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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi everyone,
Firstly, apologies if this ends up as one of them really long 'essay like' posts. So just for those who don't really like to read, here's the summarised TL:DR.
We're a young married couple. Signed up here about a week ago. New to 'the scene'. Considering a club for our first experience. Looking for other people to share their stories, tips or advice with us. Especially couples whose first experience was in a club.
Now for the extended version,
I guess the best place to start is with an introduction so here we go. As we've already mentioned in the tl:dr, we're a young married couple, we're very much in love and have a great, passionate sex life. We're here because we want to enhance it further, experience new things, and most importantly, have fun.
After being quite open and honest with each other about certain fantasies that we both have, we decided to sign up here and see what, if anything would come from it.
After we got through the initial barrage of inboxes, friend requests and winks that we're assuming all new accounts get, we've started to figure out how to sort through all the noise and have managed to have some very insightful conversations with others on here.
We are totally new to this whole scene, so far the only thing we've actually managed to get done is sign up to this site (Fun fact. just the act of signing up to this site has turned the heat up a notch in the bedroom). For that reason, we aren't looking to rush into anything. We're quite happy to take our time and enjoy the experience at a pace that works for us. To use a swimming pool analogy, we'd rather dip our toes in the shallow end and slowly working our way up until we're at a point we can splash about having the time of our lives, rather than diving in at the deep end, having a bad experience and never wanting to go swimming again.
One thing that we have discussed lately is the idea of going to a club for our first experience rather than starting with a private meet. We imagine that this would be a better way to ease ourselves in gently without the pressure that may (or may not) come with a private meet.
So, the whole point of this post is to reach out to people (certainly couples, but we're just as interested in stories from singles too) who may have been in a similar situation to us, especially those couples whose first experience was visiting a club.
How did you get started with swinging? Was it something that just spontaneously happened, or did you discuss things prior?
What was your first experience and how did it go? Was it a club meet, private meet, or something else altogether?
Did you have any prior expectations and how close were they to how things actually went?
What advice and tips could you share with us that could help us get started in the best possible way?
Are there any clubs in the North West you would recommend for a couple to visit as first-timers?
We understand that everyone is different and as such, their experiences will be. What one person would class as a success may be another person's fail. Hopefully by talking to others and hearing their stories it will help us ease into things and set some realistic expectations.
One thing for sure, we're both looking forward to seeing just where this new and exciting journey may lead us.
Stay FAB!
Mr&Mrs MarriedFunNW |
My advice to you would be, as Dlik and Paul have said - go along having discussed and set boundaries beforehand - what you're both happy to do, whether you're looking to meet other couples, singles etc, whether you're willing to full swap or soft swap etc.
Most clubs are very welcoming and will show you round, explain any rules and etiquette and even introduce you to other people there.
Go along ready to engage and chat to others and not be stand of fish as people may take this as a sign you're not interested.
Don't be afraid to say a polite no thanks if you're not interested and equally be willing to accept the same from others.
One of the biggest difficulties as a couple is finding another couple that you both like the look of and that both like you. NEVER take one for the team - that can only lead to upset - if one of you doesn't like the look of a potential play mate or mates then accept that and move on.
That's just a few pointers - the biggest thing to remember is this is supposed to be fun so go along with the intention of just that and no expectations of actually playing and you'll be fine.
Good luck and hope it works out for you 
