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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi just looking advice. When chatting to a man who refuses to show their verifications should I be worried. I'm not into bi sexual men, (my preference) but I'm chatting to a lovely guy who's a little too good to be true, I'm starting to think something isn't right. Gut instinct, should I just move on or continue then finding out he has.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi just looking advice. When chatting to a man who refuses to show their verifications should I be worried. I'm not into bi sexual men, (my preference) but I'm chatting to a lovely guy who's a little too good to be true, I'm starting to think something isn't right. Gut instinct, should I just move on or continue then finding out he has. "

Whats he hiding? Would he display all his veris just for a short time so you cand decide? Id be more wary hes met someone whos likely to put you off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi just looking advice. When chatting to a man who refuses to show their verifications should I be worried. I'm not into bi sexual men, (my preference) but I'm chatting to a lovely guy who's a little too good to be true, I'm starting to think something isn't right. Gut instinct, should I just move on or continue then finding out he has. "

its up to him if he wants to show his verifications or not, but if you are suspicious of that for some reason then why not just move on...what do you think his verifications are hiding? surely the fact he has some means he is genuine about meeting people on here?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hi just looking advice. When chatting to a man who refuses to show their verifications should I be worried. I'm not into bi sexual men, (my preference) but I'm chatting to a lovely guy who's a little too good to be true, I'm starting to think something isn't right. Gut instinct, should I just move on or continue then finding out he has.

its up to him if he wants to show his verifications or not, but if you are suspicious of that for some reason then why not just move on...what do you think his verifications are hiding? surely the fact he has some means he is genuine about meeting people on here?"

I asked about men he might have met and he went off on one, pleading innocent and straight like as if I had offended him, when I asked to see his veri's he refused.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe he doesn't show them because he doesn't want to or he's had people in the past msg the people he has met and that has pissed him off. Another reason could be that the people he has met have left the site. Doesn't mean that he is hiding anything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi just looking advice. When chatting to a man who refuses to show their verifications should I be worried. I'm not into bi sexual men, (my preference) but I'm chatting to a lovely guy who's a little too good to be true, I'm starting to think something isn't right. Gut instinct, should I just move on or continue then finding out he has.

its up to him if he wants to show his verifications or not, but if you are suspicious of that for some reason then why not just move on...what do you think his verifications are hiding? surely the fact he has some means he is genuine about meeting people on here?

I asked about men he might have met and he went off on one, pleading innocent and straight like as if I had offended him, when I asked to see his veri's he refused. "

well then even if he's met men he may not show it on his veris, like a lot of guys...presumably if he knows thats what youre looking for he wouldnt show a veri from a guy if he had one anyway? ..id just give it a miss if it bothers you..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Maybe he doesn't show them because he doesn't want to or he's had people in the past msg the people he has met and that has pissed him off. Another reason could be that the people he has met have left the site. Doesn't mean that he is hiding anything "

Maybe we will wait and see.

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By *imonP23Man
over a year ago

Shepton Mallet

Good grief. Plenty of decent men on here don't have any veris at all!

Maybe they're "social meets" with veris from men, and he doesn't want to give the impression that he's gay/bi because he isn't?

Why not meet him in a pub and check him out? You know, like a normal date?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe he doesn't show them because he doesn't want to or he's had people in the past msg the people he has met and that has pissed him off. Another reason could be that the people he has met have left the site. Doesn't mean that he is hiding anything "

exactly... i dont show mine as its no ones business whatsoever who ive met. As far as im concerned its good enough that someone has a verification to show they are actually 'real' but beyond that, no, it's no ones business....as well as the fact that it certainly isnt any accurrate record of who theyve met anyway. No one is obliged to display every single meet they may have had!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes ma'am

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By *esparate danMan
over a year ago

glasgow

Perhaps he finds it a bit gauche

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Maybe he doesn't show them because he doesn't want to or he's had people in the past msg the people he has met and that has pissed him off. Another reason could be that the people he has met have left the site. Doesn't mean that he is hiding anything

exactly... i dont show mine as its no ones business whatsoever who ive met. As far as im concerned its good enough that someone has a verification to show they are actually 'real' but beyond that, no, it's no ones business....as well as the fact that it certainly isnt any accurrate record of who theyve met anyway. No one is obliged to display every single meet they may have had!"

Like I said I've no problem with him meeting men in a social but I'm not into bi men sexually. I'd just like a clearer idea of who I'm going to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe he doesn't show them because he doesn't want to or he's had people in the past msg the people he has met and that has pissed him off. Another reason could be that the people he has met have left the site. Doesn't mean that he is hiding anything

exactly... i dont show mine as its no ones business whatsoever who ive met. As far as im concerned its good enough that someone has a verification to show they are actually 'real' but beyond that, no, it's no ones business....as well as the fact that it certainly isnt any accurrate record of who theyve met anyway. No one is obliged to display every single meet they may have had!"

