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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm a curvy Lady and looking for a reliable none pushy Dom guy who's okay with pictures and videos being taken and if we get along then it could be a regular thing.

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By *oping for funMan
over a year ago

Newport - Shropshire


"I'm a curvy Lady and looking for a reliable none pushy Dom guy who's okay with pictures and videos being taken and if we get along then it could be a regular thing."

Hello ... Please message me and we can chat about your desires x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good luck with your hunt. I would like the same thing (from the opposite side). Shame we are not closer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I looking for a sub

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a curvy Lady and looking for a reliable none pushy Dom guy who's okay with pictures and videos being taken and if we get along then it could be a regular thing."

You're not alone with those desires

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It's so difficult to find though

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I looking for a sub"

Thanks for the reply but your not for me I'm afraid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a curvy Lady and looking for a reliable none pushy Dom guy who's okay with pictures and videos being taken and if we get along then it could be a regular thing.

You're not alone with those desires "

Seconded

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

The unicorn of the mens side of fab..... allegedly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep at it OP, they do exist. I've had my travel distances more than doubled to see one. One meet, and best decision I ever made. Some are worth travelling for.

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By *angbang guyMan
over a year ago

chester sometimes derby

Well I might be just up your street I spend half of my week four days up in North Wales I have a cottage near Prestatyn and work in Wrexham I am very dominant and love to have fun and ideally would be also looking for something regular I'll private message you

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By *inge61Couple
over a year ago

n/wales

It would be good to have a sub but trying to sort that out round here is a bit of a problem lol

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By *ocks99Man
over a year ago

Reading


"Keep at it OP, they do exist. I've had my travel distances more than doubled to see one. One meet, and best decision I ever made. Some are worth travelling for.

"

Needs that teleporter....

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire


"I'm a curvy Lady and looking for a reliable none pushy Dom guy who's okay with pictures and videos being taken and if we get along then it could be a regular thing.

You're not alone with those desires

Seconded "

Agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of people both men and women say that they are DOM and Sub but don't have a clue what they are doing so before you any of you agree to meet check them out 1st. Am allways looking of Subs. Van Newbury

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

Believe me it's the checking that digs out all the fakes and why the search continues!

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By *inge61Couple
over a year ago

n/wales

It helps if the dom has some toys to use and knows how to use them and sets out things for you like safe words etc and you both decide how far you want to go a lot of it is in the planning etc I'm sure you will find some one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It helps if the dom has some toys to use and knows how to use them and sets out things for you like safe words etc and you both decide how far you want to go a lot of it is in the planning etc I'm sure you will find some one "

I agree, too many men on here thinking they are Dom when in reality they are not. I had a friend who came back bruised after a meet. I said a real dom wouldn't do that!! Be careful in your search.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"It helps if the dom has some toys to use and knows how to use them and sets out things for you like safe words etc and you both decide how far you want to go a lot of it is in the planning etc I'm sure you will find some one

I agree, too many men on here thinking they are Dom when in reality they are not. I had a friend who came back bruised after a meet. I said a real dom wouldn't do that!! Be careful in your search. "

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By *unguya2zMan
over a year ago

coventry..ish


"I'm a curvy Lady and looking for a reliable none pushy Dom guy who's okay with pictures and videos being taken and if we get along then it could be a regular thing."

Hi it's a pity we are so far apart.

I wish you well.

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By *inge61Couple
over a year ago

n/wales

I enjoy it when we do play like that ohh and it's nice the other way round

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It helps if the dom has some toys to use and knows how to use them and sets out things for you like safe words etc and you both decide how far you want to go a lot of it is in the planning etc I'm sure you will find some one

I agree, too many men on here thinking they are Dom when in reality they are not. I had a friend who came back bruised after a meet. I said a real dom wouldn't do that!! Be careful in your search.

"

With respect I disagree with your statement in a number of ways. Firstly 'true doms' like 'true subs'do not exist, there only doms that provide a good experience as possible for that particular sub at a particular point in time. This takes into account either party with the best will not getting on despite having done full negotiation and got to know each other.

Secondly bruising is not the sign of a 'bad dom'. If the bruising was not negotiated and was caused deliberately with the intention to bruise against the sub's implied and overt consent that has nothing to do with bdsm but is criminal assault. However I know people who want to be bruised and wear their bruises as medals. I also know that some subs in the heat of the moment do not realise how hard they are being hit but enjoy the experience. I was part of a scene where the domme was increasing the intensity of the impact on the subs bottom and thighs. The sub was moaning away asking for more. The sub's husband said 'oops no harder we are on a family holiday in two days and she will be wearing a bikini!'.

Additionally a sub can move at the wrong time the wrong way and can receive a bruise.

