FabSwingers.com forum: Should singles be allowed on a swinger site

By *arnsley guy100 OP Man
over a year ago

Sheffield

I think as this is a swinging site.. All single profiles, including mine, should be deleted leaving couples only to remain and join...

Seems a bit silly s

ingles seeking singles.. That's not swinging

There's plenty of other sites for single people

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By *axandbooCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Without singles how would we have 3sums?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It must be Wednesday

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By *illupMan
over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent

"Without singles how would we have 3sums? "

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By *imetoexplore69Couple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

"I think as this is a swinging site.. All single profiles, including mine, should be deleted leaving couples only to remain and join...

Seems a bit silly s

ingles seeking singles.. That's not swinging

There's plenty of other sites for single people"
can see where you are coming from but the thing is it's not just singles looking for singles.plenty couples looking for singles like our profile for example.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

What about the couples that want to meet singles, and vice versa?

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By *eavens stairwayWoman
over a year ago

you never know

Someone got out of wrong side of bed

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By *arnsley guy100 OP Man
over a year ago

Sheffield

To many singles seeking singles... Overwhelming the essence of the site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And even if it was that way I'm sure that the guy pretending to be a couple would magically disappear ?? Not !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go join pof or match then lol. Cate x

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By *rightonCheekyMan
over a year ago

Brighton

Couples seeking singles, singles seeking fellow singles, singles who meet and end up as a couple, singles who used to be in s swinging couple but split up but still enjoy the lifestyle .....

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By *eavens stairwayWoman
over a year ago

you never know

Just enjoy I love the social side of it all,made friends to lots of aspects to here,dating sites they all nutcases

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We became a couple cos of this site. And what about women who afore single men???

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

bedford

No we enjoy meeting singles more than couples .just wish time wasters and fakes would get a life and move on

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

Feel free to lead by example and delete your profile

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By *eavens stairwayWoman
over a year ago

you never know

Well said I'm sure he still be here

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

"Without singles how would we have 3sums? "

You meet with one half of a couple. It's not rocket surgery.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many reasons singles are on here. I was in a relationship, we swung, sadly the relationship ended, dosen't mean i want to give up on this part of my life. Its fun, met some really cool people- don't see why just because i'm not longer a part of a couple i should be discrimanted against.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swinging means different things to different people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To many singles seeking singles... Overwhelming the essence of the site"
we meet singles and gangbangs would be bloody hard without them x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Without singles how would we have 3sums? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think perhaps it would be a good idea to google the new definition of swinging OP. The older explanation of the term is now outdated

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

Gran Canaria

"I think as this is a swinging site.. All single profiles, including mine, should be deleted leaving couples only to remain and join...

Seems a bit silly s

ingles seeking singles.. That's not swinging

There's plenty of other sites for single people"

There would be people who would try to circumnavigate that rule with a fake couples profile.

There is an audience for singles, but as I said on another thread the audience does not match the supply.

But in the end that is not a problem for people who want to meet singles, or for couples who want to meet couples only. The excessive supply of single men is only an issue for those single men.

There is little that can be done about it though as the numbers are self regulated. So single men would benefit from less single men being on here but only single men can change that balance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whilst I can understand what you are saying, swinging has evolved to include singles. Tho singles meeting singles isnt (my point of view) swinging, singles meeting couples, group fun etc is. If you don't like how the site is just meet how you like or leave. No one is forcing you to stay.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The problem with singles' sex sites is the people on them may assume I'm looking for a quick hook up fuck, and I'm logged on because I'm horny and need a fuck. On here, some people will have an idea that I want something more than just a bang and away with you experience and regularly, with the same men, if possible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't you just block singles if you want to anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The way I look at it is, Fab allows singles to join so they don't see it as a problem. The term 'Swinger/swinging' and it's definitions are fluid, and match the mood of the people indulging. I believe that singles bring lots to the party and wouldn't want to see them cast out.

If the 'genuine swingers' (whatever that's meant to mean)that don't like singles being on the site are that bothered by them. I'm sure amongst them, there be a web design genius that can start their own little exclusive 'genuineswingers.com'

Single people rock.

Couples rock.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"I think as this is a swinging site.. All single profiles, including mine, should be deleted leaving couples only to remain and join...

Seems a bit silly s

ingles seeking singles.. That's not swinging

There's plenty of other sites for single people"

you can always take a stand and practice what you are preaching and walk....... after all, no one is holding a gun to your head and making you stay!

but i am guessing that you won't................

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

Gran Canaria

"The way I look at it is, Fab allows singles to join so they don't see it as a problem. The term 'Swinger/swinging' and it's definitions are fluid, and match the mood of the people indulging. I believe that singles bring lots to the party and wouldn't want to see them cast out.

Single people rock.

Couples rock.

But it's not the couples looking for couples or the couples looking for single men or women that are bothered by loads of single men.

Its the single men who don't like the fact that there are alot of single men looking for the same as them.

