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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

hi folks,we have a meet set up for this friday,after chatting on the phone and meeting in person,the male half of the couple wants to bareback my wife,his excuse is as we are new to the scene its less risky,???wtf

it seems to me like hes trying to take liberties with us,anyone got any advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"hi folks,we have a meet set up for this friday,after chatting on the phone and meeting in person,the male half of the couple wants to bareback my wife,his excuse is as we are new to the scene its less risky,???wtf

it seems to me like hes trying to take liberties with us,anyone got any advice "

My advice is steer clear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"hi folks,we have a meet set up for this friday,after chatting on the phone and meeting in person,the male half of the couple wants to bareback my wife,his excuse is as we are new to the scene its less risky,???wtf

it seems to me like hes trying to take liberties with us,anyone got any advice "

Set your limit and make them keep to it, that simple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't meet if I was you. Way too risky and make sure you put on your profile that it's no bareback.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just don't do it if you're not 100% happy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

thanks guys,at first he told us they practiced safe sex but now it seems only with seasoned swingers ??

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By *DontExistWoman
over a year ago

•+• Silicon valley. •+•


"thanks guys,at first he told us they practiced safe sex but now it seems only with seasoned swingers ??"

you can still catch stuff using condoms. the more dangerous stuff is less likely to be passed on using condoms though.

up to you really. i have barebacked some guys, some of which get around a fair bit too.also had condoms come off accidently.

but if anyone tries to get past any boundaries you put in place i would say sack them off coz they are trying to manipulate you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

thanks for that,just seems abit of taking the piss,oh they dont know what they are doing so ill take advantage so to speak

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By *DontExistWoman
over a year ago

•+• Silicon valley. •+•


"thanks for that,just seems abit of taking the piss,oh they dont know what they are doing so ill take advantage so to speak"

oh yeah totally. a lot of people on here are so out for themselves and do not care what you want, luckily they out themselves pretty quickly so you can avoid meeting them.

i reckon it's why newbies get inundated with messages also.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"hi folks,we have a meet set up for this friday,after chatting on the phone and meeting in person,the male half of the couple wants to bareback my wife,his excuse is as we are new to the scene its less risky,???wtf

it seems to me like hes trying to take liberties with us,anyone got any advice "

If you both aren't happy with anything, don't do it. Don't let others put pressure on you.

As it clearly states in your profile, no bareback. I'd tell them to buggar off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you gotta question it, I think you've found your answer.

Unless both can prove they're clean its a no go

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

Don't ever do anything on a meet that you are not both 100% comfortable with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't do the meet I'd you're not happy. XXX

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By *hloe sussexTV/TS
over a year ago

Larne


"hi folks,we have a meet set up for this friday,after chatting on the phone and meeting in person,the male half of the couple wants to bareback my wife,his excuse is as we are new to the scene its less risky,???wtf

it seems to me like hes trying to take liberties with us,anyone got any advice "

Yea don't do it lol

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots


"thanks guys,at first he told us they practiced safe sex but now it seems only with seasoned swingers ??"

They have asked to play bareback with you so they don't practice safe sex so they are lieing. I think all you would get if you insist on safe sex and you meet would be continued pressure to play bare....as others have said, I would avoid.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"hi folks,we have a meet set up for this friday,after chatting on the phone and meeting in person,the male half of the couple wants to bareback my wife,his excuse is as we are new to the scene its less risky,???wtf

it seems to me like hes trying to take liberties with us,anyone got any advice "
tell him to cover up or sod off he sounds like a stealther.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"thanks guys,at first he told us they practiced safe sex but now it seems only with seasoned swingers ??"
I had a couple that said this to me yelling me "its ok hubby has had the snip" then had the cheek to ask me "well how do we get round this?" Refused to meet them as I would have been meeting them alone, god only knows what could have happened.

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By *imetoexplore69Couple
over a year ago

Aberdeen


"Don't do the meet I'd you're not happy. XXX"
its this simple.plenty out there that will play on your terms.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we only play bare and thats out choice but we would never ever pressure ppl to play bare unless they want it too.. we say if your not happy dont meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"hi folks,we have a meet set up for this friday,after chatting on the phone and meeting in person,the male half of the couple wants to bareback my wife,his excuse is as we are new to the scene its less risky,???wtf

it seems to me like hes trying to take liberties with us,anyone got any advice "

He may bare back other people so too risky in my opinion, his wife should have a word with him as well

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

It is your choice if you don't feel comfortable then don't do it.

Our personal view is simple we don't do bareback.