Therefore I would suggest except where a person acts without consent, the pleasure received by a sub from a dom (and vice versa) is contextual.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Keep at it OP, they do exist. I've had my travel distances more than doubled to see one. One meet, and best decision I ever made. Some are worth travelling for.

Needs that teleporter.... "

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By *istressZoeTV/TS
over a year ago

cheshire

I've travelled for the right sub and it was worth my while x

Wrexham isn't a million miles outside my normal area x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It helps if the dom has some toys to use and knows how to use them and sets out things for you like safe words etc and you both decide how far you want to go a lot of it is in the planning etc I'm sure you will find some one

I agree, too many men on here thinking they are Dom when in reality they are not. I had a friend who came back bruised after a meet. I said a real dom wouldn't do that!! Be careful in your search. "

I couldn't disagree more. A real Dom would do that. Provided it's what you agreed to in the first place and what you are both looking for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It helps if the dom has some toys to use and knows how to use them and sets out things for you like safe words etc and you both decide how far you want to go a lot of it is in the planning etc I'm sure you will find some one

I agree, too many men on here thinking they are Dom when in reality they are not. I had a friend who came back bruised after a meet. I said a real dom wouldn't do that!! Be careful in your search.

With respect I disagree with your statement in a number of ways. Firstly 'true doms' like 'true subs'do not exist, there only doms that provide a good experience as possible for that particular sub at a particular point in time. This takes into account either party with the best will not getting on despite having done full negotiation and got to know each other.

Secondly bruising is not the sign of a 'bad dom'. If the bruising was not negotiated and was caused deliberately with the intention to bruise against the sub's implied and overt consent that has nothing to do with bdsm but is criminal assault. However I know people who want to be bruised and wear their bruises as medals. I also know that some subs in the heat of the moment do not realise how hard they are being hit but enjoy the experience. I was part of a scene where the domme was increasing the intensity of the impact on the subs bottom and thighs. The sub was moaning away asking for more. The sub's husband said 'oops no harder we are on a family holiday in two days and she will be wearing a bikini!'.

Additionally a sub can move at the wrong time the wrong way and can receive a bruise.

Therefore I would suggest except where a person acts without consent, the pleasure received by a sub from a dom (and vice versa) is contextual."

This

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By *ornylittlesubWoman
over a year ago

Grangemouth


"It helps if the dom has some toys to use and knows how to use them and sets out things for you like safe words etc and you both decide how far you want to go a lot of it is in the planning etc I'm sure you will find some one

I agree, too many men on here thinking they are Dom when in reality they are not. I had a friend who came back bruised after a meet. I said a real dom wouldn't do that!! Be careful in your search.

I couldn't disagree more. A real Dom would do that. Provided it's what you agreed to in the first place and what you are both looking for. "

This...I have been bruised/marked many times...and LOVED it!

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By *entadreadMan
over a year ago

Essex


"I'm a curvy Lady and looking for a reliable none pushy Dom guy who's okay with pictures and videos being taken and if we get along then it could be a regular thing.

You're not alone with those desires "
making my way to cambs

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It helps if the dom has some toys to use and knows how to use them and sets out things for you like safe words etc and you both decide how far you want to go a lot of it is in the planning etc I'm sure you will find some one

I agree, too many men on here thinking they are Dom when in reality they are not. I had a friend who came back bruised after a meet. I said a real dom wouldn't do that!! Be careful in your search. "

Thank you for your advice

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It helps if the dom has some toys to use and knows how to use them and sets out things for you like safe words etc and you both decide how far you want to go a lot of it is in the planning etc I'm sure you will find some one

I agree, too many men on here thinking they are Dom when in reality they are not. I had a friend who came back bruised after a meet. I said a real dom wouldn't do that!! Be careful in your search.

With respect I disagree with your statement in a number of ways. Firstly 'true doms' like 'true subs'do not exist, there only doms that provide a good experience as possible for that particular sub at a particular point in time. This takes into account either party with the best will not getting on despite having done full negotiation and got to know each other.

Secondly bruising is not the sign of a 'bad dom'. If the bruising was not negotiated and was caused deliberately with the intention to bruise against the sub's implied and overt consent that has nothing to do with bdsm but is criminal assault. However I know people who want to be bruised and wear their bruises as medals. I also know that some subs in the heat of the moment do not realise how hard they are being hit but enjoy the experience. I was part of a scene where the domme was increasing the intensity of the impact on the subs bottom and thighs. The sub was moaning away asking for more. The sub's husband said 'oops no harder we are on a family holiday in two days and she will be wearing a bikini!'.

Additionally a sub can move at the wrong time the wrong way and can receive a bruise.

Therefore I would suggest except where a person acts without consent, the pleasure received by a sub from a dom (and vice versa) is contextual."