People looking for couple only meet have a filter for that already as part of this site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We like single guys, and as a couple we would not be welcome on a singles site, therefore rely on swingers sites providing men who enjoy playing with couples and understand that swinging dynamic. I don't really understand why single men come here to look for single women for 1-to-1 hookups though when there are so many more women to choose from on single sites. And I don't like it when single guys pursue couples when they have no interest in couples.

Mrs

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I'll bugger off then lol

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

"I think as this is a swinging site.. All single profiles, including mine, should be deleted leaving couples only to remain and join...

Seems a bit silly s

ingles seeking singles.. That's not swinging

There's plenty of other sites for single people

you can always take a stand and practice what you are preaching and walk....... after all, no one is holding a gun to your head and making you stay!

but i am guessing that you won't................"

Fabio. You beautiful man. Finally i can wholeheartedly agree with you on something!

OP. Im not sure what your up to but yeah in a nutshell. Do one and lead by example.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

And how would we get a gangbang without singles lol?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think as this is a swinging site.. All single profiles, including mine, should be deleted leaving couples only to remain and join...

Seems a bit silly s

ingles seeking singles.. That's not swinging

There's plenty of other sites for single people"

That's a ridiculous suggestion. I,m single and I,m not leaving. Go and join another site if you're not happy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Feel free to lead by example and delete your profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plenty of couples (mostly the male half)....looking for single women...not that many looking for single men

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By *dores blackmenWoman
over a year ago

incognito mode ;-)

I'm not leaving

So many parties advertise on here for single woman,I play with mainly singlemen but do occasionally play with couple's too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think as this is a swinging site.. All single profiles, including mine, should be deleted leaving couples only to remain and join...

Seems a bit silly s

ingles seeking singles.. That's not swinging

There's plenty of other sites for single people

That's a ridiculous suggestion. I,m single and I,m not leaving. Go and join another site if you're not happy. "

My thoughts exactly.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Reaching for the popcorn.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Should pricks be allowed on here who think that when they see women on cam they can talk to them like shit on a shoe and when the women bite back they get even worse,god if i was mod in chat half of it would be empty....

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By *wFunGuy4YouMan
over a year ago

Cheshire

"I think as this is a swinging site.. All single profiles, including mine, should be deleted leaving couples only to remain and join...

Seems a bit silly s

ingles seeking singles.. That's not swinging

There's plenty of other sites for single people"

So when you deleting your profile. Saves admin on here doing it

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

We dont meet single men ,but they should deffo be on here too.

People should be able to use the site however they want.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We were singles and met on here. Now we play as a couple and like single men x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's room for everyone isn't there?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just delete yourself , then all's great ha ! X

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By *BWandhusbandCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

We only joined to meet with single guys, never been interested in other couples.

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

"We only joined to meet with single guys, never been interested in other couples."

That make you a unicorn couple lol?

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By *icoleAndLisaTransCouple (FF)
over a year ago

Ellesmere Port

"I think as this is a swinging site.. All single profiles, including mine, should be deleted leaving couples only to remain and join...

Seems a bit silly s

ingles seeking singles.. That's not swinging

There's plenty of other sites for single people"

What peeves me more is when you try to actually date on dating sites, you still find the vast majority are just looking for a no strings shag. If anything, I'd like to get the ones like that off POF and onto here. That way, the dating sites would have a higher percentage of people who actually want to date.

Single male and single female are profile options on here, so clearly the site is designed to accommodate them. It's like the gay guys you occasionally get moaning on their FabGuys status or the 'Cottaging' forums about "This is supposed to be a site for guys. You TV's should go elsewhere." I point out that TV/TS is a profile option, and wouldn't be if TV's and TS's weren't welcome.

Sites like this are about helping people looking for casual sex to find each other and make arrangements. I don't see the point in filtering anyone out of the pool unless that isn't what they're looking for.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

Gran Canaria

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think as this is a swinging site.. All single profiles, including mine, should be deleted leaving couples only to remain and join...

Seems a bit silly s

ingles seeking singles.. That's not swinging

There's plenty of other sites for single people

Yes I found that on the dating sites, they just want a shag XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"[Removed by poster at 30/08/17 13:11:36]"

They can just say 'No'.

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By *ojo1964Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

You speak for yourself and not on my behalf!!!!

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

Gran Canaria

"[Removed by poster at 30/08/17 13:11:36]

They can just say 'No'."

Sorry pressed delete by accident.

Yes but if asexual people were starting threads about all the unwanted attention people would point out that the mix of people on here is what it is and they would have more success elsewhere.

Its not saying don't come, just don't come complaining.

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By *xtrafun4youMan
over a year ago

Dunstable

"Without singles how would we have 3sums? "

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

Gran Canaria

"Without singles how would we have 3sums?

With one of another couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am clueless as to why your on this great site if you don't understand or accept it op

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The practicality of allowing singles on the site is to enable to couples to fulfil their fantasies etc.

Granted, to many this is simply a sex site. But to a lot of people it is somewhere to fulfil desires which couldn't be accomplished in real life.

It opens up opportunities for singles and couples to truly explore a libertine lifestyle, whether it be defined as swinging or shagging.

