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By *heekyBethany OP   Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

So after 2 weeks of chatting and sorting out the date, suddenly no communication. Time or details weren't organised so some communication was really required.

The only thing is this has now happened for the 3rd time.

So is it just too scary for blokes to meet single girls? I always ask to meet them in a public place for a few mins beforehand for both people to have a chance to say no. And no hard feelings on either side. Is that the wrong approach?

Kind of finding it weird really. So any insights into what people think would be ace?

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

Alot of them seem to like the chase, you'll get alot of them to be fair, make sure you check veris to make sure they do actually meet.

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By *heekyBethany OP   Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

I do actually do that and yes they all meet. Just a bit confused really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't actually think women can do any wrong in a guys eye

I'm sure its probably more their loss than yours if the meet-up doesn't go ahead. I'd always be a little nervous meeting someone because you can only be happy once it actually happens. I like your idea about that brief meeting in a public place beforehand, I'll remember that one.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"So after 2 weeks of chatting and sorting out the date, suddenly no communication. Time or details weren't organised so some communication was really required.

The only thing is this has now happened for the 3rd time.

So is it just too scary for blokes to meet single girls? I always ask to meet them in a public place for a few mins beforehand for both people to have a chance to say no. And no hard feelings on either side. Is that the wrong approach?

Kind of finding it weird really. So any insights into what people think would be ace? "

It's probably just bad luck. Looking at your pics, I can't see why any hard blooded male would not want to meet you.

There are a number of blokes on here who are all mouth and no trousers. Happy to chat, but won't go through with a meet. This could be for any number of reasons. Pure fear or maybe a sudden attack of guilt (many "single guys" on here are attached).

If I were you, if you are looking for a meet on a specific day, I would chat to three or four in advance and pick the one you get the best feeling for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Possibly being upfront about the option for both parties to change their minds may sow a seed of doubt. Some guys will think, unfortunately, this isn't a dead cert. Perhaps look to arrange just a social meet first off, that way guys won't be expecting anything physical on that particular occassion. The thought of face to face rejection may be too much for some.

For what it's worth I think your approach is great. I would appreciate that honesty personally. I hope things take a turn for the better with your meets.

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By *weetandHungMan
over a year ago

liverpool

For sure it can be scary at times. Everyone may have some sort of butterflies in their stomach.

I always chat for a bit looking for that bond and meet in a local bar so can have chat first.

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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you're asking for a social meet. a lot won't do that for various reasons but the main one being they only want sex.

that really is your biggest hurdle. and you don't have to change what you want either, eventually you will find guys who are happy to meet socially.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"you're asking for a social meet. a lot won't do that for various reasons but the main one being they only want sex.

that really is your biggest hurdle. and you don't have to change what you want either, eventually you will find guys who are happy to meet socially."

I'd go along with this. Also because you want a social first, you may have been dropped for someone willing to have sex on the first meet.

Chin up, shit happens. Block them and move on to the next one you like

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

I really do not know why people would be scared of meeting you. The couple of pics you have up look blinding. Maybe it is the guys you are chatting to in general and although you are getting along with them, they could either be not well verified, verified at all, been on a long time without ever meeting or simply be telling you things you want to hear. I only briefly looked at your profile but if you are getting let down looking the way you do, look at the guys your choosing - meeting in public isn't too much of a stretch if everyone is getting along.

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By *alentino7Man
over a year ago

London

Agree with both BCNL and Scot, as well as 3sum queen. Very true many are just 'all mouth and no trousers' but I wouldn't change your genuine approach. If people vanish or let you down, they're not worth the effort. Be patient, you'll have successful meets

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed


"So after 2 weeks of chatting and sorting out the date, suddenly no communication. Time or details weren't organised so some communication was really required.

The only thing is this has now happened for the 3rd time.

So is it just too scary for blokes to meet single girls? I always ask to meet them in a public place for a few mins beforehand for both people to have a chance to say no. And no hard feelings on either side. Is that the wrong approach?

