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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We like the idea of another male joining us, so all the attention is on Mrs L but we won't risk penetration even with a condom.

Mrs L thinks it would be unfair to the other man if he couldn't get to fuck her, though he can do anything else with her, her words

I say If I was single I would be happy to get to play with a sexy woman even if I only got wanked off at the end of it.

Any others play this way?

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

How about you try it out with another couple and see how they feel!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Then ask for a male for soft swing and tell them what they can and can't do before it happens.

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By *ingle ex cuckMan
over a year ago

chester

in all the mfm I've had I never used to get full sex just lots of giving oral and massages

my reward was the tongue cleaning

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By *inkySlinkyCouple
over a year ago

Leeds


"We won't risk penetration even with a condom

though he can do anything else with her"

I think that oral sex without a condom is riskier than vaginal penetration with a condom.

Sally

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

Each to their own. Just be specific with what you are looking for and offering, then everyone know's what to expect.

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By *iratedave2Man
over a year ago

dartford

There's nothing wrong with soft swing, there's lots of fun to be had!

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By *reman6976Man
over a year ago

Deeping St James


"We like the idea of another male joining us, so all the attention is on Mrs L but we won't risk penetration even with a condom.

Mrs L thinks it would be unfair to the other man if he couldn't get to fuck her, though he can do anything else with her, her words

I say If I was single I would be happy to get to play with a sexy woman even if I only got wanked off at the end of it.

Any others play this way?"

I've been involved with a couple and penetration wasn't an option. I was ok with that. I liked watching, offering an extra pair of hands and mouth for her. I also liked the bj and handjob whilst she was being f-ed by her partner

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley

Soft play can be highly erotic and a lot of fun.

Just set out what you want clearly and don't rely on people reading your profile because a great many won't bother. You'll also quite possibly come across some guys who say they'll be fine with it then try to push the boundaries or change the rules when you meet so be aware of that.

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By *aracrapshagWoman
over a year ago

private

I don't think you will have any problem with getting a single male to play in this way. There are many that are just happy to watch you as a couple play so to say you can touch and more would be a bonus to them. Previously with an ex partner we invited 2 men join us to just be sucked and play over me which was very erotic and certainly no complaints go for it, you'll be inundated I'm sure

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

We're soft swing. State clearly what you offer although you will get men trying to change your mind.

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley


"We're soft swing. State clearly what you offer although you will get men trying to change your mind."

Yes but you don't really want soft fun do you... :D

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"We're soft swing. State clearly what you offer although you will get men trying to change your mind.

Yes but you don't really want soft fun do you... :D"

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley


"We're soft swing. State clearly what you offer although you will get men trying to change your mind.

Yes but you don't really want soft fun do you... :D

"

How about a nice hard bareback BDSM orgy? Now that's what you really want isn't it...

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By *azinga84Man
over a year ago

Kilwinning

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"We're soft swing. State clearly what you offer although you will get men trying to change your mind.

Yes but you don't really want soft fun do you... :D

How about a nice hard bareback BDSM orgy? Now that's what you really want isn't it... "

Damn! You sussed me.

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley


"We're soft swing. State clearly what you offer although you will get men trying to change your mind.

Yes but you don't really want soft fun do you... :D

How about a nice hard bareback BDSM orgy? Now that's what you really want isn't it...

Damn! You sussed me.

"

It was quite obvious from reading between the lines in your profile. You just needed our help to make you realise.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"We're soft swing. State clearly what you offer although you will get men trying to change your mind.

Yes but you don't really want soft fun do you... :D

How about a nice hard bareback BDSM orgy? Now that's what you really want isn't it...

Damn! You sussed me.

It was quite obvious from reading between the lines in your profile. You just needed our help to make you realise. "

We're eternally grateful for your help.

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By *arehamMan
over a year ago

handforth

I would love to do this so much

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By *ornographic ArtsCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

This is how we prefer to play to. Yet to find a condom that doesn't cause irritation for us.

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By *DontExistWoman
over a year ago

•+• Silicon valley. •+•

i'm single but when i only offered soft play it was very popular.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"We like the idea of another male joining us, so all the attention is on Mrs L but we won't risk penetration even with a condom.

Mrs L thinks it would be unfair to the other man if he couldn't get to fuck her, though he can do anything else with her, her words

I say If I was single I would be happy to get to play with a sexy woman even if I only got wanked off at the end of it.

Any others play this way?"

We are happy to play soft as well as full swap.

I'm sure if you make it clear, there will be men happy to oblige.

Nita

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We won't risk penetration even with a condom

though he can do anything else with her

I think that oral sex without a condom is riskier than vaginal penetration with a condom.

