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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hello everyone, how is it going ? I'm doing great thanks for asking !

So, i've been on this website for something like 4/5 months.. And it seems like i can't get a meet D':

Naaaaah just kidding this ain't this kind of thread chill out.

I have never had a MFM, and I am really curious about it, but since i never had one, i'm pretty sure it puts off a lot of couple if there's any interested.

So then, should i be waiting for the right couple, a couple i would click a lot with, vice and versa ofc and that wouldn't mind to take their time.

Or should i just be like : fuck taking my time and Let's find a couple, and not precise that it would be my first time ?

Also, there's still the possibility that i'm actually not into it at all and so that i could be totally turned off when it would be happening, so would that make me a timewaster (ohhh naughty timewaster don't you dare !!!) ?

I'm just curious about doing a MFM but i can't say if i would be able to actually do one.

Any advices/tips for a young man that his still searching his kinks please ?

Thanks in advance (:

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff


"Hello everyone, how is it going ? I'm doing great thanks for asking !

So, i've been on this website for something like 4/5 months.. And it seems like i can't get a meet D':

Naaaaah just kidding this ain't this kind of thread chill out.

I have never had a MFM, and I am really curious about it, but since i never had one, i'm pretty sure it puts off a lot of couple if there's any interested.

So then, should i be waiting for the right couple, a couple i would click a lot with, vice and versa ofc and that wouldn't mind to take their time.

Or should i just be like : fuck taking my time and Let's find a couple, and not precise that it would be my first time ?

Also, there's still the possibility that i'm actually not into it at all and so that i could be totally turned off when it would be happening, so would that make me a timewaster (ohhh naughty timewaster don't you dare !!!) ?

I'm just curious about doing a MFM but i can't say if i would be able to actually do one.

Any advices/tips for a young man that his still searching his kinks please ?

Thanks in advance (:"

So long as:

a) you're respectful

b) you treat them as a couple, not as a woman with some irritating (in)significant other

c) you know what they expect of you

d) you don't mind being naked with another guy and possibly making accidental contact with his wang......

It's all good

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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So long as:

a) you're respectful

b) you treat them as a couple, not as a woman with some irritating (in)significant other

c) you know what they expect of you

d) you don't mind being naked with another guy and possibly making accidental contact with his wang......

It's all good "

A) i believe i am

B)that's logic to me, a couple is 2 people or more, but i get what you mean

C)they expect me to have a sexual intercourse with them ? I mean... Could they expect me to do a front flip while cumming ? aha

D)i've tried with men before, because i was curious to see if i was bisexual, well i'm not and i am straight, but i think that close contact or occidental touching are ok for sure.

Thanks (:

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

"Occidental touching" it's a typo.. But now i'm picturing some people touching each other with occidental spices or stuff like that aha.

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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I'm a total MfM queen and adore everything about it.

I'd advise getting to know the couple first, or if you have a trusted friend that's interested in this malarkey, see if he'd be interested in tapping the same piece of ass *grins*

Explain that it is your first time and choose an experienced couple who can show you the ropes. Humour is curiously important in MfMs - there's flesh slapping everywhere, tangled limbs akimbo - you have to be able to have a chuckle with the guy (and the gal) to keep things on an even keel.

Finally, don't panic. If you're feeling like it's not quite your thing, ask yourself whether it is the exact thing you're doing that you're not enjoying or whether it is the menage itself that is turning you off.

I love it, despite it being twice as much work as a single male meet, because here is something about that hot, sweaty, breathless, giggling heap that you turn into that is my favourite place in the world. I hope you find your happly place there too

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm a total MfM queen and adore everything about it.

I'd advise getting to know the couple first, or if you have a trusted friend that's interested in this malarkey, see if he'd be interested in tapping the same piece of ass *grins*

Explain that it is your first time and choose an experienced couple who can show you the ropes. Humour is curiously important in MfMs - there's flesh slapping everywhere, tangled limbs akimbo - you have to be able to have a chuckle with the guy (and the gal) to keep things on an even keel.

Finally, don't panic. If you're feeling like it's not quite your thing, ask yourself whether it is the exact thing you're doing that you're not enjoying or whether it is the menage itself that is turning you off.

I love it, despite it being twice as much work as a single male meet, because here is something about that hot, sweaty, breathless, giggling heap that you turn into that is my favourite place in the world. I hope you find your happly place there too "

Oh good idea about the friend, i should defo try this before!

And thanks for you answer ((: it helps me picturing how i should do it, etc!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello everyone, how is it going ? I'm doing great thanks for asking !

So, i've been on this website for something like 4/5 months.. And it seems like i can't get a meet D':

Naaaaah just kidding this ain't this kind of thread chill out.

I have never had a MFM, and I am really curious about it, but since i never had one, i'm pretty sure it puts off a lot of couple if there's any interested.

So then, should i be waiting for the right couple, a couple i would click a lot with, vice and versa ofc and that wouldn't mind to take their time.

Or should i just be like : fuck taking my time and Let's find a couple, and not precise that it would be my first time ?

