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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Since I've been on here, there have been increasingly more and more Lowestoft gals...

What I've found...and yes this is a little whine in a way....is that none seem to want to reply, is it a case of not wanting to play close to home or something else?

I'm nice, patient and enjoy talking as well. It's a plus that me and the women in question are extremely local so to make meets easier surely...but why no bite? Is it all really down to looks now? Does no one like a little conversation anymore? Because if so, that makes me sad. I've managed my profile loads of times trying to flesh out but went back to basics as it didn't work.

There's more to interaction than just the sex. I get it's the basis of why we are here.

How do some of you ladies feel when someone from your Town/City messages you? (even if you catch them in the waves that arrive every day)

Losing my want to keep trying...

Rx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dont tend to meet many guys from my city as half of them just waste my time and coz i dont want the chance of we will bump into each other when in tesco or if they are on a night out and i happen to be working in my field of work

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"i dont tend to meet many guys from my city as half of them just waste my time and coz i dont want the chance of we will bump into each other when in tesco or if they are on a night out and i happen to be working in my field of work"

Yeah I do get that side of things. personally I'd probably have a chuckle to myself if I saw a fellow Fabber out and about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I won't ever meet anyone local. I don't want to run into anyone again if it's awkward, there's no chemistry, or it's clear it will be a one off.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

There are very few genuinely single men in York who meet, so I tend to play in Leeds.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i dont tend to meet many guys from my city as half of them just waste my time and coz i dont want the chance of we will bump into each other when in tesco or if they are on a night out and i happen to be working in my field of work

Yeah I do get that side of things. personally I'd probably have a chuckle to myself if I saw a fellow Fabber out and about. "

in my job if i did bump into a fellow fabber on a night out and they kicked off id have to throw them out and then they wouldnt wanna meet me again lol hence y i prefer those who arent local

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps they don't want to reply to you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Perhaps they don't want to reply to you "

Well a lot don't do it's no change to me!

So it does seem that close to home is a put off to most women. Clears it up a bit then..thanks.

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By *rightonCheekyMan
over a year ago

Brighton

Interesting point to which I've never given much thought in the past. My meets have tended to be very local within 5 to 15 miles and made some good friends locally. Maybe I'm missing out on delights further afield and it hasn't occurred to me that local could be seen as a negative ... but I can see it now

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

We only meet people at clubs, as the nearest club is over an hours drive away it means we rarely meet people who are local. We'd happily meet people who are local to us, but at a club - that way we know we are both in the same boat! We have on one occassion seen someone we know, but we just nodded and smiled and got on with our own fun

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Good to see a variety of opinions and experiences regarding this. Guess it's just luck of the draw.

Plus a single guy like me going to a club. I'd feel like an antelope in the brush of Africa being spied on by chuckling hyenas.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good to see a variety of opinions and experiences regarding this. Guess it's just luck of the draw.

Plus a single guy like me going to a club. I'd feel like an antelope in the brush of Africa being spied on by chuckling hyenas. "

I doubt the women in clubs would do that

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By *rMrs CumalotCouple
over a year ago

East Mids


"Good to see a variety of opinions and experiences regarding this. Guess it's just luck of the draw.

Plus a single guy like me going to a club. I'd feel like an antelope in the brush of Africa being spied on by chuckling hyenas. "

You obviously have no experience of the club scene!

Stop being needy! It's not attractive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good to see a variety of opinions and experiences regarding this. Guess it's just luck of the draw.

Plus a single guy like me going to a club. I'd feel like an antelope in the brush of Africa being spied on by chuckling hyenas.

You obviously have no experience of the club scene!

Stop being needy! It's not attractive "

Um I'd hazard a guess he's shy and hasn't built up the courage to attend a club yet

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I prefer meeting localish people as my time is limited

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I won't meet anyone from my specific city, but I'm in the Midlands so don't travel far. It may be for that reason OP? Not wanting to bump into you in Sainsbury's?