Sally "

Main worry is pregnancy

X

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By *oping for funMan
over a year ago

Newport - Shropshire


"Then ask for a male for soft swing and tell them what they can and can't do before it happens. "

Agreed then they know what is on offer ... I always look to establish what the "game rules" are so there are no surprises and no disappointment either way.

We are all adults and all have the right to choose

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By *oping for funMan
over a year ago

Newport - Shropshire


"We won't risk penetration even with a condom

though he can do anything else with her

I think that oral sex without a condom is riskier than vaginal penetration with a condom.

Sally

Main worry is pregnancy

X"

Go with an older guy who has had the snip like me...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We won't risk penetration even with a condom

though he can do anything else with her

I think that oral sex without a condom is riskier than vaginal penetration with a condom.

Sally

Main worry is pregnancy

X"

I'd be more than happy to join in as just soft play. It's really erotic...

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By *arehamMan
over a year ago

handforth

Yes but they only have your word that you have had the snip.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We like the idea of another male joining us, so all the attention is on Mrs L but we won't risk penetration even with a condom.

Mrs L thinks it would be unfair to the other man if he couldn't get to fuck her, though he can do anything else with her, her words

I say If I was single I would be happy to get to play with a sexy woman even if I only got wanked off at the end of it.

Any others play this way?"

we have had several meets like this , some at clubs and some private,

there are guys out there that like this kind of fun,search for voyeurs,a genuine voyeur makes a good candidate for soft swing as he wont be expecting anything other than watching so being able to touch aswell maybe a bonus to him just make sure he understands your boundrys and if he pushes for more on the meet don't feel pressured to let him go any further than you want, to the point of stopping the meet if your not happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We talked about something like this and did have someone in mind for it but found we were unsure even ourselves what we was happy to set our level at, example do you include kissing etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's how are meets with single men go

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By *m3232Man
over a year ago

maidenhead

I do this with my friend and his wife and is great fun

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We talked about something like this and did have someone in mind for it but found we were unsure even ourselves what we was happy to set our level at, example do you include kissing etc "

No problem with kissing and everything else.

Not looking for cuckold but would expect Mrs to be "seduced, chatted up and then passionate play between them with Mr and single giving and receiving pleasure just only Mr fucking Mrs while single perhaps brings her to orgasm.

??

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By *ilk_TrayMan
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Nothing wrong with what you're looking for OP.

I was once invited by a couple to meet them only for soft swing fun. She wanked me off and gave me a BJ and I gave her oral. No penetration involved.

Another occasion I had a private meet where two women gave me oral but no penetration involved.

As long as you make it clear to the male you meet what you want then he'll be happy with that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We love soft swing meets, we find that all parties thoroughly enjoy as long as the discussion beforehand is very honest and boundaries are explained straight away - both Ian and myself (Mandy) have lots of fun this way

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By *ames WhyteMan
over a year ago

Near Manchester Airport

Would love to meet a couple who wanted a voyeur/soft swing scenario but can't seem to find them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Prefer soft swing

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By *oping for funMan
over a year ago

Newport - Shropshire


"We love soft swing meets, we find that all parties thoroughly enjoy as long as the discussion beforehand is very honest and boundaries are explained straight away - both Ian and myself (Mandy) have lots of fun this way "

I often give the lady a sensual and intimate massage while hubby watches. I ask nothing in return other than what the lady wants to give ... a HJ/BJ or whatever. I have also been asked to join the guy in pleasuring the day fully ....

So in truth, ask and get the rules agreed BUT DO NOT break them on the day

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By *hythmic DriverMan
over a year ago

Croydon


"We talked about something like this and did have someone in mind for it but found we were unsure even ourselves what we was happy to set our level at, example do you include kissing etc

No problem with kissing and everything else.

Not looking for cuckold but would expect Mrs to be "seduced, chatted up and then passionate play between them with Mr and single giving and receiving pleasure just only Mr fucking Mrs while single perhaps brings her to orgasm.

??"

Sounds hot. Happy to chat.

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

luton

Just set your rules out before play we have invited many guys to play .and we let them know how far wife wants to go with them .yes she enjoys full sex with some but has also enjoyed a lot of soft play which can be very erotic .and she has had some very good orgasms with either .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is a very erotic idea, I think there is a element of limits making it even more fun especially if you feel your pushing your limits, but as others have said, clear ground rules before you begin

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By *iger2keepMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire

From experience with previous couples - as long as you are both clear on the rules before the meet, it shouldn't be a problem.

Sometimes fun can be had without penetration too...and in my case, being invited to join in a loving couple's most intimate scenes together makes it all worthwhile... Swinging isn't just about penetration and sex - at least to me. The social part can be very interesting too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So after reading all the replies to this thread just how many men are happy to just play with or even only watch another women / couple ?