I actually agree with your comments on so many levels, I had a bruise left on my back side from a Dom and Neither of us were aware he had marked me with a bite as it was all done in the heat of the moment it's very easy to get carried away

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By *az1Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

Hey I'm based in Birmingham and have plenty of role plays we could try if you or anyone else is interested. Some of which I've put on my profile if you would like to have a read xx

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By *ommenhimCouple
over a year ago

wigan


"A lot of people both men and women say that they are DOM and Sub but don't have a clue what they are doing so before you any of you agree to meet check them out 1st. Am allways looking of Subs. Van Newbury "

Oh sage! I yield to your superior knowledge.

Oh and no mention of d/s in your profile would reduce your opportunity !

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"It helps if the dom has some toys to use and knows how to use them and sets out things for you like safe words etc and you both decide how far you want to go a lot of it is in the planning etc I'm sure you will find some one

I agree, too many men on here thinking they are Dom when in reality they are not. I had a friend who came back bruised after a meet. I said a real dom wouldn't do that!! Be careful in your search.

With respect I disagree with your statement in a number of ways. Firstly 'true doms' like 'true subs'do not exist, there only doms that provide a good experience as possible for that particular sub at a particular point in time. This takes into account either party with the best will not getting on despite having done full negotiation and got to know each other.

Secondly bruising is not the sign of a 'bad dom'. If the bruising was not negotiated and was caused deliberately with the intention to bruise against the sub's implied and overt consent that has nothing to do with bdsm but is criminal assault. However I know people who want to be bruised and wear their bruises as medals. I also know that some subs in the heat of the moment do not realise how hard they are being hit but enjoy the experience. I was part of a scene where the domme was increasing the intensity of the impact on the subs bottom and thighs. The sub was moaning away asking for more. The sub's husband said 'oops no harder we are on a family holiday in two days and she will be wearing a bikini!'.

Additionally a sub can move at the wrong time the wrong way and can receive a bruise.

Therefore I would suggest except where a person acts without consent, the pleasure received by a sub from a dom (and vice versa) is contextual.

I actually agree with your comments on so many levels, I had a bruise left on my back side from a Dom and Neither of us were aware he had marked me with a bite as it was all done in the heat of the moment it's very easy to get carried away"

A Dom that gets carried away... interesting...

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By *ogerNesszonesMan
over a year ago

Northern England

I'm sure she's out there somewhere.

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By *omis.69Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

Just carry on looking and I always stand by the

Understand the needs and wants, develop the boundaries and explore the mind.

The body will follow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know why people get so hung up on titles. I have switched but mainly take the dominant role these days. I'm not bothered about sub slave etc. We get some bondage going and have some mutual fun...even if it sometimes doesn't feel that way. Why lock down to specific titles and descriptions?

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"I don't know why people get so hung up on titles. I have switched but mainly take the dominant role these days. I'm not bothered about sub slave etc. We get some bondage going and have some mutual fun...even if it sometimes doesn't feel that way. Why lock down to specific titles and descriptions? "

Suspect they are words to describe a generalised process as a noun.

A start to understanding behaviour values , well at a guess.....

Flipping 'ech, need more wine...

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

Will a slightly grumpy one do?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't know why people get so hung up on titles. I have switched but mainly take the dominant role these days. I'm not bothered about sub slave etc. We get some bondage going and have some mutual fun...even if it sometimes doesn't feel that way. Why lock down to specific titles and descriptions? "

Simple example Jo likes to drive cars, Jo uses the term driver and hates being driven. Jo has a friend Chris, who hates driving and likes being driven. Jo and Chris have fun driving. They have another friend Pat who likes to drive and be driven. Providing Pat is in the opposite mode, either Jo or Chris can have fun driving with Pat, if Pat is in the same mode nothing happens. Whereas Pat's friend Alex does not mind driving or being passenger, so if Pat and Alex are in a don't care mood they drive together. Hence it's good to know who is a driver, who is a passenger and who likes to switch.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't know why people get so hung up on titles. I have switched but mainly take the dominant role these days. I'm not bothered about sub slave etc. We get some bondage going and have some mutual fun...even if it sometimes doesn't feel that way. Why lock down to specific titles and descriptions?

Simple example Jo likes to drive cars, Jo uses the term driver and hates being driven. Jo has a friend Chris, who hates driving and likes being driven. Jo and Chris have fun driving. They have another friend Pat who likes to drive and be driven. Providing Pat is in the opposite mode, either Jo or Chris can have fun driving with Pat, if Pat is in the same mode nothing happens. Whereas Pat's friend Alex does not mind driving or being passenger, so if Pat and Alex are in a don't care mood they drive together. Hence it's good to know who is a driver, who is a passenger and who likes to switch."

Interesting way to put it. Labels are important sometimes though. I thought I was playing with a Dom once, but really he was a sadist. Didn't turn out well.