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By *rladytoyMan
over a year ago

bournemouth

"I think as this is a swinging site.. All single profiles, including mine, should be deleted leaving couples only to remain and join...

Seems a bit silly s

ingles seeking singles.. That's not swinging

There's plenty of other sites for single people"

But how would so many couples and single women get there daily ego boosts that they crave so badly ?

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown

"Feel free to lead by example and delete your profile

This

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By *rx1Couple
over a year ago

Torridge area of Devon

"Swinging means different things to different people. "

indeed

take your pick

Lively, exciting, and fashionable.

"a swinging resort"

OR sexually liberated or promiscuous.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Hey im single and happy to be so. I still need lots of sex though and use fab to chat to folk ive met at the swinfers clubs i go to.

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

bedford

Plenty of us look for single men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think as this is a swinging site.. All single profiles, including mine, should be deleted leaving couples only to remain and join...

Seems a bit silly s

ingles seeking singles.. That's not swinging

There's plenty of other sites for single people

But how would so many couples and single women get there daily ego boosts that they crave so badly ? "

We can get that anywhere on the internet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well lead by example and delete your profile lol

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley

We're only looking for a single guy so wouldn't be here if it was couples only.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Without singles how would we have 3sums? "

i enjoy me 3sums with two men and am single.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

why do you think it's not swining if you're single? i wondered if there was an actual definition, and so far i've looked up 4, all of which specifically say 'couples and singles'...you clearly know a lot better, so i'd be interested to know where you get your definition from?

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By *danemMan
over a year ago

walsall

Hi All,

I'm a single guy, but I'm on here because the ethos of swinging is what attracted me. I could go to a bar and try and pick someone up if it was just about sex. But swinging is about being accepted in the community and making intimate friends and not being afraid to release your inhibitions. Surely it's about the freedom to express yourself.

I'm probably not the best example as I am struggling to meet people because of the single male hype and excessive numbers but even so I still hold to my view.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

If the owners of the site are OK with single people using Fab to meet like minded people, then so am I. If the OP isn't OK with it I am sure there are many more appropriate sites for him out there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think as this is a swinging site.. All single profiles, including mine, should be deleted leaving couples only to remain and join...

Seems a bit silly s

ingles seeking singles.. That's not swinging

There's plenty of other sites for single people"

Obviously not having much luck.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

I thought the OP was going to be a man of principle and then leave if that is what he truely believes...

and yet.... still here!!!

I suppose this was a quick way to find out the man was being hypocritical......

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By *irty filthy milfWoman
over a year ago

somewhere only i know!

"I thought the OP was going to be a man of principle and then leave if that is what he truely believes...

and yet.... still here!!!

I suppose this was a quick way to find out the man was being hypocritical......"

The OP can't leave just yet as he's got a meet up and by posting his pathetic thread he's getting attention!!

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you are also somewhat contradicting your description in your profile where you describe yourself as a swinger?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think as this is a swinging site.. All single profiles, including mine, should be deleted leaving couples only to remain and join...

Seems a bit silly s

ingles seeking singles.. That's not swinging

There's plenty of other sites for single people"

Shurrup!

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By *uniorendowedMan
over a year ago

London Derbyshire

How about you make a site call fabsingles

great business opportunity !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

so since im a single female i shouldnt be on here because im not in a couple or met couples for more then a social thats just stupid

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By *uniorendowedMan
over a year ago

London Derbyshire

Isent the definition of a swinger a person who swaps thier partners or takes part in group sex? Having singles on this site makes it great but singles can't actually class themselves as swingers can they? Just someone seeking sex

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Isent the definition of a swinger a person who swaps thier partners or takes part in group sex? Having singles on this site makes it great but singles can't actually class themselves as swingers can they? Just someone seeking sex"

So?

Anyway, like all things, swinging has evolved. Go and have a google, and the Wikipedia entry does include singles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The problem with singles' sex sites is the people on them may assume I'm looking for a quick hook up fuck, and I'm logged on because I'm horny and need a fuck. On here, some people will have an idea that I want something more than just a bang and away with you experience and regularly, with the same men, if possible.

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By *uniorendowedMan
over a year ago

London Derbyshire

So?

Anyway, like all things, swinging has evolved. Go and have a google, and the Wikipedia entry does include singles."

True it defiantly has evolved but by definition that's what it is in a dictionary wiki is not a very reliable source

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

So?

Anyway, like all things, swinging has evolved. Go and have a google, and the Wikipedia entry does include singles.

True it defiantly has evolved but by definition that's what it is in a dictionary wiki is not a very reliable source

Lol, neither are the people on this site.

Funnily enough, the OP hasn't stated he thinks only single men should be banned. At least he said all singles should be banned.

Anyway, as the admin think otherwise the people on here who want to tell others what to do are out of luck.

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By *uniorendowedMan
over a year ago

London Derbyshire

So?

Anyway, like all things, swinging has evolved. Go and have a google, and the Wikipedia entry does include singles.

True it defiantly has evolved but by definition that's what it is in a dictionary wiki is not a very reliable source

Lol, neither are the people on this site.