I'm the same after some idiot messaged someone I met now I hide them but if someone wants to see them I'll make a few visible for them to read then rehide them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe he doesn't show them because he doesn't want to or he's had people in the past msg the people he has met and that has pissed him off. Another reason could be that the people he has met have left the site. Doesn't mean that he is hiding anything

exactly... i dont show mine as its no ones business whatsoever who ive met. As far as im concerned its good enough that someone has a verification to show they are actually 'real' but beyond that, no, it's no ones business....as well as the fact that it certainly isnt any accurrate record of who theyve met anyway. No one is obliged to display every single meet they may have had!

Like I said I've no problem with him meeting men in a social but I'm not into bi men sexually. I'd just like a clearer idea of who I'm going to meet. "

I know that it's ur preference but bi men are just as lovely as straight men in my eyes as long as they are honest about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe he doesn't show them because he doesn't want to or he's had people in the past msg the people he has met and that has pissed him off. Another reason could be that the people he has met have left the site. Doesn't mean that he is hiding anything

exactly... i dont show mine as its no ones business whatsoever who ive met. As far as im concerned its good enough that someone has a verification to show they are actually 'real' but beyond that, no, it's no ones business....as well as the fact that it certainly isnt any accurrate record of who theyve met anyway. No one is obliged to display every single meet they may have had!

Like I said I've no problem with him meeting men in a social but I'm not into bi men sexually. I'd just like a clearer idea of who I'm going to meet. "

but if youve already told him you dont want to meet bi men then he's obviously not going to tell you he has is he?

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By *insbury Park FabberMan
over a year ago

London


"Maybe he doesn't show them because he doesn't want to or he's had people in the past msg the people he has met and that has pissed him off. Another reason could be that the people he has met have left the site. Doesn't mean that he is hiding anything

exactly... i dont show mine as its no ones business whatsoever who ive met. As far as im concerned its good enough that someone has a verification to show they are actually 'real' but beyond that, no, it's no ones business....as well as the fact that it certainly isnt any accurrate record of who theyve met anyway. No one is obliged to display every single meet they may have had!"

I'm not suggesting it's the case here, but unfortunately it's not always true to say that a verification shows that somebody is real. There are fake profiles with fake verifications and personally I find it of great value if verifications are displayed, so that I can see if a verifier is themselves well-verified and clearly genuine. Perhaps I'm being overly suspicious, but it seems an odd thing that some stunningly attractive young ladies on the site choose to meet only with single men who have very little written on their profile and who have very few, if any, verifications from anybody else...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

May ask whats the difference in a bi guy if your bi yourself?

Also his verts could be simply a pint with a male or a social meet or a threesome it doesnt mean hes having direct fun with males..

Also he doesnt have too show his verts likewise with us we dont show our play meets well most of them simply being it has noting got too do with anyone who we play with on here and its about being discreet on who we engage in sexual fun with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe he doesn't show them because he doesn't want to or he's had people in the past msg the people he has met and that has pissed him off. Another reason could be that the people he has met have left the site. Doesn't mean that he is hiding anything

exactly... i dont show mine as its no ones business whatsoever who ive met. As far as im concerned its good enough that someone has a verification to show they are actually 'real' but beyond that, no, it's no ones business....as well as the fact that it certainly isnt any accurrate record of who theyve met anyway. No one is obliged to display every single meet they may have had!

Like I said I've no problem with him meeting men in a social but I'm not into bi men sexually. I'd just like a clearer idea of who I'm going to meet. "

Why is it you need a verification to decide that?! Surely if you have spoken to him for awhile you would have some sort of idea who you are going to meet?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Simply put, he's hiding something. It doesn't mean he's bi, or that he's meeting trans girls though.

It could just be a simple case of something like having a lot of veris from women who you might not consider up to snuff. He may not wish to show you the type of women hes meeting as you may consider his standards low.

However, I've never seen anyone get up in arms about having to prove they're not gay, and he doesn't seem to have provided you with a reason for his reluctance to show his veri's.

In short, if his reluctance to be open is off putting, leave well alone. He must be quite the catch if you're willing to keep pursuing it though.

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East


"Hi just looking advice. When chatting to a man who refuses to show their verifications should I be worried. I'm not into bi sexual men, (my preference) but I'm chatting to a lovely guy who's a little too good to be true, I'm starting to think something isn't right. Gut instinct, should I just move on or continue then finding out he has. "

In a nutshell make your own mind up. I appreciate your only asking for advice but people dont know the individual or his circumstances. Its all guesswork and assumptions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just to point out here you realise he could just block any one who's verified him that he doesn't want you to see and theyd then be removed.

I can understand the guy got offended you called him gay, then accused him of being a lair and a lot of men hide thier veries as theres a lot of weird women who will contact/harass past veries

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"just to point out here you realise he could just block any one who's verified him that he doesn't want you to see and theyd then be removed.

I can understand the guy got offended you called him gay, then accused him of being a lair and a lot of men hide thier veries as theres a lot of weird women who will contact/harass past veries"
couldnt have said it better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Simply put, he's hiding something. It doesn't mean he's bi, or that he's meeting trans girls though.

