make sense to me.

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

OP, you'll get to spot the signs with time. Stick with it.

If you arrange to meet at a club, then your time won't be so wasted if they suddenly ghost. You can still go and have a good time still.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Feel the total opposite....

If we spend loads to time chatting with people a meet rarely materialises, we find it far better to swap face pics, check compatible in terms of play and arrange meet, simple, never had a no show yet!

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

I've done that and still been ghosted at the last minute

We think we can help with this and would like to message you but you don't accept messages from couples! Message us if you like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

so wrong whoever letting anyone down, but its more us men being let down was we far out number the women on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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well i dont let people down or time waste .....

we are not all the same us fellas

i respect getting a meet and do my utmost

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

We simply won't waste time with chat and getting to know someone before meeting . If the initial pic exchange , and a message or two isn't enough , we ignore them . They are far more likely to be into the fantasy rather than the reality if they want to keep messaging , so maybe once a connection is there after the first couple of messages , you should suggest meeting and cut the chat .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably the oldest question in the swinging world to which there is no answer......

Goes with the territory I'm afraid

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

"We simply won't waste time with chat and getting to know someone before meeting . If the initial pic exchange , and a message or two isn't enough , we ignore them . They are far more likely to be into the fantasy rather than the reality if they want to keep messaging , so maybe once a connection is there after the first couple of messages , you should suggest meeting and cut the chat .

Whilst I agree in principle with that approach, I think the vast majority of women will want to chat with a guy some time before agreeing to meet. For safety reasons if nothing else.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

I agree to a point , but more chat doesn't make safety any more likely .

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

"I agree to a point , but more chat doesn't make safety any more likely ."

I think it does in that you get a feel for people. Not always hundred per cent obviously, but better than nothing.

On the main point, we take your approach with single guys. If we like the look of someone, we will suggest meeting and ask what dates they are available. Lots then say something like they have to check their work schedule and never get back.

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By *ornCouple
over a year ago

Sedgemoor

I had arranged to meet someone this afternoon, just social. She messaged yesterday to say she couldn't make it, then blocked us. That leaves me wondering why.

Tant pis, plenty more fish

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By *robertsCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

It drives us up the wall. Meets or socials it still happens.

We've had it happen to us even when you think it won't . i.e. He won't mess us about, he has lots of verifications.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've done that and still been ghosted at the last minute

That really sucks and sorry to hear it - I don't meet that much due to my own circumstances but wouldn't dream of being so disrespectful or inconsiderate - just doesn't make sense to me."

You have just restored a little bit of faith, thanks ... nice to know that some men are decent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm afraid people just like the chase and a lot of men are attached ,I've always given as much notice for not happening etc as it does happen .

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley

A fair number of people do this and on a site predominantly occupied by men it's likely that they'll form the majority of time wasters, pic hunters, fake couples etc. If you're arranging to meet someone, whether female, couple or male and haven't seen them on camera then you're running the risk that they might not be genuine and that could just account for them suddenly going cold or failing to turn up. Maybe they make themselves feel better about their lives by mucking other people around or maybe they just get off on all the chatting, pic exchange, dirty talk etc and never have any intention of meeting. Whatever the case they're not going to admit it to their victims.

It's perfectly easy for anyone to appear on camera (without showing faces if they don't want to) to show they are what they say - male, female or couple. I reckon if they do that they're far less likely to muck anyone around but there are no guarantees that someone's mind won't change at the last minute and they get cold feet.

As has been said, chatting over a reasonable period of time is a very good way to get to know people here and help identify who's genuine, who's telling porkies and who's actually listening to you. Often the time wasters just want the private pics and the dirty chat before they move on so our advice is don't give anyone these things too easily.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

"It drives us up the wall. Meets or socials it still happens.

We've had it happen to us even when you think it won't . i.e. He won't mess us about, he has lots of verifications. "

It's taken the excitement out of Fab for me. I always condition myself for a no show or a last minute bail which means I've stopped getting exited about meeting new people letting me down.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

There is another phenomenon. The couple that keeps popping up (they have verifications) they must be real. But they simply will not commit to having a quick direct phone chat.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

"Feel the total opposite....

I've found the simpler and shorter the preamble the more chance a meet will happen.

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By *rummiePartyManMan
over a year ago

birmingham

Ask anyone into dogging and they will tell you stories about how "boy racers" consider it some kind of sport to ruin things for the doggers out there.

Bearing in mind that there is no effective age barrier to joining Fab, I wouldn't be surprised if many of the fake profiles belong to kids who think it's some kind of playground game to see how many people they can wind up, or who can get the longest message sequence by being the best fake.

Sadly, to all these kids who want to prove themselves to be cooler than the next dude, we are considered to be "sad" or "perverts" or whatevet, and fair game for them to prey on.

