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Fiancé Dream about swinging?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Heya, some advice. My long-term fiancé recently had dream she was having sex and that another women was licking her whilst she gave me a blowjob and was sucking me. She woke up really horny and so we had sex for a couple hours.

Now, she'a not normally very sexual, a couple of toys and a strap on but only sexual occasionally in a month so the dream threw me a bit. She's also never had sex with anybody else so as you can imagine, is relatively conservative. How best can I help manifest this into her opening the idea up about swinging? If I bring it up, it'll be taken very light-hearted so it's need to come from her.

Any advice ? Many thanks in advance.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Any advice? x

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By *aelawMan
over a year ago

Paisley

You really need to speak to her. You say it will be taken light hearted not if you sir her down and tell her seriously.

Otherwise, get some porn, a magazine. Doesn't need to be lesbian focused and watch/read it together and see what happens maybe the conversation will come up. Ask her questions about what she is watching or looking at.

So many ways you can approach it but always about stepping up to the plate and speaking to her sincerely.

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By *abulously curiousCouple
over a year ago

manchester

Speak to her the worlds changed long gone is the missionary position so many of my friends have experimented with girls!! X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for your advice, certainly that's probably best option x

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

Definitely talk to her. Maybe get her to talk about the dream again and see if it's planted any ideas in her mind. If she's as conservative as you say, she may be conditioned to bury any thoughts like this instead of embracing them.

If she mentions enjoying the dream or the after thoughts then suggest to her that there are ways to make it a reality if she wants. Don't push it if she's really not keen. Some things are best left as dreams

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Heya, some advice. My long-term fiancé recently had dream she was having sex and that another women was licking her whilst she gave me a blowjob and was sucking me. She woke up really horny and so we had sex for a couple hours.

Now, she'a not normally very sexual, a couple of toys and a strap on but only sexual occasionally in a month so the dream threw me a bit. She's also never had sex with anybody else so as you can imagine, is relatively conservative. How best can I help manifest this into her opening the idea up about swinging? If I bring it up, it'll be taken very light-hearted so it's need to come from her.

Any advice ? Many thanks in advance. "

I think a couple of toys and a strap on is fairly sexual. Is it the frequency of her being sexual that makes you think she isn't.

If she felt able to tell you her dream, which to be honest sounds more like someone's fantasy to me, surely the two of you can discuss the possibility of making it real. If it was just a dream you'll know, if she wants to take it further you'll know. Problem solved.

It was "her"dream wasn't it?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Definitely talk to her. Maybe get her to talk about the dream again and see if it's planted any ideas in her mind. If she's as conservative as you say, she may be conditioned to bury any thoughts like this instead of embracing them.

If she mentions enjoying the dream or the after thoughts then suggest to her that there are ways to make it a reality if she wants. Don't push it if she's really not keen. Some things are best left as dreams "

Thank you for your fantastic response, I think you've hit the nail in the head! I certainly won't push, I'll probe and see what her response is

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Heya, some advice. My long-term fiancé recently had dream she was having sex and that another women was licking her whilst she gave me a blowjob and was sucking me. She woke up really horny and so we had sex for a couple hours.

Now, she'a not normally very sexual, a couple of toys and a strap on but only sexual occasionally in a month so the dream threw me a bit. She's also never had sex with anybody else so as you can imagine, is relatively conservative. How best can I help manifest this into her opening the idea up about swinging? If I bring it up, it'll be taken very light-hearted so it's need to come from her.

Any advice ? Many thanks in advance.

I think a couple of toys and a strap on is fairly sexual. Is it the frequency of her being sexual that makes you think she isn't.

If she felt able to tell you her dream, which to be honest sounds more like someone's fantasy to me, surely the two of you can discuss the possibility of making it real. If it was just a dream you'll know, if she wants to take it further you'll know. Problem solved.

It was "her"dream wasn't it?"

Haha, yes definitely was her, my fiancé (just to confirm) that dreamt it. Always worth checking though right!

Yeah she seems to go through phases of being sexual, she had talked about getting some ropes to tie her/me up in, not purchased though yet.

I think your certainly right, she was unsure how I'd react from the way she begun to mention it, certainly must be an element of fantasy. We hadn't watched any porn as of late so couldn't have just sprung out of nowhere right?!

Thanks for taking the time out for the advice x

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By * SCARED x STIFF xCouple
over a year ago

west midlands

If she mentioned getting some ropes she probably meant it as a hint that she wants YOU to get the ropes and tie HER up, so take the lead (pun intended) not only will she be grateful that you've got her a present , she will also be reassured that you're ok with her getting a bit kinky now and then

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

Gran Canaria

I've had dreams where I do all kinds of crap. Does not indicate that I want to do any of it for real.

As your fiance though we'd certainly recommend discussing it prior to marriage.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks both, I'm going to go ahead and order those bits for sure and then have a conversation about anything further. However totally get it, it could just be a dream and that's where she wants to keep it xx

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By * SCARED x STIFF xCouple
over a year ago

west midlands

Something else you can do as a conversation starter is if you both have smart phones download the ipassion app, it's a game you play together all about wants and desires, it's mostly quite tame but swinging questions do pop up from time to time, it's a very tongue in cheek and casual way of bringing up the subject

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Something else you can do as a conversation starter is if you both have smart phones download the ipassion app, it's a game you play together all about wants and desires, it's mostly quite tame but swinging questions do pop up from time to time, it's a very tongue in cheek and casual way of bringing up the subject"

Oh wow, never come across that before. I'll have a search now, sounds really natural way if bringing the conversation up, thank you!

Really appreciate all the genuine advice from everybody x

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