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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How did you guys openly talk about it. & how did you get the courage to ask about it? Cause I don't know when to start! In a new relationship.. shes very very mad about sex. So how would I approach it?

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By *vgloryholebs16TV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol.

Talk about sex with her...Ask her opinions on things such as 3 somes

Tec..

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By *oredShitlessxxxCouple
over a year ago

luton

Sort of followed on from having discussed the whole desire to have a mff, which most men fantasise about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How did you guys openly talk about it. & how did you get the courage to ask about it? Cause I don't know when to start! In a new relationship.. shes very very mad about sex. So how would I approach it?

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Mate I'm in the same boat, during sex I've started role playing that I love the idea of watching her take big cock

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sort of followed on from having discussed the whole desire to have a mff, which most men fantasise about. "

Oh she knows that it's just if she would. I don't know how to seriously get onto the topic without making a fool of myself!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"How did you guys openly talk about it. & how did you get the courage to ask about it? Cause I don't know when to start! In a new relationship.. shes very very mad about sex. So how would I approach it?

Mate I'm in the same boat, during sex I've started role playing that I love the idea of watching her take big cock"

They thought of her being fucked just turns me on so so much aha. X

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"How did you guys openly talk about it. & how did you get the courage to ask about it? Cause I don't know when to start! In a new relationship.. shes very very mad about sex. So how would I approach it?

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You can only openly talk about something by openly talking. There is no other way. Start small and build up the habit of talking frankly. If she's reluctant or shy it might be difficult though and you will either need to be patient or accept that talking openly is not possible with her.

As for plucking up the courage sometimes its easier to start in the throes of passion or away from home.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How did you guys openly talk about it. & how did you get the courage to ask about it? Cause I don't know when to start! In a new relationship.. shes very very mad about sex. So how would I approach it?

Mate I'm in the same boat, during sex I've started role playing that I love the idea of watching her take big cock

They thought of her being fucked just turns me on so so much aha. X"

Me too buddy I tell her it turns me on the thought of her taking another guys big cock and she goes along with it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"How did you guys openly talk about it. & how did you get the courage to ask about it? Cause I don't know when to start! In a new relationship.. shes very very mad about sex. So how would I approach it?

You can only openly talk about something by openly talking. There is no other way. Start small and build up the habit of talking frankly. If she's reluctant or shy it might be difficult though and you will either need to be patient or accept that talking openly is not possible with her.

As for plucking up the courage sometimes its easier to start in the throes of passion or away from home.

Good luck."

Yeh I see what your saying! It's all about patience I guess she is bisexual and she just loves oral and being fucked very hard.

There are signs of she would take more surely away from home would be good :p

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"How did you guys openly talk about it. & how did you get the courage to ask about it? Cause I don't know when to start! In a new relationship.. shes very very mad about sex. So how would I approach it?

Mate I'm in the same boat, during sex I've started role playing that I love the idea of watching her take big cock

They thought of her being fucked just turns me on so so much aha. X

Me too buddy I tell her it turns me on the thought of her taking another guys big cock and she goes along with it "

You sound already there then fella! Fair play

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Copy this thread and email it to her

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By *oredShitlessxxxCouple
over a year ago

luton


"Sort of followed on from having discussed the whole desire to have a mff, which most men fantasise about.

Oh she knows that it's just if she would. I don't know how to seriously get onto the topic without making a fool of myself! "

Watch porn that relates to 3somes and see if she likes them... a good way to get her reaction and helps to bring up the topic for discussion.

That's what I done (Mr)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sort of followed on from having discussed the whole desire to have a mff, which most men fantasise about.

Oh she knows that it's just if she would. I don't know how to seriously get onto the topic without making a fool of myself!

Watch porn that relates to 3somes and see if she likes them... a good way to get her reaction and helps to bring up the topic for discussion.

That's what I done (Mr) "

Wicked! Shall try that tonight

We have watched porn a lot before but always left threesomes as I didn't know what she would think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hotwife Blindfolded 2

Great movie to get the mind intrigued

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"How did you guys openly talk about it. & how did you get the courage to ask about it? Cause I don't know when to start! In a new relationship.. shes very very mad about sex. So how would I approach it?

You can only openly talk about something by openly talking. There is no other way. Start small and build up the habit of talking frankly. If she's reluctant or shy it might be difficult though and you will either need to be patient or accept that talking openly is not possible with her.

As for plucking up the courage sometimes its easier to start in the throes of passion or away from home.

Good luck.

Yeh I see what your saying! It's all about patience I guess she is bisexual and she just loves oral and being fucked very hard.

There are signs of she would take more surely away from home would be good :p "

No these aren't signs of anything. It just means she likes what she likes. Don't assume that because she likes these things she wants to swing. You can discuss this with us until the cows come home but only one person can give you the correct answer.