Also, there's still the possibility that i'm actually not into it at all and so that i could be totally turned off when it would be happening, so would that make me a timewaster (ohhh naughty timewaster don't you dare !!!) ?

I'm just curious about doing a MFM but i can't say if i would be able to actually do one.

Any advices/tips for a young man that his still searching his kinks please ?

Thanks in advance (:"

Hi OP..

I've met more couples than my profile suggests.. but I'm far from an expert.

I like to meet couples because I enjoy the communication.. the whole idea of swinging really appeals to me.. and I think I'd like to live that way if I ever find a Miss Missile.

I like watching how couples interact.. I ask questions about their relationship. Them as individuals and try to join in their personal banter with each other as best as I can.

Not because that's what your supposed to do.. because it's what I like.

They also seem to be the ones more openly looking for specific fantasies they need help with.

Think why you want to meet couples.. if it's just to broaden your dipping pool.. it's worth a try.. but you may be dissaponted.

A lot of new couples relationships on Fab may be on sandy foundations. They may be trying to rekindle their love and passion. They may have caught one another cheating recently and this is a last ditch chance at overcoming infidelity and reestablishing the rules of the relationship.

All couples are totally different from one another. On top of all the normal one on one problems of establishing chemistry or attraction.. you now have to attract two people. one may think you're right.. the other may hate your guts.

Then on top of this.. feelings change.. you may find yourself becoming a love interest. Jealousy. Misery. You may not have caused it.. but you've been involved.. and that can leave you with an emotional scar you hadn't considered before all this.

If your still set on your path.. I'd say.. talk to couples who make you laugh on the forum. A sense of humour is needed at times.. and always a good ice breaker. Don't chase after superswingercouples.. don't approach fresh couples.. try and find the ones who've tried it once or twice.. and want to try with someone new.

These couples are usually looking for a human sex toy to play with together.. The better you all communicate.. the more you'll enjoy it. Oh and be honest.. If youre not sure you can rub nuts with another man.. to pleasure a woman.. then tell them. They'll understand.. especially if you may be willing to attempt to..

A lot of couples don't want spitroasts, dp or flailing limb knots. Some just want a fresh face, new ideas, a little kink. So don't let crossing swords scare you off.

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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago

swingers clubs

Huge club advocates here.

Good communication as previously mentioned.

Then if you're feeling it each party can still find playmates whilst the night is still young. With no offense taken by anyone as there was that convo beforehand.

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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago

swingers clubs

*not feeling it

I swear I edited that

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By *iSubSlutWoman
over a year ago

Bedford


"I'm a total MfM queen and adore everything about it.

I'd advise getting to know the couple first, or if you have a trusted friend that's interested in this malarkey, see if he'd be interested in tapping the same piece of ass *grins*

Explain that it is your first time and choose an experienced couple who can show you the ropes. Humour is curiously important in MfMs - there's flesh slapping everywhere, tangled limbs akimbo - you have to be able to have a chuckle with the guy (and the gal) to keep things on an even keel.

Finally, don't panic. If you're feeling like it's not quite your thing, ask yourself whether it is the exact thing you're doing that you're not enjoying or whether it is the menage itself that is turning you off.

I love it, despite it being twice as much work as a single male meet, because here is something about that hot, sweaty, breathless, giggling heap that you turn into that is my favourite place in the world. I hope you find your happly place there too "

Can I just say I totally love this description....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello everyone, how is it going ? I'm doing great thanks for asking !

So, i've been on this website for something like 4/5 months.. And it seems like i can't get a meet D':

Naaaaah just kidding this ain't this kind of thread chill out.

I have never had a MFM, and I am really curious about it, but since i never had one, i'm pretty sure it puts off a lot of couple if there's any interested.

So then, should i be waiting for the right couple, a couple i would click a lot with, vice and versa ofc and that wouldn't mind to take their time.

Or should i just be like : fuck taking my time and Let's find a couple, and not precise that it would be my first time ?

Also, there's still the possibility that i'm actually not into it at all and so that i could be totally turned off when it would be happening, so would that make me a timewaster (ohhh naughty timewaster don't you dare !!!) ?

I'm just curious about doing a MFM but i can't say if i would be able to actually do one.

Any advices/tips for a young man that his still searching his kinks please ?

Thanks in advance (:

Hi OP..

I've met more couples than my profile suggests.. but I'm far from an expert.

I like to meet couples because I enjoy the communication.. the whole idea of swinging really appeals to me.. and I think I'd like to live that way if I ever find a Miss Missile.

I like watching how couples interact.. I ask questions about their relationship. Them as individuals and try to join in their personal banter with each other as best as I can.

Not because that's what your supposed to do.. because it's what I like.

They also seem to be the ones more openly looking for specific fantasies they need help with.

Think why you want to meet couples.. if it's just to broaden your dipping pool.. it's worth a try.. but you may be dissaponted.

A lot of new couples relationships on Fab may be on sandy foundations. They may be trying to rekindle their love and passion. They may have caught one another cheating recently and this is a last ditch chance at overcoming infidelity and reestablishing the rules of the relationship.