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By *lorious hole bs16Man
over a year ago

Bristol

I think you know the answer and hope others will suggest what yr thinking..

If in doubt have a Mars bar..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell him to ride on out!!

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By *infulSandyCouple
over a year ago

London


"hi folks,we have a meet set up for this friday,after chatting on the phone and meeting in person,the male half of the couple wants to bareback my wife,his excuse is as we are new to the scene its less risky,???wtf

it seems to me like hes trying to take liberties with us,anyone got any advice "

Can't believe you're even asking for advice. That excuse sounds like complete BS and you both should be offended that he even tried it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your meets your rules don't be pushed into doing anything your not happy with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Less risky for him, not your wife!. Her body her rules. Tell him to bog off

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley

Run a mile if it's not what you want and bear in mind that even if they agree to use a condom they'll quite possibly soon start pushing you to do without it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So basically he thinks you are safe as you are new on the scene.

Tell him you need him to go to the clinic with you, let you witness him being tested, lock him in a chastity cage and insists he lives in your cellar until the results come back clear.

Only then will you allow him to play bareback!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"hi folks,we have a meet set up for this friday,after chatting on the phone and meeting in person,the male half of the couple wants to bareback my wife,his excuse is as we are new to the scene its less risky,???wtf

it seems to me like hes trying to take liberties with us,anyone got any advice "

tell him you no longer wish to meet him. if he's trying to renegotiate the terms of your meet before you even get to that point, it's likely he'll try to when you're face to face...

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"hi folks,we have a meet set up for this friday,after chatting on the phone and meeting in person,the male half of the couple wants to bareback my wife,his excuse is as we are new to the scene its less risky,???wtf

it seems to me like hes trying to take liberties with us,anyone got any advice "

How does he know its less risky? More to the point what about the risks to your wife?

Never do anything you don't want to just because someone else tries to make it appear acceptable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My advice is don't do bareback.

What's the point.?

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I can't believe you have to ask.

If you want to use condoms and he doesn't. ..cancel and block.

Nita

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Maybe the risk is low because you're new, but he's not so stay well clear of anyone with ridiculous requests and reasons like that

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"thanks for that,just seems abit of taking the piss,oh they dont know what they are doing so ill take advantage so to speak"

That's because it's obvious that you don't know what you're doing! Either you bareback or you don't and if he wants to bareback then you cancel the meet and block him.

It's black and white.

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By *ap AdgeMan
over a year ago

Wirral


"Don't ever do anything on a meet that you are not both 100% comfortable with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whether it's bareback or any other issue - set your limits before you contact anyone, and stand by them!

This guy is trying to overstep the mark right from the start - so you can imagine how much trouble he'd be if you actually stated playing...

As soon as anyone disrespects your limits or preferences, no matter what they are - "Drop 'em and Block 'em"!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"hi folks,we have a meet set up for this friday,after chatting on the phone and meeting in person,the male half of the couple wants to bareback my wife,his excuse is as we are new to the scene its less risky,???wtf

it seems to me like hes trying to take liberties with us,anyone got any advice "

Move on. Stick to your own rules with no exceptions. If your rules conflict - move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Youre crazy to entertain that..

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By *ot so hungwillyMan
over a year ago

selsey


"hi folks,we have a meet set up for this friday,after chatting on the phone and meeting in person,the male half of the couple wants to bareback my wife,his excuse is as we are new to the scene its less risky,???wtf

it seems to me like hes trying to take liberties with us,anyone got any advice "

Tell him to take a hike......

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By *razycoupleniCouple
over a year ago

belfast

If you are safe sex only my advice is cancel the meet. There are people out there who will respect your limits. For us if someone mentioned that to us the meet would not go ahead

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bareback is always risky!!!! I am only up for safe sex may be thats why never had a meet though

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By *outhderbyBBCslaveCouple
over a year ago

measham

We prefer BB but we don't pressurise people who want to play safe of try to change the rules at last moment

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By *elma and ShaggyCouple
over a year ago

Bedworth


"hi folks,we have a meet set up for this friday,after chatting on the phone and meeting in person,the male half of the couple wants to bareback my wife,his excuse is as we are new to the scene its less risky,???wtf

it seems to me like hes trying to take liberties with us,anyone got any advice "

Op if it feels like he's trying to take liberties why are you still considered meeting?

It makes me think what else will he try to take liberties with too? Will he take no for an answer if you change your mind during the meet?