Funnily enough, the OP hasn't stated he thinks only single men should be banned. At least he said all singles should be banned.

Anyway, as the admin think otherwise the people on here who want to tell others what to do are out of luck."

Lool well put !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone should be allowed on this site

But then some moan about not getting 'meets'

- Mrs. J -

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By *wisted2000Woman
over a year ago

under my rock cleethorpes

I have a single profile, my partner has a single profile and we have a joint profile, we are an open couple, are we not allowed either?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think as this is a swinging site.. All single profiles, including mine, should be deleted leaving couples only to remain and join...

Seems a bit silly s

ingles seeking singles.. That's not swinging

There's plenty of other sites for single people"

If you feel like that then why not just delete your account and go elsewhere, let everybody worry about themselves.

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By *SophiexCouple
over a year ago

Kilmarnock

Seriously did I read the opening post?

Half the couples on here would all leave if there was no singles allowed... I mean where would i find my next single male meal?

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"I think as this is a swinging site.. All single profiles, including mine, should be deleted leaving couples only to remain and join...

Seems a bit silly s

ingles seeking singles.. That's not swinging

There's plenty of other sites for single people"

Very strange as you are looking for single women and have had two meets with single women, exactly the people who's profiles you want deleted. Bit of a contradiction isn't it OP??!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's stupid really. Lots of couples like to play with singles. Us included. And we want to meet singles not one half of a couple

Can't do that if there's no singles.

~Mia

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"I think as this is a swinging site.. All single profiles, including mine, should be deleted leaving couples only to remain and join...

Seems a bit silly s

ingles seeking singles.. That's not swinging

There's plenty of other sites for single people"

Off you pop then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No.

No singles allowed.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

is he still here?????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"is he still here?????

and ironically looking for a meet with another single

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"is he still here?????

and ironically looking for a meet with another single

Love a bit of irony, I does

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To many singles seeking singles... Overwhelming the essence of the site"

Says the single guy looking for single females

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Exactly the point of my last post, he's met single too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Without singles how would we have 3sums?

I prefer 3sums to one on one.

But I'd be deleted for being single. Go figure......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think as this is a swinging site.. All single profiles, including mine, should be deleted leaving couples only to remain and join...

Seems a bit silly s

ingles seeking singles.. That's not swinging

There's plenty of other sites for single people

But how would so many couples and single women get there daily ego boosts that they crave so badly ? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Feel free to lead by example and delete your profile

Ha ha

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

I agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

BURN THE SINGLES

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I agree

Oi don't you start!

grrrr-ing

Just because you're on the dating scene now with the posh fish don't mean the rest of us singles have to suffer.

Oh and another thing...

If you refuse to get married again that is not a Fab issue. So less negativity please

For those that don't know yet here is an update:

Ignite is on like date 10. At the stage where legs, arms and everything else gets tangled up in sensory overload so it's no wonder she agrees!

She may even come out with a surprise couples profile! Omg don't you dare vote to cut out all of us singles...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"BURN THE SINGLES"

Oh fuck!

BlueEyedGirl is back looking red hot, but I don't want to get burned

All haters up in here ffs

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"I agree

Oi don't you start!

grrrr-ing

Just because you're on the dating scene now with the posh fish don't mean the rest of us singles have to suffer.

Oh and another thing...

If you refuse to get married again that is not a Fab issue. So less negativity please

For those that don't know yet here is an update:

Ignite is on like date 10. At the stage where legs, arms and everything else gets tangled up in sensory overload so it's no wonder she agrees!

She may even come out with a surprise couples profile! Omg don't you dare vote to cut out all of us singles...

I'm single! Anyway he's never done casual sex it's not his thing,so I definitely unfortunately won't be appearing on here with a couples profile Adam!

I'm torn,am I short changing myself by being on here?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm single! Anyway he's never done casual sex it's not his thing,so I definitely unfortunately won't be appearing on here with a couples profile Adam!

I'm torn,am I short changing myself by being on here?!

For crying out loud. Stone the flamin crows... actually leave the crows out of this.

All I know is you love Fab and Fab loves you. Now that is a match. If you aint buying that then the banter is free.

#kerching

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

I'll take the free banter,fuck and go isn't for me anymore...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah you have a great point mate

You delete yourself and then we will all do to

I promise.........

!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'll take the free banter,fuck and go isn't for me anymore..."

Oh crikey! You prefer the fuck and stay put now.

It is difficult to find ideal match that ticks all the boxes, but it can be done. Sometimes it takes longer to find and there is no time limit for perfection. Having said that if your willing to give and take plus have a man with basic flaws then you may be coupled up super fast

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To man's humans on here, including myself

All us humans should delete ourselves

Tee hee

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I agree

Oi don't you start!

grrrr-ing

Just because you're on the dating scene now with the posh fish don't mean the rest of us singles have to suffer.

Oh and another thing...

If you refuse to get married again that is not a Fab issue. So less negativity please

For those that don't know yet here is an update:

Ignite is on like date 10. At the stage where legs, arms and everything else gets tangled up in sensory overload so it's no wonder she agrees!

