FabSwingers.com forum: How do women find men...

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So, we all know that men find the women on here generally, either by searching locally, searching the new women, or seeing women through forums.

what is again clear, is women have the choice of several hundred men mostly (when their preferences allow), and regularly have to sift through hundreds of mail!

Complete opposite for us guys - ONE woman since I joined has messaged me first, and she turned out to be a no-show when I turned up in Glasgow (front edinburgh) to meet her. We always have to message first and 95% of the time, we don't get replies.

So what I want to ask, is there any place women on here actually search for guys? Or is there a beneficial place for guys to go in order to be seen by women?

Otherwise, as a lot of guys think on here, this site is ridiculous hard and not fun sometimes!

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

As a couple we have found that we have more success in the chatroom than via messaging.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

Personally, I go to clubs and socialise. If there is right kind of chemistry then all is good, if not I still will have had a good night out and met new people.

I find that's the easiest way myself, for me to meet people.

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By *niper oneMan
over a year ago

DERBY/Notts border

its a womans ball game mate..plus most single fems on here have couples profiles taken them out the frame .your then left with limited singles who can choose over thousands of guys...even the ones you wouldnt look at twice out on the town get guys messaging them...its a site for women mate not men.if fab shut down over night they would be lost...most are on pof to....so that some it up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We find men more by networking and just use Fab as a catalyst. So we go to parties, makes friends, get ideas from friends verification lists, get personal recommendations etc. It's highly unlikely we would meet a guy just because we like the look of him or he has a nice profile.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When i had a single profile (mrs) it was just kinda luck lol if i was free and wanted to meet and a message appeared and i liked the profile and pics etc i would message and arrange a meet funny enough thats how i met the mr he just happened to message at the right time with nice messages been together since that first meet 3 yrs ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally, I go to clubs and socialise. If there is right kind of chemistry then all is good, if not I still will have had a good night out and met new people.

I find that's the easiest way myself, for me to meet people."

Same.....no pressure if they don't look like pics or you don't click. Plus if you do....plenty of places to get naughty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"its a womans ball game mate..plus most single fems on here have couples profiles taken them out the frame .your then left with limited singles who can choose over thousands of guys...even the ones you wouldnt look at twice out on the town get guys messaging them...its a site for women mate not men.if fab shut down over night they would be lost...most are on pof to....so that some it up"

Ha ha...if Fab shut down overnight...I would just go on Fetlife more

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante

As others have said we go to clubs...we get to meet as many people as we want to there.

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By *niper oneMan
over a year ago

DERBY/Notts border

"So, we all know that men find the women on here generally, either by searching locally, searching the new women, or seeing women through forums.

what is again clear, is women have the choice of several hundred men mostly (when their preferences allow), and regularly have to sift through hundreds of mail!

So what I want to ask, is there any place women on here actually search for guys? Or is there a beneficial place for guys to go in order to be seen by women?

Otherwise, as a lot of guys think on here, this site is ridiculous hard and not fun sometimes! "

Men are at the bottom end of the dog bowl mate on here..go on pof

better choice better sex.

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By *niper oneMan
over a year ago

DERBY/Notts border

"So, we all know that men find the women on here generally, either by searching locally, searching the new women, or seeing women through forums.

what is again clear, is women have the choice of several hundred men mostly (when their preferences allow), and regularly have to sift through hundreds of mail!

So what I want to ask, is there any place women on here actually search for guys? Or is there a beneficial place for guys to go in order to be seen by women?

Otherwise, as a lot of guys think on here, this site is ridiculous hard and not fun sometimes! "

Men are at the bottom end of the dog bowl mate on here..go on pof

better choice better sex.Dont bother with Fetlife thats worse than this site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always search and look .My best meet I messaged him first .

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By *hat The CuckCouple
over a year ago

South London

"When i had a single profile (mrs) it was just kinda luck lol if i was free and wanted to meet and a message appeared and i liked the profile and pics etc i would message and arrange a meet"

Same for us.

We do go through profiles that pop up locally (updates/nearby) or that have looked at us however, we find it a lot of work as we could look through 50 profiles a day and at least 45 will just have a cock pic and no profile information for us to message them.