Not all time wasters will be kids but I wouldn't mind betting that a fair few are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We used to call them time wasters but they are just rude

Men women or couples who have no regard for anyone but themselves.

Alike to spoiled teenagers the world revolves around them. So if they have a change of plan the people they arranged a meet with are nothing to them . And in life it's getting more common.

There is a quote by A celebrity who said.."only ugly people have to have manners."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It absolutely drives me mad with frustration, and sorry to errr lower the tone etc but it's down to people chatting with their horny heads on !! .. sometimes you know people are just wanking as they're chatting to you .. but still .. I've virtually murdered a few people in my head ..,

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By *ce948Man
over a year ago

Darlington

"I don't understand why some men take time to talk to you, swap numbers, chat and ask for a meet, then when you say yes ghost you completely about 12 hours before the meet.

Is it some kind of male ego thing?

Slightly turning me off FAB a bit which is a shame as I HAVE met two lovely men thru here.

Any ideas how to try to stop this?

I'm guessing I'd have more success finding rocking horse droppings but thought I had to put it out there and ask...

Thanks in advance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't understand why some men take time to talk to you, swap numbers, chat and ask for a meet, then when you say yes ghost you completely about 12 hours before the meet.

Is it some kind of male ego thing?

Slightly turning me off FAB a bit which is a shame as I HAVE met two lovely men thru here.

Any ideas how to try to stop this?

I'm guessing I'd have more success finding rocking horse droppings but thought I had to put it out there and ask...

Thanks in advance

just don't do the chat thing....

So what about the fems and couples who do the same thing.. what do they get out of it?

the OPs post was specifically about her exoerience with men...that is my opinion on that specifically.

Dont you think blocking me is a little over the top?

Jeez..some people. "

posting on a thread is not an invitation for an unsolicited message and I wasn't interested in any further dialogue with you...posting to people to get round a block is also against the rules

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

OP there are all kinds of people on here. Fakes, losers, dreamers, weirdos, great men etc.

Working out which is which is a skill you will learn. But I've found, as a rule of thumb, if a guy wants to chat for ages and ages before meeting it means he just likes the chat.

The men who are meeters arrange a social coffee/drink within the week. And they tend to turn up.

I see no point 'getting to know someone' if they aren't my type in the flesh. The chatting may seem nice but that's no use if you want to find good men to spend fun time with

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Dont you think blocking me is a little over the top?

Jeez..some people. "

With a post like that I think they probably had a great reason

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It drives us up the wall. Meets or socials it still happens.

We've had it happen to us even when you think it won't . i.e. He won't mess us about, he has lots of verifications.

It's taken the excitement out of Fab for me. I always condition myself for a no show or a last minute bail which means I've stopped getting exited about meeting new people letting me down. "

I get this completely

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We used to call them time wasters but they are just rude

Men women or couples who have no regard for anyone but themselves.

Alike to spoiled teenagers the world revolves around them. So if they have a change of plan the people they arranged a meet with are nothing to them . And in life it's getting more common.

There is a quote by A celebrity who said.."only ugly people have to have manners.""

To be honest you're dead right - it is plain rude ... and as I am not I guess it's why I let it get to me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"OP there are all kinds of people on here. Fakes, losers, dreamers, weirdos, great men etc.

Working out which is which is a skill you will learn. But I've found, as a rule of thumb, if a guy wants to chat for ages and ages before meeting it means he just likes the chat.

The men who are meeters arrange a social coffee/drink within the week. And they tend to turn up.

I see no point 'getting to know someone' if they aren't my type in the flesh. The chatting may seem nice but that's no use if you want to find good men to spend fun time with

Too advice - thanks

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

**Top** advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't understand why some men take time to talk to you, swap numbers, chat and ask for a meet, then when you say yes ghost you completely about 12 hours before the meet.

Is it some kind of male ego thing?

Slightly turning me off FAB a bit which is a shame as I HAVE met two lovely men thru here.

Any ideas how to try to stop this?

I'm guessing I'd have more success finding rocking horse droppings but thought I had to put it out there and ask...

Thanks in advance

As frustrating as it is, it's not just men that do this

Only arrange meets with verified people and chat on phone first, this usually flushes out the time wasters but nothing is full proof

Good luck hun x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't understand why some men take time to talk to you, swap numbers, chat and ask for a meet, then when you say yes ghost you completely about 12 hours before the meet.

Is it some kind of male ego thing?

Slightly turning me off FAB a bit which is a shame as I HAVE met two lovely men thru here.

Any ideas how to try to stop this?

I'm guessing I'd have more success finding rocking horse droppings but thought I had to put it out there and ask...