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By *rMrs CumalotCouple
over a year ago

East Mids


"Good to see a variety of opinions and experiences regarding this. Guess it's just luck of the draw.

Plus a single guy like me going to a club. I'd feel like an antelope in the brush of Africa being spied on by chuckling hyenas.

You obviously have no experience of the club scene!

Stop being needy! It's not attractive

Um I'd hazard a guess he's shy and hasn't built up the courage to attend a club yet"

Well I'm sorry but as a single male in this world! Socials and clubs are the way forward

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good to see a variety of opinions and experiences regarding this. Guess it's just luck of the draw.

Plus a single guy like me going to a club. I'd feel like an antelope in the brush of Africa being spied on by chuckling hyenas.

You obviously have no experience of the club scene!

Stop being needy! It's not attractive

Um I'd hazard a guess he's shy and hasn't built up the courage to attend a club yet

Well I'm sorry but as a single male in this world! Socials and clubs are the way forward

"

I meet plenty of single guys who don't go to clubs or socials

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Good to see a variety of opinions and experiences regarding this. Guess it's just luck of the draw.

Plus a single guy like me going to a club. I'd feel like an antelope in the brush of Africa being spied on by chuckling hyenas.

You obviously have no experience of the club scene!

Stop being needy! It's not attractive

Um I'd hazard a guess he's shy and hasn't built up the courage to attend a club yet

Well I'm sorry but as a single male in this world! Socials and clubs are the way forward

"


"Good to see a variety of opinions and experiences regarding this. Guess it's just luck of the draw.

Plus a single guy like me going to a club. I'd feel like an antelope in the brush of Africa being spied on by chuckling hyenas. "

I appreciate the comment, wouldn't say I'm being needy though, more so trying to understand how things work.

But yeah I am a reserved guy, I have my reasons...stuff like that that is outgoing to that level is t the norm for me. Easier for women to be swooned over..probably still unnerving though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good to see a variety of opinions and experiences regarding this. Guess it's just luck of the draw.

Plus a single guy like me going to a club. I'd feel like an antelope in the brush of Africa being spied on by chuckling hyenas.

You obviously have no experience of the club scene!

Stop being needy! It's not attractive

Um I'd hazard a guess he's shy and hasn't built up the courage to attend a club yet

Well I'm sorry but as a single male in this world! Socials and clubs are the way forward

Good to see a variety of opinions and experiences regarding this. Guess it's just luck of the draw.

Plus a single guy like me going to a club. I'd feel like an antelope in the brush of Africa being spied on by chuckling hyenas.

I appreciate the comment, wouldn't say I'm being needy though, more so trying to understand how things work.

But yeah I am a reserved guy, I have my reasons...stuff like that that is outgoing to that level is t the norm for me. Easier for women to be swooned over..probably still unnerving though."

I'm unsure on going to clubs so I get where ur coming from

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By *rMrs CumalotCouple
over a year ago

East Mids


"Good to see a variety of opinions and experiences regarding this. Guess it's just luck of the draw.

Plus a single guy like me going to a club. I'd feel like an antelope in the brush of Africa being spied on by chuckling hyenas.

You obviously have no experience of the club scene!

Stop being needy! It's not attractive

Um I'd hazard a guess he's shy and hasn't built up the courage to attend a club yet

Well I'm sorry but as a single male in this world! Socials and clubs are the way forward

Good to see a variety of opinions and experiences regarding this. Guess it's just luck of the draw.

Plus a single guy like me going to a club. I'd feel like an antelope in the brush of Africa being spied on by chuckling hyenas.

I appreciate the comment, wouldn't say I'm being needy though, more so trying to understand how things work.

But yeah I am a reserved guy, I have my reasons...stuff like that that is outgoing to that level is t the norm for me. Easier for women to be swooned over..probably still unnerving though."

