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At what point do messages go from flattering to creepy?

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By *ools and the brain OP   Couple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

So message comes in fine , reply as it's polite .

Then another and another ....

All the time polite but slowly getting a bit heavier.

Guess it's a block situation but feel bad of the guy is just being overly polite.

So when is the line from one to the other ?

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

When you feel uncomfortable. It's a personal thing. Only you can decide what that is for you.

I get that feeling about guys who don't wait for you to reply back and send 3 messages for every 1 message we send.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they are from someone I haven't spoken to before I stop them dead.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

When they start asking what I'm wearing or what kind of sex I'm into early on in the conversation.

One told me he could see me through my lounge window. I happened to be in my own at the time and I was totally creeped out!!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"When they start asking what I'm wearing or what kind of sex I'm into early on in the conversation.

One told me he could see me through my lounge window. I happened to be in my own at the time and I was totally creeped out!! "

You do wonder how socially inept a person has to be to not realise how bad a comment like that is. Or was he actually in your garden?

OP, the moment I feel uncomfortable is the moment I back off. Dozens of messages, or the person getting more and more romantic put me right off.

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By *rightonCheekyMan
over a year ago

Brighton

The minute you feel uncomfortable it's time to block and move on, this lark is about having fun sexy times and anything that makes you feel uncomfortable is the opposite of fun in my book

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When they start asking what I'm wearing or what kind of sex I'm into early on in the conversation.

One told me he could see me through my lounge window. I happened to be in my own at the time and I was totally creeped out!! "

I usually ask them what sex they are into very early on, so that I can see if they want to do stuff I don't like doing XXX

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By *DontExistWoman
over a year ago

•+• Silicon valley. •+•


"When you feel uncomfortable. It's a personal thing. Only you can decide what that is for you. "

this for me, when they overstep any boundaries i've put in place in my head.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think we all have to expect some messages that are not to our tastes, but it's the ones that when your having a nice chat and they come out the blue that throw me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's definitely creepy if a lady messages me first

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By *ordon88Man
over a year ago

town


"It's definitely creepy if a lady messages me first "

I always assume its purple aki if a blank womans profile messages first

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By *ools and the brain OP   Couple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

Thanks all.

Think a definite block is on the card's.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why don't you just tell them you're finding their messages a bit creepy and to tone it down?

People aren't mind readers.

He may think you like it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if it feels weird - dont reply

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By *ordon88Man
over a year ago

town

Tell him/her its not what you like.

He might stop

If not delete

Atleast give them a chance. They might actually be really nice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi, I noticed your profile and thought we could be a really great match and get along well! Please check out our profile and get back to us.

Ps, loved that dress you were wearing in Tesco's earlier.

And did you enjoy watching the new Dark Tower movie, I was sat behind you."

Might be an instant good to creepy example??

If by any chance you were in Tesco's and watched the Dark Tower, I swear to god this is pure coincidence!!!!

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By *ordon88Man
over a year ago

town


""Hi, I noticed your profile and thought we could be a really great match and get along well! Please check out our profile and get back to us.

Ps, loved that dress you were wearing in Tesco's earlier.

And did you enjoy watching the new Dark Tower movie, I was sat behind you."

Might be an instant good to creepy example??

If by any chance you were in Tesco's and watched the Dark Tower, I swear to god this is pure coincidence!!!! "

Wow. This guys got issues

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

Lovely and flattering is when two people go for a long romantic walk together...

...creepy is when only one of them knows about it.

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By *ordon88Man
over a year ago

town


"Lovely and flattering is when two people go for a long romantic walk together...

...creepy is when only one of them knows about it.

"

I always come back alone

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I've had guy's saying they know where I live, which local beach I go to saw you in Tesco Asda etc another one threatened to drive around at austell looking for me

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

St austell not at Austell

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By *rightonCheekyMan
over a year ago

Brighton

This has just reminded me of a message I had off a lady a year or two back, she knew where I worked, what I did for a living and even knew the name of the boat I work on .... it was too creepy and I blocked her .....

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

You look better in real life than your pics, as I watched you while hidden in the bushes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So message comes in fine , reply as it's polite .

Then another and another ....

All the time polite but slowly getting a bit heavier.

Guess it's a block situation but feel bad of the guy is just being overly polite.

So when is the line from one to the other ?"
i to be fair find the line very easy to find with me. I Don't really like guys talking to me like that. It quickly becomes creepy and uncomfortable x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When they start asking what I'm wearing or what kind of sex I'm into early on in the conversation.

One told me he could see me through my lounge window. I happened to be in my own at the time and I was totally creeped out!! "

Especially when your 26 stories up! !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When someone only 12 years younger asks if she can call you daddy. Creepy as fuck.

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By *bsolute LibertinesCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

We seldom block, but if there are too many more messages after the 'good luck with the site' reply, we just delete them.

We find most people are quite polite, and have encountered bad abuse only occasionally..

Best wishes to all out there

Ray

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A guy messaged me this week normal chat then started asking how old I was when I started puberty, grew pubic hair and boobs and how old was I when I started my period and had sex.

Blocked straight away

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