FabSwingers.com forum: Advice- Single Guy At Swingers Club ??

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm not saying I'll go and maybe I'll have a friend from on here go with me, but a few have suggested it is the better way to start getting meet ups going, I guess I just worry that I'll be over-shadowed by some of the other guys there or that something awkward will happen or disappointment.

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You'll never know if you don't go. Personally I always take a partner, but from my experience seeing other single guys there the ones who are successful are the ones who chat and are outgoing. If you're the type who could attract someone in a bar, then same rules apply in the club. If not, you'll join the band of wanking zombies standing in the shadows.

By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

"You'll never know if you don't go. Personally I always take a partner, but from my experience seeing other single guys there the ones who are successful are the ones who chat and are outgoing. If you're the type who could attract someone in a bar, then same rules apply in the club. If not, you'll join the band of wanking zombies standing in the shadows. "

By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

The Golden rule is be prepared to talk to people like you would in a normal social situation and don't come across as creepy or a sex pest.

You will be going on a night where single guys are welcome which means that couples there are probably open to playing with single guys. When talking to a couple you will get a sense if they are interested in you. If you are not getting an interested vibe, politely move on. Don't pester or outstay your welcome.

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was more or less in your situation a few months ago. I got a club invite which I attended, and I haven't looked back. Just do it, I guarantee it's not exactly what you might expect, but you won't find out until you go

From what little I've seen so far, it's a friendly, respectful, personality that gets you noticed and ultimately chatting to people. Things that also get you noticed are if you dress well, are well groomed and smell great (you'll stand out more trust me), as ladies really pick up on those things. You may not get to play on the night but the fact you went and got some experience will make the next time way more easier and more enjoyable. Like most things, the more you do the better you'll get.

Check out your local clubs and parties/events and also social meets, just pop along. You are quite central to London so you really are spoiled for choice.