It could just be a simple case of something like having a lot of veris from women who you might not consider up to snuff. He may not wish to show you the type of women hes meeting as you may consider his standards low.

However, I've never seen anyone get up in arms about having to prove they're not gay, and he doesn't seem to have provided you with a reason for his reluctance to show his veri's.

In short, if his reluctance to be open is off putting, leave well alone. He must be quite the catch if you're willing to keep pursuing it though. "

or he's protecting his previous meets and friends from a stranger who is a potential stalker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Veris or not it's still 50/50, so you'll have to decide based on your own judgement as the forum chat can only advise. Que sera sera and good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would you be happy if he showed the veri summary?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe he doesn't show them because he doesn't want to or he's had people in the past msg the people he has met and that has pissed him off. Another reason could be that the people he has met have left the site. Doesn't mean that he is hiding anything

exactly... i dont show mine as its no ones business whatsoever who ive met. As far as im concerned its good enough that someone has a verification to show they are actually 'real' but beyond that, no, it's no ones business....as well as the fact that it certainly isnt any accurrate record of who theyve met anyway. No one is obliged to display every single meet they may have had!

Like I said I've no problem with him meeting men in a social but I'm not into bi men sexually. I'd just like a clearer idea of who I'm going to meet.

I know that it's ur preference but bi men are just as lovely as straight men in my eyes as long as they are honest about it"

^^^^

This...Hear Hear!!

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

follow your instincts. they are there for a reason. If it looks like a duck, quacks like a duck then it's a duck.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Who needs the drama? Find another guy who is willing to jump through your hoops.

Amusingly, a lot of men on here who state they are straight, don't show veris from men and you won't know if they are bisexual. Just sayin'....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ask ur self why u hiding ur profile that will answer ur question

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By *rightonCheekyMan
over a year ago

Brighton

I guess we will never know how this drama ended now ......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe hes right to be wary of you n ur hidden profile...

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Sounds like a faff. Meet him and make your mind up then! He might be Brads twin brother!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Simply put, he's hiding something. It doesn't mean he's bi, or that he's meeting trans girls though.

It could just be a simple case of something like having a lot of veris from women who you might not consider up to snuff. He may not wish to show you the type of women hes meeting as you may consider his standards low.

However, I've never seen anyone get up in arms about having to prove they're not gay, and he doesn't seem to have provided you with a reason for his reluctance to show his veri's.

In short, if his reluctance to be open is off putting, leave well alone. He must be quite the catch if you're willing to keep pursuing it though.

or he's protecting his previous meets and friends from a stranger who is a potential stalker"

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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

I don't show mine because it's my business who I fuck. He may have similar or different reasons they're his reasons. If you don't like it move on otherwise just enjoy the sexy fun!

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

I'd avoid. Your sixth sense has kicked in, trust it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people are just private and don't like others knowing things .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My profile text describes me honestly and my veris are only there to confirm "Verified genuine profile".

The people I've met and the friends I've made, are nobody else's business. There are far too many obsessive veri-stalkers on here.

People can choose to dispute or disbelieve what I've written, but they sure as hell won't get to meet me. I've nothing to hide but I value my privacy and that of my friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd avoid. Your sixth sense has kicked in, trust it."

Yep. I agree. Your gut instinct is usually right.

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside


"Hi just looking advice. When chatting to a man who refuses to show their verifications should I be worried. I'm not into bi sexual men, (my preference) but I'm chatting to a lovely guy who's a little too good to be true, I'm starting to think something isn't right. Gut instinct, should I just move on or continue then finding out he has. "

Always go on your gut instinct.

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By *imonP23Man
over a year ago

Shepton Mallet


"I'd avoid. Your sixth sense has kicked in, trust it."

So has mine. I wouldn't contact the OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi just looking advice. When chatting to a man who refuses to show their verifications should I be worried. I'm not into bi sexual men, (my preference) but I'm chatting to a lovely guy who's a little too good to be true, I'm starting to think something isn't right. Gut instinct, should I just move on or continue then finding out he has. "

ive nothing to hide so if i was the guy id give you my mobile number and landline number ...............why wouldnt i..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even by my cynical standards OP that's a bit harsh...

Too good to be true...

Doesn't show veries..

Therefore must be downright dodgy..

If you think that you know what to do..

Wanders back to man cave shaking head and wondering if sometimes the bad reputation guys have on here is more imagined than deserved...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would you be happy if he showed the veri summary?"
id suggest this.. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't show mine . I've nothing to hide I just don't feel the need to let everyone know who I'm meeting and what I'm doing

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"Hi just looking advice. When chatting to a man who refuses to show their verifications should I be worried. I'm not into bi sexual men, (my preference) but I'm chatting to a lovely guy who's a little too good to be true, I'm starting to think something isn't right. Gut instinct, should I just move on or continue then finding out he has. "

If he won't show them just move on

Way too many people in here to be worrying over one person

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