I've found a lot of guys don't understand what a Dom is. For example, Fred is an average driver. He sees Scarlett who he'd like to take for a drive. Scarlett is looking for a racing car driver though. Someone who has additional skills and knows how to push things to its limits without breaking the car. Fred thinks he can do it, but is more like a boy racer, driving as fast and as hard as possible and doesn't care if the car gets wrecked in the process.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"I don't know why people get so hung up on titles. I have switched but mainly take the dominant role these days. I'm not bothered about sub slave etc. We get some bondage going and have some mutual fun...even if it sometimes doesn't feel that way. Why lock down to specific titles and descriptions?

Simple example Jo likes to drive cars, Jo uses the term driver and hates being driven. Jo has a friend Chris, who hates driving and likes being driven. Jo and Chris have fun driving. They have another friend Pat who likes to drive and be driven. Providing Pat is in the opposite mode, either Jo or Chris can have fun driving with Pat, if Pat is in the same mode nothing happens. Whereas Pat's friend Alex does not mind driving or being passenger, so if Pat and Alex are in a don't care mood they drive together. Hence it's good to know who is a driver, who is a passenger and who likes to switch.

Interesting way to put it. Labels are important sometimes though. I thought I was playing with a Dom once, but really he was a sadist. Didn't turn out well.

I've found a lot of guys don't understand what a Dom is. For example, Fred is an average driver. He sees Scarlett who he'd like to take for a drive. Scarlett is looking for a racing car driver though. Someone who has additional skills and knows how to push things to its limits without breaking the car. Fred thinks he can do it, but is more like a boy racer, driving as fast and as hard as possible and doesn't care if the car gets wrecked in the process.

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(Smiles) and there a Fredesses who live the dream get wrecked because they don't.

Some comfort zones are quite small, you can see/hear/feel it in the forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't know why people get so hung up on titles. I have switched but mainly take the dominant role these days. I'm not bothered about sub slave etc. We get some bondage going and have some mutual fun...even if it sometimes doesn't feel that way. Why lock down to specific titles and descriptions?

Simple example Jo likes to drive cars, Jo uses the term driver and hates being driven. Jo has a friend Chris, who hates driving and likes being driven. Jo and Chris have fun driving. They have another friend Pat who likes to drive and be driven. Providing Pat is in the opposite mode, either Jo or Chris can have fun driving with Pat, if Pat is in the same mode nothing happens. Whereas Pat's friend Alex does not mind driving or being passenger, so if Pat and Alex are in a don't care mood they drive together. Hence it's good to know who is a driver, who is a passenger and who likes to switch.

Interesting way to put it. Labels are important sometimes though. I thought I was playing with a Dom once, but really he was a sadist. Didn't turn out well.

I've found a lot of guys don't understand what a Dom is. For example, Fred is an average driver. He sees Scarlett who he'd like to take for a drive. Scarlett is looking for a racing car driver though. Someone who has additional skills and knows how to push things to its limits without breaking the car. Fred thinks he can do it, but is more like a boy racer, driving as fast and as hard as possible and doesn't care if the car gets wrecked in the process.

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I can imagine there was a car crash experience.

In all honesty I tend to see it differently.

Fred is still a driver but not the driver for Scarlet. Tracy who wanted a boy racer was perfectly happy with Fred's driving and thought the crashes exciting.

I would suggest that the broader issue is that the terms 'dom' and 'sub' are now useless by themselves in describing the abilities, skills, wants and desires of the person putting themselves forward in either category.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ouch my first post in forums and got savaged

I was just trying to put the point across that I enjoy being submissive or dominant at times and the experience that goes with each. I don't know what title it is for each and at the time as long as I'm enjoying it, then that's the point.

I'm not highly experienced by any means so apologies if I upset the more experienced and knowledgeable on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ouch my first post in forums and got savaged

I was just trying to put the point across that I enjoy being submissive or dominant at times and the experience that goes with each. I don't know what title it is for each and at the time as long as I'm enjoying it, then that's the point.

I'm not highly experienced by any means so apologies if I upset the more experienced and knowledgeable on here. "

There was no intention on my part to savage you. I have on a number of occasions received a poke in the eye with a sharp stick in the forum I would not deliberately do the same to another.

Rather than just saying 'because' I thought I was providing a fairly inoffensive example of why labels matter, as your comment seemed to extend beyond yourself and to other people. The phrases 'why do people do' or 'why don't people do' are regular comments on this forum and bdsm forums.

In regard to bdsm I have learnt rather than ask such questions but say to myself a maxim in kink which is helpful which is:' Your kink or your way of doing kink is not my kink but I respect your right to practise it.' [Subject to the usual consent and abuse exclusions and not unexpectedly being exposed to matters in a public venue that are on the edge, slave auctions, impact until blood appears and Nazi regalia]

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