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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hello I've been on this site for over a year but only started coming on properly a few weeks/months. I've got 1 verification but I'm finding it really hard to even start talking to people. First problem I have is if someone looks at my profile I'll look at theirs, if I like I message them just a friendly 1. The next thing that has happened a few times is they just block me but never know why lol. Or I send a message to someone and they read but don't reply so I don't know if they're interested or not. It normally ends with the person blocking me. The other thing is I'll be exactly what they've got down they're looking for in their profile but when I message they just either delete or ignore...this site really makes you feel ugly because of how many times I've been turned down lol.

Could anyone help with how to set my profile or what to play it cool when coming down to speaking g to someone?

Any help is much appreciated!!!

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Negative status one cock pic not much information

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By *inkySlinkyCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I suggest you have a profile pic. Lots of people don't communicate with black shadows

Sally

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

One pic, and that's of your cock. Be a bit more imaginative. Your profile is a bit derivative - you could include a bit more detail. Have a look at some other male profiles for ideas (but don't copy them!)

Apart from that, I can't contribute much. I've not had a successful meet in months, so what do I know?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Oh yeah, lose the status. Whiney is not attractive.

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By *ANDA2Couple
over a year ago

Henley Arden

Just because someone looks at your profile does not mean they want to meet you. They may have looked and decided your not for them.

It's like a restaurant menu. You look at all/most but just choose one. Just because it's on the menu does not mean you like the dish. Fab is a menu.

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By *apillonNoirWoman
over a year ago

There...

If someone has looked at you and not sent a message it's probably because they didn't like what they saw - best not to send them a message in my opinion. Get some photos - ditch the cock pic and put it in private for those who request it. Write a profile rather than a series of sentences that say very little. Search for those who match what you're looking for then read profiles carefully to ensure you fit theirs. Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We wouldn't block, but we don't tend to reply to men who have nothing to show for themselves but a cock.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think of yourself as a flower that has to attract bees to stay alive.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you all for the feedback! Really appreciate it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We wouldn't block, but we don't tend to reply to men who have nothing to show for themselves but a cock.

Mrs"

Didn't reply to me either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh yes, at the 'heavy cummer' bit is a turn off too. But maybe that sort or thing draws others women in, I don't know. I think women on the whole are more interested in human beings not body parts and quantity of cum.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We wouldn't block, but we don't tend to reply to men who have nothing to show for themselves but a cock.

Mrs

Didn't reply to me either "

We haven't messaged you ?!?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A profile picture definitely and a few naughty shots, underpants are quite good and bare bottoms. They are my favourite. Plus a bit more saucy details on your profile text XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Didn't reply to me either

We haven't messaged you ?!?"

Nope... not a dickybird Obviously I'm talking from my joint profile, sure I messaged you before?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Didn't reply to me either

We haven't messaged you ?!?

Nope... not a dickybird Obviously I'm talking from my joint profile, sure I messaged you before? "

Sorry, meant you haven't messaged us. Unless from a different profile. Check your profile and there is nothing that says you messaged us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well, same here... Any advice?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Didn't reply to me either

We haven't messaged you ?!?

Nope... not a dickybird Obviously I'm talking from my joint profile, sure I messaged you before?

Sorry, meant you haven't messaged us. Unless from a different profile. Check your profile and there is nothing that says you messaged us"

Ahh but look again

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By *liejuniorMan
over a year ago

radstock

i think heavy cummer is more attractive to men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I messaged every person that looked at me I would be a combination of "Fucked" "Blocked" or ignored, with the emphasis on blocked. You have beeen given good advise on here, especially by the ladies, so follow it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First up, the FAQs say no reply should be taken as they're not interested so use that as an answer where they've not responded. I think you should focus on your inbox and not look at your sent messages.

Secondly maybe rather than messaging people who've looked but not made contact (because if they were interested the chances are they would have winked/ messaged etc) do your own searches.

I think your profile looks pretty decent, if someone with a comparable profile contacted us with a reasonable first message we'd want to find out more. Maybe you could put in a little more detail about what you are looking for and offer in the bedroom. Others might suggest you put the cock pic in your friend's only pics but personally I think one among other decent pics like yours is fine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh and please don't let it get you down! People are making snap judgements, they don't really know you and there may be one small thing in that info that makes them decide not to pursue it. If they met you in real life it might be a different story x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i think heavy cummer is more attractive to men"

Does nothing for me ... after all it'll all be in a condom lol

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

Chin up, it's not all that bad. You've been given some good advice so far, and your profile has improved.

Don't worry about people that looked but didn't message, concentrate on carrying out your own searches for people that meet what you want, then check you meet what they want before sending a message. You'll improve your chances that way.

Also, minor I know, but do you really want to shag someone in their nineties? Or have you just been a little too lazy with setting your age preferences?

Good luck out there

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Oh I didn't realise I will definitely be changing that haha

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

Don't change a thing, the competition is bad enough as it is

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