She may even come out with a surprise couples profile! Omg don't you dare vote to cut out all of us singles...

I'm single! Anyway he's never done casual sex it's not his thing,so I definitely unfortunately won't be appearing on here with a couples profile Adam!

I'm torn,am I short changing myself by being on here?!

Ooh have you got a manfriend?

I like happy stories.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why not, you can block them, easy problem solved we did. Then can get on with finding people they can approach and people who are interested in them.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

Let's all just agree that good sex is good sex, whoever, whenever and however (all legal of course), is involved.

I get the feeling OP is just trying to stand out as an 'understanding single male'.

Boooooring

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By *eavens stairwayWoman
over a year ago

you never know

"Let's all just agree that good sex is good sex, whoever, whenever and however (all legal of course), is involved.

I get the feeling OP is just trying to stand out as an 'understanding single male'.lol

Boooooring

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Let's not forget that some couples on here met as singles. Surely it a site for those that enjoy the swinging scene regardless of current relationship status.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely there are better sites for single people to get meets tho, with better ratios. Singles just meeting singles (from the male point of view) must be disheartening. From the females they have a massive choice, tho quantity is certainly not quality.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"I agree

Oi don't you start!

grrrr-ing

Just because you're on the dating scene now with the posh fish don't mean the rest of us singles have to suffer.

Oh and another thing...

If you refuse to get married again that is not a Fab issue. So less negativity please

For those that don't know yet here is an update:

Ignite is on like date 10. At the stage where legs, arms and everything else gets tangled up in sensory overload so it's no wonder she agrees!

She may even come out with a surprise couples profile! Omg don't you dare vote to cut out all of us singles...

I'm single! Anyway he's never done casual sex it's not his thing,so I definitely unfortunately won't be appearing on here with a couples profile Adam!

I'm torn,am I short changing myself by being on here?!

Ooh have you got a manfriend?

I like happy stories. "

I do have a manfriend,I just can't make my mind up whether he's the one for me

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"I'll take the free banter,fuck and go isn't for me anymore...

Oh crikey! You prefer the fuck and stay put now.

I like my freedom as well though,I certainly have my flaws and I'm not sure his flaws are compatible with mine. We're pretty different as I've said.

I'm so confused right now,this is age wise (perimenipausal and all that nonsense) not a good time to be coupling up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What if your not in a relationship singles can join forces with fuck buddy's group sex lots of scenarios basically it's a sex site for anyone surely happy fabbing x

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

"Surely there are better sites for single people to get meets tho, with better ratios. Singles just meeting singles (from the male point of view) must be disheartening. From the females they have a massive choice, tho quantity is certainly not quality."

I think the ratio will be about the same on any site in terms of men v women seeking NSA or casual sex. For example on a site like POF or OK Cupid this is an option. There are very few women set up for NSA (I have met a copule) I suspect (and what I been told by women on these sites) is there are 100s of men all after NSA causal sex. So it's not a FAB thing it's just the way of the world. For whatever societal reasons far more men than women are looking for causal sexual experiances.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As we only play with single men we vote 100 percent to keep them on here lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think as this is a swinging site.. All single profiles, including mine, should be deleted leaving couples only to remain and join...

Seems a bit silly s

ingles seeking singles.. That's not swinging

There's plenty of other sites for single people"

It's abit silly you OP assuming without reading the rules or seeking the facts.

This isn't just a swinging site. It's called Fab Swingers for a reason. FAB = Friends And Benefits.

So this site isn't just a sex site either. Long as no rules are broken, anyone is free to use this site as they wish! There are many who come on here ONLY to talk and or show pics.

Just because this site isn't working for you, doesn't mean it isn't for the thousands of others on here!

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By *hickone48 and christinaMan
over a year ago

Blackpool

We all want fun I can't see what the problem is I never pretend to be a couple if you look on my verifications I do ok that's fine with me where all adults let's behave like one

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By *hickone48 and christinaMan
over a year ago

Blackpool

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By *hickone48 and christinaMan
over a year ago

Blackpool

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

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By *onny MCMan
over a year ago

Crawley

I use Fabs to keep in touch with people I meet in clubs so find it very handy being a swingle on a swingers site.

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By *ain99Woman
over a year ago

Falkirk

what sites they are all pants

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By *r C Miss CCouple
over a year ago

llanelli

We definitely need single people on the site. How else do couples like us find single males and females to have the mfm and fmf fun that we like to have.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think as this is a swinging site.. All single profiles, including mine, should be deleted leaving couples only to remain and join...

Seems a bit silly s

ingles seeking singles.. That's not swinging

There's plenty of other sites for single people"

So...singles can't be swingers....is that what you're saying?

Surely swinging is about having and sharing different 'partners' and I'd say having regular repeat meets constitutes a 'partner'.

Maybe one off meeting with the intention of one off meeting should be discouraged. If that's the case then it's still open to discussion as to whether it's swinging or just sewing and planting oats.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

"Plenty of couples (mostly the male half)....looking for single women...not that many looking for single men

We look for single men

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By *ink and inkedCouple
over a year ago

Essex

All hail the single guys please !