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By *oping for funMan
over a year ago

Newport - Shropshire


"So after reading all the replies to this thread just how many men are happy to just play with or even only watch another women / couple ?"

me

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East


"So after reading all the replies to this thread just how many men are happy to just play with or even only watch another women / couple ?"

I have the internet for that. Be fun in a club no doubt too. On a private meet nope.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So after reading all the replies to this thread just how many men are happy to just play with or even only watch another women / couple ?

I have the internet for that. Be fun in a club no doubt too. On a private meet nope."

I have internet for that ?

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By *ark_uk_1968Man
over a year ago

chertsey

I would be very happy with this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve experienced this as a single male and as the male half of a couple.

It’s horny both ways, let’s face it getting to go down on/finger a lady and get a hand/blow job ist bad is it.

Even if you don’t get a shag

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So after reading all the replies to this thread just how many men are happy to just play with or even only watch another women / couple ?

I have the internet for that. Be fun in a club no doubt too. On a private meet nope."

given the choice of watching and wanking over porn on a tv screen or a live sex show theres no contest,

live sex show you get to see what you want to see from what ever angle plus just the erotic atmosphere of being so close to the cple persons playing , not a scripted fake show with a view that Is controlled by a camera man

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By *on and TammyCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

Go for it OP, we started out doing soft swap MFM and the first single guy we played with really enjoyed it and was happy to have further soft swaps.

We knew after that first time though that we wanted full swap at the next meet but if we were ever to decide to go back to soft swap then I can't imagine there'd be a problem finding willing guys.

Mr

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By *oandjohnCouple
over a year ago

South Wales, will travel to Hereford, Worcestershire and Shropshire

OP... reading your post it sound to me it is more your issue than your wife's.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"OP... reading your post it sound to me it is more your issue than your wife's.

"

No I'm definitely not worried I Mr will become pregnant

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE


"OP... reading your post it sound to me it is more your issue than your wife's.

No I'm definitely not worried I Mr will become pregnant

"

Well let the other guy do the anal part of a dp then.

No pregnancy there either

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

Seriously though, I am more than happy to play with a lady without penetration...possibly without a bj either.

Quite like the idea of fluffing a lady and making her cum (if possible) and then leaving her for hubby to come in and finish her off.

I would need to be able to kiss though

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"OP... reading your post it sound to me it is more your issue than your wife's.

No I'm definitely not worried I Mr will become pregnant

Well let the other guy do the anal part of a dp then.

No pregnancy there either "

My suggestion to but apparently I'm the only one trusted with the back door

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

Well...a good man earns trust. An open mind is all that is needed by all concerned.

As long as you are both happy then the guy may get luckier than he expects.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single man looking to join a couple, this wouldn't be a problem for me.

The key is actually doing everything you can to make the woman cum over and over. The combination of that, the voyeuristic aspect of watching the couple pleasure each other, and a well-executed blow job would be spectacular from my perspective.

Good luck in finding your partner!


"We like the idea of another male joining us, so all the attention is on Mrs L but we won't risk penetration even with a condom.

Mrs L thinks it would be unfair to the other man if he couldn't get to fuck her, though he can do anything else with her, her words

I say If I was single I would be happy to get to play with a sexy woman even if I only got wanked off at the end of it.

Any others play this way?"

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley

Kissing is important for me, I could never play with a guy I didn't want to kiss whether having soft fun or anything else. Sex isn't all about penetration.

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By *istalloverCouple
over a year ago

Pays de la Loire -Normandie -Brittany borderFrance

it works for us

the only problem is .

it takes a week to get the smile off my wifes face when it goes right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Kissing is important for me, I could never play with a guy I didn't want to kiss whether having soft fun or anything else. Sex isn't all about penetration."

Kissing is way too personal too me

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By *blasiansCouple
over a year ago

Wakefield


"From experience with previous couples - as long as you are both clear on the rules before the meet, it shouldn't be a problem.

Sometimes fun can be had without penetration too...and in my case, being invited to join in a loving couple's most intimate scenes together makes it all worthwhile... Swinging isn't just about penetration and sex - at least to me. The social part can be very interesting too. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We like the idea of another male joining us, so all the attention is on Mrs L but we won't risk penetration even with a condom.

Mrs L thinks it would be unfair to the other man if he couldn't get to fuck her, though he can do anything else with her, her words

I say If I was single I would be happy to get to play with a sexy woman even if I only got wanked off at the end of it.

Any others play this way?"

we are soft swing only,

just explain any boundrys or limits to potential meets so they know exactly what to expect before you meet then they can decide if they want to meet you or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love soft swing meets, would love to meet a couple for regular meets

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