Take courage and talk to her.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"How did you guys openly talk about it. & how did you get the courage to ask about it? Cause I don't know when to start! In a new relationship.. shes very very mad about sex. So how would I approach it?

You can only openly talk about something by openly talking. There is no other way. Start small and build up the habit of talking frankly. If she's reluctant or shy it might be difficult though and you will either need to be patient or accept that talking openly is not possible with her.

As for plucking up the courage sometimes its easier to start in the throes of passion or away from home.

Good luck.

Yeh I see what your saying! It's all about patience I guess she is bisexual and she just loves oral and being fucked very hard.

There are signs of she would take more surely away from home would be good :p

No these aren't signs of anything. It just means she likes what she likes. Don't assume that because she likes these things she wants to swing. You can discuss this with us until the cows come home but only one person can give you the correct answer.

Take courage and talk to her. "

I should shouldn't I! I just don't wanna get the answer I don't want then it's awkward thanks for your message. How did you guys approach it if you don't mind me asking. X

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"How did you guys openly talk about it. & how did you get the courage to ask about it? Cause I don't know when to start! In a new relationship.. shes very very mad about sex. So how would I approach it?

You can only openly talk about something by openly talking. There is no other way. Start small and build up the habit of talking frankly. If she's reluctant or shy it might be difficult though and you will either need to be patient or accept that talking openly is not possible with her.

As for plucking up the courage sometimes its easier to start in the throes of passion or away from home.

Good luck.

Yeh I see what your saying! It's all about patience I guess she is bisexual and she just loves oral and being fucked very hard.

There are signs of she would take more surely away from home would be good :p

No these aren't signs of anything. It just means she likes what she likes. Don't assume that because she likes these things she wants to swing. You can discuss this with us until the cows come home but only one person can give you the correct answer.

Take courage and talk to her.

I should shouldn't I! I just don't wanna get the answer I don't want then it's awkward thanks for your message. How did you guys approach it if you don't mind me asking. X"

Yes you should .

I'm the female half of us. Mr N started talking about swinging while we were having sex, it brought it out in the open. At first I said as a fantasy it was fine but the reality wasn't for me. We moved on to discussing it away from the bedroom and I asked all the questions I needed answered and expressed all my fears. This went on for a long time and eventually I felt I wanted to try a mfm threesome. Mr Ns fear was that I would think badly of him for having this fantasy.

The thing is we have been together 37 years,we love each other so nothing we say to each other about fantasies will be met with horror or disgust (unless it was really awful). Equally if either of us doesn't find a particular fantasy appealing the other accepts that.

I think you might find that even if the outcome of your suggestion is negative the fact that you've started the ball rolling towards a more open attitude to discussion can only improve things and possibly open up possibilities you've never considered yourself.

Good luck.

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By *untimes6969Man
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Some great advice!

The hot wife movie is great!

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By *izandpaulCouple
over a year ago

merseyside

Totally agree with most of the comments.

With us, at first it was bedroom talk but then you have to chat about it in the cold light of day. Its not easy, but there is no other way.

We met a couple for a social drink and chat, it was a bloody disaster and somewhat put me off but we kept on chatting and eventually ventured to a club in Manchester. We still remember that first night, petrified. drove up and down outside before I was bursting for a wee and used that as an excuse to wander in. To be honest, I thought all the women would be like models and Paul thought all the guys would be pushing their cocks around in a wheelbarrow, but the welcome we received was brilliant. And so a secret journey unfolded, we have had such great fun and bundles of laughs.

Talk to her, maybe a visit to a club where you stay clothed or a social meet, don't push too much and set some ground rules, stick to them and stay off the booze. Just have fun.

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

A lady friend of mine introduced me to swinging . But went back to her ex and left me .

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

I'm not sure how to explain this because we always discussed sex openly from the start.

Favourite fantasies, naughty secretary, five ladies and me and maybe some fun with whipped cream and chocolate sauce.

When that has come out in the first week everything else is just expanding on those.

We loved reading erotica together, back then it was forum magazine. Nowadays its literotica.

It can be easier to read about a 3some or group fun on a camping trip than to jump into watching porn.

Reading together is a little more intimate.

I also write stories for her, so a story where she goes away and has a 3 some with her friends means discussing a threesome with strangers was not a big deal.

We didn't jump to swinging straight away. There were many years of just enjoying the fantasy and the fun together.

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By *exycouplesswingCouple
over a year ago

Tunbridge Wells

Ask her what she thinks about the verification you received 7 days ago with you, the bi guy and your female fuck buddy!

If she doesn't mind that... you might just have yourself a swinger girlfriend!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some great advice!

The hot wife movie is great! "

Glad you enjoyed

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