Kind of finding it weird really. So any insights into what people think would be ace? "

The wife probably surprised them with a date night.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've had this happen a few times, I think you do get some guys who love the fantasy but bottle it when push comes to shove and others who just get off on the thrill of the chase. We now organise socials no more than a few days ahead, it seems to focus the mind and less chance for them to drop off the face of the earth.

We virtually always meet socially first and genuine guys who offer what we are looking for don't have a problem with it.

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By *heekyBethany OP   Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

These are all really helpful thanks.

I think I am going to insist on a social first for a chat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"These are all really helpful thanks.

I think I am going to insist on a social first for a chat. "

Do it and make sure you stick to that, you'll still get the odd cancer wanting to play but just put them straight.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not one bit but I do get nervous meeting a couple

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville


"Not one bit but I do get nervous meeting a couple"

fuck - that is an amazement. The best part of meeting is the nerves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not one bit but I do get nervous meeting a couple

fuck - that is an amazement. The best part of meeting is the nerves. "

You're kidding right?

So it's not the actual playing that's the best part? It's the drive on the way there?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always get some nerves when meeting someone new. Anticipation mostly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not one bit but I do get nervous meeting a couple

fuck - that is an amazement. The best part of meeting is the nerves.

You're kidding right?

So it's not the actual playing that's the best part? It's the drive on the way there? "

I thought that too. Think you might be doing it wrong mate.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"These are all really helpful thanks.

I think I am going to insist on a social first for a chat. "

The way we approach single guys is we meet them for a social first with the deal that if we like him we are happy to play straight away after the social . However, we emphasize there are no guarantees.

I got from your profile that that is what you do, but I am not sure now. If you don't, you are likely to have more luck if you say sex is a possibility on the first meet.

Obviously you might not be comfortable with that, but many guys can't be arsed with an initial meet with no possibility of sex. More fool them., but that's the reality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had this happen a lot. Most of the time they are married, an the wife or girlfriend has shown up. An the rest are just after wank material. Only a few genuine had something come up.

I tend to arrange to meet close to home now. So when they don't show it doesn't mess my day.

It could be nerves in some. But I check veris an the rest. Who knows. X

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville


"Not one bit but I do get nervous meeting a couple

fuck - that is an amazement. The best part of meeting is the nerves.

You're kidding right?

So it's not the actual playing that's the best part? It's the drive on the way there? "

Someone saying they don't get nervous meeting is missing one of the best bits. By play - you mean sex. Sex is secondary to meeting someone for me. You can fuck any old d*unk but meeting someone because you want to meet them is the reason why you'd be nervous to make good on the meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not one bit but I do get nervous meeting a couple

fuck - that is an amazement. The best part of meeting is the nerves.

You're kidding right?

So it's not the actual playing that's the best part? It's the drive on the way there?

Someone saying they don't get nervous meeting is missing one of the best bits. By play - you mean sex. Sex is secondary to meeting someone for me. You can fuck any old d*unk but meeting someone because you want to meet them is the reason why you'd be nervous to make good on the meet. "

So playing with someone you actually want to meet is still secondary to just meeting someone you want to meet? Ok got it

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By *D835Man
over a year ago

London


"Not one bit but I do get nervous meeting a couple

fuck - that is an amazement. The best part of meeting is the nerves.

You're kidding right?

So it's not the actual playing that's the best part? It's the drive on the way there?

Someone saying they don't get nervous meeting is missing one of the best bits. By play - you mean sex. Sex is secondary to meeting someone for me. You can fuck any old d*unk but meeting someone because you want to meet them is the reason why you'd be nervous to make good on the meet. "

"Someone saying they don't get nervous meeting is missing one of the best bits."

I don't agree. That may be true for you but not everyone.

I don't get nervous at all. In fact I try not to, as nerves can affect performance when it comes to play.

Anyway, OP your approach seems to be right, you just have to keep trying and I'm sure you'll get the right guys responding pretty soon.

