FabSwingers.com forum: 'Can't accommodate '

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Been blocked based on not being able to accommodate.

Is this a common indicator used as a blunt tool to sus out married/cheats?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it was someone who does not meet men who can not accommodate

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

For some it will be

Others house share,have kids or live with family.

There are usually other clues if someone is cheating.

Miss

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By *iReyWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire East

Well you state the reason why you can't accom, I don't accom for similar reasons. Most do think it's because you're a cheat though, I wouldn't worry about it

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By *unforus1965Couple
over a year ago

MIDLANDS

"Been blocked based on not being able to accommodate.

Is this a common indicator used as a blunt tool to sus out married/cheats? "

Probably, yes.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

A year ago I had good reason why I couldn't accommodate. Those that know me know that reason. I can accommodate now.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

If someone my age cannot accommodate and doesn't state the reason why, then yes, I do assume they are cheating.

These guys usually have a basic one line profile with no public pics, so I think my assumption is correct

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone my age cannot accommodate and doesn't state the reason why, then yes, I do assume they are cheating.

These guys usually have a basic one line profile with no public pics, so I think my assumption is correct

Golden rule : Never assume.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

It's nothing to do with anyone on here if you can't accommodate!

Ignore them OP.

Some people just do not want strangers in their homes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a rule I don't accommodate as this is my home, my safe place and I have a small child.

Once I've met someone a few times & I know them better then I may invite them over.

Sometimes it's just easier to have a hotel meet

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"If someone my age cannot accommodate and doesn't state the reason why, then yes, I do assume they are cheating.

These guys usually have a basic one line profile with no public pics, so I think my assumption is correct

Golden rule : Never assume."

No, my golden rule is trust your gut! Never been wrong yet!

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"It's nothing to do with anyone on here if you can't accommodate!

Ignore them OP.

Some people just do not want strangers in their homes.

But they want to come to my home.....funny that

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

"It's nothing to do with anyone on here if you can't accommodate!

Ignore them OP.

Some people just do not want strangers in their homes.

But they want to come to my home.....funny that

I used to get that alot on my old single profile too,once had a bloke say he didnt invite people he didnt know,but happy to try and invite himself to mine.

Miss

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By *ollipop77Couple
over a year ago

Sunny Manchester

I won't accommodate someone that I have not met previously! Why would you allow a complete stranger that you have only sent a few messages to into your safe haven? The same goes, I wouldn't go to a complete strangers house.

I love to meet in clubs and then maybe I would consider house calls x

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"It's nothing to do with anyone on here if you can't accommodate!

Ignore them OP.

Some people just do not want strangers in their homes.

But they want to come to my home.....funny that

I used to get that alot on my old single profile too,once had a bloke say he didnt invite people he didnt know,but happy to try and invite himself to mine.

Miss"

One thing I can't stand is people who think I am stupid! It doesn't bode them well

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"It's nothing to do with anyone on here if you can't accommodate!

Ignore them OP.

Some people just do not want strangers in their homes.

But they want to come to my home.....funny that

Yes that is very funny isn't it?

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

I could accommodate but I choose not to. And its no one else's business why.

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By *ighland gentlemanMan
over a year ago

Ardgay

"Been blocked based on not being able to accommodate.

Is this a common indicator used as a blunt tool to sus out married/cheats? "

Especially when you combine it with mention of being discreet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's nothing to do with anyone on here if you can't accommodate!

Ignore them OP.

Some people just do not want strangers in their homes.

But they want to come to my home.....funny that

Yes that is very funny isn't it?"

Hysterical

I don't accom as I would rather not have my neighbors knowing my sex life.

I couldn't give two hoots what the neighbors of my lovers think.

Just for the record; I don't go to people's homes anyway as I have a higher regard for my safety than that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone my age cannot accommodate and doesn't state the reason why, then yes, I do assume they are cheating.

These guys usually have a basic one line profile with no public pics, so I think my assumption is correct

Golden rule : Never assume.

No, my golden rule is trust your gut! Never been wrong yet! "

How do you know that?... you're assuming they are a cheat based on their age and accommodation status? How do you know when you're wrong? Confirmation bias? Probably wrong as many times as you're right.

I'd pretty much venture you're wrong about never being wrong for a start.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone my age cannot accommodate and doesn't state the reason why, then yes, I do assume they are cheating.

These guys usually have a basic one line profile with no public pics, so I think my assumption is correct

Golden rule : Never assume.

No, my golden rule is trust your gut! Never been wrong yet!

I'd pretty much venture you're wrong about never being wrong for a start. "

I thought the same.

Not like you then can canvass the guys you reject...

"So..... now I've blocked you without speaking, can I ask if I was right; you're involved and she doesn't know?"

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull

"If someone my age cannot accommodate and doesn't state the reason why, then yes, I do assume they are cheating.

These guys usually have a basic one line profile with no public pics, so I think my assumption is correct

Golden rule : Never assume.

No, my golden rule is trust your gut! Never been wrong yet! "

Whilst I can see the matter from your point of view, look at it from another perspective.

I have been for the past 7 years, working freelance in Hotel management across the UK. Anything from 4 months to 2 years at a time, in company supplied accommodation, where entertaining outsiders was not allowed.

People do work away from home, can often be in supplied "digs", accommodation etc and like myself, are single!

Yes, whilst I could have ignored the rules that went with the accommodation provided, job security was always a factor!

Thus, don't always assume that any guy of any age let alone yours, fits in with your assumptions. There can be mitigating circumstances to back up the guy's reasons why they cannot accom, but do you give them that chance to do so?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone my age cannot accommodate and doesn't state the reason why, then yes, I do assume they are cheating.