Before meeting the mrs I was in the lifestyle for 8 yrs as a single male! The first club or large social are nerve racking but you get used to them! I'm just saying you can't moan about not meeting if your not willing to put yourself out there

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By *rMrs CumalotCouple
over a year ago

East Mids


"Good to see a variety of opinions and experiences regarding this. Guess it's just luck of the draw.

Plus a single guy like me going to a club. I'd feel like an antelope in the brush of Africa being spied on by chuckling hyenas.

You obviously have no experience of the club scene!

Stop being needy! It's not attractive

Um I'd hazard a guess he's shy and hasn't built up the courage to attend a club yet

Well I'm sorry but as a single male in this world! Socials and clubs are the way forward

I meet plenty of single guys who don't go to clubs or socials"

Good for you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good to see a variety of opinions and experiences regarding this. Guess it's just luck of the draw.

Plus a single guy like me going to a club. I'd feel like an antelope in the brush of Africa being spied on by chuckling hyenas.

You obviously have no experience of the club scene!

Stop being needy! It's not attractive

Um I'd hazard a guess he's shy and hasn't built up the courage to attend a club yet

Well I'm sorry but as a single male in this world! Socials and clubs are the way forward

Good to see a variety of opinions and experiences regarding this. Guess it's just luck of the draw.

Plus a single guy like me going to a club. I'd feel like an antelope in the brush of Africa being spied on by chuckling hyenas.

I appreciate the comment, wouldn't say I'm being needy though, more so trying to understand how things work.

But yeah I am a reserved guy, I have my reasons...stuff like that that is outgoing to that level is t the norm for me. Easier for women to be swooned over..probably still unnerving though.

Before meeting the mrs I was in the lifestyle for 8 yrs as a single male! The first club or large social are nerve racking but you get used to them! I'm just saying you can't moan about not meeting if your not willing to put yourself out there"

He was saying he messages females local to him who do not reply and asked if it's that single females don't tend to want to meet local to them. I never saw anywhere it was them not meeting

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By *rMrs CumalotCouple
over a year ago

East Mids


"Good to see a variety of opinions and experiences regarding this. Guess it's just luck of the draw.

Plus a single guy like me going to a club. I'd feel like an antelope in the brush of Africa being spied on by chuckling hyenas.

You obviously have no experience of the club scene!

Stop being needy! It's not attractive

Um I'd hazard a guess he's shy and hasn't built up the courage to attend a club yet

Well I'm sorry but as a single male in this world! Socials and clubs are the way forward

Good to see a variety of opinions and experiences regarding this. Guess it's just luck of the draw.

Plus a single guy like me going to a club. I'd feel like an antelope in the brush of Africa being spied on by chuckling hyenas.

I appreciate the comment, wouldn't say I'm being needy though, more so trying to understand how things work.

But yeah I am a reserved guy, I have my reasons...stuff like that that is outgoing to that level is t the norm for me. Easier for women to be swooned over..probably still unnerving though.

Before meeting the mrs I was in the lifestyle for 8 yrs as a single male! The first club or large social are nerve racking but you get used to them! I'm just saying you can't moan about not meeting if your not willing to put yourself out there

He was saying he messages females local to him who do not reply and asked if it's that single females don't tend to want to meet local to them. I never saw anywhere it was them not meeting "

Please read what you have just wrote! Surely if they are not replying then they are not meeting! I was just giving a single male trying to break into the scene an alternative to sending messages since that obviously isn't working for him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like anyone when we receive a message we would read the profile first than decide to reply or not. How near to us they were would not matter

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Being local and risking knowing you maybe one reason for not responding.

Alternatively, they may have had lots of messages and yours got missed, they are not interested in you or your profile didn't inspire them if they looked.

You need to simply accept that very few will reply, be more selective in who you message and make your profile as appealing as possible. Looking further afield may also help.

Nita

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'll try to add more variety in future, in time. Thanks for the insights and opinions Fabbers.

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