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By *izzabelle and well hungCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh.

Most single men on here will chat but are worried about risking their marriages with an actual meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OMG. Anyone who gets an invite from you OP and fails to show must need his head testing !!!!!!

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

Don't change your approach OP, I also prefer an initial social meet in a public cafe etc to see that they match their profiles description and to gauge if there is a spark during chatting in person to make me want to take it further

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most single men on here will chat but are worried about risking their marriages with an actual meet. "

Surly most single men are single

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville


"Not one bit but I do get nervous meeting a couple

fuck - that is an amazement. The best part of meeting is the nerves.

You're kidding right?

So it's not the actual playing that's the best part? It's the drive on the way there?

Someone saying they don't get nervous meeting is missing one of the best bits. By play - you mean sex. Sex is secondary to meeting someone for me. You can fuck any old d*unk but meeting someone because you want to meet them is the reason why you'd be nervous to make good on the meet.

So playing with someone you actually want to meet is still secondary to just meeting someone you want to meet? Ok got it "

I am not sure that makes sense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not one bit but I do get nervous meeting a couple

fuck - that is an amazement. The best part of meeting is the nerves.

You're kidding right?

So it's not the actual playing that's the best part? It's the drive on the way there?

Someone saying they don't get nervous meeting is missing one of the best bits. By play - you mean sex. Sex is secondary to meeting someone for me. You can fuck any old d*unk but meeting someone because you want to meet them is the reason why you'd be nervous to make good on the meet.

So playing with someone you actually want to meet is still secondary to just meeting someone you want to meet? Ok got it

I am not sure that makes sense. "

Makes perfect sense.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville


"Not one bit but I do get nervous meeting a couple

fuck - that is an amazement. The best part of meeting is the nerves.

You're kidding right?

So it's not the actual playing that's the best part? It's the drive on the way there?

Someone saying they don't get nervous meeting is missing one of the best bits. By play - you mean sex. Sex is secondary to meeting someone for me. You can fuck any old d*unk but meeting someone because you want to meet them is the reason why you'd be nervous to make good on the meet.

So playing with someone you actually want to meet is still secondary to just meeting someone you want to meet? Ok got it

I am not sure that makes sense.

Makes perfect sense. "

I see you see don't know the difference between meets, meets and meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe you have bad luck or they are just time waiters. I can't really see why they would do that but you not the first one I hear that's happened.

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By *ik MMan
over a year ago

Lancashire

From a personal perspective I find that the longer the build up the more likely it is that it will not happen, although I still don't know why. OP, I only point this out because your profile says you need to plan 2 weeks in advance. I'm not saying that instantaneous is the way forward but generally the less the build up, the more likely it is to happen.

As for your original question - if I wasn't somewhat nervous before a meet I would know that it is time to stop meeting.

Good luck out there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not one bit but I do get nervous meeting a couple

fuck - that is an amazement. The best part of meeting is the nerves.

You're kidding right?

So it's not the actual playing that's the best part? It's the drive on the way there?

Someone saying they don't get nervous meeting is missing one of the best bits. By play - you mean sex. Sex is secondary to meeting someone for me. You can fuck any old d*unk but meeting someone because you want to meet them is the reason why you'd be nervous to make good on the meet.

So playing with someone you actually want to meet is still secondary to just meeting someone you want to meet? Ok got it

I am not sure that makes sense.

Makes perfect sense.

I see you see don't know the difference between meets, meets and meets."

You don't see anything, according to you, you're more excited about the prospect of driving to meet the person you like than actually being in the company of the person you like. Which begs the next question, why play with any of your meets because your excitement has already peaked on the drive over. Get it now?

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By *J StathamMan
over a year ago

Manchester

I get nervous.

But fine after all the formalities are done.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So after 2 weeks of chatting and sorting out the date, suddenly no communication. Time or details weren't organised so some communication was really required.