So with us, it's just chance on who messages at the right time that attracts me to want to message and meet.

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

Forums!

I've messaged after chatting here, or someone has caught my eye.

Only downside, is they're not always local but I'm doing OK so far, and happily travel if after a long chat there's a definite chemistry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always search and look .My best meet I messaged him first .

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Hi op

Join in on the forum and get yoyrself known or go to an organised social event.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clubs. Simple as.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chose the right club though to suit you...they all vary ..thats

The hard bit

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"So, we all know that men find the women on here generally, either by searching locally, searching the new women, or seeing women through forums.

what is again clear, is women have the choice of several hundred men mostly (when their preferences allow), and regularly have to sift through hundreds of mail!

So what I want to ask, is there any place women on here actually search for guys? Or is there a beneficial place for guys to go in order to be seen by women?

Otherwise, as a lot of guys think on here, this site is ridiculous hard and not fun sometimes! "
ive found them in the forum, gives me a chance to assess their personalities before messaging and meeting, either that or ive met and continued meeting those ive found when going to clubs/ events/ parties etc. i went to a club on my own before i had heard of fab, if you want to go and swing, then my suggestion is that you go and do it and use this place as a keeping in touch and where am i going next place..you need to be seen face to face or at least be seen to be compatible...its your journey and its how much you want to do it, imo..xx

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By *dores blackmenWoman
over a year ago

incognito mode ;-)

Always clubs/parties for me

I don't bother messaging men on here unless I see a status/meet there going to the same place as me,or guys see mine and message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just stick to socials and clubs although I only go to clubs about once every 6 weeks.

You can see what the person looks like in person and get to know what their personality is like rather than how they look in pics and their online persona.

Plus at a club there are places to go and have some fun if you click and no pressure to do anything if you don't want to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guys do the chasing, girls do the choosing.

The same as in any other area of life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In clubs

But we have found that most single men on the swinging scene are the bottom of the heap; ones one wouldn't even glance at on the street, let alone a second glance

Men in couples are much, much better

- Mrs. J -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In clubs

But we have found that most single men on the swinging scene are the bottom of the heap; ones one wouldn't even glance at on the street, let alone a second glance

Men in couples are much, much better

- Mrs. J -"

We find the opposite. We would love to pursue couple swaps more often, but I rarely find I fancy the man. Whereas I've had a number of super lovers and occasional playmates over the past few years. Having said that the good ones have to be shared lol.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In clubs

But we have found that most single men on the swinging scene are the bottom of the heap; ones one wouldn't even glance at on the street, let alone a second glance

Men in couples are much, much better

- Mrs. J -

Mrs"

Pass the good ones my way

. Sharing n caring; seems like there is dearth of them in london clubs

- Mrs. J -

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

"In clubs

But we have found that most single men on the swinging scene are the bottom of the heap; ones one wouldn't even glance at on the street, let alone a second glance

Men in couples are much, much better

- Mrs. J -

Mrs"

Spot on! We find it is easier to find a single guy who is very fanciable - quite often and n couples the lady is very cute, but the guys can be so so! Sorry boyz

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"So, we all know that men find the women on here generally, either by searching locally, searching the new women, or seeing women through forums.

what is again clear, is women have the choice of several hundred men mostly (when their preferences allow), and regularly have to sift through hundreds of mail!

So what I want to ask, is there any place women on here actually search for guys? Or is there a beneficial place for guys to go in order to be seen by women?

Otherwise, as a lot of guys think on here, this site is ridiculous hard and not fun sometimes!

Men are at the bottom end of the dog bowl mate on here..go on pof

better choice better sex."
why are you still here then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With great difficulty to be honest only ever message guys with good verification but all seem to be time wasters and no show,all say the same won't let you down lol talk is cheap

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By *rCurious1Man
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

I have not been found yet lol

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

I used to trawl through messages and start to chat to men who had messaged me, but after loads of abuse and time wasters and scary weirdos I almost exclusively meet at clubs now. It seems safer and you can chat at the bar and then wonder away if they aren't your type.

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