FabSwingers.com forum: Profile dilemma

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Recently a new profile appeared for a single lady near to me, when I viewed said profile and pictures I recognised her as one half of a couple that used to be on fab, whereas I know people leave and return, I'm one of them, it was her decision to leave this Fab world behind. My dilemma is that on the distance guide it states she is 20 miles from me yet I know 100% that she is abroad at the moment does this mean her partner has set this profile up without her knowing and if so why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some couple's set up single profiles so they can play separately. If she's meeting men on her own then she now has a single profile.

She could have set this up abroad and put her postcode in as her normal one. She also could have set this up before she went and hubby could be setting up a meeting for her.

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By *rightonCheekyMan
over a year ago

Brighton

It's either a fake profile or it's not a fake profile. I'll tell you what it isn't though. It's not a dilemma.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If it's fake then surely the person who has created it is wrong to do so?

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By *rightonCheekyMan
over a year ago

Brighton

"If it's fake then surely the person who has created it is wrong to do so?"

Oh absolutely it's wrong but alas it happens all the time. There is no dilemma though

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Some couple's set up single profiles so they can play separately. If she's meeting men on her own then she now has a single profile.

She could have set this up abroad and put her postcode in as her normal one. She also could have set this up before she went and hubby could be setting up a meeting for her.

I understand that some couples have single profiles as well but one of the pictures posted I am in along with her and I know she wouldn't have that picture herself only the person who took it, also the who's near location surely should show a greater distance as she is abroad right now?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If it's fake then surely the person who has created it is wrong to do so?

Oh absolutely it's wrong but alas it happens all the time. There is no dilemma though "

So should I message said profile to see if it's real or fake or her directly as we have become friends outside of Fab as well?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If it's fake then surely the person who has created it is wrong to do so?

Oh absolutely it's wrong but alas it happens all the time. There is no dilemma though "

Surely the dilemma is does he tell the lady in case it is a fake. I'd think a lot of women would want to know if someone has set up a fake profile using their details. It can end in dangerous situations.

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By *rightonCheekyMan
over a year ago

Brighton

"If it's fake then surely the person who has created it is wrong to do so?

Oh absolutely it's wrong but alas it happens all the time. There is no dilemma though

So should I message said profile to see if it's real or fake or her directly as we have become friends outside of Fab as well? "

If you know her personally outside Fab what's the point of messaging this new profile? Just mention it to her when she's back in the country

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By *eliciousladyWoman
over a year ago

Sometimes U.K

Why not drop her a private message as a friend, saying you notice she's back on Fabs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If it's fake then surely the person who has created it is wrong to do so?

Oh absolutely it's wrong but alas it happens all the time. There is no dilemma though

So should I message said profile to see if it's real or fake or her directly as we have become friends outside of Fab as well? "

Message her directly. Don't alert the fab profile in case it's fake. Even if it's real and she tells you to fuck off, I think it's worth the risk in case it is a fake one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If it's fake then surely the person who has created it is wrong to do so?

Oh absolutely it's wrong but alas it happens all the time. There is no dilemma though

So should I message said profile to see if it's real or fake or her directly as we have become friends outside of Fab as well?

If you are a friend of the lady then contact her privately and tell her what you have seen on fabs in case someone else is using her photo on fabs x

Message her directly. Don't alert the fab profile in case it's fake. Even if it's real and she tells you to fuck off, I think it's worth the risk in case it is a fake one. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If it's fake then surely the person who has created it is wrong to do so?

Oh absolutely it's wrong but alas it happens all the time. There is no dilemma though

So should I message said profile to see if it's real or fake or her directly as we have become friends outside of Fab as well?

If you know her personally outside Fab what's the point of messaging this new profile? Just mention it to her when she's back in the country "

But if her partner has done it without her knowledge and I mention the profile to her wouldn't that create an issue between them?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If it's fake then surely the person who has created it is wrong to do so?

Oh absolutely it's wrong but alas it happens all the time. There is no dilemma though

So should I message said profile to see if it's real or fake or her directly as we have become friends outside of Fab as well?

Message her directly. Don't alert the fab profile in case it's fake. Even if it's real and she tells you to fuck off, I think it's worth the risk in case it is a fake one. "

Why would a friend tell me to "fuck off"?

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By *rightonCheekyMan
over a year ago

Brighton

"If it's fake then surely the person who has created it is wrong to do so?

Oh absolutely it's wrong but alas it happens all the time. There is no dilemma though

So should I message said profile to see if it's real or fake or her directly as we have become friends outside of Fab as well?

If you know her personally outside Fab what's the point of messaging this new profile? Just mention it to her when she's back in the country

But if her partner has done it without her knowledge and I mention the profile to her wouldn't that create an issue between them?"

Depends if they are still together and all sorts of permutations. Like I said if you know her outside Fab just mention it in psssing. I think you are over thinking this tbh.