The only thing is this has now happened for the 3rd time.

So is it just too scary for blokes to meet single girls? I always ask to meet them in a public place for a few mins beforehand for both people to have a chance to say no. And no hard feelings on either side. Is that the wrong approach?

Kind of finding it weird really. So any insights into what people think would be ace? "

i am not scared of single women but if a women says to me let's meet up on public place n if u don't like me or I don't like we go separate after 2 weeks chat wooow I would scared to not scared but scared of being rejected so u should chat them on what's app snap chat have a video chat u will know them better n u will feel comfortable n meet them end

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

Yes I'd say some are. But once they settle down they are usually fine.

I guess we don't expect them to be nervous.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no

if guys are scared to speak to women and meet them then what are they here for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am not nervous but the fact is their too many men and a little a mount of single females so the females have a lot to choices from here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never nervous always meet and probably they don't meet as they don't want to get caught by there partners

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

to be fair though, I can't be arsed for socials

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So after 2 weeks of chatting and sorting out the date, suddenly no communication. Time or details weren't organised so some communication was really required.

The only thing is this has now happened for the 3rd time.

So is it just too scary for blokes to meet single girls? I always ask to meet them in a public place for a few mins beforehand for both people to have a chance to say no. And no hard feelings on either side. Is that the wrong approach?

Kind of finding it weird really. So any insights into what people think would be ace? "

Blimey he didn't show!!!

As a single guy, it's really difficult to arrange a meet on here especially without and Vers. Also with Vers it show that the guy shags around!

So it's a no win situation.

It's also quite daunting meeting a complete stranger as you didn't know what their intentions are! I met one lady that took me to her sons house, quite innocent but could have been completely different outcome!

And to repose to other comments that guys like the chase, not all of us do!

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By *weetandHungMan
over a year ago

liverpool


"Yes I'd say some are. But once they settle down they are usually fine.

I guess we don't expect them to be nervous. "

Think some are as if they dont say the right things its game over

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville


"Not one bit but I do get nervous meeting a couple

fuck - that is an amazement. The best part of meeting is the nerves.

You're kidding right?

So it's not the actual playing that's the best part? It's the drive on the way there?

Someone saying they don't get nervous meeting is missing one of the best bits. By play - you mean sex. Sex is secondary to meeting someone for me. You can fuck any old d*unk but meeting someone because you want to meet them is the reason why you'd be nervous to make good on the meet.

So playing with someone you actually want to meet is still secondary to just meeting someone you want to meet? Ok got it

I am not sure that makes sense.

Makes perfect sense.

I see you see don't know the difference between meets, meets and meets.

You don't see anything, according to you, you're more excited about the prospect of driving to meet the person you like than actually being in the company of the person you like. Which begs the next question, why play with any of your meets because your excitement has already peaked on the drive over. Get it now? "

You beg and play quite a bit.. I'm not going to tickle your belly or feed you a biscuit for chatting here. It seems a more than semantics you're getting off on when I've never even mentioned driving anywhere.

If you have no nerves due to not being bothered who you meet, fair play lad. This lad though does enjoy something a bit more spectacular as does the people he meets, that is why when he does meet (to fuck), his meets, when met, are looking forward to meeting. My play isn't feeding someone a biscuit or tickling their belly or typing a 100 words to get one over. It is just a hello, this is me on a page, I am not a dick.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So after 2 weeks of chatting and sorting out the date, suddenly no communication. Time or details weren't organised so some communication was really required.

The only thing is this has now happened for the 3rd time.

So is it just too scary for blokes to meet single girls? I always ask to meet them in a public place for a few mins beforehand for both people to have a chance to say no. And no hard feelings on either side. Is that the wrong approach?