How antiquated thinking swinging is for couples only pmsl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think as this is a swinging site.. All single profiles, including mine, should be deleted leaving couples only to remain and join...

Seems a bit silly s

ingles seeking singles.. That's not swinging

There's plenty of other sites for single people

So...singles can't be swingers....is that what you're saying?

Surely swinging is about having and sharing different 'partners' and I'd say having regular repeat meets constitutes a 'partner'.

Maybe one off meeting with the intention of one off meeting should be discouraged. If that's the case then it's still open to discussion as to whether it's swinging or just sewing and planting oats."

But there's couples who go to clubs and have multiple one off meets on a regular basis. Sewing your oats is a very old way of saying having sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But I wanna meet a couple so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thats fine all you guys go...and maybe some of us other guys might stand a fecking chance. Ha ha

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By *j48Man
over a year ago

Wigan

I see you've lead by example OP

Your profile is still here??

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By *onfidential74Man
over a year ago

Hucknall

I'm single but I'm looking to meet a regular partner that's in the same situation as me and develop into the swap/clubbing scene,everyone's got to start somewhere! I don't mind joining couples too if that's what they want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think as this is a swinging site.. All single profiles, including mine, should be deleted leaving couples only to remain and join...

Seems a bit silly s

ingles seeking singles.. That's not swinging

There's plenty of other sites for single people

So...singles can't be swingers....is that what you're saying?

Surely swinging is about having and sharing different 'partners' and I'd say having regular repeat meets constitutes a 'partner'.

Maybe one off meeting with the intention of one off meeting should be discouraged. If that's the case then it's still open to discussion as to whether it's swinging or just sewing and planting oats.

But there's couples who go to clubs and have multiple one off meets on a regular basis. Sewing your oats is a very old way of saying having sex. "

Swinging is just shagging around. Some couples need to call it something else so they don't feel bad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think as this is a swinging site.. All single profiles, including mine, should be deleted leaving couples only to remain and join...

Seems a bit silly s

ingles seeking singles.. That's not swinging

There's plenty of other sites for single people can see where you are coming from but the thing is it's not just singles looking for singles.plenty couples looking for singles like our profile for example."
There seems to be a natural law that lovely couples like you have to live hundreds of miles from me

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By *illnatMan
over a year ago

wherever i need to be

"How about you make a site call fabsingles

great business opportunity ! "

Lol I checked the Fab singles domain is available. Perhaps that’s not too bad an idea?

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

"I think as this is a swinging site.. All single profiles, including mine, should be deleted leaving couples only to remain and join...

Seems a bit silly s

ingles seeking singles.. That's not swinging

There's plenty of other sites for single people

So...singles can't be swingers....is that what you're saying?

Surely swinging is about having and sharing different 'partners' and I'd say having regular repeat meets constitutes a 'partner'.

Maybe one off meeting with the intention of one off meeting should be discouraged. If that's the case then it's still open to discussion as to whether it's swinging or just sewing and planting oats.

But there's couples who go to clubs and have multiple one off meets on a regular basis. Sewing your oats is a very old way of saying having sex.

Swinging is just shagging around. Some couples need to call it something else so they don't feel bad. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think as this is a swinging site.. All single profiles, including mine, should be deleted leaving couples only to remain and join...

Seems a bit silly s

ingles seeking singles.. That's not swinging

There's plenty of other sites for single people

So...singles can't be swingers....is that what you're saying?

Surely swinging is about having and sharing different 'partners' and I'd say having regular repeat meets constitutes a 'partner'.

Maybe one off meeting with the intention of one off meeting should be discouraged. If that's the case then it's still open to discussion as to whether it's swinging or just sewing and planting oats.

But there's couples who go to clubs and have multiple one off meets on a regular basis. Sewing your oats is a very old way of saying having sex.

Swinging is just shagging around. Some couples need to call it something else so they don't feel bad. "

Fully agree. I was just asking a hypothetical question with a hint of sarcasm. It amazes me how so many need to dress things up differently in order for it to be justified to themselves.

Some on here saying I'm selective is doing the same thing... After a couple years of being selective is no different to someone on here 2 months and meeting every day with a new person. It's just the frequency which is different.

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By *ustcantgetenuf50Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"I think as this is a swinging site.. All single profiles, including mine, should be deleted leaving couples only to remain and join...

Seems a bit silly s

ingles seeking singles.. That's not swinging

There's plenty of other sites for single people"

ERM you meet single women here and have the verifications to prove it lol, so will u be (unlos) soon?????

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By *arehamMan
over a year ago

handforth

If there were no singles on here they would not make it pay.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think something needs to be done to try and make this a site for swingers again though so agree with the intent if not the method of the OP

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By *itmanAndHerrCouple
over a year ago

st helens

"I think as this is a swinging site.. All single profiles, including mine, should be deleted leaving couples only to remain and join...

