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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi I'm a 31 year old guy and really want to join in to this lifestyle iv been on here ages but finding it really hard to get out of the single guy category I always try a nice message attach photos and what ever else but seems single guys have made it near impossible with there rude behaviour any advice would be very much appreciated

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

You're a self proclaimed average guy with no pictures. It's always going to be a struggle.

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

It's neither helpful or attractive to blame your difficulty on the behaviour of others...

You make your own success on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rude single guys or even couples and Ladies, make it hard for themselves, Not for all men.

as its been said no pics also, can not accommodate, straight but seeking TVs/TS. would you really meet an 18 or 99 year old?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Search the forums for terms like 'profile help' or 'profile advice' and read through the posts. A lot of good info is provided in those posts.

Best of luck to you

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"Rude single guys or even couples and Ladies, make it hard for themselves, Not for all men.

as its been said no pics also, can not accommodate, straight but seeking TVs/TS. would you really meet an 18 or 99 year old?"

Oh yes. No pics and can't accommodate screams "playing away", which some people won't mind but you have to be up front about it.

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By *onnie And Clyde9070Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

So your lack of meets is entirely the fault of other single males? When something out in the big wide world doesn't go as you want do you place the blame with others too?

You have a highly contradictory profile which will immediately put people off meeting you. No verifications, no profile pic, can't accommodate...

Perhaps a rethink of your approach would be better than throwing the blame at others.

We're not having a go. Far from it. We're just trying to highlight the way you come across to ourselves and probably other members too.

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

Scrap most of your text tbh. The line saying not good at this and not sure what to say just screams next. Should have nothing negative at all on there. Post some pics that dont show your face if you need to keep that hidden. Entice your target audience in. Change age range to something more realistic. It might seem silly but you see someone above as already called you out on it. Good luck.

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By *sThunderThighsWoman
over a year ago

Toy Land

I can only say the things that put me off or don't spark my interest, but here goes hope it helps ..

No profile pic ... Doesn't have to be a face pic .. a body shot . Well taken, put some thought into it.

Confident attitude . I don't want to feel like it's going to be hard work, awkward or I'm babysitting.

Humour . This should be fun . Add a little light-hearted humour to your profile.

I want to know what is it you can do for me?

A reason to chat to you, something that sparks my interest.

Verifications .. go to a social . Meet some people . Give me some proof I can trust you. Don't make it all about sex (think this is where most men go wrong) it's about mutual respect and enjoying eachother! Read the ladies profile, but read between the lines to get a feel for what I want .

Personal I don't like it when people say "put **** in your message so I know you have read my profile" I do read profiles and don't feel the need for you to make sure I have!

That said every woman is different and I can only go on what works for me ..

If I was you I would take some time to look at profiles of men your age etc that are successful, see what they are doing that you aren't. (Don't steal their profile tho!) Be your self.

Do your research! Put some time in and you will reap what you sow!

Good luck hope that helps X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personal I don't like it when people say "put **** in your message so I know you have read my profile" I do read profiles and don't feel the need for you to make sure I have!"

I always feel tempted to reply to those with "I'm not your performing monkey!"

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By *sThunderThighsWoman
over a year ago

Toy Land


"Personal I don't like it when people say "put **** in your message so I know you have read my profile" I do read profiles and don't feel the need for you to make sure I have!

I always feel tempted to reply to those with "I'm not your performing monkey!""

But I want a performing monkey!!

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"It's neither helpful or attractive to blame your difficulty on the behaviour of others...

You make your own success on here"
effort in=results

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"Hi I'm a 31 year old guy and really want to join in to this lifestyle iv been on here ages but finding it really hard to get out of the single guy category I always try a nice message attach photos and what ever else but seems single guys have made it near impossible with there rude behaviour any advice would be very much appreciated "

Get out to some socials and get some bloody public pictures. Not cock pictures though lol

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @

Most importantly. You will and never please all. So work out what tyoe if oeoe you want to attract and meet. When you know that then you can tailor your profile for them. No matter what you do there will always be someone or sone people who don't like what they see it read

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi I'm a 31 year old guy and really want to join in to this lifestyle iv been on here ages but finding it really hard to get out of the single guy category I always try a nice message attach photos and what ever else but seems single guys have made it near impossible with there rude behaviour any advice would be very much appreciated "

Get your personality across on the forum.. engage. You need a face pic of some kind as well. Be yourself. Be confident, polite and gregarious.

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Why would you want to get out of the best category in the lifestyle, the single guy category is the best category in the swinging lifestyle, you cannot just become an Admiral of the fleet , you need to be willing to go through the ranks. Single guys are what the ladies and couples are looking for, I am in a relationship but when am in the swingers club , I play as a single guy and I love it.

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