Thanks in advance

Block and move on x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you ... I'm glad I posted this thread

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't understand why some men take time to talk to you, swap numbers, chat and ask for a meet, then when you say yes ghost you completely about 12 hours before the meet.

Is it some kind of male ego thing?

Slightly turning me off FAB a bit which is a shame as I HAVE met two lovely men thru here.

Any ideas how to try to stop this?

I'm guessing I'd have more success finding rocking horse droppings but thought I had to put it out there and ask...

Thanks in advance

Block and move on x"

I get that but it's the wasted time, money and energy that also does my head in

Not to worry ... living and learning FAB style

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's sad but true but it's the norm on fab

They can be verified or unverified people, they still do it

I've been using this site for 7 years now and over time you do sort the wheat from the chaff and know who is genuine about meeting and who isn't

But every now and then one still slips through the net and catches you out

It's not nice when it does happen because you invest all that time and effort into building a friendship with that person only for them to let you down, I've had it happen to me

Sadly there is no way of stopping people like this

I just block and move on and hope the next person is more genuine and sincere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't understand why some men take time to talk to you, swap numbers, chat and ask for a meet, then when you say yes ghost you completely about 12 hours before the meet.

Is it some kind of male ego thing?

Slightly turning me off FAB a bit which is a shame as I HAVE met two lovely men thru here.

Any ideas how to try to stop this?

I'm guessing I'd have more success finding rocking horse droppings but thought I had to put it out there and ask...

Thanks in advance

Block and move on x

I get that but it's the wasted time, money and energy that also does my head in

Not to worry ... living and learning FAB style

It's true and highly annoying I agree. But not worth wasting any more time on!

I find they tend to go quiet about 12-24 hours before arranged meet!

Oh and try not to tar all men with the same brush

there's some lovely guys out there x

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside

"I don't understand why some men take time to talk to you, swap numbers, chat and ask for a meet, then when you say yes ghost you completely about 12 hours before the meet.

Is it some kind of male ego thing?

Slightly turning me off FAB a bit which is a shame as I HAVE met two lovely men thru here.

Any ideas how to try to stop this?

I'm guessing I'd have more success finding rocking horse droppings but thought I had to put it out there and ask...

Thanks in advance

Spend a long time getting to know somebody before you meet them. Then you will out the timewasters, idiots, fantasists and guys looking for a quick one off fuck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP I've found that refusing to talk about sex on here tends to sort the time wasters out

I've been used too many times as a wank toy by guys who obviously have no intention of meeting

I'll only talk about sex in person (it's more fun anyway, especially on a social in a public place)

The time wasters soon get bored and the genuine guys arrange a meet and generally turn up

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

"OP I've found that refusing to talk about sex on here tends to sort the time wasters out

I've been used too many times as a wank toy by guys who obviously have no intention of meeting

I'll only talk about sex in person (it's more fun anyway, especially on a social in a public place)

The time wasters soon get bored and the genuine guys arrange a meet and generally turn up

Spot on and good advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is very annoying now amount of timewasters/fake profiles on fab. Loose track amount of single guys trying to get meets with a couples profile had a few of them. Can see why more and more people meet in clubs nowadays

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP I've found that refusing to talk about sex on here tends to sort the time wasters out

I've been used too many times as a wank toy by guys who obviously have no intention of meeting

I'll only talk about sex in person (it's more fun anyway, especially on a social in a public place)

The time wasters soon get bored and the genuine guys arrange a meet and generally turn up

absolutely this...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"OP I've found that refusing to talk about sex on here tends to sort the time wasters out

I've been used too many times as a wank toy by guys who obviously have no intention of meeting

I'll only talk about sex in person (it's more fun anyway, especially on a social in a public place)

The time wasters soon get bored and the genuine guys arrange a meet and generally turn up

Do you know, I tend not to on here so god knows where I'm going wrong!!

Never mind ... onwards and upwards as they say ... cheers for the advice tho

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't understand why some men take time to talk to you, swap numbers, chat and ask for a meet, then when you say yes ghost you completely about 12 hours before the meet.

Is it some kind of male ego thing?

Slightly turning me off FAB a bit which is a shame as I HAVE met two lovely men thru here.

Any ideas how to try to stop this?

I'm guessing I'd have more success finding rocking horse droppings but thought I had to put it out there and ask...

Thanks in advance

Spend a long time getting to know somebody before you meet them. Then you will out the timewasters, idiots, fantasists and guys looking for a quick one off fuck. "

Thanks!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep that chin up Ms Minx the meets will eventually come. It's not always a case of having veris or no veris as you'll get disingenuous fabbers on both sides of the fence.