Seems a bit silly s

ingles seeking singles.. That's not swinging

There's plenty of other sites for single people"

I don't think you've thought this through.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Many reasons singles are on here. I was in a relationship, we swung, sadly the relationship ended, dosen't mean i want to give up on this part of my life. Its fun, met some really cool people- don't see why just because i'm not longer a part of a couple i should be discrimanted against. "
well said

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By *lorious hole bs16Man
over a year ago

Bristol

I think something needs to be done to try and make this a site for swingers again though so agree with the intent if not the method of the OP"

I am interested in this sites history..

Please explain what it was like 'back when it was a swingers site'

What has changed?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pmsl

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By *tace 309TV/TS
over a year ago

durham

Male ,female ,couple ,tv?/TS . we all swing don't we ? You wouldn't be on here if you didn't.or would you .

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By *ustcantgetenuf50Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

UD one definition of swinger.

'Single swingers generally despise the dating process and would rather meet at swinger gatherings where it is acceptable and in some cases expected that sex can/will occur on the spot with whomever they meet and feel attracted to'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think something needs to be done to try and make this a site for swingers again though so agree with the intent if not the method of the OP

I am interested in this sites history..

Please explain what it was like 'back when it was a swingers site'

What has changed? "

There were only 20 couples who swapped partners at house parties, by putting car keys in a bowl.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I want to meet cpls though, where would I go then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I could go to a bar and try and pick someone up if it was just about sex. But swinging is about being accepted in the community and making intimate friends and not being afraid to release your inhibitions. Surely it's about the freedom to express yourself"

EXCELLENTLY PUT OLD CHAP!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

why don't you f*** off then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Please explain what it was like 'back when it was a swingers site'

What has changed?

There were only 20 couples who swapped partners at house parties, by putting car keys in a bowl. "

This article explains it pretty well.

http://www.ejhs.org/volume3/swing/body.htm

However, it also makes clear that swinging is NOT exclusively a 'couples' activity:

"Unlike "open marriages" or "polyamory," swinging is non-monogamous sexual activity, treated much like any other social activity, that *can* [emphasis mine] be experienced as a couple."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think something needs to be done to try and make this a site for swingers again though so agree with the intent if not the method of the OP"

The other mainstream swingers site, so I've been told, is much more of a 'real' swingers site. More couples orientated, and the singles that do join I've been told are more into the swinging lifestyle, as opposed to looking for one-to-one hookups. It is more expensive though, and in the UK doesn't seem to be very popular. I think it is true, Fab isn't really a swingers site any more (don't know if it used to be). Its more of site to find casual sex, which may of may not be swinging related. It's name is misleading, which confused us when we first joined and discovered that it was full of single guys basically looking for a free prostetute. Though I suspect the free dating sites have the same problem with chancers lookers looking for sex.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I want to meet cpls though, where would I go then?"

Many couples on here want to meet singles.

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By *sThunderThighsWoman
over a year ago

Toy Land

discovered that it was full of single guys basically looking for a free prostetute"

!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

discovered that it was full of single guys basically looking for a free prostetute

!!!!"

Well that's how I've been treated at times. If that's a surprise to anybody, then they are very lucky to have bypassed that unpleasant aspect of Fab.

Mrs

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By *sThunderThighsWoman
over a year ago

Toy Land

discovered that it was full of single guys basically looking for a free prostetute

!!!!

Well that's how I've been treated at times. If that's a surprise to anybody, then they are very lucky to have bypassed that unpleasant aspect of Fab.

Mrs"

The world is full of dickheads! Who think any holes a goal! Fab is no different! But in general the type of guys I talk to and meet are very respectful... Filters should make using the site for whatever you need work... I think there is room for us all here !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never heard anything so rediculous. Its fun for all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The other mainstream swingers site, so I've been told, is much more of a 'real' swingers site. More couples orientated, and the singles that do join I've been told are more into the swinging lifestyle, as opposed to looking for one-to-one hookups."

I would say that this is the key bit. If you're going to join Fab - particularly as a single - you'll find far more success if you embrace ALL parts of the 'swinging lifestyle.'

When I think about all the meets that I've had over the course of the last three years, I realise that I had just as much fun meeting people socially as I did with those with whom I ended up playing...

As for your point about Fab being "full of single guys basically looking for a free prostitute" - this phenomenon is no different to a popular kink site of which I am a member.

Since Fifty Shades of Utter Shite came out, the site has been flooded with wannabe Doms who have no clue whatsoever about what BDSM is about, and who bitch and moan if women don't immediately fall at their feet...

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By *R GREY AND MISS REDCouple
over a year ago

WHITTLESEY

swinging

'sw????/Submit

adjectiveinformal

lively, exciting, and fashionable.

"a swinging resort"

sexually liberated or promiscuous.

Hmm think single people can be sexually liberated or promiscuous,

And I know when I was on as a single girl I didn't want any hassle or strings attached with men , that was why I joined at that point in my life , definitely should be open to everyone

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

Omg this thread is hanging round like a bad smell!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say that this is the key bit. If you're going to join Fab - particularly as a single - you'll find far more success if you embrace ALL parts of the 'swinging lifestyle.'