Kind of finding it weird really. So any insights into what people think would be ace? "

if the chatting you've been doing includes an amount of sex chat, cyber or camming, thats probably as far as you're going to get or theyre going to go. There seems to be a large number of people for whom the cross over from on screen to real life interaction is just too much or was never their end goal. They shot their load, you are now surplus to requirement so they disappear...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd be quite nervous meeting singles woman

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Im attracted to intelligent, confident guys. I always do a social first it says on my profile and anyone who has been interested in meeting me has never questioned it

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley


"no

if guys are scared to speak to women and meet them then what are they here for"

They're here to be encouraged and to have fun with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So after 2 weeks of chatting and sorting out the date, suddenly no communication. Time or details weren't organised so some communication was really required.

The only thing is this has now happened for the 3rd time.

So is it just too scary for blokes to meet single girls? I always ask to meet them in a public place for a few mins beforehand for both people to have a chance to say no. And no hard feelings on either side. Is that the wrong approach?

Kind of finding it weird really. So any insights into what people think would be ace? "

They may have talked themselves up and worried about measuring up to the image

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Some guys like to make out they will meet so you still chat to them. Some lose their bottle and some are just twats.

I always have a social as a first meet. A lot will arrange them but then disappear before the day. I't no loss to me.

And the decent guys will happily meet for a social first time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm nervous about meeting anyone new. I would never just not show tho.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So after 2 weeks of chatting and sorting out the date, suddenly no communication. Time or details weren't organised so some communication was really required.

The only thing is this has now happened for the 3rd time.

So is it just too scary for blokes to meet single girls? I always ask to meet them in a public place for a few mins beforehand for both people to have a chance to say no. And no hard feelings on either side. Is that the wrong approach?

Kind of finding it weird really. So any insights into what people think would be ace? "

Nope not scared at all. Are these men or mice ur talking about lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

personally I've met enough people who dont want the 'social'..not it wont be a sociable meet...I've always said if things dont go to plan its easy enough to take one for the team..oops..

seriously though..I dont do snapchat,kik,whatsapp on a consistent basis..no sex talk etc..no pestering

however that can all sound like I'm not that interested and I'm not investing my interest specifically to the person..I'll shag someone else if a meet hasnt been agreed..I dont sit back awaiting 1 person specifically.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*another point OP...

some just might not be that interested in a social meet up with someone that appears to be looking for long term...will it be date after date etc?

my opinion, is get the shags in(if theres an attraction lol)then think about long term or potential returners.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

The first guy on here i arranged to meet stood me up. There was i all dressed up standing outside a pub in the pouring rain. Now he is constantly asking for another meet but hasnt a chance in hell. Plenty more decent guys on here so its his lose not mine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"you're asking for a social meet. a lot won't do that for various reasons but the main one being they only want sex.

that really is your biggest hurdle. and you don't have to change what you want either, eventually you will find guys who are happy to meet socially."

Any half decent guy will....and they will understand why. There are an increasing number of guys just looking for a quick fuck (as has been said previously on this thread....often attached).

You will gain the experience to sort the wheat from the chaff.....there are still plenty decent guys on here. I'm sure the Manchester area isn't short of them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd be quite nervous meeting singles woman "

Why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My very first meet after my marriage broke down.

Now bare in mind, I've done this before I was married.. in a different setting.

I was very excited, I had no issues getting there.. I brought her a gift.. because she'd made my week.

I got there, we spoke. We made a rule beforehand.. her idea. No nookie first night. Just chilled chat.

All went to plan.. things couldn't have been less pressure than a flat balloon. But.. we clicked! And chat got naughtier as she told me she was a tactile person and loved the kissing and eye gazing.

I can do that.. in fact I'm begining to struggle when I Dont get that connection from someone myself now.. but.. at that moment in that time in my life. I knew i couldn't kiss her.. I wasnt ready - suffering internally for being a total cunt to my family. Looking back.. I don't think I deserved kisses.

But chat was starting to steam and we both leant in for the kiss. Totally different from one I'd had before. We stopped... she watched me carefully.. and then I bolted! Stuttering.. stumbling and apologising as politely as possible. I looked comical.

