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By *pidernick OP   Man
over a year ago

Locks Heath (Fareham borough)

Hi all,

As a 51-year-old it is quite depressing how many ladies will set their age limit to 50, and I'm sure many aged 41 and even 31 get the same problem with round-number age cut offs.

I look a lot younger than my age and so would like to message ladies who stipulate up to age 50, but am unable to do so. I suppose there's nothing I can do?

By the same measure, I'm sure most 18 to 25 year-old ladies wouldn't be interested in me, let alone someone of 99, so please don't get our hopes up and set your profile appropriately (sorry, that is an observation and not a moan). Cheers, Nick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i never really understand this particular gripe...as with any other preference, why would you want to meet someone who has made it explicitly clear they do not want to meet you?

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

OP would you be happier if those ladies who have an age cut off at 50 change it to 48 just so it's not a round number? I'm guessing the answer to this is no because you still wouldn't be able to message them.

Most people have age preferences, even you OP. Perhaps there are dozens of 59 and 60 year old ladies who are disappointed they can't message you because your maximum age is 58

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you seen the shite condition we are at 50

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We regard age limitations more as a guideline. We would go outside ours in exceptional circumstances, maybe if the gentleman concerned was particularly youthful and goodlooking, or offered something that others don't. More likely to make exceptions though if we were to meet someone in a club where we can get to know someone at face value. That probably doesn't help you though, as you're more looking for the one-on-one experience. There is rather a lot of choice for single ladies in this site, so probably less need to go outside their requirements. That being said, most of the men we have met via Fab shaved a few years off their age on their profile. Not that I'm suggesting you do that!

Mrs

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By *pidernick OP   Man
over a year ago

Locks Heath (Fareham borough)


"OP would you be happier if those ladies who have an age cut off at 50 change it to 48 just so it's not a round number? I'm guessing the answer to this is no because you still wouldn't be able to message them.

Most people have age preferences, even you OP. Perhaps there are dozens of 59 and 60 year old ladies who are disappointed they can't message you because your maximum age is 58 "

Touché - I suppose it is a tricky one.

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By *rightonCheekyMan
over a year ago

Brighton

Filters are there for a reason, folk get enough unwanted attention even with them set

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Filters are there for a reason, folk get enough unwanted attention even with them set"

exactly this! nothing 'tricky' about it at all!

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

Well, lots of people have a limit of say 45, but up it to 50, because some people look good for 45. So unless you look super-good, it aint going to work.

Go to a club. Then you will have luck depending on your personality and looks rather than your profile and age.

We've played with people in clubs and found after we were out of their age range in on their profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You may think you look a lot younger than your age OP, but others will disagree. Filters are there for a reason.

As for moaning about 18-25 year olds not setting any filters up, yet not being interested in a 51 year old man. Don't message them then. Then you will avoid disappointment.

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield


"You may think you look a lot younger than your age OP, but others will disagree. Filters are there for a reason.

As for moaning about 18-25 year olds not setting any filters up, yet not being interested in a 51 year old man. Don't message them then. Then you will avoid disappointment. "

This is true. Remember op, your own filter is at 58, only 7 years older than you.

So, if your potential meets use the same criteria the youngest you could meet is 44 yo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Age filters, for us they are a little inflexible but we have them set for a good reason.

We would not want to have a dalliance with someone the same age as our offspring.

Meanwhile it is a known thing that ages on adult websites have a margin of purposeful error. That's not malicious but previous experience has shown that Marge or Tom might not really be "40" etc

When we see 18 to 99 on a profile we think, ah not bothered with that section yet. We question the effort that's been put into the profile.

M & J

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My age limit goes up to 55. But sometimes I turn down men that are only 46.

Imagine their disbelief.

They are a man.

Within my age range.

And. I. Turned. Them. Down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We set it at 45 due to one reason only. Lots of guys (and a few ladies) in there mid 60's sending crude messages about what they were going to do, and how they will make me their cum slut.

Not many people our age have done that.

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By *rightonCheekyMan
over a year ago

Brighton

I'm dreading my 100th bidthday there will be nothing left for me here ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We set it at 45 due to one reason only. Lots of guys (and a few ladies) in there mid 60's sending crude messages about what they were going to do, and how they will make me their cum slut.

Not many people our age have done that."

That's interesting. You've made me realise I've had horrid messages from men in this age range, and a couple of b/b obsessed couples. I hadn't thought about their age before now..

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

I periodically turn off age filtering, then remember why I have it on... I get people old enough to be my parents also sending me horrible messages, also often about their cum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I very rarely find under 27's that aren't too full of themselves and busy navel gazing to actually connect with you, but my limit is set at 25 for the sake of hope. Call me an ageist.