As for your point about Fab being "full of single guys basically looking for a free prostitute" - this phenomenon is no different to a popular kink site of which I am a member.

Yes I think men will look for sex where ever it might be free and available - swing sites, kink sites, dating sites. That can't be really be controlled. We have no objection to single men btw, because that's the main reason we are here. But very few of them are interested in swinging. And no doubt on dating site very few will be interested in dating.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

discovered that it was full of single guys basically looking for a free prostetute

!!!!

Well that's how I've been treated at times. If that's a surprise to anybody, then they are very lucky to have bypassed that unpleasant aspect of Fab.

Mrs

Yes we are heavily filtered too, so fortunately it doesn't happen to us very often too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well that's how I've been treated at times. If that's a surprise to anybody, then they are very lucky to have bypassed that unpleasant aspect of Fab. Mrs"

I have to say, I did 'bypass that unpleasant aspect of Fab' to begin with...then I began to identify openly as bisexual, and the "wanna suck this?" messages began to arrive...

As for the 'free prostitute' part, this is a crucial point that a lot of newcomers to the site - and a lot of 'veteran' members - don't seem to understand.

If you interact with or meet someone PURELY for sex, that's totally fine. No-one expects you to become 'best buddies' with every single person you have sex with.

However, if you come to Fab, or indeed any Swinging event, with the expectation that someone advertising NSA or 'casual' sex will AUTOMATICALLY say yes to you, that's being an asshole.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think they should ban all singles.I do think they should limit the amount of single guys though.This is a swingers site and they mentally think it's insta shag.I would say out of every 10 people on here 9 of them are single guys.Its become a meat market and the more frustrated the guys get the more idiotic and disrespectful they get.They should set a limit to that amount of single guys and when one leaves then allow another new member to take his place.They are just my views but I know others feel that it's become a sausage festival here as it's been flooded with to many single guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well that's how I've been treated at times. If that's a surprise to anybody, then they are very lucky to have bypassed that unpleasant aspect of Fab. Mrs

I have to say, I did 'bypass that unpleasant aspect of Fab' to begin with...then I began to identify openly as bisexual, and the "wanna suck this?" messages began to arrive...

As for the 'free prostitute' part, this is a crucial point that a lot of newcomers to the site - and a lot of 'veteran' members - don't seem to understand.

If you interact with or meet someone PURELY for sex, that's totally fine. No-one expects you to become 'best buddies' with every single person you have sex with.

However, if you come to Fab, or indeed any Swinging event, with the expectation that someone advertising NSA or 'casual' sex will AUTOMATICALLY say yes to you, that's being an asshole."

If I have sex with someone in a club, we have mutually identified a connection that makes us want to have sex with each other at that moment in time. It might only be the smallest connection, but there is a desire nonetheless for that fun to be had. If a guy messages us out of the blue asking to meet for sex, it seems to me that he doesn't need to check first that there is a mutual desire to have sex. He has simply looked at our profile and thought 'she'll do'. That guy may as well hire an escort. That type of guy, I suspect is scouring Fab looking for anyone to shag. But I accept that this probably happens on dating sites too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

are you saying singles dont swing lol

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over a year ago

"We have no objection to single men btw, because that's the main reason we are here. But very few of them are interested in swinging. And no doubt on dating site very few will be interested in dating. Mrs"

Likewise, there are any number of Fab members who I've approached purely as a potential playmate - usually in the sense of cybersex or phonesex - so I'm not bad-mouthing people who are 'only' looking for sex.

I was simply elaborating on your point about the 'free prostitute' crowd...namely that these are the people who think that being a Member of Fab means that you are OBLIGED to say 'yes' to them.

Not so long ago, for instance, I commented on a thread on which a guy had claimed:

"There's been an ever growing notion that swinging is somehow high brow and not about sex which is ridiculous. The same thing has crept into the fetish and BDSM scenes. If it's not about sex then you may as well delete your profile and just stay on facebook."

Unsurprisingly, he has now left the site...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If a guy messages us out of the blue asking to meet for sex, it seems to me that he doesn't need to check first that there is a mutual desire to have sex. He has simply looked at our profile and thought 'she'll do'. That guy may as well hire an escort. That type of guy, I suspect is scouring Fab looking for anyone to shag. But I accept that this probably happens on dating sites too. "

Exactly.

There's nothing wrong with approaching someone purely with the aim of having sex with them. HOWEVER, the fact that you are only viewing them as a potential sex partner does not remove the obligation to treat them with respect.

As you say, if you don't care whether the person you're approaching actually wants to be having sex with you, you might as well be hiring a hooker.

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By *arnsleycouple7683Couple
over a year ago

Barnsley

"Without singles how would we have 3sums? "

3 lots of couples, split into 2 3sums. But I see both points.

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over a year ago

"I think as this is a swinging site.. All single profiles, including mine, should be deleted leaving couples only to remain and join...

Seems a bit silly s

ingles seeking singles.. That's not swinging

There's plenty of other sites for single people"

Attention seeking much ?

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