Half way home I'd speed smoked a fag and came to my senses again..

Rushed into the house and called her back. I was so sorry. Told her my head went bonkers. That it was 100% me. To not feel bad, because I thought she was gorgeous inside and out.

She invited me back and taught me how to kiss and be tactile again. You may think she's nowt much if you looked at her.. but she's one of the hottest women on FAB to me.

Now a year later.. things are slightly busier, certainly a lot more fun and happy and I'm a different person.

So yes.. Men do bottle it.. quite often. My best mate joined for one month then left because he bottled it.. it wasn't for him. And he had a date I've never come close to in the superficial standards. And hes uglier than i am! And chubbier.. i couldnt believe it! organised it all himself. Hes a nice guy.. no wonder it was easy for him. Hes confident in every other walk of life. But hes like me.. a bit of a overthinker.

But I know some men also do it for the kick.. I did when I was bored in my marriage. A sexual outlet. A fantasy one step into reality.. because it was a real woman. The first throws of chat very electric and new to me. In my defence I only did it twice.. 3rd time was for real

I'm confident. I've a personality that seeks this stuff out. That craves it. Can you imagine how terrified someone else less confident, than i might have reacted in my shoes.. Who was horny.. but had a more reserved insular personae. He'd probably have waited five years building up the courage or priming his physique for perfection, or analysing the minutea.. and shitting bricks.

So yea.. a lot of the men who let you down do bottle it. They're not all dickheads or cowards.. Some are pretty sound confident guy's who wouldntvreact the same in other circumstances. We also think with our dicks far more than we realise, often blinded.. which leads to miscommunication. When you can hardly focus on words.. cos your heart is hammering in your ears.. your throats turned to razors.. because infront of you is a beautiful woman, dressed to the nines, ready to fulfill your wildest dream.

That's still scary for me.. but I like it now.

Hope that answers the question in another way.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

I've only ever been let down by single women, even stood up twice. I've never not been able to make an arranged meet, with either a single woman, or a couple. Guess you've just been unlucky. Fancy a drive up to the Lakes?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"no

if guys are scared to speak to women and meet them then what are they here for

They're here to be encouraged and to have fun with. "

encouraged

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

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If you didnt waste your time getting ready then call it a win. I once waited around for 4 hours for a social that was cut short after 20 mins when her hubby rang her. To be fair i was an idiot for hanging around for so long but we live and learn dont we.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oooh if I get let down, I'm using this one!

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By *rotic JaneWoman
over a year ago

London

A lot of men like the idea of swinging and meeting women. However when they get chance to do it for real they bottle it. They get scared.

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By *rotic JaneWoman
over a year ago

London


"So after 2 weeks of chatting and sorting out the date, suddenly no communication. Time or details weren't organised so some communication was really required.

The only thing is this has now happened for the 3rd time.

So is it just too scary for blokes to meet single girls? I always ask to meet them in a public place for a few mins beforehand for both people to have a chance to say no. And no hard feelings on either side. Is that the wrong approach?

Kind of finding it weird really. So any insights into what people think would be ace? "

Whatever you do don't change they way you do things to please others. Stick with your social meet first. Hopefully that will get rid of the I just want a quick fuck guys.

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East


"A lot of men like the idea of swinging and meeting women. However when they get chance to do it for real they bottle it. They get scared. "

I was bricking it the first time ill admit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A lot of men like the idea of swinging and meeting women. However when they get chance to do it for real they bottle it. They get scared.

I was bricking it the first time ill admit."

Have you been to a club yet? That was a bit nerve wrecking and hard to do for me.. I went alone deliberately.. so I could run if I hated it.

To be fair the female host was awesome.. she just asked me straight off.. Are you bricking it? YES! Don't worry.. everyone does.

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

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"A lot of men like the idea of swinging and meeting women. However when they get chance to do it for real they bottle it. They get scared.

I was bricking it the first time ill admit.