All couples are totally different from one another. On top of all the normal one on one problems of establishing chemistry or attraction.. you now have to attract two people. one may think you're right.. the other may hate your guts.

Then on top of this.. feelings change.. you may find yourself becoming a love interest. Jealousy. Misery. You may not have caused it.. but you've been involved.. and that can leave you with an emotional scar you hadn't considered before all this.

If your still set on your path.. I'd say.. talk to couples who make you laugh on the forum. A sense of humour is needed at times.. and always a good ice breaker. Don't chase after superswingercouples.. don't approach fresh couples.. try and find the ones who've tried it once or twice.. and want to try with someone new.

These couples are usually looking for a human sex toy to play with together.. The better you all communicate.. the more you'll enjoy it. Oh and be honest.. If youre not sure you can rub nuts with another man.. to pleasure a woman.. then tell them. They'll understand.. especially if you may be willing to attempt to..

A lot of couples don't want spitroasts, dp or flailing limb knots. Some just want a fresh face, new ideas, a little kink. So don't let crossing swords scare you off."

When you wish you hadn't bothered?

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By *hocolateRodMan
over a year ago

London and over UK


"Hello everyone, how is it going ? I'm doing great thanks for asking !

So, i've been on this website for something like 4/5 months.. And it seems like i can't get a meet D':

Naaaaah just kidding this ain't this kind of thread chill out.

I have never had a MFM, and I am really curious about it, but since i never had one, i'm pretty sure it puts off a lot of couple if there's any interested.

So then, should i be waiting for the right couple, a couple i would click a lot with, vice and versa ofc and that wouldn't mind to take their time.

Or should i just be like : fuck taking my time and Let's find a couple, and not precise that it would be my first time ?

Also, there's still the possibility that i'm actually not into it at all and so that i could be totally turned off when it would be happening, so would that make me a timewaster (ohhh naughty timewaster don't you dare !!!) ?

I'm just curious about doing a MFM but i can't say if i would be able to actually do one.

Any advices/tips for a young man that his still searching his kinks please ?

Thanks in advance (:"

Key thing is to talk to the guy and not the lady feel like a pice of meat. I just consider meeting couples like any other social interaction. You want to be friendly, upbeat, well presented, well groomed and able to talk to both parties.

And if the chemistry isnt there on both sides, take it with grace

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By *hocolateRodMan
over a year ago

London and over UK


"I'm a total MfM queen and adore everything about it.

I'd advise getting to know the couple first, or if you have a trusted friend that's interested in this malarkey, see if he'd be interested in tapping the same piece of ass *grins*

Explain that it is your first time and choose an experienced couple who can show you the ropes. Humour is curiously important in MfMs - there's flesh slapping everywhere, tangled limbs akimbo - you have to be able to have a chuckle with the guy (and the gal) to keep things on an even keel.

Finally, don't panic. If you're feeling like it's not quite your thing, ask yourself whether it is the exact thing you're doing that you're not enjoying or whether it is the menage itself that is turning you off.

I love it, despite it being twice as much work as a single male meet, because here is something about that hot, sweaty, breathless, giggling heap that you turn into that is my favourite place in the world. I hope you find your happly place there too

Can I just say I totally love this description.... "

Me too - love that term MFM queen !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a total MfM queen and adore everything about it.

I'd advise getting to know the couple first, or if you have a trusted friend that's interested in this malarkey, see if he'd be interested in tapping the same piece of ass *grins*

Explain that it is your first time and choose an experienced couple who can show you the ropes. Humour is curiously important in MfMs - there's flesh slapping everywhere, tangled limbs akimbo - you have to be able to have a chuckle with the guy (and the gal) to keep things on an even keel.

Finally, don't panic. If you're feeling like it's not quite your thing, ask yourself whether it is the exact thing you're doing that you're not enjoying or whether it is the menage itself that is turning you off.

I love it, despite it being twice as much work as a single male meet, because here is something about that hot, sweaty, breathless, giggling heap that you turn into that is my favourite place in the world. I hope you find your happly place there too "

Fantastic profile Elcee. And a fellow writer. xxxx

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

If a couple just want you as an accessory unless that's your thing, avoid them. Otherwise a lot of talking, a social meet or more if you want and an agreement that if anybody feels at any point that it's not right for them you all walk away with no hard feelings.

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By *hocolateRodMan
over a year ago

London and over UK


"If a couple just want you as an accessory unless that's your thing, avoid them. Otherwise a lot of talking, a social meet or more if you want and an agreement that if anybody feels at any point that it's not right for them you all walk away with no hard feelings.

"

Agreed social meet is key - in fact cant understand why anyone wouldnt do that in the first place

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for all the answers !

And yes a social is a must for me too, as i'm saying on mine profile : maybe i'm a dickhead, i said maybe!

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By *hocolateRodMan
over a year ago

London and over UK


"Thanks for all the answers !

And yes a social is a must for me too, as i'm saying on mine profile : maybe i'm a dickhead, i said maybe! "

Yes - social is key. Its one way of interacting with husband so he is sure you aren't some nutter/timewaster. Also you have to pay him attention as well - make him feel comfortable with what may/may mot happen

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