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By *imetoexplore69Couple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

"Recently a new profile appeared for a single lady near to me, when I viewed said profile and pictures I recognised her as one half of a couple that used to be on fab, whereas I know people leave and return, I'm one of them, it was her decision to leave this Fab world behind. My dilemma is that on the distance guide it states she is 20 miles from me yet I know 100% that she is abroad at the moment does this mean her partner has set this profile up without her knowing and if so why?"
just because she is abroad dosent mean it is fake.the profile goes by the postcode she put into it while setting it up.If she is as close a friend as you say then next time you see her in "real life " just say hey seen you are back on again,or you could always just wait a while and see if the profile gets meet verified.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why not drop her a private message as a friend, saying you notice she's back on Fabs. "

We were just about to say this.

Seems the most logical and innocent take on this minor matter.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why not drop her a private message as a friend, saying you notice she's back on Fabs.

We were just about to say this.

Seems the most logical and innocent take on this minor matter."

But if she knows nothing about it then it could cause a problem between her and her partner.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you know it will cause trouble for either party, why not just stay out of it?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"If it's fake then surely the person who has created it is wrong to do so?

Oh absolutely it's wrong but alas it happens all the time. There is no dilemma though

So should I message said profile to see if it's real or fake or her directly as we have become friends outside of Fab as well?

If you know her personally outside Fab what's the point of messaging this new profile? Just mention it to her when she's back in the country

But if her partner has done it without her knowledge and I mention the profile to her wouldn't that create an issue between them?"

Yes it would.

If you feel you should tell her, do so. I'm not an advocate of interfering in other people's relationships unless I believe one of them is at risk of or actually being abused, if you think that might be the case contact her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why not drop her a private message as a friend, saying you notice she's back on Fabs.

We were just about to say this.

Seems the most logical and innocent take on this minor matter.

But if she knows nothing about it then it could cause a problem between her and her partner....."

And?

You have innocently noticed her and you are innocently just saying, "Hi, just noticed you're back".

Ignore all the permutations, you're just over thinking. If she set it up on purpose then alls good, or if her bloke set it up then it's up to her to decide on what to go. It's of no concern of yours tbh.

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

"If it's fake then surely the person who has created it is wrong to do so?

Oh absolutely it's wrong but alas it happens all the time. There is no dilemma though

So should I message said profile to see if it's real or fake or her directly as we have become friends outside of Fab as well?

If you know her personally outside Fab what's the point of messaging this new profile? Just mention it to her when she's back in the country "

Seems OP you are over thinking this making it more than it should be.

You know her in the real world

Speak to her

Not difficult

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If it's fake then surely the person who has created it is wrong to do so?

Oh absolutely it's wrong but alas it happens all the time. There is no dilemma though

So should I message said profile to see if it's real or fake or her directly as we have become friends outside of Fab as well?

If you know her personally outside Fab what's the point of messaging this new profile? Just mention it to her when she's back in the country

Seems OP you are over thinking this making it more than it should be.

You know her in the real world

Speak to her

Not difficult "

I know them both very well so it makes it awkward to broach the subject with her.

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

Not really

Just mention it

Rest is up to her

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By *rightonCheekyMan
over a year ago

Brighton

"If it's fake then surely the person who has created it is wrong to do so?

Oh absolutely it's wrong but alas it happens all the time. There is no dilemma though

So should I message said profile to see if it's real or fake or her directly as we have become friends outside of Fab as well?

If you know her personally outside Fab what's the point of messaging this new profile? Just mention it to her when she's back in the country

Seems OP you are over thinking this making it more than it should be.

You know her in the real world

Speak to her

Not difficult

I know them both very well so it makes it awkward to broach the subject with her. "

It's only awkward if you are white knighting and looking for an angle to use it as an opportunity to get in her kickers. Otherwise, mention it in passing or say nowt. It's unbelievably simple.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for all your insights, I think I may just watch quietly and see which way the profile goes as in verifications and then decide my course of action.

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By *apillonNoirWoman
over a year ago

There...

I live half the year in Spain but keep my postcode as W Midlands to set up meets when I'm back. She may have been sat on a beach with time on her hands and set up a profile as a single fem. It's big deal.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If it's fake then surely the person who has created it is wrong to do so?

Oh absolutely it's wrong but alas it happens all the time. There is no dilemma though

So should I message said profile to see if it's real or fake or her directly as we have become friends outside of Fab as well?

If you know her personally outside Fab what's the point of messaging this new profile? Just mention it to her when she's back in the country

Seems OP you are over thinking this making it more than it should be.

You know her in the real world

Speak to her

Not difficult

I know them both very well so it makes it awkward to broach the subject with her.

It's only awkward if you are white knighting and looking for an angle to use it as an opportunity to get in her kickers. Otherwise, mention it in passing or say nowt. It's unbelievably simple."

If I saw it as an opportunity for that then I would have just messaged the profile rather than ask a question in the forum.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Update if anyone is interested......the said profile is genuine, I'll say no more.

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