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter


"I very rarely find under 27's that aren't too full of themselves and busy navel gazing to actually connect with you, but my limit is set at 25 for the sake of hope. Call me an ageist. "

Likewise! Which is tragic as we are only looking for the younger males

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've met younger women who were mature but that's very very rare. Most are still under their own spell, hovering over themselves, watching out of body, enchanted by the fledgling power of attracting inexperienced men with zero effort leaving them oblivious to what experienced men want. The last straw was one who sent me a message asking me to "tell her how bad I want to fuck her" then asking if I want to wank over her "boobies" .... So I changed my filters... after I fucked her

I've met younger women who were mature but that's very very rare. Most are still under their own spell, hovering over themselves, watching out of body, enchanted by the fledgling power of attracting inexperienced men with zero effort leaving them oblivious to what experienced men want. The last straw was one who sent me a Well message asking me to tell her "how bad I want to fuck her" then asking if I want to wank over her "boobies" So I changed my filters... after I fucked her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all,

As a 51-year-old it is quite depressing how many ladies will set their age limit to 50, and I'm sure many aged 41 and even 31 get the same problem with round-number age cut offs.

I look a lot younger than my age and so would like to message ladies who stipulate up to age 50, but am unable to do so. I suppose there's nothing I can do?

By the same measure, I'm sure most 18 to 25 year-old ladies wouldn't be interested in me, let alone someone of 99, so please don't get our hopes up and set your profile appropriately (sorry, that is an observation and not a moan). Cheers, Nick"
think it's up to people looking at your profile to decide if you "look a lot younger than your age"

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Mine are 99-99 as I'm not looking for meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP just do what most do on fab, lie about your age, sometimes the claimed ages on a profile give us the biggest laugh of the day, we have our true ages, but it's just a number....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We set it at 45 due to one reason only. Lots of guys (and a few ladies) in there mid 60's sending crude messages about what they were going to do, and how they will make me their cum slut.

Not many people our age have done that.

That's interesting. You've made me realise I've had horrid messages from men in this age range, and a couple of b/b obsessed couples. I hadn't thought about their age before now.."

I always thought the older gents would have been much nicer!

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"We set it at 45 due to one reason only. Lots of guys (and a few ladies) in there mid 60's sending crude messages about what they were going to do, and how they will make me their cum slut.

Not many people our age have done that.

That's interesting. You've made me realise I've had horrid messages from men in this age range, and a couple of b/b obsessed couples. I hadn't thought about their age before now..

I always thought the older gents would have been much nicer!"
in my experience they are worse than the younger ones when polite refusal is given so now I ignore and delete

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We set it at 45 due to one reason only. Lots of guys (and a few ladies) in there mid 60's sending crude messages about what they were going to do, and how they will make me their cum slut.

Not many people our age have done that.

That's interesting. You've made me realise I've had horrid messages from men in this age range, and a couple of b/b obsessed couples. I hadn't thought about their age before now..

I always thought the older gents would have been much nicer!"

i'm often suprised at finding the same..a lot seem very arrogant and rude..and the , very few, truly disturbing or vicious messages ive had have been from men my age or older

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Age is just a number, but for us it's about personality and our we all of a like mind. *runs off to check age range filter

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By *rightonCheekyMan
over a year ago

Brighton


"We set it at 45 due to one reason only. Lots of guys (and a few ladies) in there mid 60's sending crude messages about what they were going to do, and how they will make me their cum slut.

Not many people our age have done that.

That's interesting. You've made me realise I've had horrid messages from men in this age range, and a couple of b/b obsessed couples. I hadn't thought about their age before now..

I always thought the older gents would have been much nicer!

i'm often suprised at finding the same..a lot seem very arrogant and rude..and the , very few, truly disturbing or vicious messages ive had have been from men my age or older"

It's shocking to hear that some of the older guys are like that. I can only think they're a minority perhaps with drink or other problems making them bitter old men?

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Well, lots of people have a limit of say 45, but up it to 50, because some people look good for 45. So unless you look super-good, it aint going to work.

Go to a club. Then you will have luck depending on your personality and looks rather than your profile and age.

We've played with people in clubs and found after we were out of their age range in on their profile."

We use the age range as a guide on here. As we really only meet at clubs, it then comes down to personality, charm and then looks. & as we go to dry clubs we don't go round asking guys to get their cocks out to establish whether they have one or not!

Some people look young and act old, others vice versa, it is much more dependent on whether we click when we meet at a club - whether that is singles or couples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine is even lower than 40. I seem to feel more comfy with much younger men.

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By *evilinsidemeMan
over a year ago

Trim


"Have you seen the shite condition we are at 50 "

I just fell for that look at me post.......

And I'm glad I did.

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