Have you been to a club yet? That was a bit nerve wrecking and hard to do for me.. I went alone deliberately.. so I could run if I hated it.

To be fair the female host was awesome.. she just asked me straight off.. Are you bricking it? YES! Don't worry.. everyone does. "

Just the once and i went with a lady. So havent experienced the single guy at a club alone phenomenon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So after 2 weeks of chatting and sorting out the date, suddenly no communication. Time or details weren't organised so some communication was really required.

The only thing is this has now happened for the 3rd time.

So is it just too scary for blokes to meet single girls? I always ask to meet them in a public place for a few mins beforehand for both people to have a chance to say no. And no hard feelings on either side. Is that the wrong approach?

Kind of finding it weird really. So any insights into what people think would be ace? "

I gained my confidence again by meeting in clubs. I haven't arranged a meet yet in a club or in a public place with a single lady. I see who is there on the night and then strike up conversations. It is hit and miss, but it's safe and fun. Why guys are bottling it with you I cannot fathom. Some may not be single. Your profile and pics are very appealing and you offer a meet in a public place. Guys should appreciate a lady who is prepared to meet on here as many of us never get as far as a reply to a message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes really nervous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Alot of them seem to like the chase, you'll get alot of them to be fair, make sure you check veris to make sure they do actually meet."

I cant speak for all of my kind....

However as a single male, genuine and free to roam with no baggage to speak of, apart from my Frenchie n cat that is, I find landing a meet let alone getting myself a veri.....heck even getting a reply at times a task in itself! Despite taking time to read profiles n put more effort in to messages than "hey, nice tits luv" I still find myself with an empty inbox...

Can't help but think those that play for the chase ruin it for those with the actual hunger for more?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A lot of men like the idea of swinging and meeting women. However when they get chance to do it for real they bottle it. They get scared.

I was bricking it the first time ill admit.

Have you been to a club yet? That was a bit nerve wrecking and hard to do for me.. I went alone deliberately.. so I could run if I hated it.

To be fair the female host was awesome.. she just asked me straight off.. Are you bricking it? YES! Don't worry.. everyone does.

Just the once and i went with a lady. So havent experienced the single guy at a club alone phenomenon."

It's going in.. same as a couple.. nervous.. but just a bit worse for being on your own. Everyone is sociable enough once you're in, if you engage. So we're you bricking it with your friend? was she?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think a lot of people are nervous. I've been on this site a couple of times. My first time both the lady and myself were really nervous. I have to say the social meet broke the ice. We both knew nothing would happen straight away so it helped to meet in Costa.

However on this my second account I'm finding it very hard to meet anyone. I'm not sure if FABs has changed. Ladies appear to be far more apprehensive?

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"A lot of men like the idea of swinging and meeting women. However when they get chance to do it for real they bottle it. They get scared.

I was bricking it the first time ill admit.

Have you been to a club yet? That was a bit nerve wrecking and hard to do for me.. I went alone deliberately.. so I could run if I hated it.

To be fair the female host was awesome.. she just asked me straight off.. Are you bricking it? YES! Don't worry.. everyone does.

Just the once and i went with a lady. So havent experienced the single guy at a club alone phenomenon."

I've been to two different clubs as a single male, and it is daunting, but fine once I was inside. Neither time was what I expected a swingers' club experience to be, and tbh, both a bit of an anti-climax (quite literally in fact). Worth a look for the experience though, and at least I can say I tried

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So after 2 weeks of chatting and sorting out the date, suddenly no communication. Time or details weren't organised so some communication was really required.

The only thing is this has now happened for the 3rd time.

So is it just too scary for blokes to meet single girls? I always ask to meet them in a public place for a few mins beforehand for both people to have a chance to say no. And no hard feelings on either side. Is that the wrong approach?

Kind of finding it weird really. So any insights into what people think would be ace? "

What idiots. Your pictures are very sexy and I would be there like a shot if you lived near me.

You'll find some who will meet and it may be worth trying a club.

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