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By *ickeyblueeyes7Man
over a year ago

newport

It doesn't just happen on fab I'm afraid you get these idiots on all sex related sites

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By *reygorCouple
over a year ago

birmingham

we been at this game for years.the fab fun for lots of folks is to talk dirty to a stranger .while wanking in their own home .they have no intention of a live meet.just a better than looking at porno wank.[we get lots of skype ect requests]

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Keep that chin up Ms Minx the meets will eventually come. It's not always a case of having veris or no veris as you'll get disingenuous fabbers on both sides of the fence.

I've had a couple ... it's just the ghosting/no shows that get to me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It doesn't just happen on fab I'm afraid you get these idiots on all sex related sites "

Oh dear!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"we been at this game for years.the fab fun for lots of folks is to talk dirty to a stranger .while wanking in their own home .they have no intention of a live meet.just a better than looking at porno wank.[we get lots of skype ect requests]"

Yeah I get lots of Skype requests too but I tend to ignore those

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It really annoys me that there are some genuine guys here that would love to meet a single lady. Yet the nice guys get overlooked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One must have patience.

The good ones always come ontop

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It really annoys me that there are some genuine guys here that would love to meet a single lady. Yet the nice guys get overlooked. "

I would meet you if you weren't 8-odd hours away

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By *rightonCheekyMan
over a year ago

Brighton

"One must have patience.

The good ones always come ontop "

Or underneath

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One must have patience.

The good ones always come ontop "

The cream always rises to the top

But unfortunately so do all the idiots who spoil it for the rest of us

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

"One must have patience.

The good ones always come ontop

The cream always rises to the top

But unfortunately so do all the idiots who spoil it for the rest of us

Nobody spoils for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wish some timewasters would reply in discussions like this. Perhaps we could all get a better understanding.

I filter and test them but still find some get through. I like group meets and don't do 1 to 1 so I steer clear of guys "looking for a FB" guys and the "quality over quantity" men. Compatibility is important.

I think plain old fear is one aspect of it though. Fear they cannot perform. Fear their fantasies of driving experienced women wild cannot be fulfilled. Fear of meeting a new woman.

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By *oltruckMan
over a year ago

Buxton

Hi just been reading some of the comments on time wasters. I have been on the site for quite a while and had a few meets when I first started with a few couples but after the meet they didnt verify me on my profile and also when a person leaves the site the verifications get removed from your profile.

I mail females and couples but as soon as they see a picture of me and look at my profile they think I am a time waster due to having none or very little verifications.

I try different approaches in my mail but always ends when the same result delete and some cases blocked. Any advice would be much appreciated.

I can accommodate and travel so no problem there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi just been reading some of the comments on time wasters. I have been on the site for quite a while and had a few meets when I first started with a few couples but after the meet they didnt verify me on my profile and also when a person leaves the site the verifications get removed from your profile.

I mail females and couples but as soon as they see a picture of me and look at my profile they think I am a time waster due to having none or very little verifications.

I try different approaches in my mail but always ends when the same result delete and some cases blocked. Any advice would be much appreciated.

I can accommodate and travel so no problem there."

The veri content disappears but the veri date and sex stays in verification summary.

My advice would be to read the persons profile throughly before sending a message and tailor that message to them........ for instance don't send cock pic with first message if their profile clearly states 'face pic with first message'

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By *ouble CCouple
over a year ago

Gran Canaria

"I don't understand why some men take time to talk to you, swap numbers, chat and ask for a meet, then when you say yes ghost you completely about 12 hours before the meet.

Is it some kind of male ego thing?

Slightly turning me off FAB a bit which is a shame as I HAVE met two lovely men thru here.

Any ideas how to try to stop this?

I'm guessing I'd have more success finding rocking horse droppings but thought I had to put it out there and ask...

Thanks in advance

Not just single guys babe. Couples too. As we have found out. Miss C Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One must have patience.

The good ones always come ontop

The cream always rises to the top

But unfortunately so do all the idiots who spoil it for the rest of us

Yes but the wise fabbers know that

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By *oltruckMan
over a year ago

Buxton

I mail females and couples but as soon as they see a picture of me and look at my profile they think I am a time waster due to having none or very little verifications.

I try different approaches in my mail but always ends when the same result delete and some cases blocked. Any advice would be much appreciated.

I can accommodate and travel so no problem there.

The veri content disappears but the veri date and sex stays in verification summary.

thanks for the advice but I have done that by tailoring my message around what they are looking for in the profile willing to meet for a social first and attaching face pic with my message no point in a cock pic as there is one on my profile. I just come to the point that is it worth bothering with?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just want to say thanks for all the input ... I felt like it was just me but reading your feedback made me realise it isn't lol ... so over the last few days my confidence has increased a little ... only a good thing as far as I am concerned.

Thank you

M-moo69 xx

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"**Top** advice

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