These guys usually have a basic one line profile with no public pics, so I think my assumption is correct

Golden rule : Never assume.

No, my golden rule is trust your gut! Never been wrong yet!

I'd pretty much venture you're wrong about never being wrong for a start. "

i do exactly the same as the lady above, don't block without another reason, but usually i find someone working away from home or something will say so..as for the rest, im right enough times for it be as good a filter as any in that respect.

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

Youve been blocked. Next.

Follow this rule and never give two hoots again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been blocked based on not being able to accommodate.

Is this a common indicator used as a blunt tool to sus out married/cheats? "
well when you put on your profile if ee dont like it get stuffed then cant see you getting a lot of messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you assume, then you place them under the same label, " A cheater".

But :

- Some just don't want their private house to be known to strangers.

- It states in their rent agreement, "Not to be used for inappropriate behaviour", the landlord could deem swinging as such.

- You live on a street where the curtains twitch alot.

- You have kids and a baby sitter

- You live with parents/flatmate etc..

Plus loads of reasons.

Some don't mind you going to their house, but it's their choice and it's also equally your choice to assume and label. Thing is, you just don't don't know what you've missed if you've just always gone to block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some just don't want their private house to be known to strangers....

...Thing is, you just don't don't know what you've missed if you've just always gone to block."

Exactly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't accommodate myself, so am looking for men who do. I don't do hotels either. I do do car sex in a suitable car. But I do often block men who can't host, not because I think they are married but because the chances of a meet are very low XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You cant just invite a complete stranger into your home.As with some that do,when partners are at work etc,so disrespectful,and a dangerous game to play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been blocked based on not being able to accommodate.

Is this a common indicator used as a blunt tool to sus out married/cheats? "

Not always. I have Simone we meet on here who is not a cheat however she has exceptionally nosey neighbours. She wont accommodate for this reason most of the time have been to hers a couple of times but she is very much single and finds it easier to say can't accommodate as does not always know what the neighbours are up to. X

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

"Been blocked based on not being able to accommodate.

Is this a common indicator used as a blunt tool to sus out married/cheats? "

Yes, it filters out a high percentage of them.

It may also filter out a few that are genuinely single but it's a numbers game.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being less cynical than some for a change, it probably makes sense for someone who cannot accommodate to block others who cannot accommodate, especially if they don't fancy playing outside or in a hotel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been blocked based on not being able to accommodate.

Is this a common indicator used as a blunt tool to sus out married/cheats? "

It is your prerogative not to accommodate as it is the prerogative to assume that you must be married and therefore not want to meet you

- Mrs. J -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's nothing to do with anyone on here if you can't accommodate!

Ignore them OP.

Some people just do not want strangers in their homes.

This!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been blocked based on not being able to accommodate.

Is this a common indicator used as a blunt tool to sus out married/cheats?

Also this

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"If someone my age cannot accommodate and doesn't state the reason why, then yes, I do assume they are cheating.

These guys usually have a basic one line profile with no public pics, so I think my assumption is correct

Golden rule : Never assume.

No, my golden rule is trust your gut! Never been wrong yet!

I'd pretty much venture you're wrong about never being wrong for a start. "

Don't try and put me down please! I use my brain, I always request a meet in public, bearing in mind I live in the city centre, and there must be at least 200+ pubs/cafes to choose from.

When someone agrees to meet but it is a back street café I have never heard of before on the outskirts of town? Not a chance in hell are they single!

So when I say I trust my gut, I always have my reasons!

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

I'm not Sherlock Holmes but It might be the bit in your profile telling people to get stuffed after saying you could accom but won't.

Your choice whether you do or don't but people might not like the way you've said it

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

I live with 2 people that should be in an old peoples home ( parents - joking)

That's why I can't accommodate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can accomerdate once I know someone well, bein a single dad it's hard but not impossible, but like someone said this is my child's home and safe place. And with how the world is today don't want randoms being around my child

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We accommodate and actually feel more comfortable doing so and always suggest meeting in a pub then if we are all happy back to ours...

there are many reasons to identify a cheat with we think but not just because they can't accommodate

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

How do you know they blocked for that reason? They'd normally just block with bothering with an explanation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We find it a mild irritation when men expect us to to accommodate just because they can't. It's not a deal breaker, but it would be nice if playmate also took responsibility. I don't understand why so many guys, who don't accommodate, don't suggest alternatives on their profiles. There are hotels for example.

Mrs

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By *FFB69Woman
over a year ago

Torfaen/Gwent

"It's nothing to do with anyone on here if you can't accommodate!

Ignore them OP.

Some people just do not want strangers in their homes.

But they want to come to my home.....funny that

Yes that is very funny isn't it?"

I don't accommodate. But don't assume someone else should either. If they want too that's their choice. Same as it's mine not too. I'm perfectly happy with hotel meets tbh.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante

"Been blocked based on not being able to accommodate.

Is this a common indicator used as a blunt tool to sus out married/cheats? "

Maybe it's because you tell people to get stuffed....who knows?

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley

We can't accommodate due to kids so only look for guys who either can or who stay in hotels where we can meet them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can accomerdate once I know someone well, bein a single dad it's hard but not impossible, but like someone said this is my child's home and safe place. And with how the world is today don't want randoms being around my child "

Exactly. I have can accommodate on my profile, but I'll only accommodate if my kid (who is 14) is well out for the way

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"Been blocked based on not being able to accommodate.

Is this a common indicator used as a blunt tool to sus out married/cheats? "

Were you told that was the reason you were blocked before the block happened?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's nothing to do with anyone on here if you can't accommodate!

Ignore them OP.

Some people just do not want strangers in their homes.

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