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Would you allow someone to be that disrespectful to your wife OP? Man up!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"hi folks,we have a meet set up for this friday,after chatting on the phone and meeting in person,the male half of the couple wants to bareback my wife,his excuse is as we are new to the scene its less risky,???wtf

it seems to me like hes trying to take liberties with us,anyone got any advice "

Tell them thanks but no thanks and block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds a bit dodgy if you ask me. You might be newbies and clean as a whistle but what about them. They might have some hidden nasties such as genital warts or chlamydia which can sometimes have no symptoms. Give it a miss if not comfortable and protect yourself with occasional check ups if you do go ahead and even if everyone is rubbered up you can still get stuff, although it is less likely of course.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It might be less risky for them but what about for you if they're saying that to a few people a month???

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

The Wild Wetness


"hi folks,we have a meet set up for this friday,after chatting on the phone and meeting in person,the male half of the couple wants to bareback my wife,his excuse is as we are new to the scene its less risky,???wtf

it seems to me like hes trying to take liberties with us,anyone got any advice "

Go for it. I know everyone else will say do what you feel like, but wtf. Just do what someone else wants and see where the chips fall.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would you allow someone to be that disrespectful to your wife OP? Man up!"

This 100%

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


""Would you allow someone to be that disrespectful to your wife OP? Man up!"

This 100%"
thanks, someone had to say it lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't trust him not to try to bareback part way through play. Avoid!

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

Advice. DONT!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't quite understand why you have asked for advice.

Others cannt tell you what's right or wrong you should already no for yourself. The fact that you are even considering it is wrong. You should have your rules and never break them for anyone.

I do hope you read these replies that others have wrote

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I don't quite understand why you have asked for advice.

Others cannt tell you what's right or wrong you should already no for yourself. The fact that you are even considering it is wrong. You should have your rules and never break them for anyone.

I do hope you read these replies that others have wrote"

sometimes when people are new to swinging they're unsure of what is standard or what's a reasonable request. It's not something we're taught the niceties of at school. If you're new to something it's good to get advice from other people or sometimes just to feel that you're not alone in thinking the way you do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hear you. But no condom is like a death sentence especially in this lifestyle.

I'm all for people asking advice whether new or not, but it should be common sense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell him to fuck off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"hi folks,we have a meet set up for this friday,after chatting on the phone and meeting in person,the male half of the couple wants to bareback my wife,his excuse is as we are new to the scene its less risky,???wtf

it seems to me like hes trying to take liberties with us,anyone got any advice "

Say thanks but no thanks and move on swiftly. Look after yourselves it only takes one time to regret doing it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He's thinking about his risk not yours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tell him to fuck off. "

Or you can try this approach as there's definitely no mixed message there

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"hi folks,we have a meet set up for this friday,after chatting on the phone and meeting in person,the male half of the couple wants to bareback my wife,his excuse is as we are new to the scene its less risky,???wtf

it seems to me like hes trying to take liberties with us,anyone got any advice "

Second word would be off, I'd cancel on principle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well said The Brain and Crafty98

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tell him to fuck off.

Or you can try this approach as there's definitely no mixed message there "

He's taking the piss. I had similar when someone asked about tests and wanting to come over my pussy. It's funny how people see risk taking as something they expect us to do, when they don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So he thinks as you have both been less promiscuous, there is less chance of him catching something?

And he doesn't care about your wife? Hmmmm

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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

Bareback, like everything else, is a choice. If you don't want to then you don't have to period. I personally like BB but only on my terms not someone else's. OP should walk away

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By *icplshropsCouple
over a year ago

Rock


"He's thinking about his risk not yours. "

This

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By *esparate danMan
over a year ago

glasgow

Im wonder if male half of the couple us enjoying this thread

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By *outhderbyBBCslaveCouple
over a year ago

measham

Could not agree more hot girl our thoughts exactly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep stay clear he obviously has no respect for what yous want or your safety, tell him to jog on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This man could be shagging loads like this and don't care who as you don't know him . Its your life I know .. Some like the risks and don't care I know that too ...... And who is he to make the play rules up .. ?

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East


"This man could be shagging loads like this and don't care who as you don't know him . Its your life I know .. Some like the risks and don't care I know that too ...... And who is he to make the play rules up .. ? "

He has as much rights to agree the play rules as any other party.

Emphasis on the agree there please note as opposed to demand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This man could be shagging loads like this and don't care who as you don't know him . Its your life I know .. Some like the risks and don't care I know that too ...... And who is he to make the play rules up .. ?

He has as much rights to agree the play rules as any other party.

Emphasis on the agree there please note as opposed to demand."
,his excuse is as we are new to the scene its less risky, And could be lies ... How can you put your trust in people you don't know.?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In the words of Grange Hill's Zammo, "just say no!! "

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